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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it really that much of a big issue?

I mean if its ok to ignore profile bios, its ok to ignore messages that don't fit who you’re looking for? Or is it?

There are various caveats like if you met in a club or social you could get on amazingly but based on their fab profile bio it’d be a no. A person could match what you're looking for and it still be no guarantee of a meet.

Still i think to myself its rather frustrating when its set out in bio, what your preferences are and its ignored. So are profile bios that important?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Is it really that much of a big issue?

I mean if its ok to ignore profile bios, its ok to ignore messages that don't fit who you’re looking for? Or is it?

There are various caveats like if you met in a club or social you could get on amazingly but based on their fab profile bio it’d be a no. A person could match what you're looking for and it still be no guarantee of a meet.

Still i think to myself its rather frustrating when its set out in bio, what your preferences are and its ignored. So are profile bios that important?

"

Not really, it seems. I mean, I read them. But I assume most folk who contact me don't. X

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I vary between being amused when people ask what I'm into, or what my type is...

And being super frustrated.because I've filled in my profile quite extensively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bio is set out exactly my relationship stays and with who. That I’m not looking to meet outside of this dynamic but I think sometimes it’s almost trike a challenge to see if I will bend the rules just for them. I think that more people read bios than we give credit for but also think you will make an exception just for them.

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

To be fair, a lot of singles and couples don't message us if they have read our profile (judging by the 'who's looked' list) but we get a lot of singles who obviously haven't looked at our profile then sent a crap message.

It annoys us as we like to be polite, but we feel on balance that it's better to set out your stall regarding your preferences.

But sometimes we wonder if it's worth it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More fool them if they choose not to read mine

I had someone chasing a meet with me for about a year. When I asked if he was aware I was trans he blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like it’s manners. If you’re going to craft a well written opening message, your best bet is the source material you have in front of you. It shows you’ve made an initial effort.

That said, I hate writing or re-writing a bio. It’s very difficult to get your true self across in a few paragraphs. (Or in some cases, one line, or 40 pages…)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More fool them if they choose not to read mine

I had someone chasing a meet with me for about a year. When I asked if he was aware I was trans he blocked me "

Oh good Lord. You shouldn’t of told him until you met and then pointed him in the direction of your bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More fool them if they choose not to read mine

I had someone chasing a meet with me for about a year. When I asked if he was aware I was trans he blocked me

Oh good Lord. You shouldn’t of told him until you met and then pointed him in the direction of your bio "

That happened too recently…. We messaged after seeing each other and him having been down on me…. He still hasn’t realised.

They’re bloody good these surgeons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More fool them if they choose not to read mine

I had someone chasing a meet with me for about a year. When I asked if he was aware I was trans he blocked me

Oh good Lord. You shouldn’t of told him until you met and then pointed him in the direction of your bio

That happened too recently…. We messaged after seeing each other and him having been down on me…. He still hasn’t realised.

They’re bloody good these surgeons "

They really are and worth every penny

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By *uminmyhole69Man
over a year ago

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I always read the bio saves a lot of time not always sure mine gets read though but comes with the territory I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever our profile is ignored we then add to it further to make it clear what we want.

It's now at a point where people contact us saying they can't be bothered read it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've deleted all the info off mine now because no one seemed to read it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More fool them if they choose not to read mine

I had someone chasing a meet with me for about a year. When I asked if he was aware I was trans he blocked me

Oh good Lord. You shouldn’t of told him until you met and then pointed him in the direction of your bio

That happened too recently…. We messaged after seeing each other and him having been down on me…. He still hasn’t realised.

They’re bloody good these surgeons

They really are and worth every penny "

They certainly are. I’m online dating finally, which means video dates to start with. I don’t say I’m trans in my bio on there as I’d rather know someone likes me in spite of my past rather than because of it.

So far, not a single date has changed his interest level once I tell him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whenever our profile is ignored we then add to it further to make it clear what we want.

It's now at a point where people contact us saying they can't be bothered read it all."

It’s pretty concise tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've deleted all the info off mine now because no one seemed to read it!"

Same here, Ive now made it as simple a read as possible but even that seems to be a struggle for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've deleted all the info off mine now because no one seemed to read it!

Same here, Ive now made it as simple a read as possible but even that seems to be a struggle for some "
in fairness us men don't have a great attention span especially when boobs are on show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel "

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm guilty, I just look at the pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?"
normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s incredibly frustrating when we get messages from people who clearly haven’t taken any notice of who we are looking for.

They seem to think that they will be the exception to the rule and then get stroppy when I turn them down. Why even try in the first place?

I probably shouldn’t even bother replying to them anymore.

V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really that much of a big issue?

I mean if its ok to ignore profile bios, its ok to ignore messages that don't fit who you’re looking for? Or is it?

There are various caveats like if you met in a club or social you could get on amazingly but based on their fab profile bio it’d be a no. A person could match what you're looking for and it still be no guarantee of a meet.

Still i think to myself its rather frustrating when its set out in bio, what your preferences are and its ignored. So are profile bios that important?

"

For me bios are important, I always read a bio before I even wink at someone on fab. I also like it when people have their preferences on their bio because it let's me know if to msg them or not. I'm more likely to msg or wink at a profile of they have stated what they want and what they are looking for. But that's just me, of course my profile has what I'm looking for as well.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

We do get miffed when messages land in our pm box which clearly show the sender hasn't taken notice of what our profiles say.

Or if they have (which doesn't happen often) they just choose to ignor it anyway.

Suspect they see the pics, and want what they want, and to heck with what we are here looking for

Block and delete buttons are very busy!

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"I'm guilty, I just look at the pictures "
although I don't usually contact anyone so guess I can get away with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've deleted all the info off mine now because no one seemed to read it!

Same here, Ive now made it as simple a read as possible but even that seems to be a struggle for some in fairness us men don't have a great attention span especially when boobs are on show "

Lol exactly why I block messages from men!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops"

If you can't hold attention for long enough to read a long profile (which at most takes say 4 minutes... My view would be that you can't hold attention long enough in a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops

If you can't hold attention for long enough to read a long profile (which at most takes say 4 minutes... My view would be that you can't hold attention long enough in a meet."
i only have to get to where it starts to say single men to be back of the line then i Lose interest

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops

If you can't hold attention for long enough to read a long profile (which at most takes say 4 minutes... My view would be that you can't hold attention long enough in a meet."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Dear All,

good to see and read different oppinions from different point of views so New members can learn and change attitude if neccessary.

In my point of view as long as someone make contact in a respectful way it is worth to get back.

In my example I have seen profiles when it is said no single however on the verification indicated 3single man meeting confirmation, so I sent an email and asked it is my misunderstanding in the Bios? Subject box is important where you can highlight your intentions.

In other example I found a profile of couple where also explained about no single however the photos of the lady look 30years younger than the age and I wanted to tell my opinion, on the subject I indicated it is only a compliments and in the message I told my toughts, The results was fantastic because they replied and appreciated my message and even sent me good luck and told they sorry about I cannot be the one who will meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops

If you can't hold attention for long enough to read a long profile (which at most takes say 4 minutes... My view would be that you can't hold attention long enough in a meet.

This."
so because I don't read a profile in its entirely im not good enough for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops

If you can't hold attention for long enough to read a long profile (which at most takes say 4 minutes... My view would be that you can't hold attention long enough in a meet.

This.so because I don't read a profile in its entirely im not good enough for a meet "

Clearly, I'm sure some won't care but on a whole most people would like to think people have taken the time to read it.

Pretty sure a few paragraphs isn't too difficult is it?

If it is then be prepared for lots of deleted messages and blocks to come your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men don’t read them. Couples do. Men go diving in with unthought through messages and unwanted friend requests. Hence why our block list is huge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We read them but some of them are like reading a novel

So then what, would you ignore the profile or still contact?normally i dont contract because if the profile is that long there will be way too many hoops to jump through and im not fit enough to jump through that many hoops

If you can't hold attention for long enough to read a long profile (which at most takes say 4 minutes... My view would be that you can't hold attention long enough in a meet.

This.so because I don't read a profile in its entirely im not good enough for a meet "

Basically, yeah.

If I meet someone I spend hours getting ready. I think about what I'm gonna eat on the day and avoid anything heavy or smelly. I spend time planning a route. I spend ages agonising over outfits and lingerie.

Why would I do all that for someone who can't be arsed to scroll down past my pics?

Hell, my bio is literally 2 lines long at the moment and that still doesn't seem to be enough for some

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By *inTonic2018Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

The reading of bios is soooo important and so many people just can't be bothered. We don't get it but we take it as a sign that it's not a fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most guys don't bother reading bios. I'm always asked to meet guys miles from me and I've no interest. It's a waste of theirs and my time so why bother messaging.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've had to specifically lay out my profile for those who can't be arsed reading it.

There are still those who make assumptions about men on here and believe most of what is said on profiles is open to interpretation and just lip service. They like to test my resolve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a bio .....but then I like reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wish people would read my profile as it clear says what I am looking for I have even gone as far as to write across my pictures to try and get my message over, but no luck most of my message are from men that just doesn't seem to understand what I am looking for.

I do think a profile bio is only important to woman and couples as they are the only ones that tend to read them. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get so many hi how are you type messages and lot of others which clearly shows they haven't read our profile or have and not taken any notice of what it says.

So many guy's say it hard to get meets but they may have more success if they read profiles and put some relating content in their messages

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By *inTonic2018Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Totally agree. Guys shouldn't complain if they don't read and just message you because they like pics, then they don't get a reply. It's actually quite rare for us to get messages from people who've read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have it stated in our profile Five times that we're not looking to meet.

Even mentioned on one of our pictures.

Still, we receive several messages daily asking if we want to meet.

Yes, we know we can hide profile, before anyone suggests this, we choose not to do because we (Mrs especially) still get enjoyment knowing our pictures are visible for others to see, maybe even enjoy.

The messages don't bother us, just gives us a heads up on who simply is not attentive enough for us to bother meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will add though, we are receiving far far less messages of late, so there are profile readers

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