FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for Dominant Fem for Relationship

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’ve been on here for some time now. I’m a single, decent looking guy, well spoken etc etc… but I’m really struggling to find a strict dominant woman.

I’m a submissive with a very kinky and dirty mind, and I’m seeking someone for a relationship, who will enjoy all that comes with being in a relationship, but who will Cuckold and humiliate me when it comes to sex. So she will have freedom to meet guy and bulls and have boyfriends etc, but will keep me caged, and plugged. Enjoy pegging me and making me clean up after her dates etc.

Why is this so hard to find? I don’t struggle to meet girls, I am confident, charismatic and enjoy a pretty decent quality of life, I just need my Mistress to top it all off.

Please message me if you think you might be s me to help me.

Forever hopeful!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're looking for something very niche

That's always going to be difficult to find

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're looking for something very niche

That's always going to be difficult to find "

Yeah it is. But I can hope

It’s tough to explain these kinds of desires to people on the standard dating scene

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"You're looking for something very niche

That's always going to be difficult to find

Yeah it is. But I can hope

It’s tough to explain these kinds of desires to people on the standard dating scene "

I bet it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bump x

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over a year ago

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I’m a submissive with a very kinky and dirty mind, and I’m seeking someone for a relationship, who will enjoy all that comes with being in a relationship, but who will Cuckold and humiliate me when it comes to sex. So she will have freedom to meet guy and bulls and have boyfriends etc, but will keep me caged, and plugged. Enjoy pegging me and making me clean up after her dates etc.

Why is this so hard to find?"

A few pointers.

Everything you posted is about what you want and nothing about what you have to offer any potential Domme.

A D/s relationship, is a relationship with added bits. Focus on finding a compatible partner first, ideally someone in the lifestyle. Get out to munches, socialise, get to local fetish events etc. Build the relationship and the D/s will come in its own time.

If you cant wait, visit a pro Domme.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Why is this so hard to find?

A few pointers.

Everything you posted is about what you want and nothing about what you have to offer any potential Domme.

If you cant wait, visit a pro Domme.

I would agree with this. It's not particularly submissive if it's all about you! It's about what your Domme would want, what makes life easier for her, and pleases her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree with all of this. But it’s finding a woman with a dominant streak that is proving impossible to me. Me giving an indication of what I’m looking for is to assist in giving someone an insight into what it might give them. So I do think it’s important to highlight that still.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have had a bit of contact following these posts but yet to find the actual thing. So here’s hoping another bump can help a little

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Submissive men looking for dommes are ten a penny and d/s dynamics are primarily connection based. You'll need to network and meet people at kink orientated socials and events.

You're highly unlikely to get an experienced domme message you based simply on the fact you're available and looking for one because they simply don't need to.

Look for munches and femdom orientated events in your area.

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By *ommeLadyWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

"Submissive men looking for dommes are ten a penny and d/s dynamics are primarily connection based. You'll need to network and meet people at kink orientated socials and events.

You're highly unlikely to get an experienced domme message you based simply on the fact you're available and looking for one because they simply don't need to.

Look for munches and femdom orientated events in your area."

I do agree with this completely.

I think as well that unfortunately for you, OP, many Dommes whether they are a professional ProDomme or are looking for a D/s relationship will have encountered so many time wasters who aren't true submissives. They are just looking for a kinky goth. And you will have to be prepared to prove yourself to them. And like someone else mentioned, show that you are dedicated to pleasing your lady, and whatever she desires as a Domme.

A true connection is needed and I truly believe that if you attend events in your area regularly you will have more luck.

I wish you all the best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the league. As someone mentioned above, there are plenty of submissive men and not many dominant women. You need to go to femdom events and munches to socialise and see if you can meet someone you share a chemistry with.

I have also heard the same complaint that many submissive men are just time wasters and have no clue what they are getting into. You need to demonstrate that it's not the case with you.

It's a tough road ahead. Best wishes.

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