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By *onorary-Unicorn OP   Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experience has taught me the only way your gonna fuck the wife is if the husband/partner agrees. So the best way is to build up trust with him. They both need to feel comfortable with who they're potentially going to meet. So I just gather it's idiots who can't see past their own bellends that don't acknowledge the male partner.

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By *ornynorfolkguyMan
over a year ago

North Norfolk

^ this!!

Manners don’t cost a thing. Whether your talking to a couple or a single person they always deserve discretion and respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see these I quickly tell them it’s a couples profile and we’re not interested now. If he reads it first he plays along. If they say ‘wow great body’ he’s like ‘thanks I’ve been working on my pecs this week’. Generally keeps it going awhile until the guy thinks he’s in and starts messaging ‘I really want to fuck your pussy’ (or words to that affect). Then he says but I have a cock so that’s not going to work.

Watching the guys backtrack is quite funny. Or that some even bloke us straight away, as thought it’s our fault they just looked at a picture.

The best ones are when they say they read our profile from top to bottom and we’re a perfect match. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry my bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many dickheads out there that’s why!! It’s all

About a decent connection whether it with a single or a couple. Make the effort to get to know all. It’s far more fun in the long run, rather than just trying to get in the mrs knickers ASAP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep just need to learn to filter them out the earlier they show it the better. luckily i am bi so have sonething that puts most of these guys off to start with.

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Well said

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

I think you answered your own question in your first few words. They want the woman. The man is an inconvenience they have to put up with. When the hormones kick in a lot of people don't even think strategically.

We had a guy who said he wanted to talk to Hannah. When I (Luke) pointed out we are a couple, he graciously said that I could join the conversation if I want to. I thought that was good of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s very rude not to acknowledge both but I’m sure it’s a good quick filter. They clearly have no idea and lack basic respect.

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By *appy2100Couple
over a year ago

kensington

My hubby would rather talk to the males. I would talk to any.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the same in chat as well.

You can almost write the first few lines every time.

"How are you"

"Is this Mr or Mrs"

"Is Mrs there".

It is so bad my wife says no, even if she is typing.

Our reply goes "Bye"

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?"

Maybe you would want to consider the fact the opening sentences of your profile indicate that the female of the couple meets alone and are largely about her?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?"

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages."

I would suggest that most couples have more pictures of the female than the male. I am guessing that is because the male pictures don’t tend to get much response because most people aren’t as interested in the male of the couple?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages.

I would suggest that most couples have more pictures of the female than the male. I am guessing that is because the male pictures don’t tend to get much response because most people aren’t as interested in the male of the couple?"

Not for us, we like female interest for both of us.

Our photo’s suggest we like sensual lingerie in our shop window and not dream catchers. lol.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Respect is the most important thing when it comes to this. As they male half of the couple I am often either ignored or messages are directed towards me talking about TG.

I just laugh it off as they have just lost that slim chance we would be interested.

What’s also funny is when single guys fab photos. If it’s just me practically nothing, both of us a few more fabs but TG on her own gets the most so it becomes obvious who it is they are chasing

Beard

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages.

I would suggest that most couples have more pictures of the female than the male. I am guessing that is because the male pictures don’t tend to get much response because most people aren’t as interested in the male of the couple?

Not for us, we like female interest for both of us.

Our photo’s suggest we like sensual lingerie in our shop window and not dream catchers. lol."

I get that and your pictures are really nicely taken.

My point was simply to observe that the OPs profile was very heavy on the female of the couple and I can see why many blokes on here would think it was about her.

I personally always assume that I am talking to the male of the couple when I message as that is my experience of who tends to run the accounts until they let me know it is the female.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages.

I would suggest that most couples have more pictures of the female than the male. I am guessing that is because the male pictures don’t tend to get much response because most people aren’t as interested in the male of the couple?

Not for us, we like female interest for both of us.

Our photo’s suggest we like sensual lingerie in our shop window and not dream catchers. lol.

I get that and your pictures are really nicely taken.

My point was simply to observe that the OPs profile was very heavy on the female of the couple and I can see why many blokes on here would think it was about her.

I personally always assume that I am talking to the male of the couple when I message as that is my experience of who tends to run the accounts until they let me know it is the female."

Then you should do great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect is the most important thing when it comes to this. As they male half of the couple I am often either ignored or messages are directed towards me talking about TG.

I just laugh it off as they have just lost that slim chance we would be interested.

What’s also funny is when single guys fab photos. If it’s just me practically nothing, both of us a few more fabs but TG on her own gets the most so it becomes obvious who it is they are chasing

Beard "

Unless both you and the other guy were to openly state that you're bi, it seems obvious that it would be the woman they're interested in

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By *sexyHCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "
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So totally true say

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"Respect is the most important thing when it comes to this. As they male half of the couple I am often either ignored or messages are directed towards me talking about TG.

I just laugh it off as they have just lost that slim chance we would be interested.

What’s also funny is when single guys fab photos. If it’s just me practically nothing, both of us a few more fabs but TG on her own gets the most so it becomes obvious who it is they are chasing

Beard

Unless both you and the other guy were to openly state that you're bi, it seems obvious that it would be the woman they're interested in"

Which I get completely but to be disrespectful to the other half of a couple shouldn’t be acceptable, should it?

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Lol I'm Bi so I have to consciously and studiously ignore the guy, (in the appropriate manner) when playing with str8 couples like you

Having said that the whole point of a 3sum is that there's 3 of you! So it's definitely more fun the more everyone is involved!

By working together with the other guy, you can both enjoy pleasuring her in ways, and to an extent that is never possible on your own!

Even in cuckold situations you don't just ignore or exclude the cuck. You involve him actively, in preparations, helping, recording or cleaning. Unless of course you're actively denying, teasing or humiliating him. But even those things are actively done...

I just don't, and never will understand the counter-intuative and frankly counter-productive, selfish mentality that you are referring to OP......

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Interesting thread this, and I wonder why I do pretty okay with couples? Could it be something to do with concluding my messages with the statement, "And best regards to you both " not even an XXX behind it as there will be plenty of time for real XXX's if we get that distance, and if kissing is in their comfort zone? You'd be surprised how many see kissing as personal, and out of bounds. That's something else that you need to be aware of when connecting with couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting thread this, and I wonder why I do pretty okay with couples? Could it be something to do with concluding my messages with the statement, "And best regards to you both " not even an XXX behind it as there will be plenty of time for real XXX's if we get that distance, and if kissing is in their comfort zone? You'd be surprised how many see kissing as personal, and out of bounds. That's something else that you need to be aware of when connecting with couples. "

God you're good

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???"

Not really, isn’t the myth there are 100 men to 1 woman.

If their strategy works, great, do they read forums, perhaps they might learn a few things.

Doesn’t piss me off, just let’s me know about the lack of awareness.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Because they just look at the pictures, see a female and can't be arsed to read the profile.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???"

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This probably looks like I’m just advertising my piety, but I don’t think I’ve ever sent a message to a couple that didn’t start with ‘Hi both’ or ‘Hi (both names)’.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages.

I would suggest that most couples have more pictures of the female than the male. I am guessing that is because the male pictures don’t tend to get much response because most people aren’t as interested in the male of the couple?

Not for us, we like female interest for both of us.

Our photo’s suggest we like sensual lingerie in our shop window and not dream catchers. lol.

I get that and your pictures are really nicely taken.

My point was simply to observe that the OPs profile was very heavy on the female of the couple and I can see why many blokes on here would think it was about her.

I personally always assume that I am talking to the male of the couple when I message as that is my experience of who tends to run the accounts until they let me know it is the female.

Then you should do great."

I do ok

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Dont these guys get that most couples profiles have originated from the males wank fantasy anyway

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard"

This feels like the couples version of single males complaining that they don’t get their messages answered

Isn’t the blunt reality of the site that if you are a male (single or in a couple) then you are likely to be ignored? C’est la vie.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard

This feels like the couples version of single males complaining that they don’t get their messages answered

Isn’t the blunt reality of the site that if you are a male (single or in a couple) then you are likely to be ignored? C’est la vie.

"

Not really. I don’t get ignored on my single profile

Beard

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard

This feels like the couples version of single males complaining that they don’t get their messages answered

Isn’t the blunt reality of the site that if you are a male (single or in a couple) then you are likely to be ignored? C’est la vie.

Not really. I don’t get ignored on my single profile

Beard "

Just on your couples one then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the same problem all the time ….. dickhead after dickhead ……. Very fucking annoying grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Experience has taught me the only way your gonna fuck the wife is if the husband/partner agrees. So the best way is to build up trust with him. They both need to feel comfortable with who they're potentially going to meet. So I just gather it's idiots who can't see past their own bellends that don't acknowledge the male partner."

Definitely

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard

This feels like the couples version of single males complaining that they don’t get their messages answered

Isn’t the blunt reality of the site that if you are a male (single or in a couple) then you are likely to be ignored? C’est la vie.

Not really. I don’t get ignored on my single profile

Beard

Just on your couples one then? "

Yes which obviously goes to show who interacts with each profile

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard

This feels like the couples version of single males complaining that they don’t get their messages answered

Isn’t the blunt reality of the site that if you are a male (single or in a couple) then you are likely to be ignored? C’est la vie.

Not really. I don’t get ignored on my single profile

Beard

Just on your couples one then?

Yes which obviously goes to show who interacts with each profile "

And that I can agree with.

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By *indandfireCouple
over a year ago

ashbourne

I would say it goes further than ignoring the man in messages. We have met more than a few couples who chat very pleasantly, we all get on and we agree a foursome meet. Then during the meet they both focus on me and leave my husband out completely. I am always aware of what fun my husband is enjoying and if the answer is none, I stop play straight away.

I am not a unicorn I am very much part of a swinging couple

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???"

Doesn't matter. The profile says "couple" so speak to the couple it really isn't that difficult. I'd put my bottom dollar the same guys who view a TV profile with very convincing female looking pics know too well they're speaking to a trans woman so they clearly know the profile status. They're just being rude, straight delete from us and a very brief explanation why if they remessage.

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

When I message a couple I always address them as a couple.

If they reply unless told otherwise I always assume its the male replying.

Even if it is the lady it doesn't change what we chat about and I'm normally lead by them.

A lot of the time the husband wants me to tell him in great detail what I would do to his wife and if I'm bored I will play along.

But mostly it's another profile where the lady if she exists doesn't have a clue about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens every day.

The last one was along the lines of

'Hello gorgeous, I'm less than a mile away, why don't you come and suck my big hard cock'

I said no , he said 'let me Bbury it in your cunt then'

I said 'I havent got one, I'm a 57 year old bloke'

Then he asks if he can ' speak to the lady please'

Normally I don't bother answering but it does amaze me that anyone thinks that approach would work

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Yes.

We get it all the time even though on our profile it says male will arrange all the meets.

All we get is ..ooo you are sexy, I wanna fuck you etc etc

Straight delete.

Him x

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"Interesting thread this, and I wonder why I do pretty okay with couples? Could it be something to do with concluding my messages with the statement, "And best regards to you both " not even an XXX behind it as there will be plenty of time for real XXX's if we get that distance, and if kissing is in their comfort zone? You'd be surprised how many see kissing as personal, and out of bounds. That's something else that you need to be aware of when connecting with couples.

God you're good "

It comes with years of practice, and viewing the ladies with the desire that they deserve, and looking at their husbands or partners and thinking, would I take a pint with this guy, and treating him with the respect that I would if he was a pal or work colleague.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"If I see these I quickly tell them it’s a couples profile and we’re not interested now. If he reads it first he plays along. If they say ‘wow great body’ he’s like ‘thanks I’ve been working on my pecs this week’. Generally keeps it going awhile until the guy thinks he’s in and starts messaging ‘I really want to fuck your pussy’ (or words to that affect). Then he says but I have a cock so that’s not going to work.

Watching the guys backtrack is quite funny. Or that some even bloke us straight away, as thought it’s our fault they just looked at a picture.

The best ones are when they say they read our profile from top to bottom and we’re a perfect match. Lol "

Ha ha, I do similar replies to them. Tell them it’s nice to see someone who’s happy enough in their own sexuality to tell other guys how good they look.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon


"It is the same in chat as well.

You can almost write the first few lines every time.

"How are you"

"Is this Mr or Mrs"

"Is Mrs there".

It is so bad my wife says no, even if she is typing.

Our reply goes "Bye"

"

That's the same here. Even when we're looking/vetting for a meet Mrs will pretend it's me a lot of the time just to avoid the "I'd do this" chat etc. She'll quite often say their attitudes are different if they think they're talking to to me over her.

Hence why she doesn't come on a lot unless we are looking to arrange a meet.

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

90% of messages are like that so many men live my photos and get funny when I say thank you bit iam straight and they are of no interest to me lol but must say there are a few genuine males out there who do know how to approach couples

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By *iscreet gent2018Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

As a single guy i completely get this. Im obviously on Fab to find fun but I know that when im with a couple, im there as part of THEIR fun! This is what turns me on (other than the obvious lol).

So, couples, please don’t be out off by the single males who just want to hump and dump. There are some genuine ones amongst us who know what we and you both want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this thread. OP is so right but it’s also gorgeous so who wouldn’t want to play.

It’s all about wishful thinking to begin with with the guys but we’re chatting to some great ones who know it’s about both us of not just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very rude not to acknowledge both but I’m sure it’s a good quick filter. They clearly have no idea and lack basic respect."

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Happens so often with our profile. They get nowhere by discounting the male from our point of view

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

I (The Boy) do all the fabmin as Kitty does her own sites, so I read all our messages first. If you piss me off on the first message, Kitty will never know you’ve messaged us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Strange that some males don't consider the importance of dealing with the coule equally, you have to impress two people to even get the pleasure of a social. I prefer and expect to meet both even if future meets will only be with the female, how else do you build the trust needed.

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By *onorary-Unicorn OP   Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge

Wow, thanks for all the replies!

Although there is a lot of pics of H, I’d like to think our profile is very clearly a couples profile. For one, it says couple, lists both our details and does have photos of me and us together (including our profile pic!). So it seems abit of a weak excuse to say it could be overlooked that we are a couple due to there being more photos of H than me.

I could put up more photos of myself but I’m sure there’s only so many photos of me that anyone wants to see and we’ve been told a few times on her that the guys were nearly put off messaging or meeting as apparently, I look intimidating.

Yes, our profile says H will play alone but it’s still very clearly a couples profile. It also says she only plays alone if filmed for me, which clearly shows we have rules to ensure all parties get enjoyment. If you can’t even acknowledge me as her partner in a message, then it shows me that it is unlikely that you will follow our rules to ensure that I get some enjoyment from your meet with my partner.

I doubt there is any guy on here that if we met in a club, would walk other, stand between us with his back to me, while he hits on her. So don’t do it on here.

It would be very easy to get their same point across in a message, without being disrespectful to the male:

“Hello to you both. You look like a great couple but can I just say that I think the girl (name) of the couple is gorgeous and sexy. Please take a look at my profile and/or attached photos and I hope that I can talk to you both further in the hopes of arranging a meet with you both or if I am lucky enough, the female (name) solo.”

One gets an instant delete and one gets a potential reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is endemic of many couples on all these sites. They say they only meet couples and single fems. It is not just single guys that ignore the male of a couple. Guys are usually the drivers behind couples profile.

In reality what they mean is they only want to meet the female of the couple. The male, may be allowed to tag along but us not really wanted.

We get many requests from couples wanting me to meet them alone, especially if they want a girl girl show to fulfil their fantacy.

Just the way it is

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile "

Can’t say that about us!

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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

We are the same. We have a couples profile but everyday the messages from guys are aimed at what they think is a chat up line for the female. Guys seem to think the woman is always on line and only she is looking. The thing is most guys see a female profile picture and let their knob rule out any rational thought and the ability to actually read the profile to find out what is being looked for. The block list continues to grow.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

OP tbh if you think about it you have developed your own very effective filter ! No ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I see these I quickly tell them it’s a couples profile and we’re not interested now. If he reads it first he plays along. If they say ‘wow great body’ he’s like ‘thanks I’ve been working on my pecs this week’. Generally keeps it going awhile until the guy thinks he’s in and starts messaging ‘I really want to fuck your pussy’ (or words to that affect). Then he says but I have a cock so that’s not going to work.

Watching the guys backtrack is quite funny. Or that some even bloke us straight away, as thought it’s our fault they just looked at a picture.

The best ones are when they say they read our profile from top to bottom and we’re a perfect match. Lol "

Fire does this - I wouldn’t have the patience as I just get the hump immediately if somebody disrespects him by only addressing me in any messages. And anyway - why do people always presume it’s going to be the woman (more so during the day). Do they presume that we’re chained to the cooker and aren’t capable of being professionals and working ourselves ?!?

Smoke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile

Can’t say that about us! "

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"

We get many requests from couples wanting me to meet them alone, especially if they want a girl girl show to fulfil their fantacy.

Just the way it is "

This is so true lol we will often get the same from couples, everyone seems to have a MFF, FMF fantasy and they want a female, we have started saying no problem, we will help fulfill your fantasy, send the female half over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ignore the male and always address the profile to both when getting in touch . A lot of profiles are ran by the male so its silly to just be blinded but hot pics of the wife and send the message to just her . If you get on with the fella first you’re half way there i find .

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Always address couples as both and compliment them both

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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago

London

We just block. They're not for us, we always come as a couple, regardless of the dynamic. Probably half our block list comprise of these guys.

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

We often find it amusing, especially when they start asking questions like can I fuck you or how big do you like it, I leave these questions for hubby to respond to…

????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get messages like that it quickly helps me filter out from the get go

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By *JcouplemidlandsCouple
over a year ago

Peak District

We get it daily and understand it is the female that is normally the desired one but we come as a package and never play separate and make it clear on the profile. We tend to ignore the messages aimed at one of us and when we message and meet we include both parties so no one is left out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore the Male here and you don't get the Female - Not difficult really!!!!

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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago

London


"I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile

Can’t say that about us!

"

I stopped just looking at pictures and started reading the words as well at about 5 years old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg! Love this, your so right if it's a couples profile we come as a package, infact I don't even reply without his say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Typos corrected.

We like to know we will all get along, if the conversation is aimed solely towards Mrs, then we assume we are not like minded and will pass them by.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Always respect each person in the couple that's my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Totally agree we get this all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes !! This is a massive pet hate of ours !

My husband is part of this, and if he isn't happy with it it ain't gonna happen !

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

Totally agree we get this all the time "
same with us

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile

Can’t say that about us! "

Or us

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Yeah, it's pretty disrespectful.

Just reply, obviously from the man, saying something like 'thanks, I always thought my arse was a bit hairy myself'

I usually try making sure my opening messages are to the couple, but I do like to know who I'm talking to when chat starts. I'm not bothered who it is really, but it just makes for easier conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they just look at the pictures, see a female and can't be arsed to read the profile. "

This

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By *hirdTimesACharmCouple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

The quickest way to get to our rather heavily populated block list lol

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Yep, we get this all the time, but there are some men who just have no idea how to talk to a woman full stop let alone approaching a couple. It's very ignorant and just plain rude.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We are very obviously a couple.

We meet other couples, single girls and single guys.

However I, Just, do most of the Fabmin. Ignoring me will get you nowhere and piss Becky off.

The guys who’ve engaged us both as a couple and a bi couple at that, have way more chance and if they fit our requirements and us theirs normally have a great time..

manners cost nothing.

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent


"I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile "

We have more then the average number of male pics on our profile and even more of us together. So absolutely no excuse for it. We still get those messages just addressing me, offering money and d*ck pics with first message. We’ve now had enough of it and blocked all men from messaging. I’m sorry to say We’ve found a total lack of respect from 99 % of the guys on here…. Which is such a shame. Possibly because most guys see it as a casual sex site rather than a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have it all the time, it's an instant delete. No respect that we are a couple and our profile clearly says hubby isn't a cuck. They also seem to think you'll fuck anyone as your on a swingers site and it's perfectly acceptable it seems to tell you what they want to do to you! It's got worse since the lock down

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By *aughty power coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cotswolds

We also find that it's not just single male accounts that are disrespectful.

One of our pet peaves is when a couple shows interest and likes numerous pics of her but not him. Ok if your a cuckold couple I guess but not for us.

I get the feeling that a lot of couples accounts are run and driven by the male.

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent


"We also find that it's not just single male accounts that are disrespectful.

One of our pet peaves is when a couple shows interest and likes numerous pics of her but not him. Ok if your a cuckold couple I guess but not for us.

I get the feeling that a lot of couples accounts are run and driven by the male.

I can understand that if it’s the male looking through the pics, it would never occur to a lot of men to fab a pic of another man, unless they were bi or curious.

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By *aughty power coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cotswolds

That makes sense. We like to use fab together and would always show respect to both in the couple if we were interested.

We exchanged a few messages with one couple. The next day every single pic of her had been liked and none of him. Obviously this came from the male half, this was enough to put us off.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I find couples are the worst on here especially the ones where it’s clear the guy runs the profile with little input from the woman. Cringe approaches like “can I watch you fuck my wife”, “nice cock mate, how big are you “, “ will you fuck my wife bare” , etc etc .

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

So couples have pics that are over 90% taken of the female.. then complain when people feel that she might be the active one on the profile..

I’m a bi guy so happily talk to both ..

But years of experience have taught me to stay clear of couples, they’re rarely what they seem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also find that it's not just single male accounts that are disrespectful.

One of our pet peaves is when a couple shows interest and likes numerous pics of her but not him. Ok if your a cuckold couple I guess but not for us.

I get the feeling that a lot of couples accounts are run and driven by the male.

"

We do have pics of hubby in our public pics and some couple pics now But J always says people prefer to see the female. But we always Happy to send face pics to verified fab users

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By *ancsCouple2025Couple
over a year ago

Wigan

It's worse when it happens IRL.

One meeting we had, the four of us were in a room and it was obvious that the other wife's main turn on was seeing her hubby with someone else.

No problems in itself you would think, but it's pretty annoying when the woman you are with is barely casting a glance in your direction or acknowledging what you are doing to her.

Not a turn on at all. In retrospect it would have been better for me (male) to have just watched the couple have a threesome with her from the start at least I could have had solely voyeuristic fun.

Anyone else had this experience?

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

We usually reply.

Thanks so much for your kind words.

Although I'm straight, it's still nice to know other men appreciate how much care I take of myself but I'm afraid we won't be partaking in any type of fun you mention.

Maybe a few compliments to Liz could pay dividends.

Thanks again for your lovely message.

Paul.

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By *wingersimonMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I did this today (ignore the male half) and was rightly told off and then blocked.

I’d like to publicly apologise. I’m so sorry as I’m usually more attentive about these things and am generally really respectful. It was a hasty reply and I offered a gut reaction to the female half’s amazing pics.

Anyway, really sorry to the couple I did this to.

xx

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?"

Is the fact it’s a couples profile not enough to show he exists?

Couples profiles in general are lady heavy on the pictures. This is for many reasons as far as we can figure out, not least that women can dress sexily for photos so each photo brings something new. Guys don’t really have that.

However, it makes ZERO difference if there are no pictures of the guy, or if it’s a hotwife, Stag/Vixen, straight swap or any other type of couple.

If you want to fuck another man’s wife, then have the decency to acknowledge him at least! After all, in nearly every case (outside role play) if the guy didn’t want to share his wife, then you wouldn’t be even looking at their profile!

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By *onorary-Unicorn OP   Couple
over a year ago

hackbridge


"

Is the fact it’s a couples profile not enough to show he exists?

Couples profiles in general are lady heavy on the pictures. This is for many reasons as far as we can figure out, not least that women can dress sexily for photos so each photo brings something new. Guys don’t really have that.

However, it makes ZERO difference if there are no pictures of the guy, or if it’s a hotwife, Stag/Vixen, straight swap or any other type of couple.

If you want to fuck another man’s wife, then have the decency to acknowledge him at least! After all, in nearly every case (outside role play) if the guy didn’t want to share his wife, then you wouldn’t be even looking at their profile!"

100% ???? Thank you!

Yes, there are more photos of H than me, however there still are many of me and us together including our profile pic!

In previous relationships, I’d been a regular at fetish and swingers clubs and rarely used sites like this as we’d meet people at the clubs.

9 times out of 10, if a single guy approached us at a club, he’d address me first to ask if it was ok to even talk to my partner. It’s a shame that etiquette isn’t followed on here. I’d think the vast majority of the guys on this site would very quickly be ejected from a club or party.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Ignoring the male half of a Couple is a recipe for disaster!

My profile states that I address Couples as TWO people plus within any first approach message, I ensure I back up that statement in how I include both.

I'm also aware that unless told otherwise at the start, it is invariably the Male half who reads / vets the incoming content / responses!

Taking all that into consideration has meant I've successfully achieved meets with Couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

9 times out of 10, if a single guy approached us at a club, he’d address me first to ask if it was ok to even talk to my partner. "

Hello, 1950s

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We just ignore them to be honest!

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By *red and Wilma 75Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Often my hubby will try and educate a little on best etiquette.

I imagine it’s hard because every couple approaches what they look for from a single male differently.

Some, the female takes the lead in it all.

Though I would say that if you equally acknowledge both you won’t go wrong.

We’re not idiots, if you are a straight male you are looking to be intimate with the female half.

But it’s about trust and if you don’t respect the male half how can he trust you to respect the most important person in his life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it adds to the dynamic if me and the male are mates.

Horses for courses, plenty of men want the wife to have fun with a stranger and some want to have no say on the matter, or to see her being totally used by a disrespectful bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great one this morning I will bring xxxx round to watch u girls play!!!! Really! Does xxx agree and have u even bothered asking! I'm bi im not hereto put a show on, unless I want too

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea

It clearly states in the opening text of our profile that Mistress leaves the monitoring of messages to me. This is so that she can concentrate on the many messages she gets on her own profile.

Nevertheless, we still get guys who either don't read our profile or who ignore that fact and expect to talk to Mistress.

Needless to say, they don't get very far with us as we both find it disrespectful.

A lot claim that they are bi when that seems to be a ruse to bypass myself and get to Mistress.

They need to realise that before they have any hope of playing with her Mistress requires the guy to play with me, as it's what turns her on.

I'm sure many other bi couples have similar experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Heard about this a lot and there seems to be a lot of issues with mmf or

Mfm and people not actually being bi or people

Just focusing on one partner! Me on the other hand couldn’t ignore a lush cock ah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

This is so true and misses the point that as a single guy especially, you’re hoping to join a couple, it’s reasonable to think that these two people are close enough to be emotionally and cognitively connected on a deep enough level to partner-up and face the world together. Your role in their life is sexual and purely to bring and exciting but relatively transient experience that they will undoubtedly both get a thrill out of. Knowing what they both want is key. The hard part is understanding that you’ll only know what each person wants, is to talk to them (no matter how briefly) don’t assume they’re the same as the last couple you’ve met, we are all different and so are the requirements of every couple too.

A small effort and respect goes a long way.

Rick

X

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

K usually replies, thanking them for the compliment while pointing out that he's straight so not interested.

We often get a reply, saying they were messaging the Mrs.

NSS

C

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Before we blocked guys messaging us one of my favourite Fab things to do was just to go along with those messages for as long as possible, just assume they were complimenting me and never correct them Got some interesting responses when the pennies dropped

LvM

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"Before we blocked guys messaging us one of my favourite Fab things to do was just to go along with those messages for as long as possible, just assume they were complimenting me and never correct them Got some interesting responses when the pennies dropped

LvM"

Did this last night!

“You’re pussy is so hot”

“I don’t have a pussy”

-confused single guy-

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

How is the experience in clubs, we usually go on couples night and few times the guys were there, none made an effort to talk in bar area but all wanted to barge in to play rooms.

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By *heeseandWineCouple
over a year ago

Reading and Southampton


"Because they just look at the pictures, see a female and can't be arsed to read the profile. "
we have this happen regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often find when the males chat they get obsessed with talking about sucking my cock even if say no bi, more fun arranging with the female I will admit.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Often find when the males chat they get obsessed with talking about sucking my cock even if say no bi, more fun arranging with the female I will admit."

Probably the girls messing around just like guys do posing as girls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Often find when the males chat they get obsessed with talking about sucking my cock even if say no bi, more fun arranging with the female I will admit.

Probably the girls messing around just like guys do posing as girls lol"

Probably true lol

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By *rincessPuddleDuck22Woman
over a year ago

.•°°

I think I find it more annoying when it's already established you have a partner and they start the be mine I'll treat you better messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before we blocked guys messaging us one of my favourite Fab things to do was just to go along with those messages for as long as possible, just assume they were complimenting me and never correct them Got some interesting responses when the pennies dropped

LvM

Did this last night!

“You’re pussy is so hot”

“I don’t have a pussy”

-confused single guy-"

We do this as well

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

I will always address couples as such …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes !! This is a massive pet hate of ours !

My husband is part of this, and if he isn't happy with it it ain't gonna happen !

Mrs x"

Guys address what they see. If they only see a female that’s who they talk to.

I know guys pics don’t get very many fabs but that’s because ladies are reluctant to fab for fear of triggering more messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes !! This is a massive pet hate of ours !

My husband is part of this, and if he isn't happy with it it ain't gonna happen !

Mrs x

Guys address what they see. If they only see a female that’s who they talk to.

I know guys pics don’t get very many fabs but that’s because ladies are reluctant to fab for fear of triggering more messages. "

Rachael you get more messages just for being as hot as you are

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Whenever we get the 'Hey sexy, wanna fuck?' messages, Rob replies as if the message is for him He's gotten quite far in a message thread before the other guy has realised he's not talking to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *hathappensnowCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Or maybe read the top part that says MF Couple !

This is one of the reasons we block single males from our inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or maybe read the top part that says MF Couple !

This is one of the reasons we block single males from our inbox "

Couples are just as bad for messaging after only looking at the pretty pictures rather than reading any wording whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

respect is key both ways ..all ways ..

even as a cuckold couple if you dont respect him in gereral then your not getting any where near me

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By *red and Wilma 75Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"How is the experience in clubs, we usually go on couples night and few times the guys were there, none made an effort to talk in bar area but all wanted to barge in to play rooms."

We like Friday nights in clubs, often better than a Saturday. Guys are normally super friendly and will have a good chat regardless of whether your interested or not. We find that often is the case that guys are a lot more likely to just come up to start chatting than couples.

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Because most are rather dumb and don’t realise a number of things…..

They don’t realise that most couples work as a couple in this.

Nor do they realise that often it’s actually the male that is often taking the lead online.

Nor do they realise the dynamic of what couples seek.

Or the fact that most couples just delete such messages and probably more so when the F is opening it.

They also don’t realise that often the key to the wife IS the husband.

We’re generally disappointed in the quality, or lack of, single guys here. They complain how hard it is but most of them make it hard for themselves and others and often the quality will be brushed out with the chaff after umpteen crass messages have been opened beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will always address couples as such … "

We can vouch for this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Its a handy way of spotting those that may be disrespectful in a meet

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

The vast majority of your initial pictures are of the lady of the couple. You have to scroll a fair way down to see the male. Maybe a more balanced uploading of pictures would suggest that the male of the couple also exists?

We have more female photos than male.

However, for those that can read, and do read profiles it clearly says the male plays on the forums.

Think it says a lot with some of the opening messages.

I would suggest that most couples have more pictures of the female than the male. I am guessing that is because the male pictures don’t tend to get much response because most people aren’t as interested in the male of the couple?

Not for us, we like female interest for both of us.

Our photo’s suggest we like sensual lingerie in our shop window and not dream catchers. lol.

I get that and your pictures are really nicely taken.

My point was simply to observe that the OPs profile was very heavy on the female of the couple and I can see why many blokes on here would think it was about her.

I personally always assume that I am talking to the male of the couple when I message as that is my experience of who tends to run the accounts until they let me know it is the female."

That's one way of avoiding offence.

But I agree that the photo ratio with the heavy female focus sends out a certain message but I guess it depends on how they play. Personally, most of my opening messages are to both and then I take it from there.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"I blame the couples themselves

When your pictures are all of the female it just looks like a woman’s profile "

I've been here long enough to know your tongue is firmly in your cheek but to the guys who do have this approach, and there are many, just read the damn status. If it says couple taylor the message to the couple, KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

*tailor

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

As we're speaking now, I'm chatting to the male of a MF couple on a "whatsapp" basis. Pretty communicative, as far as these things go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes !! This is a massive pet hate of ours !

My husband is part of this, and if he isn't happy with it it ain't gonna happen !

Mrs x"

Mr here..

Oh gawd there is nothing that annoys/hurts more than this.

Swinging you need a thick skin at times but when you meet a couple and then they ask the Mrs if she would meet alone..

That stuff hurts and cuts deep at times.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many couples profiles I see have a ton of pics of her, with maybe 1 of him!! Can you not see why blokes concentrate on the female partner???

Not overly as the fact it is a couples profile should raise awareness enough that there are 2 people in the profile

Beard

This feels like the couples version of single males complaining that they don’t get their messages answered

Isn’t the blunt reality of the site that if you are a male (single or in a couple) then you are likely to be ignored? C’est la vie.

"

I don’t agree. My puddin speaks for both of us alot of the time and we seem to be doing ok. Plus isn’t fab the only place on the planet where women hold the cards alot of the time? Lol or have the final say atleast. Harley

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Happens a lot and often we just delete when it happens. The persistent ones then get blocked

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

To me it seems fairly obvious that for a single guy to have a chance with the female of the couple he must also include the male in the messages as well as making conversation and eye contact in a club or spa.As others have already stated on this thread anything else is just rude and disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do always say hi both it would just be rude if you didn't on a couple profile

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"If I see these I quickly tell them it’s a couples profile and we’re not interested now. If he reads it first he plays along. If they say ‘wow great body’ he’s like ‘thanks I’ve been working on my pecs this week’. Generally keeps it going awhile until the guy thinks he’s in and starts messaging ‘I really want to fuck your pussy’ (or words to that affect). Then he says but I have a cock so that’s not going to work.

Watching the guys backtrack is quite funny. Or that some even bloke us straight away, as thought it’s our fault they just looked at a picture.

The best ones are when they say they read our profile from top to bottom and we’re a perfect match. Lol "

C takes this approach when he's feeling generous, largely I just cannot be fucked with the effort.

P

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By *irtyDesires88Couple
over a year ago

Swindon

Just piss poor etiquette from guys wanting a quick f***.

Tbh I'm completely straight but i love having a good laugh with guys in a couple, it builds trust on both sides.

We generally don't entertain conversations that are one sided either, seems to be many couples on here where only the guys want to socialise when it comes to messaging, it's nice to share attention all round.... if you can't get that through messaging I'd rather not see what happens in the bedroom

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By *inkyguymkMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?

Oh and say hello to your lovely lady for me

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Annoying I know. But I wouldn't give people any tips or hints. Let them approach you as per what comes natural to them. It makes it easier to filter out the guys with the bad attitudes and notice the guys with the right attitudes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Annoying I know. But I wouldn't give people any tips or hints. Let them approach you as per what comes natural to them. It makes it easier to filter out the guys with the bad attitudes and notice the guys with the right attitudes."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is rude. A lot of guys on here say that they want to meet MF couples but really expect the man to hide in a cupboard so they can shag the wife. Some claim to be bisexual too, just so that they can shag married women.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"It is rude. A lot of guys on here say that they want to meet MF couples but really expect the man to hide in a cupboard so they can shag the wife. Some claim to be bisexual too, just so that they can shag married women."
. I have seen on a previous thread a couple ask a single guy to play with the male of the couple first before the female joins in it’s that couples way of establishing if the single guy is genuinely bisexual or not

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Home of the wanking zombies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

This usually shows the person trait and is an instant delete from us. As you say, it’s a couples profile, address both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is rude. A lot of guys on here say that they want to meet MF couples but really expect the man to hide in a cupboard so they can shag the wife. Some claim to be bisexual too, just so that they can shag married women..

I have seen on a previous thread a couple ask a single guy to play with the male of the couple first before the female joins in it’s that couples way of establishing if the single guy is genuinely bisexual or not "

It works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

110 percent agree if a single bloke doesn’t mention myself they have zero chance of getting a meet

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"I have seen on a previous thread a couple ask a single guy to play with the male of the couple first before the female joins in it’s that couples way of establishing if the single guy is genuinely bisexual or not "

As a single guy I'd immediate assume that the "couple" was a single looking to get his bit of fun, before then claiming that his partner had gone off the idea.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Experience has taught me the only way your gonna fuck the wife is if the husband/partner agrees. So the best way is to build up trust with him. They both need to feel comfortable with who they're potentially going to meet. So I just gather it's idiots who can't see past their own bellends that don't acknowledge the male partner."
1000000%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

These numpties generally get blocked by us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yep just need to learn to filter them out the earlier they show it the better. luckily i am bi so have sonething that puts most of these guys off to start with. "

Male here likewise Bi and find that often these guys’ll talk a good game but then fail to tempt the male part of our couple. That isn’t going to get them into the starting grid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you.

I think you answered your own question in your first few words. They want the woman. The man is an inconvenience they have to put up with. When the hormones kick in a lot of people don't even think strategically.

We had a guy who said he wanted to talk to Hannah. When I (Luke) pointed out we are a couple, he graciously said that I could join the conversation if I want to. I thought that was good of him. "

We’ve had similar and told them to go duck themselves if that’s all they’re after. We only ever play as a couple. For the Mrs a straight Dick doesn’t give us anything she doesn’t already have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time with our couples profile, it's like I don't even exist. The top line usually goes...

"Hey sexy you have such an amazing arse"!

To which I reply "thanks mate, my wife's arse isn't bad either". True story

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
over a year ago

peterborough

I want both of them......

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By *permdonorMan
over a year ago

driffield


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

The size of your fella when I message you I'll be sure to make him my best mate lol

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

Any messages only directed at L go in the bin, one guy was so kind he said I could watch if I had to be there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats why we use just the male signature profile and no meets info..it works much better in our favour to those who actually fully immerse themselves in our profile..but good luck Op its not easy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it constantly! If people don't interact with is both then we'll never meet. We've met a few single guys as well and they've pretty much ignored Mr C the entire time so he just asks them to leave.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

Personally, I'd love to engage with the male half of couples, but there are usually no pictures of him (bar a blurry half inserted penis) and I'm not going to have a conversation with the invisible man, no matter how attractive his partner may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh Em Ef Gee, U fukcn HOT letz secs."

Is that any better? Ambiguous as to who it's directed at.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Preach

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By *ucifer And MazikeenCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

We get lots the same but just them out. our profile is a good mix of us both in the pictures but still get messages just for maze but just laugh at them ignore or just delete, done and move onto the genuine people as it is not just single guys we get couples who will just want to talk to one off us and meet just one of us

And single women that just want to talk to lucifer same ignore, delete

Just keep smiling and have fun don’t let it wind you guys up

Happy fabing all xx

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

I automatically assume they aren’t all there when we get these type of messages which is almost 100% of messages from single lads, this type of stuff that made us move to only meeting couples.

Mr C

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

It's one thing getting such messages, another when the male half is ignored during a meet !. So many are only after the female half of a couple , so refreshing when all are involved equally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we are sooo with you on this one. If anyone messages us and doesn't take the time to include us both like " how are you both doing" etc then it's a straight delete I don't even give the time of day to people who don't speak to us both!

J (f) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a shame as everyone needs to enjoy the experiences, if you someone being invited to join a couple you need to be sure both are left satisfied by a meet

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

We had one recently direct his messages exclusively at me, but he also decided to only use single words. Mr Choir straight up laughed at him, believe it or not he didn't get the message and trued again to speak just to me. Cannot be bothered now so straight onto the block list

P

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By *inkyduokentCouple
over a year ago

Swanley

Instant delete

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By *izzmonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Literally just had a 'hey babe'- delete.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry


"I get it that you wanna fuck the girl but why do so many guys on here completely ignore the male half of the couple when sending a message, especially the opening message?

For example getting messages like:

“Hello gorgeous. Wow you are so sexy. I love your ass. When are you free for fun with me?”

We have a couples profile, at least acknowledge there will be two of us reading your message and be polite and respectful towards the guy who you want to potentially share his partner with you. "

Maybe because there are almost no pics of the make and loads of the lady ? I’m often disappointed by this

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"It’s a shame as everyone needs to enjoy the experiences, if you someone being invited to join a couple you need to be sure both are left satisfied by a meet"

That’s true

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