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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!!" I guess in some jobs it could be frowned upon . After all us British are not that forthcoming in some departments . | |||
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"But you don't have a face pic on your profile?" Not in public, but we send with first message if interested. | |||
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"But you don't have a face pic on your profile? Not in public, but we send with first message if interested. " same as me | |||
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"I guess in some jobs it could be frowned upon." In some jobs it can actually be dangerous. Char used to be employed in one. (Bry) | |||
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"It’s entirely down to personal choice though, isn’t it? We send face pics with a first message to avoid wasting anyone’s time, but plenty of equally genuine people will never send a face pic on here at any point, for a number of entirely valid reasons, which is their prerogative." This | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!!" I absolutely would lose my job, plus I really don’t want my kids finding out I’m on here. I’ve heard more than one story about people being bl*ckm*iled on here. Everyone can run their profile as they wish. | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!!" I would rather have someone’s identity than a nude it’s my prerogative and I want the same in return of the user comments on my appearance and if someone wants to keep their identity private then we aren’t suited anyway xx | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!!" That shouting your on a swingers site made me lol! A young lad 21 at work messaged me few months back saying he seen me at work I only vaguely seen him as it's a big place and we different dept! I was dreading he would do just that! But it's cool we just blank each other! I declined his offer to meet so alls cool! X | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu." ah I read it wrong so, agreed you definitely want to see what your getting | |||
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"I normally send a face pic with a first message, I don’t really have anything to lose anyway, but just out of curiosity, how does anyone agree to a meet with someone if they haven’t seen their face first??" Very few people are actually ugly! If they look good in their other pics, I'm pretty sure they'll be okay facially. I'd prefer to see face pics before a meet, but I have to admit, if someone is smoking hot in their other pics and won't send a face pic, I'd probably take a chance! Gbat | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!! I absolutely would lose my job, plus I really don’t want my kids finding out I’m on here. I’ve heard more than one story about people being bl*ckm*iled on here. Everyone can run their profile as they wish." This - absolutely this Public service roles & jobs are not supportive of this lifestyle. So yes we can lose our jobs & those that don't believe that obviously don't work in our kind of jobs My son is on here & I don't think he needs to come across our profile. And yes we blocked him. Fair play to the lad but we don't need to have anyone making connections between us | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu." You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu. You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. " The amount of people who have said “we don’t show faces due to our jobs” is silly. It’s a swinging site. You’ve got your tits and cock on show and go to clubs where you could bump into your sister or your boss, but won’t send privately. | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu. You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. The amount of people who have said “we don’t show faces due to our jobs” is silly. It’s a swinging site. You’ve got your tits and cock on show and go to clubs where you could bump into your sister or your boss, but won’t send privately. " I don’t know what is silly about it? If someone doesn’t want to show their face to stranger, which they have no idea what could happen to that after its sent. I’d say it’s pretty sensible of them especially if you have parts on show you don’t want repercussions of B-Mail. Like others have said above some could lose their jobs if found on here… I don’t think you can compare it to going to a club like you have because if you see someone you know there, then they are also in the same boat. It would just be one of those awkward moments. It’s just how you handle it & respect it and move on. | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu. You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. The amount of people who have said “we don’t show faces due to our jobs” is silly. It’s a swinging site. You’ve got your tits and cock on show and go to clubs where you could bump into your sister or your boss, but won’t send privately. " If my boss can recognise me from my cock then I think I need to start looking for a new job anyway | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!!" Think you should keep your rants to yourself play how you want but let others play there way. | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!! I would rather have someone’s identity than a nude it’s my prerogative and I want the same in return of the user comments on my appearance and if someone wants to keep their identity private then we aren’t suited anyway xx" If someone I knew recognised me then I wouldn’t care, I’ve a life and it’s nobody’s concern who i wanna be. | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu." But most menu is just words and not the picture. Most of the time, what I ordered isn't how I imagining it lol | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu. You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. The amount of people who have said “we don’t show faces due to our jobs” is silly. It’s a swinging site. You’ve got your tits and cock on show and go to clubs where you could bump into your sister or your boss, but won’t send privately. If my boss can recognise me from my cock then I think I need to start looking for a new job anyway " This made me laugh, but it’s also true. Someone could recognise me from a face pic and out me, which is different to running into someone in a club, when you are both there for the same thing. | |||
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"If someone’s going to judge me purely on what my face looks like them I’m not that interested in chatting with them to be honest. " Get what u mean to a degree! I chat to anyone but I like to c who I'm chatting with tbh and deffo to meet someone shallow I expect but it is what it is x | |||
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"It’s entirely down to personal choice though, isn’t it? We send face pics with a first message to avoid wasting anyone’s time, but plenty of equally genuine people will never send a face pic on here at any point, for a number of entirely valid reasons, which is their prerogative. " But surely they must realise that when they are on a site like this that folk are not just going to agree to a meet without know qhat they look like. | |||
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"Can’t stand hesitation to send face pics. While I’m on a rant, “professional couples” WTF !!?" Lol Loved the new video by the way | |||
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"Can’t stand hesitation to send face pics. While I’m on a rant, “professional couples” WTF !!? Lol Loved the new video by the way" Thanks very much ! | |||
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"But you don't have a face pic on your profile? Not in public, but we send with first message if interested. " Exactly what I do | |||
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"It’s entirely down to personal choice though, isn’t it? We send face pics with a first message to avoid wasting anyone’s time, but plenty of equally genuine people will never send a face pic on here at any point, for a number of entirely valid reasons, which is their prerogative. But surely they must realise that when they are on a site like this that folk are not just going to agree to a meet without know qhat they look like." Definitely, but if they accept that, it’s their prerogative I guess. Perhaps some members have so many options that they can afford to lose most. | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu. You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. The amount of people who have said “we don’t show faces due to our jobs” is silly. It’s a swinging site. You’ve got your tits and cock on show and go to clubs where you could bump into your sister or your boss, but won’t send privately. " So......vicars, youth workers, teachers, teaching assistants, prison staff, police etc. There are a raft of jobs that would consider this 'bringing the company/service/whatever into disrepute. Yes it's shit. But it does happen. | |||
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"We don’t mean have them public. We mean those who won’t even show them privately. You don’t order food without seeing the menu. You're just not compatible. Maybe they know you but they don't want you to know who they are. Think of it as a good thing - no time wasted. The amount of people who have said “we don’t show faces due to our jobs” is silly. It’s a swinging site. You’ve got your tits and cock on show and go to clubs where you could bump into your sister or your boss, but won’t send privately. So......vicars, youth workers, teachers, teaching assistants, prison staff, police etc. There are a raft of jobs that would consider this 'bringing the company/service/whatever into disrepute. Yes it's shit. But it does happen. " And also some people think it's funny to tell everyone that they've seen X on a sex site. | |||
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"It’s entirely down to personal choice though, isn’t it? We send face pics with a first message to avoid wasting anyone’s time, but plenty of equally genuine people will never send a face pic on here at any point, for a number of entirely valid reasons, which is their prerogative. But surely they must realise that when they are on a site like this that folk are not just going to agree to a meet without know qhat they look like." You say that, but plenty of people will agree to meets here without seeing the other person or people. Not for us, but people use Fab how it suits them. | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!!" i dont send face pics ever and ill tell u why. I sent a woman a few face pics a few years ago. After meeting she wasnt what i was looking for and i told her this she went nuts. Within the hour i had profiles on here as a gay guy on face book insta with my real name all with my face and saying i was looking for men. Im bi and im not out and i want to keep it that way. So no i wont ever send face pics again. If that means i wont get as many meets than thats fine. Ill do a social meet no probs but no face pics from me. | |||
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"We got messaged by a couple, who then asked for a face pic which we sent, then got told one of them recognised one of us so was too close to home and that was it. No hard feelings but thought it’s a little odd. If you ask for a face pic surely you should accept that you should send one back. If you know each other or there is no chemistry that’s fine, but seems only right to even things up a bit. Each to their own I guess but meh?" If I’m not interested, I won’t send a face pic back. I don’t have to, and nobody should do anything they don’t want to on here. | |||
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"We got messaged by a couple, who then asked for a face pic which we sent, then got told one of them recognised one of us so was too close to home and that was it. No hard feelings but thought it’s a little odd. If you ask for a face pic surely you should accept that you should send one back. If you know each other or there is no chemistry that’s fine, but seems only right to even things up a bit. Each to their own I guess but meh? If I’m not interested, I won’t send a face pic back. I don’t have to, and nobody should do anything they don’t want to on here." I agree but if you ask for one first surely you have to be prepared to send one. The rule of thumb should always be whoever asks sends first. | |||
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"We got messaged by a couple, who then asked for a face pic which we sent, then got told one of them recognised one of us so was too close to home and that was it. No hard feelings but thought it’s a little odd. If you ask for a face pic surely you should accept that you should send one back. If you know each other or there is no chemistry that’s fine, but seems only right to even things up a bit. Each to their own I guess but meh? If I’m not interested, I won’t send a face pic back. I don’t have to, and nobody should do anything they don’t want to on here. I agree but if you ask for one first surely you have to be prepared to send one. The rule of thumb should always be whoever asks sends first. " It should be, but I made up my own rules, I’m owning it though | |||
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"It’s entirely down to personal choice though, isn’t it? We send face pics with a first message to avoid wasting anyone’s time, but plenty of equally genuine people will never send a face pic on here at any point, for a number of entirely valid reasons, which is their prerogative. " This! Ours says on our profile we don't send, there's different reasons for different people ie; family, religions and more etc... If people don't like it move on! | |||
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"We got messaged by a couple, who then asked for a face pic which we sent, then got told one of them recognised one of us so was too close to home and that was it. No hard feelings but thought it’s a little odd. If you ask for a face pic surely you should accept that you should send one back. If you know each other or there is no chemistry that’s fine, but seems only right to even things up a bit. Each to their own I guess but meh? If I’m not interested, I won’t send a face pic back. I don’t have to, and nobody should do anything they don’t want to on here." Yeah I get that and accept it but still Meh? Sharing a face pic when we all have private lives is just a bit more decent in our opinion. Nothing to be done about it. Just think it’s a little off personally. | |||
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"We got messaged by a couple, who then asked for a face pic which we sent, then got told one of them recognised one of us so was too close to home and that was it. No hard feelings but thought it’s a little odd. If you ask for a face pic surely you should accept that you should send one back. If you know each other or there is no chemistry that’s fine, but seems only right to even things up a bit. Each to their own I guess but meh? If I’m not interested, I won’t send a face pic back. I don’t have to, and nobody should do anything they don’t want to on here. Yeah I get that and accept it but still Meh? Sharing a face pic when we all have private lives is just a bit more decent in our opinion. Nothing to be done about it. Just think it’s a little off personally. " Why? What makes it decent? It seems a bit people please-y to me, I’m not going to do something to make someone else happy. It’s my face pic to share, or not, as I choose. | |||
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"We got messaged by a couple, who then asked for a face pic which we sent, then got told one of them recognised one of us so was too close to home and that was it. No hard feelings but thought it’s a little odd. If you ask for a face pic surely you should accept that you should send one back. If you know each other or there is no chemistry that’s fine, but seems only right to even things up a bit. Each to their own I guess but meh? If I’m not interested, I won’t send a face pic back. I don’t have to, and nobody should do anything they don’t want to on here. Yeah I get that and accept it but still Meh? Sharing a face pic when we all have private lives is just a bit more decent in our opinion. Nothing to be done about it. Just think it’s a little off personally. Why? What makes it decent? It seems a bit people please-y to me, I’m not going to do something to make someone else happy. It’s my face pic to share, or not, as I choose." Yeah each to their own I guess. But if we were asking for someone’s face pic I think it’s the decent thing to do to send one in return. You not feeling that way is up to you of course. We just find that a bit odd. But nothing can be done about it so…. Meh | |||
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"Can’t stand hesitation to send face pics. While I’m on a rant, “professional couples” WTF !!?" Yet you state exactly that in your own profile | |||
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"We just wanted a rant. Refusal to send face pics.. why?!?? If you’re on a site like this and you get spotted by someone you know, then guess what? They’re on here too. Do people really think that people will go into work yelling “YOU’RE ON A SWINGERS SITE” at you?!? And do you think you’ll lose your job or lose contracts because you’re on here? Give your heads a wobble!! I absolutely would lose my job, plus I really don’t want my kids finding out I’m on here. I’ve heard more than one story about people being bl*ckm*iled on here. Everyone can run their profile as they wish. This - absolutely this Public service roles & jobs are not supportive of this lifestyle. So yes we can lose our jobs & those that don't believe that obviously don't work in our kind of jobs My son is on here & I don't think he needs to come across our profile. And yes we blocked him. Fair play to the lad but we don't need to have anyone making connections between us " Totally agree with reply. I could lose my professional licence over it. Do you remember the NI minister caught in cupids many years ago | |||
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