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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Popcorn at the ready…..

Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll get attention alright……but probably not the kind you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?"

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self"

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats "

I dont condone cheating full stop

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats

I dont condone cheating full stop"

So your not doing the same having sex with lots of folk only thing is your hubby knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats

I dont condone cheating full stop

So your not doing the same having sex with lots of folk only thing is your hubby knows "

A cheat and childish wow your a catch

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

Y am I childish only stating the obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it's far from cheating if both partners consent to the act

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Y am I childish only stating the obvious"

But that’s not cheating is it if your other half knows and gives permission. It’s cheating when you do it without your oh permission like you

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"OP it's far from cheating if both partners consent to the act"

So unfair you get best of both but yes your right I’m just sat at home waiting for her to get home from where ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it unfair?

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By *ingly_minx1Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

If you hate her that much then divorce her.

So dragging other folk into your marriage drama.

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Op, why don’t you ask your wife if she’d be interested in joining this site with you. You never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen if your both meeting others both having consent all open and no secrets thats not cheating so no scandal..if your doing that or she's doing that without knowledge by either side ie behind each others back it's cheating plain and simple..enough said.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

Fuck it I will never win but atleast if your roasting me you ain’t doing others thanx for your input now I know who hates me

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I think the op is trying to say that, if his wife is cheating and blaze about it, why is it cheating if he reciprocates ?

Is it cheating if you both do it ?

Well, yes, I believe it is. You need to address the issues and move on or agree to keep doing whatever it is you are doing...therefore giving permission.

Not healthy but morally more acceptable.

The fact that those on here swing with knowledge and participation by partners is not the same thing. Perhaps in the eyes of the Church, but that is antiquated mumbo jumbo.

I understand you feel aggrieved OP, but you have to expect this kind of reception here, whether you feel its fair or not.

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Fuck it I will never win but atleast if your roasting me you ain’t doing others thanx for your input now I know who hates me"

Nobody hates you op, just trying to guide you

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats

I dont condone cheating full stop

So your not doing the same having sex with lots of folk only thing is your hubby knows "

It's obviously not the same a cheating if their partner knows.

What a stupid and mindless reply!

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (West Oxfordshire)

Think it's safe to say that any person who entered this thread open to the idea of having an interaction with a married man would have no intention of meeting you OP _ased on your attitude, behaviour and comments!

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats

I dont condone cheating full stop

So your not doing the same having sex with lots of folk only thing is your hubby knows

It's obviously not the same a cheating if their partner knows.

What a stupid and mindless reply!"

Love you too

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Think it's safe to say that any person who entered this thread open to the idea of having an interaction with a married man would have no intention of meeting you OP _ased on your attitude, behaviour and comments! "

Most reply’s are for the entertainment of others really to be honest it was a thing to see if I would get more slated than a woman doing the same but she never sent hers in so I do appolagise for the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self"

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive. "

Thanks for that !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive. "

A cheating man is more trustworthy???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive. "

There is too much judgement on here. Married men and women should be accepted as long as they're honest about it. If you choose not to meet them fine, that's your preference just like anything else. Xx

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By *gfbMan
over a year ago

thorne

I prefer married women either she's cheating or not it's hers conscience if everything ok with your marriage you wouldn't be on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

A cheating man is more trustworthy???"

The fact hes cheating takes the trust way

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By *azorRay666Man
over a year ago

Esher


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

There is too much judgement on here. Married men and women should be accepted as long as they're honest about it. If you choose not to meet them fine, that's your preference just like anything else. Xx"

Very much in agreement. Do what makes you happy and live with your own consequences. Life's too short to waste it on judgi others for their choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

A cheating man is more trustworthy???

The fact hes cheating takes the trust way"

Trust away from who? You? You don’t know him! You don’t have to trust him!

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

Thank you atleast you didn’t block me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's option B?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

A cheating man is more trustworthy???

The fact hes cheating takes the trust way

Trust away from who? You? You don’t know him! You don’t have to trust him!"

You wrote married men are more trustworthy and the fact hes cheating completly makes him untrustworthy. You dont even know what your talking about

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"What's option B?"

Option B is to say hi

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

A cheating man is more trustworthy???"

Yeah I know.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A tip. The worst thing you could have done was to start a thread highlighting your situation. It’s an emotive subject with polar opposite extremes of reaction. Unless your goal was to just wind folk up.

The guys who are married AND successful here just go about their fab business without bringing attention to themselves and seek those who will meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a good little read this has been

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?"

The question to ask is does the wife of the married man know or not?

If not, then we cannot imagine many people will admire disrespect and dishonesty.

So seeing that 99.9% of the married men are on here are cheating, then the answer is........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't choose to meet married men. That's up to me. I don't care what they do but I don't want to be a part of it.

If you're on a swingers site, thinking couples are always cheating on each other, you obviously don't understand swinging at all and this probably isn't the right place for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A tip. The worst thing you could have done was to start a thread highlighting your situation. It’s an emotive subject with polar opposite extremes of reaction. Unless your goal was to just wind folk up.

The guys who are married AND successful here just go about their fab business without bringing attention to themselves and seek those who will meet them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a good little read this has been"

Gutted I’ve no popcorn to go with it

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

There is too much judgement on here. Married men and women should be accepted as long as they're honest about it. If you choose not to meet them fine, that's your preference just like anything else. Xx"

Surely if they were honest about it then their wives would be fully aware?

Or is cheating and swinging the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?"

Your marital status doesn't bother me.

We aren't compatible for other reasons though. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a good little read this has been

Gutted I’ve no popcorn to go with it "

Haha I got hungry about half way down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’d never go near anyone who was cheating. As someone’s who’s life was devastated by cheating, it’s not something I would have anything to do with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self"

Absolutely right.

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

20 years ago, I went out with a work colleague for 6 months - during that time i had no idea she was married, as she never told me and i had no reason to suspect she was. Eventually we split and she started seeing someone else, and only after that did i find out she was married. I had dinner with her last month, the first time we had met for 17 years. We laughed about that minor point she left out! Cheating and deceit can be very damaging, but there are many many reasons in marriage why these things happen, and people don't tell the truth, so i don't think we should judge anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a good little read this has been

Gutted I’ve no popcorn to go with it

Haha I got hungry about half way down"

Insert the gif of Michael Jackson eating popcorn…. Fab needs to add a gif feature

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive. "

How the fuck can cheating married men be more trustworthy? Get a grip .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

There is too much judgement on here. Married men and women should be accepted as long as they're honest about it. If you choose not to meet them fine, that's your preference just like anything else. Xx

Surely if they were honest about it then their wives would be fully aware?

Or is cheating and swinging the same thing?"

I meant honest to people they meet with. No, swinging and cheating are not the same thing. But those who are cheating have a right to be here too, people can decide for themselves if they meet them or not.

Given many that are cheating also go to clubs, I expect many people on here have played with married men and women anyway. I accept that's different from doing it knowingly. Xx

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well that killed 10 mins of my day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat."

This, exactly bloody this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

This, exactly bloody this"

Well said

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

I’ll be honest and say over the last few years I’ve come across many secretly married woman

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

But they remain in slated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be honest and say over the last few years I’ve come across many secretly married woman"

Cheats of any gender are still cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat."

^^ agree 100% and i personally wouldn't meet a married man without his partner knowing, ive been lied to and cheated on, taken for a complete mug and was left heartbroken so i wouldn't want to be cause of it to anyone else....so disrespectful.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

^^ agree 100% and i personally wouldn't meet a married man without his partner knowing, ive been lied to and cheated on, taken for a complete mug and was left heartbroken so i wouldn't want to be cause of it to anyone else....so disrespectful."

If your only chatting and never met anybody is it still cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

^^ agree 100% and i personally wouldn't meet a married man without his partner knowing, ive been lied to and cheated on, taken for a complete mug and was left heartbroken so i wouldn't want to be cause of it to anyone else....so disrespectful.

If your only chatting and never met anybody is it still cheating?"

I think anything you purposely hide etc or do behind your partners back or would cause them upset is cheating to a certain degree.. its just a bit shitty to be honest, sort out your problems first, leave if you are unhappy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

^^ agree 100% and i personally wouldn't meet a married man without his partner knowing, ive been lied to and cheated on, taken for a complete mug and was left heartbroken so i wouldn't want to be cause of it to anyone else....so disrespectful.

If your only chatting and never met anybody is it still cheating?"

If youre hiding it from your partner ts cheating in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my personal opinion is say that is still cheating

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"But they remain in slated"

The reason women don't get as much grief on here is because there will always men who don't care and are happy to get what they can get and that's mainly due to the sheer amount amount of single guyts guys on here compared to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like having sex with married men. They're always good and really know how to satisfy.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

No mater what happens we will never win so it’s your dames if you do or damed if you don’t

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"OP it's far from cheating if both partners consent to the act

So unfair you get best of both but yes your right I’m just sat at home waiting for her to get home from where ever"

Hi mate, no judgement here about your marital status, but if your missus is cheating, why don't you have it out? Sounds like you might both be open to the idea of an open marriage...?

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


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So your not doing the same having sex with lots of folk only thing is your hubby knows "

Don’t confused non monogamy with adultery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as you're not asking for comments on your marriage I won't judge, as a single lady on here meeting any kind of attached man can be difficult. They are only available certain times and obviously having commitments makes meets hard. I personally wouldn't meet an attached man due to my own morals but everyone is different and I commend you for the question knowing you'd get roasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP it's far from cheating if both partners consent to the act

So unfair you get best of both but yes your right I’m just sat at home waiting for her to get home from where ever

Hi mate, no judgement here about your marital status, but if your missus is cheating, why don't you have it out? Sounds like you might both be open to the idea of an open marriage...?"

Sounds like a good idea

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall


"I don't choose to meet married men. That's up to me. I don't care what they do but I don't want to be a part of it.

If you're on a swingers site, thinking couples are always cheating on each other, you obviously don't understand swinging at all and this probably isn't the right place for you..."

This

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

Swinging or having an open relationship is very different to cheating. You might say you only cheat because your wife cheated first but does that make your cheating ok? I’d say no, it’s still cheating as neither of you have been open and discussed it and agreed with each other that you’re both happy to see other people and no one is getting hurt or lied to.

You can’t also complain that it’s unfair that other people get to have an open relationship and you don’t- that was the choice you made in your relationship, and again, you’d need to discuss that with your wife.

Cheating isn’t ok whether it’s a man or a woman that does it. I think it’s the fact that there are so many more men than women on here, and we’re all aware that a LOT of the “single” men on here are not actually single, that makes it seem like it’s accepted for women.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Your original post says that you 'think' she's cheating on you. How do you actually know or are you looking at a justification for cheating? If so two wrongs don't make a right.

My wife knows I'm on here (even took one of the profile pics for me). One of the reason's I'm keen to meet with couples together is because I'll know that neither is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happened to be kind? If you don't agree with it say so and move on, I've just read 90% of this thread and the man has been slated through most of it in quite a heated way. Yes voice your opinion, everyone has the right to do so, but he also has the right to not be made to feel shit about himself when not one of you knows what's happening behind the closed doors of his house.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats

I dont condone cheating full stop

So your not doing the same having sex with lots of folk only thing is your hubby knows "

It's not the same at all. You're simply trying to justify your own actions by comparing them to something which bears no resemblance to what you're doing.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats "
I don't think its okay if either cheats

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By *ippy68Man
over a year ago

Weymouth


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive. "

What a fabulous reply!

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By *ippy68Man
over a year ago

Weymouth


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

Hang on. We’re all here to have sex with other people, so why judge him? Because he’s doing the the same as you? It’s not for you to pass judgement on why he’s here. Let him go about his business!

We welcome married men as they are more trustworthy and less obsessive.

There is too much judgement on here. Married men and women should be accepted as long as they're honest about it. If you choose not to meet them fine, that's your preference just like anything else. Xx"

Another great response

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"What happened to be kind? If you don't agree with it say so and move on, I've just read 90% of this thread and the man has been slated through most of it in quite a heated way. Yes voice your opinion, everyone has the right to do so, but he also has the right to not be made to feel shit about himself when not one of you knows what's happening behind the closed doors of his house. "

Thankyou

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No of course not.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

^^ agree 100% and i personally wouldn't meet a married man without his partner knowing, ive been lied to and cheated on, taken for a complete mug and was left heartbroken so i wouldn't want to be cause of it to anyone else....so disrespectful.

If your only chatting and never met anybody is it still cheating?"

That old chestnut??

You are looking to meet people, your profile clearly says though.

The fact that no-one has chosen you yet is probably the only reason that you are still only chatting.

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By *uckerfuckerMan
over a year ago

Bexley

If a guy or lady is upfront about the fact that they’re married then it’s up to the other women, couples or men on here whether they wish to meet with them or not. Some people can accept that situation, some don’t, it’s personal choice. Why feel the need to judge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy or lady is upfront about the fact that they’re married then it’s up to the other women, couples or men on here whether they wish to meet with them or not. Some people can accept that situation, some don’t, it’s personal choice. Why feel the need to judge? "

Lots of people are negative towards cheaters because they have had their lives destroyed by cheating themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we get people to take an IQ test before they are allowed to join please? Got no further than. OPs first 4 posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy or lady is upfront about the fact that they’re married then it’s up to the other women, couples or men on here whether they wish to meet with them or not. Some people can accept that situation, some don’t, it’s personal choice. Why feel the need to judge? "
.

This so true, everyone engaged in this lifestyle could be judged by various sections of our local communities. So it’s a real shame when folk argue and judge in here. Some folk find that having someone married but playing as a single affords them total discretion and removes a risk factor. Others find it overly risky due to the obvious deceit that is going on. Each must live by their own decisions and these are _ased on factors only they know and can account for. Live and let live and s my motto and I personally won’t judge anyone on here. The block button removes them from your circle of accessibility and avoids upsetting conversations. Happy Christmas and stay safe everyone xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating ruins lives and can lead to more serious things

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By *oghicksMan
over a year ago

Brackley

What about the scenario where the male partner in a relationship still has a strong sex drive but the female is incapable of having sex. The man is either limited to masturbation for the rest of his life or splitting with the partner who he may still wish to care for.

If he quietly and discretely goes about finding others to have sexual relations with is that really so evil?

I'm sure that there are a few people in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the scenario where the male partner in a relationship still has a strong sex drive but the female is incapable of having sex. The man is either limited to masturbation for the rest of his life or splitting with the partner who he may still wish to care for.

If he quietly and discretely goes about finding others to have sexual relations with is that really so evil?

I'm sure that there are a few people in that situation. "

I’ve been in exactly that situation. 8 years with not even a kiss. We had counselling, the lot. I left.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral


"20 years ago, I went out with a work colleague for 6 months - during that time i had no idea she was married, as she never told me and i had no reason to suspect she was. Eventually we split and she started seeing someone else, and only after that did i find out she was married. I had dinner with her last month, the first time we had met for 17 years. We laughed about that minor point she left out! Cheating and deceit can be very damaging, but there are many many reasons in marriage why these things happen, and people don't tell the truth, so i don't think we should judge anyone."

Is she still married?

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By *oghicksMan
over a year ago

Brackley


"What about the scenario where the male partner in a relationship still has a strong sex drive but the female is incapable of having sex. The man is either limited to masturbation for the rest of his life or splitting with the partner who he may still wish to care for.

If he quietly and discretely goes about finding others to have sexual relations with is that really so evil?

I'm sure that there are a few people in that situation.

I’ve been in exactly that situation. 8 years with not even a kiss. We had counselling, the lot. I left. "

If the guy could keep his hands off you for a day there was something seriously wrong with him!

Sorry, not trying to be rude but had to look at your profile when I read your reply.

Seriously though it is a dreadful situation, particularly when the rest of the relationship is working. When the other person is incapable due to physical problems rather than mental ones particularly.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

cudos for being honest, but what ever your reasons you are still cheating, we would never meet someone we knew was, and its not hard to tell anyway, if you dont like your life with your partner thats your problem not ours, i had a bad maarrage so i left, yes it cost me alot, and es i dont get to see my kids as much as i would like, but im much happier now, and so is she, a bad relationship can be very disruptive to all involved including kids, its not an easy thing to do, let ending it is the right thing to do

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester


"What about the scenario where the male partner in a relationship still has a strong sex drive but the female is incapable of having sex. The man is either limited to masturbation for the rest of his life or splitting with the partner who he may still wish to care for.

If he quietly and discretely goes about finding others to have sexual relations with is that really so evil?

I'm sure that there are a few people in that situation. "

my view, having been there , yes it is wrong, a relationship is about 2 people, if your not happy resentment will build, who wants to live like that, life is short. but cheating is never good, and usually ends up badly and may hurt the other more in the long run

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Can we get people to take an IQ test before they are allowed to join please? Got no further than. OPs first 4 posts."

And you have

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

well op has put a reply up to someone elses comment, would he care to comment on mine, or does he not have an answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we get people to take an IQ test before they are allowed to join please? Got no further than. OPs first 4 posts."

Don't put yourself down. What do you need help with understanding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well op has put a reply up to someone elses comment, would he care to comment on mine, or does he not have an answer?"

What are you wanting an answer to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"cudos for being honest, but what ever your reasons you are still cheating, we would never meet someone we knew was, and its not hard to tell anyway, if you dont like your life with your partner thats your problem not ours, i had a bad maarrage so i left, yes it cost me alot, and es i dont get to see my kids as much as i would like, but im much happier now, and so is she, a bad relationship can be very disruptive to all involved including kids, its not an easy thing to do, let ending it is the right thing to do"

Not once did I say it was a bad marriage it’s just a sexless one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think judgment is everywhere you could get on that whole Christian and Catholic thing and they believe that swingers should burn in hell for bringing other people into the marriage and commiting the ultimate sin against your wedding vows,cheating is wrong and leads to heartbreak

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"cudos for being honest, but what ever your reasons you are still cheating, we would never meet someone we knew was, and its not hard to tell anyway, if you dont like your life with your partner thats your problem not ours, i had a bad maarrage so i left, yes it cost me alot, and es i dont get to see my kids as much as i would like, but im much happier now, and so is she, a bad relationship can be very disruptive to all involved including kids, its not an easy thing to do, let ending it is the right thing to do

Not once did I say it was a bad marriage it’s just a sexless one"

Would your wife think that it is a bad marriage if she saw you on here?

Would she ask you to leave if she knew that you are intending to cheat on her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can"

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives.

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives. "

Yes I agree but what do you do with a high sex drive and no release I hate myself even thinking about doing it but I just want to feel a woman. Yes I am a twat

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives.

Yes I agree but what do you do with a high sex drive and no release I hate myself even thinking about doing it but I just want to feel a woman. Yes I am a twat"

Have a wank?

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By *BBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in suffolk


"Said this a several times on here, but if they don't don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any for randomers on here.

There is no such thing as a honest cheat because you've got to be dishonest to be a cheat.

^^ agree 100% and i personally wouldn't meet a married man without his partner knowing, ive been lied to and cheated on, taken for a complete mug and was left heartbroken so i wouldn't want to be cause of it to anyone else....so disrespectful.

If your only chatting and never met anybody is it still cheating?"

Of course it is ....

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives.

Yes I agree but what do you do with a high sex drive and no release I hate myself even thinking about doing it but I just want to feel a woman. Yes I am a twat

Have a wank?"

You can only wank so many times it’s ok for you women you got lots of toys you can use

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester


"cudos for being honest, but what ever your reasons you are still cheating, we would never meet someone we knew was, and its not hard to tell anyway, if you dont like your life with your partner thats your problem not ours, i had a bad maarrage so i left, yes it cost me alot, and es i dont get to see my kids as much as i would like, but im much happier now, and so is she, a bad relationship can be very disruptive to all involved including kids, its not an easy thing to do, let ending it is the right thing to do

Not once did I say it was a bad marriage it’s just a sexless one"

so its a mrrage that doesnt work for you then, therefore its a bad marrage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives.

Yes I agree but what do you do with a high sex drive and no release I hate myself even thinking about doing it but I just want to feel a woman. Yes I am a twat"

For 8 years, I had no sexual contact. I sorted myself out, then I left.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Not our cup of tea but least he's honest ?? and going by how many men in our neck of the woods can only ever do "Daytime" or "Last minute" type of meets ?? and sometimes think you need a "Code" book on here but can and does bring lots of Drama and seen it happen a fair few times also depends on where you live or even where you decide to "Play"

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives.

Yes I agree but what do you do with a high sex drive and no release I hate myself even thinking about doing it but I just want to feel a woman. Yes I am a twat

Have a wank?

You can only wank so many times it’s ok for you women you got lots of toys you can use "

Dude you're trying to justify things to yourself. It's ok for women coz they don't get flack, it's ok for women coz they can use toys.

Oh right, so they stopped making men's toys all of a sudden?

Blaming others saying it's alright for them isn't gonna solve your problem.

Facing up to your own deception and taking responsibility might.

How did you get on at counselling?

How did your wife get on at the doctors when she went?

How did you find the last conversation you had about it all?

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole


"

You can only wank so many times it’s ok for you women you got lots of toys you can use "

If you really think toys are a complete substitute for the real thing then you are more deluded than this whole post topic implies.

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Just to add some food for thought.

There is non-monogomy (cheating) and ethical non-monogomy (swinging is a form of enm, but there are others including poly relationships)

There are a lot of cheaters on here and I wouldn't consider them swingers. But the risk is theirs to take. I may not agree with them, but it's nothing to do with me. So long as I'm honest about what I am on here for and why, that's all that matters.

I'm ENM btw . Ladies? Xx

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I have knowingly met with married men and still do.

Their marriage is their business it is up to them what they do.

We all have reasons for being on here and it's nothing to do with anyone else.

Married men are less likely to get clingy and want more from me than I want to give.

The OP is being honest so if he finds someone to meet with him so be it.

It's not for anyone else to judge really, if you don't like it don't meet him but he doesn't need the negativity.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I have knowingly met with married men and still do.

Their marriage is their business it is up to them what they do.

We all have reasons for being on here and it's nothing to do with anyone else.

Married men are less likely to get clingy and want more from me than I want to give.

The OP is being honest so if he finds someone to meet with him so be it.

It's not for anyone else to judge really, if you don't like it don't meet him but he doesn't need the negativity. "

Have you been cheated on?

Have you seen your parents split a devastating split due to cheating?

Have you been confronted by a betrayed spouse of any of the men you met?

Do you think you're absolved of any blame if any of the above was to happen as it's his business?

Genuinely curious in how the mind works depending on our own life experiences.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"What about the scenario where the male partner in a relationship still has a strong sex drive but the female is incapable of having sex. The man is either limited to masturbation for the rest of his life or splitting with the partner who he may still wish to care for.

If he quietly and discretely goes about finding others to have sexual relations with is that really so evil?

I'm sure that there are a few people in that situation. "

It's a very unfortunate situation to be in, but life isn't always easy. We'd like to bet that most cheaters in that situation don't even ask for permission.

What they need to work out is that what's more important? Sex or potentially ruining your family by cheating? If they choose to cheat over their family then that's a real scummy thing to do in our eyes. If they really need sex and are that miserable them leave them as I'm sure that'll be a lot easier and fair on family/kids etc than getting caught....and always do in the end!

Again, a horrible situation to be in but it is what it is.

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Do you think you're absolved of any blame if any of the above was to happen as it's his business?

Genuinely curious in how the mind works depending on our own life experiences. "

I absolutely think genuine swingers are absolved of blame. If somebody decides to cheat and engages with a community that are openly enjoying casual encounters, you can't expect that community to police their morals or take responsibility for them joining in what the community is openly doing.

If they were cheating by lying to somebody on a dating site, that's a different conversation.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Do you think you're absolved of any blame if any of the above was to happen as it's his business?

Genuinely curious in how the mind works depending on our own life experiences.

I absolutely think genuine swingers are absolved of blame. If somebody decides to cheat and engages with a community that are openly enjoying casual encounters, you can't expect that community to police their morals or take responsibility for them joining in what the community is openly doing.

If they were cheating by lying to somebody on a dating site, that's a different conversation. "

I still feel guilty. All the signs were there that he was cheating on his wife but he assured me they were separated.

I do think that by ignoring the signs I am just as guilty as him.

That's why I think those that know the person is cheating yet continue anyway are most definitely half to blame. If people didn't give them the opportunity to cheat they're more likely to face up to their shit at home coz they want a solution.

Plus I was cheated on and the deception and lying that came with it just about put me in my grave. What an absolute cunt I was to ignore the red flags with Mr cheaty on his wife, how dare I put her in that very same position where I wanted my life to be over because I didn't even know what way was up anymore due to the constant bullshit I'd been fed?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy or lady is upfront about the fact that they’re married then it’s up to the other women, couples or men on here whether they wish to meet with them or not. Some people can accept that situation, some don’t, it’s personal choice. Why feel the need to judge? .

This so true, everyone engaged in this lifestyle could be judged by various sections of our local communities. So it’s a real shame when folk argue and judge in here. Some folk find that having someone married but playing as a single affords them total discretion and removes a risk factor. Others find it overly risky due to the obvious deceit that is going on. Each must live by their own decisions and these are _ased on factors only they know and can account for. Live and let live and s my motto and I personally won’t judge anyone on here. The block button removes them from your circle of accessibility and avoids upsetting conversations. Happy Christmas and stay safe everyone xxx "

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy or lady is upfront about the fact that they’re married then it’s up to the other women, couples or men on here whether they wish to meet with them or not. Some people can accept that situation, some don’t, it’s personal choice. Why feel the need to judge? .

This so true, everyone engaged in this lifestyle could be judged by various sections of our local communities. So it’s a real shame when folk argue and judge in here. Some folk find that having someone married but playing as a single affords them total discretion and removes a risk factor. Others find it overly risky due to the obvious deceit that is going on. Each must live by their own decisions and these are _ased on factors only they know and can account for. Live and let live and s my motto and I personally won’t judge anyone on here. The block button removes them from your circle of accessibility and avoids upsetting conversations. Happy Christmas and stay safe everyone xxx "

Swingers get judged because it's considered taboo, not immoral. No one's getting explicitly hurt through swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP was up against with this one, but credit to you for getting stuck

Whilst this is a sex meeting site, there are certain rules that apply;

1. Married women cheating = Whoop Whoop

2. Married man cheating = string him up

Simple as that

J xx

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton

Love you all really

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Why do married men think that’s the only reason no one will meet them. Maybe it’s other reasons!

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By *rivervader OP   Man
over a year ago

bolton


"Why do married men think that’s the only reason no one will meet them. Maybe it’s other reasons! "

I agree I’m not the best looking but it’s good in here to pass away the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do married men think that’s the only reason no one will meet them. Maybe it’s other reasons! "

True words spoken here - but like I said above this is an Adult Sex Dating/Meeting site - and a good one at that - so your circumstances should count less than your personality and connection

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mrs isn't at all interested. BUT she said if i wanted that kind of fun (swinging), i should find a couple and have fun with them without her knowing.

She even said she'd be OK with telling them she knew about it but getting her to confirm it would feel a bit like rubbing her nose in it.

The big down sides to my situation are

1) it's seeing my mrs being fucked that i'd like most.

2) Even if your Mrs knows and has said "you do it, but i don't want to know", you're still assumed to be hiding it and a cheat.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Bob the builder...

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"OP it's far from cheating if both partners consent to the act

So unfair you get best of both but yes your right I’m just sat at home waiting for her to get home from where ever"

You've moaned before that she doesn't want sex.

She's probably Xmas shopping for the family including your side !

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Well I'm in exactly that position. Approximately 98% of my advances are rejected. It's like trying to sweep up all the leaves in the forest in autumn.

Despite loving her dearly, trying to engage well hours before any attempt, showing an interest in her, in her day, laughing at her jokes and generally responding, gentle touches and kisses, it still goes nowhere.

Maybe her sex drive is low, maybe she's getting it elsewhere, or maybe she simply just doesn't fancy me anymore.

However like OP, I also have a high sex drive and I need some fun, so I came on this site looking for an fwb or couple who need a third person.

We all have our own reasons for coming on this site. Many believe "cheaters" to be the lowest of the low and are judged accordingly. However if those same "judges" were themselves judged by outsiders, I wonder how they would feel.

For me, I say each to their own, and let everyone try to muddle through as best they can

I have been in both your position (a sexless long term relationship) and I’ve been devastated by a cheating partner.

Cheating ruins lives.

Yes I agree but what do you do with a high sex drive and no release I hate myself even thinking about doing it but I just want to feel a woman. Yes I am a twat"

Be honest.

To your wife.

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Everyone will have opinions no matter what you do. Only you (anyone that's on here) know the truth. If you are genuinely on here with agreement and others think you're cheating - block and move on.

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"Think it's safe to say that any person who entered this thread open to the idea of having an interaction with a married man would have no intention of meeting you OP _ased on your attitude, behaviour and comments! "

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I still feel guilty. All the signs were there that he was cheating on his wife but he assured me they were separated.

I do think that by ignoring the signs I am just as guilty as him.

That's why I think those that know the person is cheating yet continue anyway are most definitely half to blame. If people didn't give them the opportunity to cheat they're more likely to face up to their shit at home coz they want a solution.

"

I'm sorry you got into such a horrible situation. But I still think you did nothing wrong. You are on a casual sex site for swingers. He was not just cheating on his wife, but also lying to you about it, how can you bear any responsibility?

This is a community for sex-positive open-minded people.

It's difficult for many people to ignore their social conditioning and really embrace what this community is all about. It wouldn't be fair to expect people to also be responsible for those that don't embrace it and abuse it for their own needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What happened to be kind? If you don't agree with it say so and move on, I've just read 90% of this thread and the man has been slated through most of it in quite a heated way. Yes voice your opinion, everyone has the right to do so, but he also has the right to not be made to feel shit about himself when not one of you knows what's happening behind the closed doors of his house.

Thankyou"

Correct..least of all his unsuspecting wife!

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"OP it's far from cheating if both partners consent to the act

So unfair you get best of both but yes your right I’m just sat at home waiting for her to get home from where ever"

If your 100% she is cheating on you why stay with her? Get out and start living a happy life

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By *hades of FunMan
over a year ago

Hitchin

I always thought the swinging and liberated community were supposed to be non, or certainly less, judgemental but there seems to be an awful lot of judgement going on in this thread. A married guy can be on this site for many reasons, he may, through no fault of his own, no longer be in an intimate relationship with his wife but still love her dearly. If he still requires physical sex he has a choice of either seeing paid escorts or joining a site like this to meet like minded people. If couples do not wish to meet with married guys that is their choice and perogative but I feel some of the rather aggressive judgement, particularly without knowing individuals circumstances, is unfair and unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen married guys over the years ,in some ways it suited me because I wasnt looking to get married myself and i didnt want anyone to get infatuated with me .We would play safe and it suited us all ,

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By *tstillworksMan
over a year ago

Darlington


"It’s a bit quiet in here so let’s start a topic going that will get some attention would any ladies consider having sex with me?

10/10 for being honest and open about it but its men like yourself i cant stand and pray your other half finds out or better is doing the same as your lovely self

I think she is and she started b4 me hence I’m here. We all can’t be lucky to have sex like you but it’s ok if a woman cheats "

Could you show your wife my profile

See what she thinks I don’t mind travelling when you go out

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

It seems so common on fab seeing men's profiles confessing they on here without their wives knowing. Telling me how depressing their marriage is, how they can't leave them because of financial reasons etc, I asked if they could talk to their wives about improving their sex life by asking them to join them on fab...the answer is always no they won't....

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I always thought the swinging and liberated community were supposed to be non, or certainly less, judgemental but there seems to be an awful lot of judgement going on in this thread. A married guy can be on this site for many reasons, he may, through no fault of his own, no longer be in an intimate relationship with his wife but still love her dearly. If he still requires physical sex he has a choice of either seeing paid escorts or joining a site like this to meet like minded people. If couples do not wish to meet with married guys that is their choice and perogative but I feel some of the rather aggressive judgement, particularly without knowing individuals circumstances, is unfair and unnecessary. "

It's more the moral obligation of not condoning possible pain and hurt caused by deception to another human being. I don't think it's good karma to cheat and don't want to be involved in anyone who doing it, regardless of their reasons. Trust me, you can always leave.

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone


"It's more the moral obligation of not condoning possible pain and hurt caused by deception to another human being. I don't think it's good karma to cheat and don't want to be involved in anyone who doing it, regardless of their reasons. Trust me, you can always leave."

It's not condoning anything. They've chosen to cheat. They've chosen to meet up with swingers. They knew exactly what they were doing.

If you can't talk to your partner openly about sex, and feel you can justify cheating, then your relationship is pretty much over anyway. Better off ending it than cheating. There's no good excuse for cheating. Easy for me to say I know, but that's just my opinion.

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