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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Honestly?

The things that may put some people off.

1. The unprotected sex and creampie photos. A prospective playmate may assume you want the same with them. Also if you are looking for women, post photos you think a woman would enjoy.

2. You mention this is for a FFM fantasy. Some women are into that, but some would avoid you as they don’t want to be seen as a fantasy/gift/present/show for the man.

3. You mention you have little to no experience with woman and are looking to explore. Create a single woman profile, look to meet women only, and try to meet people that way, with the possibility of introducing them to your partner.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

As am aside, I think your photos are great, and I wish you all the best in finding what you are looking for. Just remember that you are looking for a person to join you, not a commodity. What can you offer them, what can you do to entice them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you.

The cream pie pics are of my husband. He’s the only male I’ve been with.

So if that bothers a women then she wouldn’t be for me anyway.

The other advice I will take onboard.

Thank you

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Great advice from _etcpl. Vivian had created her own single profile and to much success.

Writing from our experience only, some of the women liked meeting V’ alone in the beginning and some were open to meeting as a couple in the first instance.

Our approach was directed to familiarity and trust building, rather rushing to achieve the FFM dynamic.

Good luck with your search.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones? "

Literally didn’t bother going past the 3rd photo yeah your pics ain’t the problem for sure

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones? "

Now imagine being a single male lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones?

Now imagine being a single male lol"

I am ? Loving life

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones?

Now imagine being a single male lol

I am ? Loving life "

That makes 2 of us out of 1000s of single male's on Fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones?

Now imagine being a single male lol

I am ? Loving life

That makes 2 of us out of 1000s of single male's on Fab lol "
mate I like them odds

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

As a swing single fem. I receive many couples messages asking me to join ffn.

The main thing that puts me right off, is they just want the fantasy play thing, all.about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a swing single fem. I receive many couples messages asking me to join ffn.

The main thing that puts me right off, is they just want the fantasy play thing, all.about them "

Bastards

I don’t talk to many but I did tonight but she was stunning

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Interesting question.

From our view swinging is sharing experiences with other people in the same dynamic, so singles with singles, couples with couples. That being said , threesomes are an obvious goal, however we are very conscious that with a single potentially joining us, we would have to fit what they are looking for and vice versa without the fulfilling of fantasies for the couple, without the single being objectified.

For us it's a much more difficult dynamic than couple play and people shouldn't expect what they aren't prepared to give.

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By *enedict2020Man
over a year ago

London


"I didn’t think it would be this difficult to find a single women to join myself and husband for a threesome.

Is my profile ok?

Do I need to add anything or do anything different?

I’ve messaged a few. A couple reply, then ignore you and one planned a date but then didn’t reply afterwards.

Where are the honest ones? "

Site is 70% men, 20% couples, 10% girls. Supply and demand. Meaning the single girls can afford to pick only the veeerrryyyy best in both categories based on looks alone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with above, your photos will possibly appeal more to a single male. Lots of females, including myself, don’t want to see what is termed “gynae shots” (close up vag pics). As A female, I prefer a mix of both nudes and maybe some leaving a bit more to the imagination. Just my opinion, it’s your profile to do with as you wish. Good luck

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

As a single woman I’m not into the photos you show. I think they are more man orintated. I like to see less

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"As a swing single fem. I receive many couples messages asking me to join ffn.

The main thing that puts me right off, is they just want the fantasy play thing, all.about them

Bastards

I don’t talk to many but I did tonight but she was stunning "

There a but!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you have to remember lots if female profiles are either fake/ bait profiles / or just someone wanting attention ....

So the ones who are left want to feel safe and at ease with who ever they meet,

X

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By *nya888Woman
over a year ago

London

I'm no fan if explicit photos. Also, as people have already mentioned on here, being approached by couples as a "play thing" doesn't make me feel like I'm being treated as a person.

I also might not be the most experienced bisexual, but find it off putting to be a woman's "first time", especially when it's the male asking on behalf of the female.

And lastly, I also find the whole 2 on 1 meet a little intimidating and would prefer this dynamic in a club or event. Or at least a social meet in daylight at a public place first (my general rule for all meets).

Not claiming to speak for all women on here, but these are the kinds of things that single females think about when being approached by couples. Do it might take time to find the right person and dynamic.

A x

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"I'm no fan if explicit photos. Also, as people have already mentioned on here, being approached by couples as a "play thing" doesn't make me feel like I'm being treated as a person.

I also might not be the most experienced bisexual, but find it off putting to be a woman's "first time", especially when it's the male asking on behalf of the female.

And lastly, I also find the whole 2 on 1 meet a little intimidating and would prefer this dynamic in a club or event. Or at least a social meet in daylight at a public place first (my general rule for all meets).

Not claiming to speak for all women on here, but these are the kinds of things that single females think about when being approached by couples. Do it might take time to find the right person and dynamic.

A x"

Totally this

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The pics are too explicit for me and also not enough pics of the man.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Definitely more pictures of the male part of the couple

And I agree with the above, attend clubs and get to know genuine people.

I don’t meet couples outside of clubs and have no intention too, but there have been numerous times I’ve played with couples in clubs.

As a single woman on here, I’m here for me and selfishly so. What can you offer us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a swing single fem. I receive many couples messages asking me to join ffn.

The main thing that puts me right off, is they just want the fantasy play thing, all.about them

Bastards

I don’t talk to many but I did tonight but she was stunning

There a but!!!"

Only that I’m in Ireland !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The pics are too explicit for me and also not enough pics of the man. "

Amended the free to view pics and deleted a few now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a swing single fem. I receive many couples messages asking me to join ffn.

The main thing that puts me right off, is they just want the fantasy play thing, all.about them "

Ok thank you for the advice. We will try to change the profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with above, your photos will possibly appeal more to a single male. Lots of females, including myself, don’t want to see what is termed “gynae shots” (close up vag pics). As A female, I prefer a mix of both nudes and maybe some leaving a bit more to the imagination. Just my opinion, it’s your profile to do with as you wish. Good luck "

Thank you. We have deleted some pictures now.

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