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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Well said | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Totally agree x | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. " I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. " One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples! | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples!" Hubby said that these are not men, they are delusional little boys. A man wouldn't act that way x | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples!" I am sure half the men on here think that just because you're on a swinging site you're desperate for a shag or easy meat. Just wish they would make more effort and actually read the profiles before they send a message!! The brain is the most erogengous zone | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. " Thank you, you've put into words why those pics make me shudder and feel 'icky'. | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples! I am sure half the men on here think that just because you're on a swinging site you're desperate for a shag or easy meat. Just wish they would make more effort and actually read the profiles before they send a message!! The brain is the most erogengous zone " | |||
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"I've never seen the point in sending them to be honest. If I'm asked to send one then no bother. It may be a swinging site but just like every other site I find people want a little bit of a blether first. You wouldn't walk into a bar or club with your cock hanging out to attract people lol" Yet the first pic on your profile is your cock..... Interesting. | |||
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"Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox. " NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it. What's difficult to understand? The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked, NOT the reverse. | |||
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"Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox. NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it. What's difficult to understand? The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked, NOT the reverse." Ha, I think some of those guys might be getting the wrong idea from all the fanny pics posted on the site.. What a minefield eh...! | |||
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"Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple? Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look. I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. " Eh? What if the attachments are not dick pics but something else that is inoffensive? | |||
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"Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox. NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it. What's difficult to understand? The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked, NOT the reverse. Ha, I think some of those guys might be getting the wrong idea from all the fanny pics posted on the site.. What a minefield eh...! " Unsolicited pictures attached to messages? From women, not men pretending to be women? | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Totally agree | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive. "No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong. Wrong. | |||
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"Well that’s plan A been shot down in flames… Am I supposed to… talk to you…? "G'wan, you know you want to. | |||
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ?? Just gross! " And pressing that dildo against your gunt is attractive? | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images. You asserted elsewhere "NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it". "The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked" Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with. | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
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"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with. "I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong. If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent. I have not body shamed. | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Also unsolicited, repeated friends requests without any previous interaction. | |||
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"Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple? Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look. I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. "
The level of vitriol and hypocrisy on this site never ceases to amaze me.
I appreciate women get a lot of dick pics and it can be annoying, but making personal, derogatory remarks on a public forum just to feel big and clever is hardly attractive either is it. | |||
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 how strange, it's almost like sending dick pics doesn't work hmmm, interesting  | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with.
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed."I agree Topsy. I have never sent a dick pic, and not just because I haven't got one.  | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with.
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed."Which is why it is so handy that you gave and continue to give (even at as you read) your CONSENT. You deliberately conflate a legal position (re consent in life) with a site where you and EVERYONE has given their consent as if it is a conspiracy and Fab admins are failing. There is no inconsistancy. There is no legal debate. Consent is given. Want more controls? speak to fab admins - but do not make it an issue of sexual assault. Before you consider this as personal - agreed *you* have not engaged in body shaming. You did not even raise the sexual assault angle. Others have as part of their defence of their position and as partial justification for their vitriol. | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."So no genital pics in general then? Not even on public galleries? | |||
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ?? Just gross! " As a male who has a bit of a belly thank you do much for highlighting that I am indeed gross because I don't have a 6 pack.  | |||
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ?? Just gross! As a male who has a bit of a belly thank you do much for highlighting that I am indeed gross because I don't have a 6 pack. "You're not gross. | |||
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"Any nice smooth cocks send them my way ,or big tight cock bulges lol" | |||
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ?? Just gross! And pressing that dildo against your gunt is attractive?" That was unnecessary Don't be that guy | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."Wrong as in your opinion or legally wrong? | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Is having a dick pick filled public gallery an indication that he does not want to meet? | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Well said. | |||
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ?? Just gross! As a male who has a bit of a belly thank you do much for highlighting that I am indeed gross because I don't have a 6 pack.
You're not gross. "Thank you outsider. | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " You're certainly not speaking for me nor for a lot of other women, and it's impertinent to suggest you are. Gents, show as many dick pics as you like. Those who don't like them don't need to look. Simples. | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " So what will get a bloke closer to that craved pussy? I'm asking for a friend: honest! | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " I agree. I never send dick pics unless requested and I'll never have a dick pic asy profile pic. | |||
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"I would never send without request. I have two dick pictures and one is hidden. Those that send unsolicited dick pics should get a weeks ban" I've never sent one but for every woman on here who doesn't like receiving them there is another who does. Banning someone for something as innocuous as a pic is a bit of an overkill. | |||
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"I would never send without request. I have two dick pictures and one is hidden. Those that send unsolicited dick pics should get a weeks ban I've never sent one but for every woman on here who doesn't like receiving them there is another who does. Banning someone for something as innocuous as a pic is a bit of an overkill." Let the filters decide! | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " You literally have a dick in your profile maybe guys getting mixed messages | |||
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"I don't mind them at all alongside others but I always, always want to see the face first. Cocks alone get no response but I wouldn't block them x" So you are not a cock-blocker then. Good to know | |||
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content). We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with.
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed."How do you then feel about people like the OP who have a blatant erect dick picture as there main profile picture? As a forum user you can't avoid those dick pictures at all. At least with a unsolicited message with dick picture attachments you can choose to open it or not. KJ | |||
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"I don't mind them at all alongside others but I always, always want to see the face first. Cocks alone get no response but I wouldn't block them x So you are not a cock-blocker then. Good to know "God no I love cocks | |||
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"I would never send without request. I have two dick pictures and one is hidden. Those that send unsolicited dick pics should get a weeks ban"  Oh come on, that's just OTT. | |||
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"dick pics being sent on a swingers site oh my what ever next ... " Maybe peek a few profile pictures and see why obviously a few individuals think send my dick picture that will work hahaha | |||
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"We are trying to help the fellas get laid here by telling them a dick pick isn’t going to do if, make an effort be chatting be polite and more chance then sending random Willy pics " I've been trying to chat, be polite and just include my lovely mug shot for about 6 months now and not got a single response... So I don't think chatting and being polite is the answer. I think looking like a Chippendale might be the way forward. That's me screwed lol | |||
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"What we find weird is that the 1% of men that have 12 inch cocks are ALL on Fab sending them to us… like a congregation…. 12 inch cocks for the record, are not the turn on people think they are." I've always said if they can't get balls deep, they are too long. 7" is the perfect size  | |||
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"i know plenty that like and want dick pics loads of couples wont meet with out them we like to see too as there will be some cocks i honestly will not play with ... i do agree that they should not be sent first message or at least wait till being asked if its not your thing and youve stated on your profile its not your thing and they ignore then used that as a filter and block as for what people put on there profiles thats there choice and again use it as a filter if its not your thing .... some women think they are talking for all women and thats never the case cock pics has alway been a 50/50 topic some like some dont .... and again the forums are a tiny tiny part of opinions of fab and very rarely is the voice of swingers... " This | |||
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I get them too...
Been reading a load of responses posted here...
Unsolicited dick pics or spreadies is pretty shit if you have taken the time to make your preferences known, but honestly do you think those people read that part of your profile?
Body shaming is pretty low, however you may like to justify it... and I do stand in agreement with what others have already stated, namely that this is an adult site (debatable at times), and one can simply change preferences on ones own account.
And yes, you consented when you signed up. You can't have your cake and eat it, in some instances.
I for one have tried to adapt my own profile to appease the majority, and for who's benefit? Not mine...
I don't know if I'm coming or going with the flip flop ideologies of assumed site expectations anymore... well, certainly not cumming.
And that's a shame, as there are a tonne of really good people here, seems as though things like this make it exceedingly harder to find them.
I've hidden most of my pics for most of the things said in this thread... simply to not draw attention... and it works.
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"Yeah, unsolicited dick pics aren't great... particularly when there's nil accompany message I get them too...
Been reading a load of responses posted here...
Unsolicited dick pics or spreadies is pretty shit if you have taken the time to make your preferences known, but honestly do you think those people read that part of your profile?
Body shaming is pretty low, however you may like to justify it... and I do stand in agreement with what others have already stated, namely that this is an adult site (debatable at times), and one can simply change preferences on ones own account.
And yes, you consented when you signed up. You can't have your cake and eat it, in some instances.
I for one have tried to adapt my own profile to appease the majority, and for who's benefit? Not mine...
I don't know if I'm coming or going with the flip flop ideologies of assumed site expectations anymore... well, certainly not cumming.
And that's a shame, as there are a tonne of really good people here, seems as though things like this make it exceedingly harder to find them.
I've hidden most of my pics for most of the things said in this thread... simply to not draw attention... and it works.
Sincere apologies to all offended "And I feel like I need to defend myself... I never send any pics unless they are asked for... | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. " I’ve always thought that an unsolicited one is the electronic equivalent of flashing, whilst an asked-for one is like seeing a man take his trousers off once you’ve invited him into your bed. | |||
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"We are trying to help the fellas get laid here by telling them a dick pick isn’t going to do if, make an effort be chatting be polite and more chance then sending random Willy pics " Your profile is mainly dick pics. Maybe you are sending the wrong vibes . | |||
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"Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple? Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look. I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. " | |||
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"Yeah, unsolicited dick pics aren't great... particularly when there's nil accompany message I get them too...
Been reading a load of responses posted here...
Unsolicited dick pics or spreadies is pretty shit if you have taken the time to make your preferences known, but honestly do you think those people read that part of your profile?
Body shaming is pretty low, however you may like to justify it... and I do stand in agreement with what others have already stated, namely that this is an adult site (debatable at times), and one can simply change preferences on ones own account.
And yes, you consented when you signed up. You can't have your cake and eat it, in some instances.
I for one have tried to adapt my own profile to appease the majority, and for who's benefit? Not mine...
I don't know if I'm coming or going with the flip flop ideologies of assumed site expectations anymore... well, certainly not cumming.
And that's a shame, as there are a tonne of really good people here, seems as though things like this make it exceedingly harder to find them.
I've hidden most of my pics for most of the things said in this thread... simply to not draw attention... and it works.
Sincere apologies to all offended "Why do you feel the need to adapt your profile to suit anyone never mind the majority? You say it's not for your own benefit so therefore you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. No matter what you do you will never please everyone so it's pointless trying. It's often obvious that someone is just boxticking in their profile rather than presenting the best reflection of themselves. Put what you want and don't apologise. | |||
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"Gents Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave Simples " Yeah please stop guys | |||
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" Well said and it does keep being said but they persist though ??? "I know it's outrageous | |||
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. I’ve always thought that an unsolicited one is the electronic equivalent of flashing, whilst an asked-for one is like seeing a man take his trousers off once you’ve invited him into your bed. " | |||
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