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Threesome's...so couples who does the picking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So for the couples who like threesomes am curious which of you picks the 3rd person. Do you do it together? Like a surprise? Lady chooses who she wants?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question! Looking forwards to some of the answers…..

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
over a year ago

here and there

We jointly pick ,but would happily let the Mrs pick for us

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

We don't do mmf threesomes mmmmf is more fun then we both check profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have discussed this in depth and know the things we'd like as a couple.

So I guess the answer is we do xx

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Mrs K always has the final say in everything we do in the lifestyle.

I like her choosing who she wants to join the fun x

Mr

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

We both have to agree and be happy but usually it's mrs who has the final say as to whether we proceed or meet.

She also likes to watch sometimes as well so it's about that fantasy side of seeing what will turn her on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby does the frustrating leg work! Then shows me the short list and i choose which i like, if any

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We tend to do fMf.

While we have been approached a few times, there tends to be a lot of flirting in the ladies changing room.

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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago

Central Portugal

We have gone through phases of both picking and individually picking but really it depends on how well we get along chatting and what mood we are in

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE


"Hubby does the frustrating leg work! Then shows me the short list and i choose which i like, if any "

Yep similar here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On this site, like the previous poster, I (the Hubby) do all the leg work and show her the short list.

In person at a club,I let the wife pick, but I have to be involved in the process. It is rare that she will choose and I definitely disagree.

A lot of men make the mistake of ignoring the male half, it is always their down fall with us and also many other couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is fascinating, I always thought it was mainly men who did the picking and women the final say. Do you proactively message many single men/women as well?

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

It’s always me (female) choosing

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By *ewcouplemidsCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Neither of us would take one for the team so has to be mutual attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of us, for an MFM if the two men can't work well together then it's not going to be so pleasurable for her.

We've also had the guy only approach the woman, to us that means he's only concentrating on his pleasure not how she'll get hers. The reason we want a third is for her to get something she can't get at home!

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By *entcockslutCouple
over a year ago

canterbury

Always me (female) very rare hubby comes on here now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the picking how can I man pick another male. It's got to be about attraction and the chemistry if things are going to get intermate.

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By *inTonic2018Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Both of us, for an MFM if the two men can't work well together then it's not going to be so pleasurable for her.

We've also had the guy only approach the woman, to us that means he's only concentrating on his pleasure not how she'll get hers. The reason we want a third is for her to get something she can't get at home! "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Both of us, for an MFM if the two men can't work well together then it's not going to be so pleasurable for her.

We've also had the guy only approach the woman, to us that means he's only concentrating on his pleasure not how she'll get hers. The reason we want a third is for her to get something she can't get at home!

Same here"

I'm always amazed in clubs how often I see that as well. Including both of a couple in the conversation just makes sense.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

Ultimately these days Mrs gives the 'Yay' or 'Nay' for guys as they are there to please her not me although we have had meets where I chose and she wore a blindfold throughout and didn't see the guy before, during or after.

We've yet to meet a lady for threesome play. If we did and she was playing with us both I guess we would both choose together.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

For us its a joint thing if either of us isnt feeling it then it doesnt happen. We try not to take it all to serious and have a laugh with the third and have a good social first and it makes things easier and get a better feel for a person then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If looking for a male then we'd both look at profiles and we'd both have to be happy but ultimately it'd be the wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a straight couple looking for a guy who is only going to have intimate contact with the woman of the couple, then it makes sense that the decision would be female led

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Niki lost patience with this site years ago, so I do all the messaging. If there's someone I think fits what we're looking for, Niki will agree to a social - as long as she's reasonably attracted to him. Then it comes down to her actual attraction and the chemistry if any, as to whether things progress further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Niki lost patience with this site years ago, so I do all the messaging. If there's someone I think fits what we're looking for, Niki will agree to a social - as long as she's reasonably attracted to him. Then it comes down to her actual attraction and the chemistry if any, as to whether things progress further."

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I do all the chatting, he arranges hotel's, post's and takes photo's and we choose our meets together. We both have to be 100 percent in agreement or it just don't happen. X

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

We do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to get picked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's great that both partners do and fantastic that the ladies mostly have the say,as it should be

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Both of us. When it comes to single men although I'm straight I'm also picky because Mrs Misfit is My Girl and is everything to me. Even if Mrs Misfit likes them I have to like them too. Mainly I look for someone who Mrs Misfit finds hot and is also respectful, friendly and who I get on well with too. Because team work is key, so getting the right vibe off a guy and getting on well with them is really important to me.

However sometimes in a club situation in the heat of the moment its a bit more organic and less premeditated.

Mr Misfit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of us simple

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By *ixi n DogCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Both of us

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Both of us.

We know each others desires so well now we are mostly spot on too lol

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We switch it round...sometimes Char is the HotWife and does the choosing and arranging, sometimes she's the Vixen to my Stag and I do it all. But either way, it's ALWAYS by agreement with the other.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience of chatting with couples it seems to mostly be the men who do the initial ground work of getting to know me, telling me about them, discussing our interests and what we’re looking for etc and then the woman will get involved further down the line if the man thinks I might be suitable for them. There have been a lot of instances when I’ve been chatting with the man for a while and we’re getting on well and have many shared interests and then he’s said that he’s told his partner about me and showed her my profile but she’s not interested so it doesn’t go any further.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

A bit of a mix for us…

C’s been blindfolded and didn’t know who the guy was

We’ve met a guy within an hour where we both choose him

And at clubs where C has chosen…

K

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