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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

is it only us we have been trying to find a couple who would like to chat and make friends first before meeting but ppl seem to just want to meet we get loads of ppl ofering there msn but thay never chat for long inogh maby one or two hrs thats if thay both chat at all we would feel very uncomfortable meeting withut geting to know both ppl first most of the clubs ar to far away so we cant get any one to introduce us that way to others pls tell us not every one just wants sex b4 geting to know eachother a bit first

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By *ibertinesCouple
over a year ago

N Devon

Don't worry your not alone

We are exactly of the same opinion, takes a little while longer, but we enjoy the anticipation and find the whole lead up to be a very enjoyable process.

Have made some good friends via fab and hoping to make a few more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh guys we r the same we always chat 1st for quite a while, but on the other hand the other night we added a couple on thursday and met them on the friday. when u start talking to the right couple u just know so its really hard lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here...

We meet we chat.. we enjoy a good build up. Nothing wrong with that.. and touch wood.. (Mmmmm) been ok so far for us lol.

Respect those who prefer to just meet and have sex too.. just not for us!!

Mike and Ju xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also prefer to chat to people first before I meet them... but in my experience, of the people I have actually met so far, it is usually a short chat and then meet....

It may be the fact that there are a lot of people on here who just chat and chat and you never end up meeting them (I guess these are what most people refer to as the timewasters)... and so in all probability the people who want to meet quickly are more likely to be genuine.

They may have been messed around with lots of people who chat and do nothing and so subconsciously there mind is thinking that if you don't want to meet quickly, then you are likely to be the same (of course, I am not saying this is the case!).

You can after all meet them in a pub before any playing and get to know them there a bit first. Then if they aren't your cup of tea, just don't play with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought though,what happens if the people who want to go for drinks/meals and get to know each other first,go to a swinging party? Would they sit about drinking and chatting half the night,play sooner than normal or not go to a party? The question is purely out of curiosity.

Trace & Ric

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya Trace and Ric...

Were a meet first couple.. and have been to a few parties over the years.. Some, we have already known a few people but when we don't know anyone we tend to step back a little or at worste just keep things fairly tame lol... Never so far have we just dived in and thought fluck it lol..

Tame we may be but thats us lol... Tame untill we get to know ya that is... then.. Well so far no complaints lol...

Mike and Ju x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the all important 1st phone call with us.

If we feel there's a connection , some laughter & some flirting then "Yippee", but if not then sadly it's not for us.

Humour people, humour !

( That's the rant for today over ).

Love & stuff xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never just meet someone without talking first. And by talking, i do think that we want a little bit more than a few messages sent back and forth. We like to get to know people, find common ground, form a friendship. I was beginning to wonder if we indeed fitted on a swingers site, so it's great to know that there are others out there who want a bit more than to just jump into bed with the first warm body!

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By *eengazCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We agree with you too, whats the point meeting someone if the chatting on msn dries up after ten minutes. You can get a good feel for people by chatting, even just to find out if they are a wast of time or if you will hit it off straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

We like to have an initial chat on msn even though im bored of it at the moment but you can pretty much suss out straightaway if you will get on with,then it will be chatting on the phone which gives an even better idea of what someone is like,if the conversation is stilted boredom sets in and I lose all interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are of the same opinion we like get to know people first ,but some just dont have the patience for that, we have had a cpl of house parties here mainly as a way of meeting the people we have spoken to without that first meet awkwardness and also with no pressure to play some come and play, others for the social side which to us is as important as the actual sex

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

I rarely use MSN...... I've got 300+ people on mine and have no idea who most of them are!

I don't want to chat and get a feel first. we've done that and the meetings were a bloody disaster. You end up with a pre-conceived idea of what these people are like and it (in our opinion) nearly always ends up being totally wrong.

We are part of the "very little chat, maybe a phone call, meet, shag, leave" brigade and we love it. But thats us. I know it isn't for everyone but to be perfectly honest...... we leave our friends and those we shag in separate compartments, far less complications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is ...... some people like to chat first, have a drink, get to know each other and see if the chemistry is there, others like to walk into a venue or arrange a meet online and just go for it, some don't want to know who they are playing with and prefer anonymous sex in darkrooms or orgy rooms at clubs.

They are all right in what they want, it is after all, personal choice and I fully understand all the reasons for all the views.

Perhaps we should all put in our profiles (as many already do) what our preferences are ie "like to chat and get to know people before arranging meets" or "spontaneous meets welcome"

Simply Jed

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