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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think I’m in my last couple of days of using this site. I’ve been a Silver Supporter for a long time - had lots of meets in the past - but the site has lost its value (for me) and maybe it is time I admitted it?

Barely a reply to individually-tailored messages, lucky if a message gets read - and no one seems to want to meet any more (except EVERY man, apparently - and then I hear they don’t show up!)

I’ve often ‘criticised’ the site for being little more than an extension for some people’s porn - and the messages that I understand women receive confirm that. I joined looking for (and taking) a more Bohemian, hedonistic approach but that’s no longer popular, it seems.

So, thanks all - if and when I leave it will be a sad day but in truth, success has been low on here (zero) in the last 2 years; I’ve found myself stuck between Swinging Sites and Dating Sites and the latter have proved significantly more rewarding.

The problem is, I know it is so hard to leave - shall I delete my profile, or just hide it and try ever so hard not to visit?

Damn, I think it really might be time to go…. Anyone else been through this?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Been there many times. I just hide my profile and all pics. Last break I had lasted 18 months. Feel another coning up too.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you mail me the dating sites you've been successful in

I'm in you age group OP x

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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"I think I’m in my last couple of days of using this site. I’ve been a Silver Supporter for a long time - had lots of meets in the past - but the site has lost its value (for me) and maybe it is time I admitted it?

Barely a reply to individually-tailored messages, lucky if a message gets read - and no one seems to want to meet any more (except EVERY man, apparently - and then I hear they don’t show up!)

I’ve often ‘criticised’ the site for being little more than an extension for some people’s porn - and the messages that I understand women receive confirm that. I joined looking for (and taking) a more Bohemian, hedonistic approach but that’s no longer popular, it seems.

So, thanks all - if and when I leave it will be a sad day but in truth, success has been low on here (zero) in the last 2 years; I’ve found myself stuck between Swinging Sites and Dating Sites and the latter have proved significantly more rewarding.

The problem is, I know it is so hard to leave - shall I delete my profile, or just hide it and try ever so hard not to visit?

Damn, I think it really might be time to go…. Anyone else been through this?"

Aye I know what you mean.... I have met a lot of folks over the years on and off of here, some moved on others stayed friends but off of here....sadly the virus thing has put some spoilers in there but nowt wrong in holding your profile and hide it for a while and pop back say in the Spring and take a look, if still not working for you, drop out for a wee bit longer.... whatever you do, have a great Christmas and all that, stay safe ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you - I can see the initial benefit of just hiding my profile - but I know I’ll keep coming back for a sneaky peak.

Maybe it is goodbye to all, Fab, Facebook, Instagram, etc? All too addictive?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

hide your profile, only burn bridges you know you'll never want to cross again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you mail me the dating sites you've been successful in

I'm in you age group OP x"

I’ve messaged you privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide your profile and just take a breather from fab I'd suggest. I look at fab as just being one part of my online "ecosystem" and at different times I want different things from them, whether fab, insta or whatever. I'm still weighing up fab (early days and got my own reservations about it) but if I found it not contributing I'm one way it'll likely do do in another.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Can you mail me the dating sites you've been successful in

I'm in you age group OP x

I’ve messaged you privately."

Us to pls if you don't mind

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By *exleyboyMan
over a year ago

Erith


"Can you mail me the dating sites you've been successful in

I'm in you age group OP x

I’ve messaged you privately.

Us to pls if you don't mind "

And me to please.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I have tried to leave several times.

I even deleted my friends and some of my private photos last time.

I hid my profile and managed aboit 5 weeks away, but Fab just draws me back in.

Good luck with your decision OP and your journey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have tried to leave several times.

I even deleted my friends and some of my private photos last time.

I hid my profile and managed aboit 5 weeks away, but Fab just draws me back in.

Good luck with your decision OP and your journey"

And that’s the problem - I won’t stop looking at the searches, updates, who’s near, forums, if I just hide my profile.

This can (has) become hugely addictive - but it is also a major waste of time and more importantly, hugely frustrating.

So, much as I’ve loved it, I think I’m going to have to say “goodbye” and hope I’m strong enough to resist coming back - in a worse position as I’ll have no verifications. Argh!

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

I know exactly what you mean and am questioning my future on here too, so I will make a decision over the holiday break.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes, I’m off - good luck everyone, no hard feelings - it has been great fun over the years - but I need a break from all of this.

Have fun.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Can you mail me the dating sites you've been successful in

I'm in you age group OP x"

Me too

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

If you see this;

Get a trusted friend to lock you out of your account, change your password for you, and hold it for a year or until you wobble. I’ve done this on other sites a few times over the years, and it’s been good for me.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"If you see this;

Get a trusted friend to lock you out of your account, change your password for you, and hold it for a year or until you wobble. I’ve done this on other sites a few times over the years, and it’s been good for me. "
. What other sites please

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud


"If you see this;

Get a trusted friend to lock you out of your account, change your password for you, and hold it for a year or until you wobble. I’ve done this on other sites a few times over the years, and it’s been good for me. "

Great idea

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I can't leave. If I do I will lose the holy grail. Verifications.

I imagine in 2035, I will still be desperately holding on to them.

Like war medals.

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