FabSwingers.com forum: Being recognised

By *inman73 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?

Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?

Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he do that in front or others you knew or quietly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might give a smile or if chatted before say hi but never out someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?

Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?

Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."

I saw a guy in the gym I recognised from here and we made eye contact smiled and that was that, he found us on here later and spoke but it was nice he didn't make a thing of it at the time, potentially got himself a meet now haha

Katie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recognised a lady off Fab this afternoon funnily enough. She was riding her bike as I drove past. Obviously I couldn’t speak to her, but it did make me wonder what I’d say if I could.

I’d probably just bottle it to be honest, you’d have to be super confident it was them. Especially if you only know them by a username.

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By *annyT1966Man
over a year ago

Derwentside

I recently recognised someone while out shopping. What did I do? I ignored them as we are all entitled to a vanilla life outside of our more kinky one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If we've met them we acknowledge discreetly and take our cue from them. If we haven't met we'd behave as if they were any other person. Approaching people off fab is not discreet in my opinion and pretty poor form

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

100% discretion. I may chose to be open and out about the lifestyle but I'm not inadvertently making anyone who I don't know feel exposed.

I might send a cheeky message later on fab though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been very surprised by how many people we know that we’ve now seen on Fab or in clubs.

We don’t make anything of it and wouldn’t go further with them.

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

My wife was approached by a guy OUTSIDE THE SCHOOL GATES saying he'd seen her on Fab! She was shocked and a bit intimidated!

Lucky I wasn't there as I'd have had serious words! Fucking twat.

Outing someone is bad enough, but when they're with their kids and surrounded by other kids and teachers too?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this more than I'd prefer - from fab and other platforms. It's not itself a big issue (to me anyway) other rhan people can be a bit over familiar like I know them.

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By *ihullfunMan
over a year ago

hull

I find it very horny if I recognise someone, but I would never just go upto them. As lots of people on here like to keep this fun discreet

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Happened a couple of times to Rosie recently out and about in Andover, no big deal really

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By *hitemidlandsmaleMan
over a year ago

Bedworth

I've recognised someone in the pub but didn't think it was right to say anything

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

We've made so many friends by meeting on here that we wouldn't dream of not stopping and having a friendly chat. Although discretion is paramount in public or in company of course.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I've only once seen someone who I thought I recognised as being on here - I wanted to make a casual remark that would include the term 'Fab', to see if it garnered a knowing look or response...

....but I decided discretion was the better part of valour, and said nothing...

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?

Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?

Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."

We would not mind being recognised if we were by ourselves, but not if we were with others. Also we would expect anyone who approached us to use commonsense and not shout across the street.

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

don't call people out in public.. message them here.. Public life is different to life here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guy recognised me in a local shop

I hadnt seen his pic ,so i did know until he messaged me and asked did i enjoy my

sandwich .He said didnt think it was right to speak to me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don’t mind it done to me. There is a recognisable couple that regularly go to my gym off here, but I’ve never said hello. Sometimes it’s best to keep it that way been close to home. Although I would probably say hello in a bar depending on a few things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at a funeral recently & a hot wife couple off here were there,we both know each other are swingers,had a brief chat with them,neither of us mentioned swinging. Doesn't bother me if I do get recognised,after all we're all here for the same thing.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

I wouldn't approach someone out of the blue if I recognised them from a profile here and like wise if some one approached one of us I'd be mortified!

Discretion assured and sought used to mean something

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By *urious_couple_ukCouple
over a year ago

South Cambs

God some of these stories have me quaking in my boots. At the school gates? FFS!!

I would like to think the protocol should be a bit of eye contact, a knowing smile/nod then approach on fab at a later point if you wanted to follow up. I'd be v pissed off if someone approached me! But clearly don't know that many people at it's never been an issue! Phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never out someone, I'd smile and walk on.

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By *ohnny3333Man
over a year ago

fleetwood

I have a job where i have to be discreet difficult sometimes but have been recognised luckily by a collegue i trust

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Been recognised a few times, have no problem with it and makes some conversations a lot easier

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

I was recognised in a shop, the lady who recognised me debt a message on fab. I don't think it is a great idea to say any thing at the time... I personally wouldn't mind but it could be awkward for others and better to be discreet.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We've been recognised a few times and - providing we're not with family at the time - we're happy for people to approach & introduce themselves.

(We also get recognised from a "documentary" we feature in & that makes us feel like celebrities)

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We've been recognised and messaged afterwards, which is fine.

There's someone on our cruise now, who's messaged over a couple of days, saying they've seen us in a particular bar or wherever. They've got a blank profile, not sent a pic, or let themselves be known. Being knowingly watched feels creepy and is actually annoying and rather pointless.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I have no problem best being recognised but I would not want to be approached publicly, a private message yes.. if you fit my criteria/filters. If not.. no.. because you don't fit what I'm looking for. X

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By *eegh0stsMan
over a year ago

I noticed a co-worker by her tattoo on here and our locations were within a quarter mile one day whilst at work.

I quickly compared it to her Instagram and it was definitely her.

We all went out for a few drinks a few weeks later and I was sat next to her. I had my phone in my lap and out of view of everyone but her. I loaded fab up and logged in. I then was just looking around the site and she saw and smirked.

She whispered to me, I’ve always wondered who it was whilst I sat at my desk. This is a pleasant surprise.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

That would be sooooo annoying. I'd be happy for someone to contact me discreetly, but a sort of half message/acknowlegement is just stupid.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd find it very exciting. We've seen several people we know on here already, though they don't know it's us haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?

Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?

Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman.

We would not mind being recognised if we were by ourselves, but not if we were with others. Also we would expect anyone who approached us to use commonsense and not shout across the street."

I would be quite happy, as long as I’m alone and my kids aren’t with me

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By *oodersMan
over a year ago

walsall

Both on there for the same reason I suppose so nobody is going to say anything really and tell people. I spoke once to one of my children's teachers on fab. Just laughed it off.

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By *xford_geekCouple
over a year ago

Cotswolds

It is unfair to approach people off guard in real life.

Messaging afterwards on here I would say is fine but again if they dont reply then respect that and leave them alone

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By *ohnnyTwoNotesMan
over a year ago

golden fields

I have recognised someone from here before.

We passed in the doors of a supermarket. She wasn't with anyone. But you never know how someone will feel about it, so I didn't say anything.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

I’ve recognised a few people from here, I just ignore them.

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By *aughtiness69Couple
over a year ago

Kinmel bay

We both bumped into a guy we had seen a few times at a club and to be fair upto yet he hasn't said a thing even hinting which is a credit to him.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

I would message her to say I'm in pub and see if they respond.

Defo calling someone out is just wrong

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?

Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?

Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."

So mrs Tinman, how did you react?

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

If someone recognises me IRL then fair play to them, seeing as at the moment I'm a fair bit different in everyday life than my profile pics suggest. Though that is changing, slowly!

I have recognised folk on here before, other than catch their eye I do nothing. If its people I've met I tend to ignore unless they approach then it's as a friend. I have no problem with it personally but understand everyone is entitled to privacy so tend to leave folk alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me years ago she approached me at the bar when I was with a mate .. he didn't hear thankfully .. she said into my ear are you on fabswingers and I said "sometimes... " .. was off and on bank then. I figured out who she was and I did persist but she's one of these window shoppers .. views you a lot but zero replies ...

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

Never ever out anyone, if you can ask someone discreetly that might be a possibility but be prepared to be knocked back, and hard. ( no pun intended). The same if you recognise someone from a club.

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

I once saw a man whom I’d previously sucked, been fucked by and let piss in my mouth whilst I was in a pub on a date with a new girlfriend.

Not sure if he recognised me though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never approach anyone I have seen from here and I would never expect anyone to approach me, privacy should be respected.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I have had messages after I have been in Tesco

other shops are available

they are quite specific and describe what I’m wearing

I have just ignored them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just smile at them

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I had the opposite to this recently - met a young lady in a pub in town the other day. She ended up coming back to mine, we had some fun together, spent the next day together too just hanging out and getting to know each other. The next day after she'd gone home I logged in here and who did I see popping up as a new local user but her... sent her a short message saying 'hey, fancy seeing you here' or words to that effect... five minutes later, profile deleted. Doh. Obviously that might not have been strictly my doing, but still a bit of a blow to the ego (and a shame as we were getting on really well and the last thing I wanted was for things to get awkward). I mean, with hindsight perhaps I should have texted her instead saying 'hey, saw you on Fab' rather than clog up her inbox. Oh well, I'll leave it a few days and reattempt contact via other means, I suppose. Like I said she was hanging out with me in my house for the best part of two days, so I'm guessing she must have liked me or she'd have left much sooner, I'm sure.

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

Just be respectfull,and weigh up the persons mannerisms if you recognise each other

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By *usktilDawnCouple
over a year ago

York

One of our neighbours showed up on who's near a while back, we see them around in local shops regularly but would never approach them away from Fab. Their pics are hot too!

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

My next door neighbour come across my profile on here and seen the birth mark I have on my leg and knew it was me straight away so she asked me by message on snapchat I told her it is me and then that was it ice was broken and we have been having fun ever since x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My next door neighbour come across my profile on here and seen the birth mark I have on my leg and knew it was me straight away so she asked me by message on snapchat I told her it is me and then that was it ice was broken and we have been having fun ever since x"

That's a bonus m8

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I saw a lady in witherspoons I just smiled and carried on drinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recognised one of the ladies I work with on fab. It may not have been clear face picture on her profile but the moles on the side of her face, plus name and age give it away. I have not said anything about fab to her. Maybe she will recognise me from my old single profile and we can laugh about it. I now know why she is always smiling.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We’d only speak to friends from here out in public.

Even if we 100% recognized someone from here we wouldn’t acknowledge them.

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

We were sat outside at our local pub when a chap appeared on a push bike and wife said , is that him who called into to ours from fab ? It was , was a complete stranger before he called at ours . We invited him to sit with us , rather horny . Didn’t mention a thing and wife has seen him since on his bike and never mentioned anything . Fantastic chap !!!!!!

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By *ifeCouple66Couple
over a year ago

Fife

We got recognised when we were out for a family meal.

The woman messaged us on here a few days later saying that she'd seen us.

I think that is absolutely the only thing to do if you recognise someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I was very paranoid about being recognised. But now I'm not that bothered.

Yes I'm on here, yes I have some filthy kinks, it is what it is! It just stopped bothering me!

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I think it depends on their profile. If they’ve got lots of full face pics on their public profile then they must know people will recognise them. Although if the profile is quite a recent one they might not have understood this yet.

If their profile is just body shots then that tells me they are being discrete and want to keep FAB secret.

Even if they are on public show, I’d still be cautious in speaking to them. Don’t want to come across creepy / like a stalker.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"We got recognised when we were out for a family meal.

The woman messaged us on here a few days later saying that she'd seen us.

I think that is absolutely the only thing to do if you recognise someone. "

We wouldn’t mind if they sent us a pm straight away either

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We have face pics on our account and I (Mrs N) have been recognised once whilst out shopping. The guy was very discreet and I was just with Hubby. If it was just me and Hubby alone I would happily say hello. X

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

A few years ago a tv / ts recognised me as they sent me a message that morning saying what shops they had seen me in and asked me if I still worked at the same job.

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By *mizhereMan
over a year ago

Thame area

I have recognised them and said hope you are having a FAB DAY they usually look puzzled and then smile

A few have chatted and I’ve been lucky to meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d hope the person feels relaxed enough to say hi x

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By *mizhereMan
over a year ago

Thame area

Well if you post a face you are not shy so a hi is good x

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By *aughtiness69Couple
over a year ago

Kinmel bay

I struggle to fathom how anyone can see a picture on here and then remember that face when they see it out of the blue unless they have see the person a fair few times??

But I think I have a shit memory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if you post a face you are not shy so a hi is good x"

I’ll post a face pic for xmas lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I recognised someone then I'd just give a wry smile when making eye contact. You don't know people's circumstances and maybe there's friends of theirs around at the time. If they wanted to aporoach me then that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was wondering after reading most of these posts - if men weren't as bothered about being outed as much as women?

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

I think etiquette from just a recognition from site would be to either ignore or a head tilt.

From a meet, maybe a smile depending on dynamics you may want a full convo but it’s entirely situational dependent.

Discretion is key to our community.

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By *nsatiablebutfussyCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

I'd much rather them be discreet and just message on here, we're pretty open with our lifestyle with most the people we know but still discretion is the word

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

What and who is in fab and clubs, stays there. Engage only there, until you all agree to take things to a wider context.

Ignore others

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It’s not on to confront people whilst they go about there daily lives. I wouldn’t like it and I’m sure most others wouldn’t

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I qohks smile nod and leave it at that If we made eye contact.

Other than that I qoukd leave it alone Discreation is important in this lifestyle.

Saying that it woukdnt really bother me if someone approached me and asked. My circumstances are different but others may be damaged because of their job, family life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we've met them we acknowledge discreetly and take our cue from them. If we haven't met we'd behave as if they were any other person. Approaching people off fab is not discreet in my opinion and pretty poor form"

We agree x our vanilla life is very separate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt approach her/them.

At that point, i dont know them, they dont know me. And i would respect that just because they have a profile on here, it doesnt mean that they dont have personal lives. Its just a respect thing for me. If someone approached me, i would be fine with it, but i would never approach someone myself. They may find it upsetting or even be frightened.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

That’s really fucking rude of him.

Don’t do that people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose if you're putting your face out there it's gunna happen, personally I'd walk by

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

We always get recognised. One guy ran across Majorca airport to say hi. It’s never been a problem people just seem to get excited like they have seen someone famous or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife was approached by a guy OUTSIDE THE SCHOOL GATES saying he'd seen her on Fab! She was shocked and a bit intimidated!

Lucky I wasn't there as I'd have had serious words! Fucking twat.

Outing someone is bad enough, but when they're with their kids and surrounded by other kids and teachers too?!"

How did he recognise her?

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By *g1231974Man
over a year ago

wetherby

"Well if you post a face you are not shy so a hi is good x

I’ll post a face pic for xmas lol x"

And a fantastic one it is too

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I don't think I've ever come across anyone from fab out in public nor have I been approached before. Depends on what we are doing I suppose but I would say hi back if it was done discreetly of course

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?

Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?

Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."

That would be nice especially if they match my preferences.

Did he match yours? Mrs Tinman

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