FabSwingers.com forum: Is it inevitable

By *annydevon OP Man
over a year ago

Exeter

So... there are always many more males than females, whether that's on dating apps or better places like fab.

Obviously women have more choice, although I understand that women have to deal with a lot of low quality messages...

Anyway, given that women in this "scene" or "lifestyle" or just dropping by to enjoy themselves will always have many more options than most men..

My question is this...

If I'm in a loving relationship and agree with my partner that we can be open and have sex with other people, live out fantasies, while still being in a close, loving relationship...

Is it inevitable that for the most part that will mean she gets to have sex with loads of other men, I might have occassional chances to have sex with other women, and as we progress the inevitable conclusion is my gf is being gang banged?

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

The answer is yes but have a couple's profile as well and have fun together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. My husband has only really had an opportunity with one woman, I've slept with many men off here and other sites/apps. We do get far more options and choice. Xx

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

No idea why you feel her being gang banged is inevitable unless she's told you that's what she wants.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It's inevitable that she'll have more opportunity. Whether she will want those opportunities or be willing to take them is a totally different matter.

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Of course she’ll get more offers, as long as you both enjoy your wife bring with someone else it shouldn’t be a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know about gang banged but she will get more offers from both couples and single guys. From my own experiences, I get more quests from males of couple to meet them on my own and not as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know about gang banged but she will get more offers from both couples and single guys. From my own experiences, I get more quests from males of couple to meet them on my own and not as a couple.

Same here. I get asked to meet alone by single men more, but male halves of couples and cheating guys are both not far behind xx

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By *annydevon OP Man
over a year ago

Exeter

"No idea why you feel her being gang banged is inevitable unless she's told you that's what she wants. "

Whenever I've been in a relationship and we start to talk about being non monogamous it seems to start with a simple fantasy, then develops into wanting to be with two men, then more.

I understand the fantasy and get that it may just be that, a fantasy.

I have nothing against it, but I prefer to do that when I'm not in a relationship

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

"It's inevitable that she'll have more opportunity. Whether she will want those opportunities or be willing to take them is a totally different matter."

This. It's (sadly) not fair or equal opportunity, but it's the way of thr world on Fab/other apps in terms of number of M vs F profiles and their enthusiasm to meet.

You need to agree what you are both comfortable with in terms of how often you each meet so that neither is feeling uncomfortable or upset with the arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No idea why you feel her being gang banged is inevitable unless she's told you that's what she wants.

Whenever I've been in a relationship and we start to talk about being non monogamous it seems to start with a simple fantasy, then develops into wanting to be with two men, then more.

I understand the fantasy and get that it may just be that, a fantasy.

I have nothing against it, but I prefer to do that when I'm not in a relationship "

If you love her and don't mind being non monogamous then just leave her to it hun. Does it really matter how many men she has sex with and how many in one go? If you're relationship continues to work successfully then don't worry about it. There are plenty of couples on here where the female is playing tons with or without their partners, in fact the site is full of them. It's really not a problem if you're ok with open relationships. Xx

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"So... there are always many more males than females, whether that's on dating apps or better places like fab.

Obviously women have more choice, although I understand that women have to deal with a lot of low quality messages...

Anyway, given that women in this "scene" or "lifestyle" or just dropping by to enjoy themselves will always have many more options than most men..

My question is this...

If I'm in a loving relationship and agree with my partner that we can be open and have sex with other people, live out fantasies, while still being in a close, loving relationship...

Are you in a relationship?

If you are you'll be better swinging as a couple. That's the most common form of swinging, Wife swapping to some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So... there are always many more males than females, whether that's on dating apps or better places like fab.

Obviously women have more choice, although I understand that women have to deal with a lot of low quality messages...

Anyway, given that women in this "scene" or "lifestyle" or just dropping by to enjoy themselves will always have many more options than most men..

My question is this...

If I'm in a loving relationship and agree with my partner that we can be open and have sex with other people, live out fantasies, while still being in a close, loving relationship...

You could always set up a couples profile and only do full swap. That way it will always be equal but I’d suggest if you’re even worrying about your girlfriend having all the fun then maybe swinging isn’t for you. It should be something you both enjoy without one of you feeling left out.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Then the inevitable infinite gangbangs to follow. How many greedy girl profiles do you see on here where one on one meets never do it for them any longer? Some may say I'm not being helpful but it does happen and someone has to say it.

Mr.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP if you are "I'm single, straight," are you taking hypothetically?

A couples profile would be the option and you'd decide, between yourselves, how the pair of you wanted things to go.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Can’t say I have any less opportunity’s than boobs on here. The site is what you make it. If your struggling for female contact and messages you only have yourself to blame.

Beards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Danny boy, it seems inevitable that you have some odd ideas about women

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By *annydevon OP Man
over a year ago

Exeter

"Oh Danny boy, it seems inevitable that you have some odd ideas about women "

Maybe I do, but only from experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then the inevitable infinite gangbangs to follow. How many greedy girl profiles do you see on here where one on one meets never do it for them any longer? Some may say I'm not being helpful but it does happen and someone has to say it.

Mr."

But then one on one is not 'swinging' regardless of your marital status. It is mundane run of the mill commonplace behaviour. Having an open marriage doesn't equate to 'swinging'.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I don't really understand what you're asking - but if you're not liking any aspect of it you need to either set hard boundaries or perhaps swinging isn't for you.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Mr.

But then one on one is not 'swinging' regardless of your marital status. It is mundane run of the mill commonplace behaviour. Having an open marriage doesn't equate to 'swinging'. "

Who said anything about swinging? Op mentioned gangbangs I replied to him in the gangbang realm, lol and where it could lead. Yes, one on one isn't swinging we all know that, gangbangs which the op mentioned isn't swinging either so why are you mentioning it? I'm talking under the 'lifestyle' umbrella but don't know why I'm even talking about this with you tbh.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

"Can’t say I have any less opportunity’s than boobs on here. The site is what you make it. If your struggling for female contact and messages you only have yourself to blame.

Beards "

You are an astoundingly good looking couple, that must help a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, yes. Men have a harder time in here but some of that is down to fake profiles. It's also about women needing attraction to want to fuck the person whereas I believe men get aroused easier. Couple profiles are more attractive to bi girls too so that opens up another avenue for you with a couples profile, even if the gf is straight, bi girls get to enjoy the view and you get to only the new girl

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Can’t say I have any less opportunity’s than boobs on here. The site is what you make it. If your struggling for female contact and messages you only have yourself to blame.

Beards

You are an astoundingly good looking couple, that must help a bit

I also think it helps that they have a couples profile. And both being bi must offer more opportunities.

OP, I think women in general get more attention on here as there are less of us, it’s just a numbers game. Plus, a lot of women would assume your partner is unaware of your profile and that you would be cheating. You’d stand a better chance with a couples profile where you were both contactable.

Lou x

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

"Can’t say I have any less opportunity’s than boobs on here. The site is what you make it. If your struggling for female contact and messages you only have yourself to blame.

Beards

You are an astoundingly good looking couple, that must help a bit

I also think it helps that they have a couples profile. And both being bi must offer more opportunities.

Lou x "

My opportunities come from my singles profile. Couples profile is for us I think where as I use this profile for my single adventures

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By *indandfireCouple
over a year ago

ashbourne

It is inevitable I’m afraid that your partner would receive more offers. Playing as a couple would keep you involved. Mind you as club regulars we still find even playing with another couple, I get more sex. Often the lady is less open to play than her partner who is quickly balls deep so to speak!

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By *annydevon OP Man
over a year ago

Exeter

When I'm in a relationship I want to be free and make her feel happy

But once we start down that route it seems that simple things like doing stuff in front of other couples or with one or two friends ends up equalling she has freedom to have sex with other people when I'm not around

Or living out her wildest fantasies like being in a gangbang without considering how I feel about that

Theres a big difference between not being possessive and being cuckolded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she’s winding you up?

Hears you wanting to see other women and turns the tables rather dramatically for effect.

I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think this is nessasarily true, as a single guy if I want to have sex I normally can, I have various single females who are sort of fuck buddies built up over years in some cases who I just drop a text see what there up to. Then you have pof and tinder and not so often now is fab. But the main problem guys have is there to thirsty and won't put the work in if you send some one a dick pick you won't get laid, you need to strike up a conversation and flirt. So it's easier for a female but doesn't mean you can't keep up just need to put more effort in.

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By *annydevon OP Man
over a year ago

Exeter

"Maybe she’s winding you up?

Hears you wanting to see other women and turns the tables rather dramatically for effect.

I would. "

I wasn't fussed about seeing other women

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"So... there are always many more males than females, whether that's on dating apps or better places like fab.

Obviously women have more choice, although I understand that women have to deal with a lot of low quality messages...

Anyway, given that women in this "scene" or "lifestyle" or just dropping by to enjoy themselves will always have many more options than most men..

My question is this...

If I'm in a loving relationship and agree with my partner that we can be open and have sex with other people, live out fantasies, while still being in a close, loving relationship...

I'm wondering if you know what gang bang is and I don't disrespect you in any way when I say that. But having sex with multiple me on separate occasions isn't a gang bang. Her being the only female in the room and having 5-6 lads in there having sex with her is a gang bang.

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