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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent

What words in the swinging world offend you?? What don’t you like being referred too as and why??

I’ve read a lot of threads today where certain words keep coming up and people are questioning them and becoming a bit defensive.

Words such as unicorn, milf, older woman, cougar seem to be provoking a lot of reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

I second this one!

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

That’s not ok

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis."

Why does that upset/offend you?

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By *an JuniperoCouple
over a year ago

North East


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis."

Definitely this one. Comes across as so insulting sometimes. Drives us crazy.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I get bothered by people being disrespectful, rather than specific words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

This, had a message saying hi slut, so disrespectful it was from a newbie too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Older mature woman!

Slut

Daddy

Mummy

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Older mature woman!

Slut

Daddy

Mummy"

Mummy or Daddy is completely out for us, it just sounds so very wrong in a sexual context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daddy or mummy does nothing for me. It's abit weird but each to their own.

Mrs x

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife."

That is bloody degrading hope you reported them?

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you? "

Yep also interested why this would offend? If someone said that about a partner I'd agree and take it as a compliment.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you? "

Suggest that I am "punching above my weight" is the first thing that springs to mind.

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire


"Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife."

Too many people on here think they can get away with that, they should do one some where else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honey . Or even worse Hun

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you?

Yep also interested why this would offend? If someone said that about a partner I'd agree and take it as a compliment. "

No-one has ever said I'm lucky to have Mr KC (which I bloody well am, by the way). It seems to roughly translate to "punching above your weight there, pal" and all the connotations that brings. The people sending the messages can only see what I (Mrs KC) look like (and then only some of me), yet they've decided he's lucky to have me? I might be the über-bitch from hell, for all they know

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you?

Suggest that I am "punching above my weight" is the first thing that springs to mind."

To me it suggests they are slightly envious of you having such a gorgeous partner, but that’s just my opinion

Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not offensive but when someone messages saying “mmmmmm” it makes my skin crawl. It sounds so seedy and creepy

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

It is not a word I would use but I do know several wives who love it and own it.

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

I don’t like being referred to as a ‘unicorn’.

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one

It is not a word I would use but I do know several wives who love it and own it."

The only person who calls me slut is the mr, he knows me he knows it turns me on sometimes but if a stranger used it before they even got to know me or called me a slut on a first message I would find it pretty offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one

It is not a word I would use but I do know several wives who love it and own it."

Mrs NE loves it when I say it during sex. If a random person said it to her they’d probably end up eating through a straw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Older mature woman!

Slut

Daddy

Mummy

Mummy or Daddy is completely out for us, it just sounds so very wrong in a sexual context "

Yes, I agree entirely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not offensive but when someone messages saying “mmmmmm” it makes my skin crawl. It sounds so seedy and creepy "

And this too ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

Yes, it's a bit different if it is between people who know each other, and people like me often like it, but to a real woman from a stranger I think that most (real) women would agree?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m attracted to black men, but don’t like it when I’m asked if I like ‘bbc’. That’s too fetishy for me.

I’ve been referred to as a milf because of my age and had people comment on pictures saying they love my ‘mum tum’. I find it super annoying because I don’t have children, I’m just fat and old!

Hate being referred to as a slut too

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Personally I don't get offended by anything anyone says to me such as hun, babe, and I might be shallow but I like being referred to like a sex object on the rare occasions it happens BUT I do sometimes cringe at some terms people still use in the forums therefore they must use in messages that are aimed at females and couples, I think it boils down to respect and it includes the way you converse.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Daddy or mummy does nothing for me. It's abit weird but each to their own.

Mrs x"

I agree this makes me feel a bit ick.

I got a message from a guy 10 years younger than me referring to me as 'baby girl' and that made me feel the same way.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis."

I don't mind that one, but I am punshing

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
over a year ago

Scarborogh


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you? "

Because why is it luck, is it not that they met and had loads in common and over time married and then discovered they have a passion for this fun. That’s not luck. PS I hate your a lucky Guy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always told "offense is never given, it must be taken". You can choose to take offense to anything or nothing.

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Pet names and inappropriate use of honorific, both of which a imply a dynamic or relationship that doesn't exist.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I have amongst other things been called ugly.

And I'm too fat to be on a swingers site.

Over the years I have reported quite a few and blocked after reporting. Some messages have resorted me to tears, we aren't here for abuse, and like hubbs says we have had hundreds of meets over the years, so ignore the ignorant messengers xxxxx Suzi

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We don't get offended. people who are disrespectful just get blocked. People who are disrespectful when we are out, get told. We speak our minds, some are offended by that. Being offended is a very wide perspective. What offends one person may not offend another. To old in the tooth to be offended. Call us what you like. Some say we are great, some say we are not. Do we care?? Certainly not. We care about the nice people in the World.

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By *ittlechick77Couple
over a year ago

Staines


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis."
have same issue have been told batting out your league

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By *ittlechick77Couple
over a year ago

Staines

Daddy or baby girl

Just a put off for us

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Have yet to be offended, hmm perhaps some need to ip their game

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not a fan of the word slut at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm offended to be offered money for sex. I've had a lot of graphic messages and those ones really make me cross.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Daddy. The only girl to call me that is my daughter and she is the only girl I'll ever be a daddy to.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

BBW.

I get a lot of those messages.

I’m just a person with a body like everyone else!

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

The words slut or slag. Tells us the person has no respect for Mrs Brum before they have either spoken to her or met her. In the same context we never use the words when contacting other members.

Also, we don’t you the word unicorn, as we know it offends many single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BBW.

I get a lot of those messages.

I’m just a person with a body like everyone else!"

And a fine one that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If breeding is in a message.. instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If breeding is in a message.. instant block "

No interest in breeding anymore lol

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"BBW.

I get a lot of those messages.

I’m just a person with a body like everyone else!"

I’m glad somebody else bought this up

I really don’t like being referred to as a BBW, each to their own!!

I guess we all have our own definitions of what offends and what doesn’t and it also depends on the context of which it’s being said

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Offended is too strong a word but getting introductory messages from couples that just say, facepic and phone number now.

The only time I have been offended on here was as part of a Facepic Friday thread. I sent a pic to a very well known and verified couple who had started the thread but did not honour the spirit of the game. Rather than send a pic in return they replied to say that I might have been hotter if I wasn't Irish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If breeding is in a message.. instant block

No interest in breeding anymore lol "
and I can't

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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago

north tyneside

Breeding, where is this from, sounds USA ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Offended is too strong a word but getting introductory messages from couples that just say, facepic and phone number now.

The only time I have been offended on here was as part of a Facepic Friday thread. I sent a pic to a very well known and verified couple who had started the thread but did not honour the spirit of the game. Rather than send a pic in return they replied to say that I might have been hotter if I wasn't Irish. "
that's awful !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like the term ' cum bucket '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Breeding, where is this from, sounds USA ?"
no idea but it's used a fair bit

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you?

Suggest that I am "punching above my weight" is the first thing that springs to mind.

To me it suggests they are slightly envious of you having such a gorgeous partner, but that’s just my opinion

Ms "

We get loads of messages telling us how gorgeous or stunning Alexis is and we always say thank you and take the compliment as it is given. The "lucky guy" comment is not aimed at Alexis is suggesting that in some way I should be thankful for being with her yet they know nothing about us, what we are like or how we come to be together. Alexis could be lucky to have me but never once have we had a message from a female saying "you are a lucky woman"

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Reading through this thread and can safely say that we've never had any type of message that contains daddy,baby,slut or anything to that effect. Dont know if that's a good or bad thing though

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By *elboy64Man
over a year ago

weston


"Breeding, where is this from, sounds USA ?"
it's more a fantasy of BB sex and hubby watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not offended as such just more exasperation, when people say things like ‘i’ve never had sex with a black woman’ or ‘whats black pussy like?’

I just think to myself how can you be so obtuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few terms I don't like, especially when people are being over familiar on a first message and assuming they are talking to Ginge, but they don't really offend, they just piss me off a bit

Like someone else put on here though I do find 'mmmmmmmm'a bit creepy.

Max

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Nothing to be honest

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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago

north tyneside


"Breeding, where is this from, sounds USA ? no idea but it's used a fair bit "
its awful and I’m open minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not offended as such just more exasperation, when people say things like ‘i’ve never had sex with a black woman’ or ‘whats black pussy like?’

I just think to myself how can you be so obtuse? "

Before me and Ginge got together I was in an LTR with a mixed race woman and the amount of messages we got about 'I'd love to try black'was unbelievable.

One guy she actually met even updated his status with 'just potted the black', she wearily laughed it off, but I mean FFS!

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

See a lot of people saying they are offended by things like men saying they are looking for a mature or older woman..or the term cougar.. a lot of women are writing this about themselves on their profile though.. also isn't that a preference it's not an insult is it ? It's like all the profiles that state black cock only I'm not offended it's a preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See a lot of people saying they are offended by things like men saying they are looking for a mature or older woman..or the term cougar.. a lot of women are writing this about themselves on their profile though.. also isn't that a preference it's not an insult is it ? It's like all the profiles that state black cock only I'm not offended it's a preference "

I posted on a thread today about "mature women". The point was that a lot of younger guys talk about older women and approach them as a homogenous group. "Wanna fuck an older woman". I regularly get approached like that. That's not a preference that's objectification. And it feels crap. Some women are ok with cougar, some are not. Ask first?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"See a lot of people saying they are offended by things like men saying they are looking for a mature or older woman..or the term cougar.. a lot of women are writing this about themselves on their profile though.. also isn't that a preference it's not an insult is it ? It's like all the profiles that state black cock only I'm not offended it's a preference

I posted on a thread today about "mature women". The point was that a lot of younger guys talk about older women and approach them as a homogenous group. "Wanna fuck an older woman". I regularly get approached like that. That's not a preference that's objectification. And it feels crap. Some women are ok with cougar, some are not. Ask first?"

Even worse when they approach me as a "mature" woman or a MILF and the person messaging is the same age, very close to my age (36) or, on more than one occasion, OLDER!!!! No, I am NOT a mature woman if you are 45

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See a lot of people saying they are offended by things like men saying they are looking for a mature or older woman..or the term cougar.. a lot of women are writing this about themselves on their profile though.. also isn't that a preference it's not an insult is it ? It's like all the profiles that state black cock only I'm not offended it's a preference

I posted on a thread today about "mature women". The point was that a lot of younger guys talk about older women and approach them as a homogenous group. "Wanna fuck an older woman". I regularly get approached like that. That's not a preference that's objectification. And it feels crap. Some women are ok with cougar, some are not. Ask first?

Even worse when they approach me as a "mature" woman or a MILF and the person messaging is the same age, very close to my age (36) or, on more than one occasion, OLDER!!!! No, I am NOT a mature woman if you are 45 "

Lol. I haven't had that but I have had plenty of guys in their fifties calling me young lady and j want to tell them to fuck off! (I don't)

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"See a lot of people saying they are offended by things like men saying they are looking for a mature or older woman..or the term cougar.. a lot of women are writing this about themselves on their profile though.. also isn't that a preference it's not an insult is it ? It's like all the profiles that state black cock only I'm not offended it's a preference

I posted on a thread today about "mature women". The point was that a lot of younger guys talk about older women and approach them as a homogenous group. "Wanna fuck an older woman". I regularly get approached like that. That's not a preference that's objectification. And it feels crap. Some women are ok with cougar, some are not. Ask first?

Even worse when they approach me as a "mature" woman or a MILF and the person messaging is the same age, very close to my age (36) or, on more than one occasion, OLDER!!!! No, I am NOT a mature woman if you are 45

Lol. I haven't had that but I have had plenty of guys in their fifties calling me young lady and j want to tell them to fuck off! (I don't)"

Obviously I am terribly insulted because they must be suggesting I look a lot older than my 36 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brian. Because that's not my name.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Just a place to rant about things it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think of much that anyone on here could say that would offend me unless it's something unkind said about me or my family by someone that I've met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See a lot of people saying they are offended by things like men saying they are looking for a mature or older woman..or the term cougar.. a lot of women are writing this about themselves on their profile though.. also isn't that a preference it's not an insult is it ? It's like all the profiles that state black cock only I'm not offended it's a preference

I posted on a thread today about "mature women". The point was that a lot of younger guys talk about older women and approach them as a homogenous group. "Wanna fuck an older woman". I regularly get approached like that. That's not a preference that's objectification. And it feels crap. Some women are ok with cougar, some are not. Ask first?

Even worse when they approach me as a "mature" woman or a MILF and the person messaging is the same age, very close to my age (36) or, on more than one occasion, OLDER!!!! No, I am NOT a mature woman if you are 45

Lol. I haven't had that but I have had plenty of guys in their fifties calling me young lady and j want to tell them to fuck off! (I don't)

Obviously I am terribly insulted because they must be suggesting I look a lot older than my 36 years "

I'm sure that's not true!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife.

That is bloody degrading hope you reported them? "
report them for what??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brian. Because that's not my name."

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"I was always told "offense is never given, it must be taken". You can choose to take offense to anything or nothing. "

I do like this.. I would perhaps add that alot of the messages or words that would offend are a simply a case of naivety on the message sender and a basic lack of understanding of the three rules;

-Respect

-Consent

-Don't be a dick...

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife.

That is bloody degrading hope you reported them? report them for what?? "

Offering money in exchange for sex this isn’t a site for prostitution

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Nothing offends me it’s only words on a screen from people I mostly will never meet ! I think most of you are weirdos, but that’s ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing offends me it’s only words on a screen from people I mostly will never meet ! I think most of you are weirdos, but that’s ok

"

You weirdo

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Nothing offends me it’s only words on a screen from people I mostly will never meet ! I think most of you are weirdos, but that’s ok

"

I'm a weirdo but not one that looks older than her years

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I don't let anything on here offend me. It's just words on a screen from someone who doesn't know me. Says more about them really and easily shows non compatability. So it's a win win for me.

In real life my friends or close family could never offend me. Anyone else I dont give a fuck what they think or say. Their opinion of me is none of my business.

Im in no way super confident in myself but I do know my worth!

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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one

This, had a message saying hi slut, so disrespectful it was from a newbie too"

Think I had the same guy. Apparently all women like it been on the site a couple of weeks and met 25 women and they all like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What words in the swinging world offend you?? What don’t you like being referred too as and why??

I’ve read a lot of threads today where certain words keep coming up and people are questioning them and becoming a bit defensive.

Words such as unicorn, milf, older woman, cougar seem to be provoking a lot of reaction. "

Slut or slag. They're horrible words.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Being called daddy.. that word just makes me cringe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have absolutely no problem in being called a slut or slag it shows that they have read my profile.

I don't like Mummy or Daddy . I mean who is your Daddy is not sexy in my mind x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I got called the fat twat in a collar in a club once

Hmmm yes I am overweight, yes I am in a collar and yes I can be a twat from time to time

However they hadn’t spoken to me, didn’t get to know me and made an assumption

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By *rgasmdonorMan
over a year ago

millstreet


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you?

Because why is it luck, is it not that they met and had loads in common and over time married and then discovered they have a passion for this fun. That’s not luck. PS I hate your a lucky Guy too. "

You make your own luck anyway

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By *rgasmdonorMan
over a year ago

millstreet


"I have amongst other things been called ugly.

And I'm too fat to be on a swingers site.

Over the years I have reported quite a few and blocked after reporting. Some messages have resorted me to tears, we aren't here for abuse, and like hubbs says we have had hundreds of meets over the years, so ignore the ignorant messengers xxxxx Suzi"

To say that to you is total ignorance as they obviously dont know you , I dont know you but can see from your photos that your gorgeous

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis."

We get this alot..I don't really know what they are getting at by that statement

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife."

I hope your reporting them to the admin.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

I don't like being referred to a BBW...its singling us larger ladies out..putting us under the fetish category, we are women that have the same assets as a slimmer woman...I always say you never see the term SBW (slim beautiful woman) and why is that? Because being slim is classed as socially acceptable where bigger ladies must be put Into category because only a certain amount of men/women will like them...it really pisses me of.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"BBW.

I get a lot of those messages.

I’m just a person with a body like everyone else!"

Yes!

I'm not a fetish to be ticked off thanks (and more complex with me as I'm currently rapidly losing weight thanks to a gastric bypass)

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I'm very offended by "not seeking single guys"

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By *inTonic2018Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Offensive comments about our pictures. It's only happened once or twice, but why do it? If you don't like them, that's fine with us. We just blocked and reported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unicorn? What is it supposed to mean?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Not a word but I'm getting tired of people offering money to have sex with my wife."

I only have £3.52 and a bit of string. You could join in though?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I don't like being referred to a BBW...its singling us larger ladies out..putting us under the fetish category, we are women that have the same assets as a slimmer woman...I always say you never see the term SBW (slim beautiful woman) and why is that? Because being slim is classed as socially acceptable where bigger ladies must be put Into category because only a certain amount of men/women will like them...it really pisses me of. "

I see your point but I disagree massively. There are thousands of pro bbw threads on here - and almost every single one will have tossers (male and female) who feel it’s necessary to put slim ladies down in order to make larger ladies/themselves feel better.

Larger ladies are the societal norm these days - walking into any swingers club would confirm that too. Whilst larger ladies may have been a niche a few decades ago that’s definitely not the case now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honey . Or even worse Hun "
little bit of sick came out at hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unicorn? What is it supposed to mean?"

Think it's a type of Yankee candle.

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By *inTonic2018Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Offensive comments about our pictures. It's only happened once or twice, but why do it? If you don't like them, that's fine with us. We just blocked and reported. "

Probably not what OP was asking about, but that's the only thing that's really offended. We can handle the rest (although, agreed mummy/daddy is a bit uch but we haven't had that, surprisingly!).

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

I think the problem is your never gonna get it right with everyone you message

I know black guys who like the term bbc I know black guys who hate it, I know guys who hate being called black and prefer coloured and I know ones who hate coloured and prefer black

Woman who like being called bbw and woman who don't

People who hate the word fat and people who prefer it to bbw or the likes

People who like the daddy/mummy stuff, People who hate it

So I simply don't take offence at any of it, if they say something I don't like or there message comes across in anyway uncomfortable or unlikeable to me, I simply block them as we are clearly not compatible, yet to the right person that message would land them a conversation or meet

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By *oson-Blue OP   Couple
over a year ago

North Kent


"I think the problem is your never gonna get it right with everyone you message

I know black guys who like the term bbc I know black guys who hate it, I know guys who hate being called black and prefer coloured and I know ones who hate coloured and prefer black

Woman who like being called bbw and woman who don't

People who hate the word fat and people who prefer it to bbw or the likes

People who like the daddy/mummy stuff, People who hate it

So I simply don't take offence at any of it, if they say something I don't like or there message comes across in anyway uncomfortable or unlikeable to me, I simply block them as we are clearly not compatible, yet to the right person that message would land them a conversation or meet "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drain... As in drain my balls. I won't reply to anyone with that in a message or their profile. Instant block I'm afraid.

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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago

London


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis.

Why does that upset/offend you?

Suggest that I am "punching above my weight" is the first thing that springs to mind.

To me it suggests they are slightly envious of you having such a gorgeous partner, but that’s just my opinion

Ms "

How we take it too.

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Unicorn. Milf/ older woman. Instant delete for both.

Anything degrading when they haven’t asked first (please ask cos then i love it) ha

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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago

Cap d’Agde, France


"Slut.

I got a message from a newbie and his profile said looking for a slut.

Totally out. There's no going back from that one "

Yes it’s an abusive word but it’s use can depend on the context, after all there’s plenty of women and some men who are proud to wear their ‘slut’ collars.

In our dynamic we use the word as a term of endearment !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I do find 'mmmmmmmm'a bit creepy.

Max"

Absolute cringe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like being referred to a BBW...its singling us larger ladies out..putting us under the fetish category, we are women that have the same assets as a slimmer woman...I always say you never see the term SBW (slim beautiful woman) and why is that? Because being slim is classed as socially acceptable where bigger ladies must be put Into category because only a certain amount of men/women will like them...it really pisses me of. "
would you rather be called fatty or bbw ? Would a sbw prefer to be called slim ? Don’t be a snowflake x

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we don't like mum, aunt, sis, nurse etc as we aren't into role play

dislike mum or dad used in play coz we have kids

hate terms like whore slut and bitch

just be polite, keep it real and be respectful and we will be cool

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

Grown men using the word "panties" makes me wanna be sick in my mouth, they are knickers FFS.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"Being told I am a "lucky guy" for being with Alexis."

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honey . Or even worse Hun "

This, it really grinds my gears..absolutely hate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like being referred to a BBW...its singling us larger ladies out..putting us under the fetish category, we are women that have the same assets as a slimmer woman...I always say you never see the term SBW (slim beautiful woman) and why is that? Because being slim is classed as socially acceptable where bigger ladies must be put Into category because only a certain amount of men/women will like them...it really pisses me of. would you rather be called fatty or bbw ? Would a sbw prefer to be called slim ? Don’t be a snowflake x"

It's a thread about what people are offended by. It's a bit rich of you to call her a snowflake when she expressed her opinion. And then add X as though that makes it ok.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Choose not to be offered but will always stand up against bullying and offensive behaviour.

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