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Thats what made me feel worse as they came with my best swinging buddies.
I truly didn't know what to do or say! | |||
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Thats what made me feel worse as they came with my best swinging buddies.
I truly didn't know what to do or say! "It's difficult in those situations I don't know about you but I tend to freeze momentarily. He clearly has no idea how to behave and entirely misunderstood the situation, behaving in a very immature way. I actually did have to punch a guy at a party once, I'm sorry this happened to you. | |||
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Thats what made me feel worse as they came with my best swinging buddies.
I truly didn't know what to do or say! "Need to have a word with your buddies and ask them to explain to him how out of order he was - oh and don't invite him again! | |||
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"I was at a party new years eve and this guy got far to handsie without even asking. I was sat in the corner of a couch so I had nowhere to move away to. He looked up at me and asked me if I liked how he licked my nipples. My response, very quietly... Well I was considering whether or not to punch you in the face for just helping yourself, as I'm waiting for hubby to get back from work. I was suitable annoyed and freaked out. I always thought it was ask before touch even in party situation. Now I'm second guessing parties and I do love them. Opinions? " It is not as simple as that when adults play together. It is not always appropriate to ask direct questions, and often body language is a guide as long as one's partner is not under the influence of drink then it is best to leave things for another day. Obviously we don't know the circumstances involved in the example given but any man should be able to tell whether a woman is responding to his being close, holding her hand etc before thinking he has a green light to go further. | |||
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"Maybe he was not aware of the "rules"? and unless someone tells him will remain ignorant of them. Still... Sorry to hear your experience. I'm not for punching anybody though especially in my home. " The "rules" are the bog standard ones that govern any and all sexual encounters - you must have consent from whoever you are touching sexually. Anyone who doesn't understand that you can't just touch/accost another person without consent is frankly a dangerous person. | |||
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"Maybe he was not aware of the "rules"? and unless someone tells him will remain ignorant of them. Still... Sorry to hear your experience. I'm not for punching anybody though especially in my home. " What do you advise a woman to do if a man won't accept a verbal rebuff? | |||
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"Why didn't you loudly ask him to stop touching you or try to move away from him before he got in about your nipples?" The initial post states why, I have no where to move to and I was in shock...honestly didn't know what to say.. I had never been in that situation before!! Its easy to say why didn't you do this or that, until you are having to deal with it | |||
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"Maybe he was not aware of the "rules"? and unless someone tells him will remain ignorant of them. Still... Sorry to hear your experience. I'm not for punching anybody though especially in my home. " I'm not either, which is why I didn't (also I'm not a fighter) Sex has very clear unspoken rules, don't ask, don't touch. I was just curious as to whether people felt a party situation was different to that | |||
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"Always be careful at who you invite into your home. Stick to organised parties at clubs or make sure you only let people in that you know already when hosting privately " He wasn't on the invite list, he came with another. Certainly a learning curve thats for sure. | |||
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"Always be careful at who you invite into your home. Stick to organised parties at clubs or make sure you only let people in that you know already when hosting privately He wasn't on the invite list, he came with another. Certainly a learning curve thats for sure. " maybe you best swing buddies should no longer be your best swinging buddies. Clearly rhey let you down inviting unknown to your party and not letting you know | |||
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"Always be careful at who you invite into your home. Stick to organised parties at clubs or make sure you only let people in that you know already when hosting privately He wasn't on the invite list, he came with another. Certainly a learning curve thats for sure. " How could he not be on the invite list if he was the host R | |||
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"Always be careful at who you invite into your home. Stick to organised parties at clubs or make sure you only let people in that you know already when hosting privately He wasn't on the invite list, he came with another. Certainly a learning curve thats for sure. " I'm sorry that this happened to you. I always wonder sometimes why females are overly cautious and why it's tough for guys but then I hear stuff like this and I understand completely 
It probably would have been a good night too if he hadn't done this.
Difficult to do anything about it now but I think you'll probably be a lot more strict on the Guestlist and no +1's just turning up. I think whoever he came with needs spoken to though.
Please don't let this twat spoil it for you and please continue to have fun hosting parties. | |||
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"Always be careful at who you invite into your home. Stick to organised parties at clubs or make sure you only let people in that you know already when hosting privately He wasn't on the invite list, he came with another. Certainly a learning curve thats for sure. How could he not be on the invite list if he was the host R" I was the host. sorry if I didn't make that clear | |||
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"Always be careful at who you invite into your home. Stick to organised parties at clubs or make sure you only let people in that you know already when hosting privately He wasn't on the invite list, he came with another. Certainly a learning curve thats for sure. I'm sorry that this happened to you. I always wonder sometimes why females are overly cautious and why it's tough for guys but then I hear stuff like this and I understand completely
It probably would have been a good night too if he hadn't done this.
Difficult to do anything about it now but I think you'll probably be a lot more strict on the Guestlist and no +1's just turning up. I think whoever he came with needs spoken to though.
Please don't let this twat spoil it for you and please continue to have fun hosting parties."I am going to be having a convo with his (invited) female friend, as I have just found out he did the same to another guest of mine. I thank everyone that has commented and feel I am ready know how to deal with any similar situation. I shouldn't feel uncomfortable in any situation, especially in my own home...so it will be a strict behave or leave. | |||
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"Maybe he was not aware of the "rules"? and unless someone tells him will remain ignorant of them. Still... Sorry to hear your experience. I'm not for punching anybody though especially in my home. What do you advise a woman to do if a man won't accept a verbal rebuff?" It's hard to say really and I'd guess depends on who is around and the individual situation. First thing would be to stay safe... Remove from the situation, ask for help... Defend yourself of course... Don't misunderstand me... I'm not defending or justifying it at all and it's certainly not anything I've ever seen.. Just saying there are some pretty dim people out there who may not know. | |||
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