FabSwingers.com forum: No luck with couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good morning all just a quick question?

I dont have much trouble going out on the pull at weekends I usually get quiet a bit of attention and also same on dating sites.

On here i get quiet a bit of single women but im now looking for couples and have never any look just wondering aby reason y and have other guys have same issues

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know why. Are you contacting many couples?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know why. Are you contacting many couples? "

Yes a lot and a lot view my profile could it be my lack of experience with couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM"

Can i have some advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he attention you get isn't from women wanting to have sex with you? Whereas on here that's one of the main aims?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM

Can i have some advice please"

You need to vastly improve your bio

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM

Can i have some advice please"

- Half of your pictures are dick pics. They aren't necessarily a bad thing (though a bit polarising) but try to have more like the other two which are much better anyway.

- Your profile text doesn't say anything about you. Who are you, what do you enjoy outside of Fab, what or who are you looking for. Go in to some detail but don't write an essay.

- Spellcheck.

- Don't post snarky statuses (and on that: accept that you won't be for everyone so your message *will* just be deleted sometimes, just move on to someone who you might click with)

- Remember that your profile is your way of showing yourself off to Fab. Think "what would make someone message me?".

Good luck

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a straight male are you sure you are 'open to anything sexually'?

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd say that going out on the pull and swinging are quite different things. Maybe that's where you are going wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe he attention you get isn't from women wanting to have sex with you? Whereas on here that's one of the main aims?"

O its probably a mixture i gonin town a lot at weekends i seem to attract a lot of women who want casual sex who make it obvious finding people for sex is very easy i just want to start playing with couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM

Can i have some advice please

- Half of your pictures are dick pics. They aren't necessarily a bad thing (though a bit polarising) but try to have more like the other two which are much better anyway.

- Your profile text doesn't say anything about you. Who are you, what do you enjoy outside of Fab, what or who are you looking for. Go in to some detail but don't write an essay.

- Spellcheck.

- Don't post snarky statuses (and on that: accept that you won't be for everyone so your message *will* just be deleted sometimes, just move on to someone who you might click with)

- Remember that your profile is your way of showing yourself off to Fab. Think "what would make someone message me?".

Good luck

LvM"

I have 12 pics in which 2 or dick pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM

Can i have some advice please

You need to vastly improve your bio "

Yes i think that could be it for the couples it works perfectly fine for meeting singles

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Why not get to a club? It can be tough for single men on here as there's so many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drop the video ....and start messaging couples ,theres lots of singles guys on here ,probably too many

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd offer some profile advice but you need to specifically ask for it first.

LvM

Can i have some advice please

You need to vastly improve your bio "

Yes i think that could be it for the couples it works perfectly fine for meeting singles

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I have 12 pics in which 2 or dick pics"

That may be but people can only see four in your public gallery.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have 12 pics in which 2 or dick pics

That may be but people can only see four in your public gallery.

LvM"

Really oooops thought there were all public

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

The videos extremely off-putting couples remembered a guy may see this.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think you profile is confused and would put off many couples.

You say your straight yet your listed as been meet in person verified by 2 men and in your profile text says your open to anything sexually.

Straight off the bat you are putting off many types of couples.

Couples looking for straight males only will be put off.

The large volume of Bi / Bi curious couples will be put off. They tend to be looking for somebody comfortable and confident in their sexuality.

Your profile suggests your either bi-sexual but ashamed / worried to label this correctly.

Your mainly straight / bi-curious and will let other guys in a couple suck you as a route to the female.

Good luck OP

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Profile is a little confusing straight but open to anything. Also don't know what the percentage of men compared to couples/girls is on here, but I reckon there's a lot so it's going to be difficult to stand out from everyone else. It's good that you get plenty of meets with women elsewhere but I think couple's are going to be a bigger challenge all together tbh, it's a challenge for couples to get decent couples who are genuine on fab.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,"

They may have been at a social or event and sometimes unverified people at first ask for forum help in getting verified.

I think OP, review a few guys' profiles, get some tips. And consider clubs

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

You can’t travel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,"

Y does everyone suddenly think i met the men 121 could be part of group fun 3sum etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can’t travel?"

A.lot of the couples i messaged cant accommodation

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By *iceGuyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Start working out on your profile mate , say something about you , what are you looking for more precisely and before messaging someone make sure you read their profile, see if you can at least meet their criteria , send them a nice message with a bit of description ,make it sound interesting and something that they don’t hear every day “wanna meet right now” “hey” “how are you guys” etc

Another suggestion… start going to the clubs . You get to meet some really nice people, you get some fun even if you don’t have sex in there and you get to be “known” ! im sure if you are a nice person people will leave you some nice verification

Good luck!

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,

Y does everyone suddenly think i met the men 121 could be part of group fun 3sum etc

You asked for reasons and we simply gave you one, probably the attitude that's putting couples off

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,

Y does everyone suddenly think i met the men 121 could be part of group fun 3sum etc

No people jump very quickly to assumptions as you can see.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

hes now changes it to bi, probably forgot, but tbh any guy contacting us on our couple profile and his says straight, instant block

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"hes now changes it to bi, probably forgot, but tbh any guy contacting us on our couple profile and his says straight, instant block"

We not here to diggy people out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,

Y does everyone suddenly think i met the men 121 could be part of group fun 3sum etc

Which is fine but people are trying to give you an insight into why your not getting any interest from couples. Your profile as is currently will put off straight only couples and be couples.

In reference to your 2 verifications they are from single male accounts and not from couples accounts buddy so some people will read that literally.

I'll reply to your PM later when I've a little more time. Almost all the posters in this thread are just trying to help you with their advice and view points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,

Y does everyone suddenly think i met the men 121 could be part of group fun 3sum etc

Which is fine but people are trying to give you an insight into why your not getting any interest from couples. Your profile as is currently will put off straight only couples and be couples.

In reference to your 2 verifications they are from single male accounts and not from couples accounts buddy so some people will read that literally.

I'll reply to your PM later when I've a little more time. Almost all the posters in this thread are just trying to help you with their advice and view points.

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By *inkyguymkMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Lots of couples will be put off that you have met 2 men but saying you arw straight,

Y does everyone suddenly think i met the men 121 could be part of group fun 3sum etc

If I may put my 2 penny worth in? You wouldn't need to leave anything about your meets to presumption or assumption if you show the said verifications instead of hiding them.

Yes, your correct (before you say it), I don't show my verifications, but I don't need to because it's not something that bothers me about meeting people.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

"hes now changes it to bi, probably forgot, but tbh any guy contacting us on our couple profile and his says straight, instant block

We not here to diggy people out."

but would you meet someone whos profile changes from bi to straight depending on who they are chatting to, i would rather the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hes now changes it to bi, probably forgot, but tbh any guy contacting us on our couple profile and his says straight, instant block

We not here to diggy people out.

but would you meet someone whos profile changes from bi to straight depending on who they are chatting to, i would rather the truth"

To be fair to the OP he has took on board the advice on this thread decide to correctly reflect his sexuality now and in his status update he is clear about what and whom he is seeking.

So for this the OP should be commended

Its a shame other guys in a similar situation aren't as brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have 12 pics in which 2 or dick pics

That may be but people can only see four in your public gallery.

LvM"

Hi Dear Lincoln Couple, Seeing your post I'm happy to recognise your intentions about helping people to giving professional hints.

Reading your prevs that you wrote here to the Sheffield Based Gentleman, I can recognise some of my contras and mistakes that I made on my Profile, but can I ask you - not now, anytime in future* - to have a quick look and giving some guideline also.

Thank you in advance

*.: future I mean even if is next week than it will be great,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP...My recommendation is going to clubs and getting to know the micro communities of people and then you may even get involved in private parties and so on.

enjoy.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Good morning all just a quick question?

I dont have much trouble going out on the pull at weekends I usually get quiet a bit of attention and also same on dating sites.

On here i get quiet a bit of single women but im now looking for couples and have never any look just wondering aby reason y and have other guys have same issues

Thanks for reading

Only speaking with experience of being a couple on here, I think the majority of couple are quite wary of the single lad they speak to, remember that they are a loving couple in a relationship which obv is a very diffrent

Dynamic than meeting single women..always read a couples profile or anyone's really but couples in particular before heading to the message tab..always make sure you know what they are looking for..most of them know exactly what they want and who they won't.. and definatly don't send your fist message with a duck pic, if they say pls send a face pic with your first message then maybe a good idea to do that...we are bombarded with very disrespectful guys thinking they can wade in and give me great time just because he has a massive cock.. thats definatly a no go...they just get delated normally..but good luck and hope you.find what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning all just a quick question?

I dont have much trouble going out on the pull at weekends I usually get quiet a bit of attention and also same on dating sites.

On here i get quiet a bit of single women but im now looking for couples and have never any look just wondering aby reason y and have other guys have same issues

Thanks for reading

Nope !

But are you reading there bio there are few couples looking for single men and in my opinion the bloke has to ok you so always put your best foot forward cause he’s always paying attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks 4 your advice everyone profile updated

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

You’ve had a lucky escape OP ..

Many couples on here are pretty fucked up

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP....lovely to see someone who's asked for advice actually come back to their thread and take it on board - all credit to you.

You're not a bad looking guy and in pretty good shape. We'd be slightly put off by the 18-99 age range as it looks like you either couldn't be bothered to set it, or would shag your granny. But that's a minor thing.

Your photos are all a bit "samey". We don't especially like bathroom mirror pics - maybe try some more self timer shots, some smart clothed ones as well?

But you need to work on your profile text, as it doesn't say anything and leaves us with the impression that we'd struggle to have a conversation with you. Expand on what you like to do in real life as well as in FabLand and give someone something to hang a conversation on. At the moment it's just the same as every other single guy, really.

Lastly....we don't know what your first messages are like to couples but that's a big deal. We've explained in other threads the maths that mean we only need 1% of the guys that message us....so it's bloody hard for anyone to get into that 1%. Read profiles, make sure you're compatible and tailor your message. Don't ask banal questions like how our day's been, but pick something from a profile and talk about that. It won't guarantee success but will vastly improve the chances of a reply.

(Bry)

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