FabSwingers.com forum: Tip to help my wife start swinging!

By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

My wife’s started to take an interest in swinging and talking about meeting other while we make love. I’d like to take it to the next level, just wondering If anyone has any help and advice for us?

Any help would be really appreciated.

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham

"My wife’s started to take an interest in swinging and talking about meeting other while we make love. I’d like to take it to the next level, just wondering If anyone has any help and advice for us?

Any help would be really appreciated. "

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile

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By *ayleedsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Keep talking with hur get hur to open up about hur fantasys. Let hur see how much it turns you on hur teling you good luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a mate who wants to try bi oral with another guy...any advice would be appreciated

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile"

Do you feel better now for saying that?

Or would you prefer he had a couples profile where the wife has no prior knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile

Do you feel better now for saying that?

Or would you prefer he had a couples profile where the wife has no prior knowledge

Why doesn't he set up a couples profile with her knowledge ?

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

We’ll be changing the profile to couple soon, thanks for pointing out the obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile"

Mate why knock people? He said his wife is just starting to show an interest so what's the problem with his profile being a single male?

Take a look at your own, maybe you should be on a car club site!?

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks for your help

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile

Do you feel better now for saying that?

Or would you prefer he had a couples profile where the wife has no prior knowledge

Why doesn't he set up a couples profile with her knowledge ?"

Because right now they aren't a swinging couple

That's the point of his thread,ideas on how to get the wife to move to the next level,ie,start swinging.

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

We’ll be doing a couples profile soon

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile

Mate why knock people? He said his wife is just starting to show an interest so what's the problem with his profile being a single male?

Take a look at your own, maybe you should be on a car club site!?

I’m on many much the same as you must be on plenty of music sites

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes best thing is get a verified couples profile then you can both chat

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I have a mate who wants to try bi oral with another guy...any advice would be appreciated

Maybe get your mate to start his own thread

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks for your help. The main reason I’m here as a single person is because it would be wrong to act as a couple on my own until my wife joins me on here. I see it’s a real problem for some people unfortunately.

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile

Do you feel better now for saying that?

Or would you prefer he had a couples profile where the wife has no prior knowledge

Why doesn't he set up a couples profile with her knowledge ?

Because right now they aren't a swinging couple

That's the point of his thread,ideas on how to get the wife to move to the next level,ie,start swinging.

I would say that if it’s not something they can sort between themselves then it’s not for them

Good luck to them both if they do enter the world of fab and swinging but as communication is key to any success I suggest he/they start there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ll be changing the profile to couple soon, thanks for pointing out the obvious. "

People assume too much sometimes without asking.

Talk to her op. It’s all about communication.

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham

"Yes best thing is get a verified couples profile then you can both chat"

Exactly this - otherwise it simply looks like you are trying to be coercive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would recommend you take a look at both going to a club some do newbie nights. There’s no pressure to play, you can just go along and see the social side of the lifestyle. If your partner is keen to get involved it may happen but if not you will both still have a good night and meet some awesome people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any help would be really appreciated. "

Tell her to get loads of tattoos and adopt an "entitled" attitude...she'll do just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a mate who wants to try bi oral with another guy...any advice would be appreciated

Maybe get your mate to start his own thread"

I could......I mean he could

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Be honest and upfront with what you want to try. Talk openly as you may be surprised as to her desires too. But respect her wishes as if she doesn't want to swing then that's her personal choice and deserves your understanding. It may be a relationship breaker of she doesn't want to play and you do. She may feel betrayed so think carefully.

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham

"Be honest and upfront with what you want to try. Talk openly as you may be surprised as to her desires too. But respect her wishes as if she doesn't want to swing then that's her personal choice and deserves your understanding. It may be a relationship breaker of she doesn't want to play and you do. She may feel betrayed so think carefully. "

BEST answer of the day

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Does she enjoy looking at this site with you?

If so, maybe start off in the chat rooms. That might achieve a few things.

She can see other swingers "in action" and she can choose how much of herself she is willing to show.

It's a safe environment as she can just shut the cam down if she wants to.

Finally, it will prove to those doubters that she actually does exist.

Gbat

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

This was us a few years back. I (Mr in this case) had an interest in swinging as it had always turned me on but kept it to myself a bit too much for fear of damaging our relationship.

Wifey had played with other women when d*unk but it was more just a kiss and a fumble than anything planned and she hadn't expressed an interest in anything like swinging etc.

The biggest fear for me was rejection or discust at my thoughts and that she would reject me which is why I held back.

We had a good sex life and enjoyed porn so this was my opening. Once the kids were down and we were both relaxed I brought up the idea of turning some of what we watched (lesion, 3 and 4 some) to reality and that I had been looking into the lifestyle. She was a little taken back because she was unaware I had been feeling that way and been looking into it as I hadn't spoken to her earlier and this was a lesson for me. We talked factually and tried not to let emotion take over. We talked through each others thoughts, desires, concerns. Honesty is key here.

My wife is amazing and whilst not as into it as me at the start, she said if it makes me happy we could dip our toe in and take it slowly and see how we both felt and take small steps. This was key for us to build trust and not dive straight in as once done, it can't be undone.

We found fab, chatted to some couples and realised we were very new to it all. Fortunately for us, we actually met a couple by pure chance on a night out which was amazing as they were very patient and went at our pace, which was slow to be fair. This worked for wifey as she is more into spontaneity than it being planned where possible.

Now, whilst not pro, we are both actively on here, met a few couples and women and really know what we like having learnt and communicated as we went along. Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a mate who wants to try bi oral with another guy...any advice would be appreciated

Nailed it!

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By *apillon500Couple
over a year ago

kent

For us, it was me (Mrs) that first broached the subject. Admittedly this is probably easier, but by being honest about what we both wanted (and didn’t want) and taking things really slowly and analysing every step as we went, we got to where we are today. Honesty and communication is the key.

We started off with some ‘sexting’ and cyber stuff with others, we thought this a small step from watching porn together (which we had always done) and found this a good way to dip our toes in!

Good luck, I hope it works out for you both.

Dee x

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile

Do you feel better now for saying that?

Or would you prefer he had a couples profile where the wife has no prior knowledge

Why doesn't he set up a couples profile with her knowledge ?

Because right now they aren't a swinging couple

That's the point of his thread,ideas on how to get the wife to move to the next level,ie,start swinging.

I would say that if it’s not something they can sort between themselves then it’s not for them

Good luck to them both if they do enter the world of fab and swinging but as communication is key to any success I suggest he/they start there"

Wow, have you and the OP had a falling out or something. What’s your bloody problem?

He’s a guy on a single profile not pretending to be a couple. He’s trying to get advice on helping his mrs into the scene. He’s said they’ll do a couples profile when appropriate.

Further more, how many guys profiles are there who are actually couples? The problem is the other way round!

There’s nothing wrong with a husband and wife having separate profiles to arrange meets on their own, not as a couple.

Get over yourself.

OP. Just chat with her. Browse fab with her perhaps. Be open with what you want and listen to what she does. Take your time and don’t pressure her. If she wants to start she will…

Best of luck.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Take her to a club to watch

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP... The Crowland Social is on Tuesday. Might be a good place to start as there's loads of friendly people and no pressure to play as it's just a social.

And it's local.

PM us if you want to know more.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any help would be really appreciated.

And yet another “couple” with a single man profile"

Rather a single mans profile with the potential of a couple, than a single guy masquerading as a couple a couple - just me I guess.

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Hi love to know more about the Crowland Social. Chat with you soon hopefully

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Tell her about this site you've found, get her to have a look around, watch porn (the kind she talks about) together, anything to continue the conversation, to see if it's just fantasy or something she wants to make reality

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks for all your responses, I’m going through all of them. Hopefully 2022 will be a fantastic year!

For all those who don’t like my single male profile, maybe not my best decision. But it’s a step in the right direction. Couples profile coming soon.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Hi op. We listen to alot of podcasts and remember a good episode in one, not too long that maybe of interest with regards to your question. Message us, more than happy to share this with you.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"We’ll be changing the profile to couple soon, thanks for pointing out the obvious. "

Make no difference if she does not know and is not involved.

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By *oblincs70 OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

My wife will know and we’ll both be verified. Won’t do it without my wife’s approval.

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By *reenlanerCouple
over a year ago

bournemouth

All you do is plant the seed of interest

If she is interested to take it further im sure she will let you know in her own time

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By *otfun75Man
over a year ago

leeds

Mmmmm I’m liking the sound of this will have to try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how did it go OP?

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

"So how did it go OP?"

Guess 39 weeks on it hasn't gone well as the op is still here as a single bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how did it go OP?

Guess 39 weeks on it hasn't gone well as the op is still here as a single bloke"

I think you’re guessing right. Be nice to have an update though!

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By *andaloriansCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

Let her take the lead and carry the pace

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