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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Don't get that myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree at all, what reason is behind the question?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , however the control, dominance , enjoy watching someone in pain . *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts-

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts- "

You sure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's alot of care in bdsm if done properly, I for one consider the wellbeing of others. Its not all about pain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone"

Why have an opinion if you don't know about it?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone

Why have an opinion if you don't know about it?"

And Google knows everything OP.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone"

I understand why you might think that. There are some weirdos and narcissists yes and a fair bit of elitism , but there are many normal people with a passion for this stuff, sexual connoisseurs and adventurers!

I could demonstrate but I’d need to tie you up and have you licked by my sl*ve!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone

I understand why you might think that. There are some weirdos and narcissists yes and a fair bit of elitism , but there are many normal people with a passion for this stuff, sexual connoisseurs and adventurers!

I could demonstrate but I’d need to tie you up and have you licked by my sl*ve! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone

I understand why you might think that. There are some weirdos and narcissists yes and a fair bit of elitism , but there are many normal people with a passion for this stuff, sexual connoisseurs and adventurers!

I could demonstrate but I’d need to tie you up and have you licked by my sl*ve!

"

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?! "

How much involvement have you had with BDSM? I've had quite a lot over a few years. Haven't found that people are any more narcissistic in the lifestyle than they are in RL or...Fab.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?!

How much involvement have you had with BDSM? I've had quite a lot over a few years. Haven't found that people are any more narcissistic in the lifestyle than they are in RL or...Fab. "

Would agree. It’s about mutual respect and knowing the limit of your partner who wants to be in the submissive place.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Not in my experience

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?!

How much involvement have you had with BDSM? I've had quite a lot over a few years. Haven't found that people are any more narcissistic in the lifestyle than they are in RL or...Fab. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , however the control, dominance , enjoy watching someone in pain . *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts- "

You're aware that there is more involved in BDSM than control / dominance and watching someone in pain? And that anyone watching someone in pain is doing it consensually - the person in pain "enjoys" it.

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By *omerset1976Man
over a year ago

Burnham

I don’t think you understand it. It’s not about making someone feel useless or on pain… there needs to be an understanding at the start to know what each person wants from it… experience. If it’s not your thing stay away!!

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

OP I would like to explain to you about this face to face but I see you are hiding your profile.

Any particular reason or have you got a bit frighten?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not one sided. A good Dom cares and respects his sub, and treats him/her carefully to ensure their physical and mental well-being. It’s the core of an effective D/s relationship.

The best Doms are big softies imo.

The D/s relationship is a balance of power, you can’t have one without the other.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

OP, we would love to know where you're getting your knowledge of BDSM from. As it seems very one-sided and shallow. BDSM covers a very wide variety of activities and relationships, not just a sadist inflicting pain on people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I would like to explain to you about this face to face but I see you are hiding your profile.

Any particular reason or have you got a bit frighten?

"

Hi all, I by no means , meant to cause upset to anyone. I prefer men, so found the brother site catered for this side of things, however still read the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consent.

Mutual needs being met.

Pain is one of many sensations.

It's a relationship, even a brief one.

Aftercare.

Checking in.

So many ways to answer, but trolls will be trolls.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"It’s not one sided. A good Dom cares and respects his sub, and treats him/her carefully to ensure their physical and mental well-being. It’s the core of an effective D/s relationship.

The best Doms are big softies imo.

The D/s relationship is a balance of power, you can’t have one without the other. "

Perfectly put.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"OP I would like to explain to you about this face to face but I see you are hiding your profile.

Any particular reason or have you got a bit frighten?

Hi all, I by no means , meant to cause upset to anyone. I prefer men, so found the brother site catered for this side of things, however still read the forums.

"

You didn’t upset anyone who is secure in what they do and why

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting views and opinions by all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting views and opinions by all "

Hope it helped you with your question OP

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

We agree with you completely.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"It’s not one sided. A good Dom cares and respects his sub, and treats him/her carefully to ensure their physical and mental well-being. It’s the core of an effective D/s relationship.

The best Doms are big softies imo.

The D/s relationship is a balance of power, you can’t have one without the other. "
apologies this is what we agree with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?! "

Categorically wrong. Educate yourself please.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

How did you come to that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there's me thinking it's all about submission and domination in various guises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a proper D/s relationship a Dom will put his or her sub before anything or anyone else. It’s most definitely not narcissistic. Fifty shades has a lot to answer to. That is not a true D/s relationship so please don’t base your opinion on such crap as that.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Even when purely looking at S/M play sessions it's about an exchange between the sadist and the masochists.

I may have met a narcissist or two in 20+ years on the piblic bdsm scene, but they generally aren't around for long because people figure them out pretty damn quick

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By *om_Sub69Couple
over a year ago

Derby

We are both very thoughtful and considerate people. Enjoy the switch when it comes to our sexual interests and as previously said, BDSM involves a lot of care and attention too xx

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Not hurting anybody are we? Lol xx

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , however the control, dominance , enjoy watching someone in pain . *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts- "

You're describing abuse, not BDSM. If you don't understand the difference, please stay away from BDSM for the safety of everyone involved.

Also, you don't get to choose whether or not you offend someone. Intent does not trump impact and never has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?! "

You'll get a narcissist in any group of people.

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

Can of worms springs to mind

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I read the first post and was about to answer, but it's all veen said in the excellent answers above already.

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