FabSwingers.com forum: How do tv/ts want to be seen?

By *adfoot OP Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I'm very curious to hook up with a trans-woman, but get mixed signals when reading profiles.

Some want straight men only and others want openly gay/bi.

How do I approach a trans without seeming ignorant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm very curious to hook up with a trans-woman, but get mixed signals when reading profiles.

Some want straight men only and others want openly gay/bi.

How do I approach a trans without seeming ignorant? "

Like any other human…respect

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By *adfoot OP Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I'm confused, are you saying I'm being disrespectful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm confused, are you saying I'm being disrespectful?"

Oh dear. Think

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

"I'm very curious to hook up with a trans-woman, but get mixed signals when reading profiles.

Some want straight men only and others want openly gay/bi.

How do I approach a trans without seeming ignorant? "

Just be yourself and take the time to get to know the person and don’t send a dickpic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to start by saying: This is not an attack on you, but it is important you read it and digest what is being said, maybe go and do some further reading/research afterwards...

Not referring to them as "a trans" would be a start seeing as trans isn't a gender.

Like anyone, they're just a person and will have their own preferences, being trans doesn't mean you're part of a hive mind.

Approaching any person - trans or not - like they're a curious experiment, a side character in your personal journey, is unlikely to make them want to sleep with you (unless they have a kink for that) because men who carry this attitude often make trans people feel uncomfortable or threatened - and not without good reason seeing as trans people face disproportionate amounts of violence compared to their cisgender counterparts. Speak to literally any trans person and the vast majority will tell you they'll have had an instance in their life where the mismatch of another person's expectations and the reality of either their physical appearance or demeanour or simply their very existence either sent someone (often a man) into a rage or made them feel like they were potentially going to be subjected to violence/abuse. It is important to understand this, not because we are suggesting you are this type of man, but to understand where trans people are coming from when you (a single man who openly admits they have no experience sleeping with trans women) approach them.

Sex begins with connection, connection begins with understanding, understanding begins with education.

Source: we know many trans people.

Thank you for coming to our Ted talk.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

And so say all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen by your eye's

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By *adfoot OP Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I didn't mean to objectify anyone or group them together, sorry if I offended. I'll be more with my choice of words in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for taking the time to reply. I didn't mean to objectify anyone or group them together, sorry if I offended. I'll be more with my choice of words in the future"

You haven't offended any body .

Just send them a message saying your interested in a meet and its your first time .

See what they say .

I've been blocked by people just asking to see a photo . .

Just be honest in your approach .

Best way is to go to a party that will have T-girls and be yourself .

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Thanks for taking the time to reply. I didn't mean to objectify anyone or group them together, sorry if I offended. I'll be more with my choice of words in the future"

My TG friends like to be treated as the gender they are living.

It's that simple

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

A Trans woman will want to be treated as a woman.

What some admirers want is a woman’s body with a bit extra down below to play with. However that extra bit is the bit they want rid of and definitely don’t want playing with, that goes back to the original point, treat her as a woman.

Don’t ever use terms like shemale or ladyboy, ask them how they like to be addressed, some just as a woman others as a trans woman. Always though as the sex they’re presenting so she or her.

The TV or CD community dress for a variety of reasons not all sexual, in my case it’s an internal thing I have a need to express a feminine side to myself.

The difference between TV and TS is massive, we come under the same category but we are not the same. The latter are born in the wrong body or are living their true lives as the sex they believe they are (not all TS can or want to have the Op) the former dress for a variety of reasons so the older they are the less likely it’s all about sex.

It’s actually not that difficult to understand as often TV and TS have long profile text, it’ll explain who they’re interested in and a bit about them. So my advice before messaging read the text.

Good luck with your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm very curious to hook up with a trans-woman, but get mixed signals when reading profiles.

Some want straight men only and others want openly gay/bi.

How do I approach a trans without seeming ignorant? "

Not read the whole thread so this has probably been mentioned but maybe refer to them as transwomen rather than TVs. There's a distinct difference for them and I imagine that could cause offence.

Other than that it's no different from approaching anyone else and being unsure of their sexual preference. Some of us prefer men, some preferences women, some like both. So ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going to start by saying: This is not an attack on you, but it is important you read it and digest what is being said, maybe go and do some further reading/research afterwards...

Not referring to them as "a trans" would be a start seeing as trans isn't a gender.

Like anyone, they're just a person and will have their own preferences, being trans doesn't mean you're part of a hive mind.

Sex begins with connection, connection begins with understanding, understanding begins with education.

Source: we know many trans people.

Thank you for coming to our Ted talk."

This

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By *loriaJTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

We are all different - so it is a bit of a minefield! I'm happy being called a trans-woman - less comfortable with "tv" because I dont frequent tv clubs or wear thighboots, and I think most tvs are looking for other tvs, or if they can get them, cis-women. But it's impossible to generalise.

I must admit, I get a lot of "dickpics". I've got used to it in a way - but it doesnt get a person very far in my estimation - so as someone else said - I'd avoid those, at least until you are better acquainted!

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