FabSwingers.com forum: Taking one for the team x

By *ogerroger69 OP Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Has any wife, husband or partner slept with a below average opposite number in a swap so that their wife/own husband could enjoy the better looking half of the other couple? So have they taken one for the team? Reply here or private x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No... When we started out on this journey, we agrred that no matter how much the other person wanted it, if we both weren't feeling it we wouldn't go ahead...

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By *ogerroger69 OP Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Yes similar experience here

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"No... When we started out on this journey, we agrred that no matter how much the other person wanted it, if we both weren't feeling it we wouldn't go ahead... "

Exactly this.

We never take one for the team. Ever.

We both have to be 100% on all partners, even if meeting separately.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

When I was meeting as a couple, we had the rule that we both had to be 100% signed up to it or it didn't happen.

Gbat

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

No. Never have, never will. If as a couple we both do not find the other couple attractive or have a connection, then we don’t play with them.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"No... When we started out on this journey, we agrred that no matter how much the other person wanted it, if we both weren't feeling it we wouldn't go ahead... "

We follow the sames rule.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It is quite rare to have same level of attraction amongst all fours so our approach is a pragmatic one. It is quite possible one of us may really fancy one half of a couple while the other may just fancy a little. We don't call it taking one for team just adjusting and playing to the situation and making best of it. Key here is that there is still a level of attraction, yes if there was no attraction at all for one of us then it will be a no.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Both did it once, never again felt awful afterwards. We discussed and agree if in doubt dont.

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By *ogerroger69 OP Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

If it didn’t feel right it wasn’t right...agreed?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"No... When we started out on this journey, we agrred that no matter how much the other person wanted it, if we both weren't feeling it we wouldn't go ahead... "

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

Yes, once I got bounced in to meeting & it was shit. Looking back I think it was the male half of the couples way of getting a free, easy shag with a slim woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a social with another, way more experienced couple over the weekend, that was one of the first bits of advice they gave us. NEVER take one fir the team. Its both of you or neither of you that's attracted. Makes sense really, though... I probably still would if I knew it would make Mrs happy.

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By *tefe-MartyCouple
over a year ago

Cambs

"No... When we started out on this journey, we agrred that no matter how much the other person wanted it, if we both weren't feeling it we wouldn't go ahead... "

This exactly

For us it's something we do together and we are open and honest enough to say no without worries

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By *ogerroger69 OP Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Got to be total honesty x agreed

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No, never taken one for the team. I think it would be extremely disrespectful to the person I was having sex with. Also I'd be devastated to discover that someone had only had sex with me so their partner could enjoy themselves. We've had a couple of meets where the guy very clearly wasn't interested in me and it's not a nice feeling.

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill

We wouldn’t, and we wouldn’t expect the other couple to do so either. So for yes’s to get through to the next round.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Nope, absolutely not. We agreed this early doors

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By *otwifeKazWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

As opposed to?

"Yes, once I got bounced in to meeting & it was shit. Looking back I think it was the male half of the couples way of getting a free, easy shag with a slim woman. "

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

"No... When we started out on this journey, we agrred that no matter how much the other person wanted it, if we both weren't feeling it we wouldn't go ahead... "

same for us, if we both dont feel it, then its not happening

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We're of the same ilk. We both have to agree play as otherwise it could cause resentment down the line.

So either all in or not happening

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

So has it ever happened where say one person just watched so no one felt like they were taking one for the team? This is something I’ve considered

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So has it ever happened where say one person just watched so no one felt like they were taking one for the team? This is something I’ve considered "

Yes but it wasn't agreed before hand. The guy in a couple we met neglected to mention that he only wanted to watch his wife with other people. Given that I'm straight it was a very awkward encounter until we realised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we want both to enjoy the experience and actually want to be with the other person.

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

Take one for the team?

No No No.

We take seriously the swinging fun and happiness to be enjoyed by all present. There must to be a desire by every one in a sexual situation to enjoy themselves as they wish and only as they wish. No coercion, no feeling "well I ought to to keep so and so happy." NO! It's not right.

Play with whom you wish to play and enjoy. Full stop. If you don't desire someone, do not feel obliged.

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By *ndysmithMan
over a year ago

north cyprus

yes, happened a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope never we both agree or nothing happens and at anytime one decides not today or anything thing else then we act as one thas always been the case and always will be the case ... nothing is bigger or better than us

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

If we aren't 100 percent on the same page that's it I'm afraid, we have had situations where we have not met again with couple's after socials because of this.x

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

With my friend of the female persuasion, "taking on for the team" is an expression we've used where the deal for one of us hasn't been good but we've continued for the benefit of the other one.

So yes, that term is recognised.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No and we wouldn't it has to work for both of us or not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So has it ever happened where say one person just watched so no one felt like they were taking one for the team? This is something I’ve considered "

I've done that a few times. Prefer to watch anyway.

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