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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Lot of assumptions in there bro.

Assume usually makes an ass out of you me

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?

Lot of assumptions in there bro.

Assume usually makes an ass out of you me"

Well the assumptions are by the couples not me, so I'll probably still manage to sleep at night. Thanks for the input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable. "

Are there degrees of biness

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable. "

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's sad, but it's their prerogative. I just accept it, write it off as their loss and move past their profile. Just as I do with people who only want to meet BBC guys or Clean Shaved, or won't meet married guys.

I'll never appeal to everyone, but I don't want to. I only need to find one regular woman or couple for a med to long term relationship at a time. I don't need to meet with half the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue."

It’s their preference why be curious?

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

Are there degrees of biness "

Yes,Top middle or bottom

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

It’s their preference why be curious?"

Explain the preference to me then...

The preference is they don't want a cock that has been in another guys mouth or arse. Why? Because they assume that means the guy has more chance of having STDs. Ergo it's not a preference, it's a prejudice, because God knows there will be enough straight guys on this site who have enough Chlamydia to take down a city. But that's ok. Because it came from a straight guy lol

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable. "

This is bang on. Some men will cling onto the straight and bi curious tick box for a long time before they move onto bi so being Liberal with the truth on this one isn't always a game plan to make themselves fit what a couple are looking for but some will to increase their chances.....even with all the threads on this alot of single males are still baffled why they can't get a meet.....2 years without a meet for one guy, i mean.... that actually takes some doing to achieve that feat. It shows persistence (albeit without changing strategy)on such a level that I would have thought that alone would have got him a meet at some point as facing 2 years of striking out is brutal.....id of lasted 2 weeks before being back on tinder

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

This is bang on. Some men will cling onto the straight and bi curious tick box for a long time before they move onto bi so being Liberal with the truth on this one isn't always a game plan to make themselves fit what a couple are looking for but some will to increase their chances.....even with all the threads on this alot of single males are still baffled why they can't get a meet.....2 years without a meet for one guy, i mean.... that actually takes some doing to achieve that feat. It shows persistence (albeit without changing strategy)on such a level that I would have thought that alone would have got him a meet at some point as facing 2 years of striking out is brutal.....id of lasted 2 weeks before being back on tinder

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Completely missed the point of the post. Good effort.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

It’s their preference why be curious?

Explain the preference to me then...

The preference is they don't want a cock that has been in another guys mouth or arse. Why? Because they assume that means the guy has more chance of having STDs. Ergo it's not a preference, it's a prejudice, because God knows there will be enough straight guys on this site who have enough Chlamydia to take down a city. But that's ok. Because it came from a straight guy lol"

I cant believe this takes up more than a nanosecond of someone's thinking when they are on the site. Why no bi, why only straight....who the fuck cares and its a question you'll never get a definitive answer unless you can climb inside that specific individuals head that said it, and even if you could the information is useless

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

This is bang on. Some men will cling onto the straight and bi curious tick box for a long time before they move onto bi so being Liberal with the truth on this one isn't always a game plan to make themselves fit what a couple are looking for but some will to increase their chances.....even with all the threads on this alot of single males are still baffled why they can't get a meet.....2 years without a meet for one guy, i mean.... that actually takes some doing to achieve that feat. It shows persistence (albeit without changing strategy)on such a level that I would have thought that alone would have got him a meet at some point as facing 2 years of striking out is brutal.....id of lasted 2 weeks before being back on tinder

Completely missed the point of the post. Good effort."

You have a point, I do tend to go way off track after first sentence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

It’s their preference why be curious?"

Because its illogical

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By *ob08Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

It’s their preference why be curious?

Because its illogical "

Captain?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable. "

Omg you have no idea about that , even as a single guy straight men would suggest a meet lol

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

It is preference, although I understand your gripe with it. Because I had the same gripe too. My advice: let it go.

Do you really want to meet a couple who maybe uncomfortable around you? I've been in (straight) group situations where some men haven't been comfortable with it and not a great position to be in.

There are plenty more couples on the site. Just move on.

However it is pretty naive to think couples who say no Bi men, haven't been with a man who hasn't experimented in the past or even currently. People lie, its human nature but its also none of my business.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have seen couples profiles in which they’ve stated they don’t want bi guys, straights only. However on occasion when I look at there verifications I see that those straight guys have messaged or winked me once or twice. Admittedly non have actually met me as I personally don’t meet straight guys.

So it will happen to these couples, meeting bi guys or certainly curious. However it’s their profile and life whatever they want that’s up to them, I also only meet bi couples as well.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Its just their choice..why question peoples choices on here.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Tbh...thats just like saying on your profile would prefer a slimmer lady...why? Curvy ladies have exactly the same as a slimmer one and you can do what you would do to a slimmer one on someone that has a bit more curves....I'm not saying thats what's on your profile..the point is..nobody should have to explain themselves to anyone when it comes to preferences or what they are into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh...thats just like saying on your profile would prefer a slimmer lady...why? Curvy ladies have exactly the same as a slimmer one and you can do what you would do to a slimmer one on someone that has a bit more curves....I'm not saying thats what's on your profile..the point is..nobody should have to explain themselves to anyone when it comes to preferences or what they are into."

I am sorry but compare the fact that someone like a particular body shape doesn't relate to whether a man is straight or bi as he still looks and act the same.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

The OP has asked why couples want a mmf play, but the don't want a bi man...its preference.. that was my point..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP has asked why couples want a mmf play, but the don't want a bi man...its preference.. that was my point.."

Yes but a slim person of one with lot of curves look different and that is a choice , but like op say what is it that makes couple say no to bi guy as if you lined up a load of guys just by looking at them you can't tell if they are straight , bi or gay.

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Wow so us couples are not allowed to choose who we play with and you have all the rights mmmmmm really

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

We won’t meet bi men simply because they belong to a higher HIV risk group. It’s as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread. Interesting answers too. But I would like to point out that "don't say preference because there is no logical reason to it" is not a valid argument.

If anything, preferences are mostly against logical reasons.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I'll put my 5 eggs in. But no one ever seems to take interest in what I have to say. Que the "who said that" comments. - don't it hurts.

As a couple whos been around the swinging world a long time. And spoken to many guys, couples and single ladies. The common answer is std's followed by not understanding. Mainly std (aids) from ass fucking. Plus not understanding that bi men can either be fluid, top or bottom. They won't just jump in and fuck any hole reguardless. - fem

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

We used to get pushed on this all the time as a couple. Some of the threads around the subject used to get quite spicy back in the day.

The simple answer is she had her reasons for her preference and it was nobodies business but hers.

Concentrating on the people that will meet you is a far more rewarding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving the HIV comment. Bi and gay men often look after themselves much better then straight males. On PrEp, have regular testing. How many straight men have sexual health testing regularly? Women can also have HIV, interesting, very interesting....

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Makes no sense to us, our preferences are clear so if its someone we like we expect them to respect that and we respect their preferences and likes/dislikes.

If someone doesn't understand that concept of consent (bi or not), off they trot.

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By *ovebjsMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Of corse it’s a preference

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Loving the HIV comment. Bi and gay men often look after themselves much better then straight males. On PrEp, have regular testing. How many straight men have sexual health testing regularly? Women can also have HIV, interesting, very interesting.... "

Love this comment! I could not of put it better myself. We get tested every 3 months. If we've played or not. Even through lock down and there was no play. We teasted, next due end of Dec.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Aren't your 2 points a good enough reason?

They don't want to meet a man who has sex with men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference

Prejudice

Insecurity

Fear.

Delete as appropriate.

I think that pretty much covers all reasons why they’d say no bisexual men.

Does it matter? Does it fuck. People seem to lose their shit because they’re excluded. Shouting injustice. Just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's their choice after all maybe the guy would feel uneasy if he has another guy thinking oh I'd fuck him but I can't it's a straight play 3sum

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Do preferences have to be logical?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

What's your rationale behind not meeting smokers? Is it logical? Do you think they're going to force you to smoke? Do you think all smokers are smelly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your rationale behind not meeting smokers? Is it logical? Do you think they're going to force you to smoke? Do you think all smokers are smelly? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t people meet short men? Or men over 50?

Do they think we are going to shrink or age them?

Do they not realise laying down, I’m taller than most men and that when my head is between a woman’s legs you can’t see my wrinkles!

Preferences and reasons are people’s own and wasting time worrying about the why or wherefore is pointless

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We don't state no bi men but after 2 bad experiences we do avoid them. Much easier for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone shouting "it's a preference". Sure but it's one which you might reasonably suspect is based on prejudice a lot of the time. And bisexual women don't encounter the same issues. But at least people are making it really clear when they have it on their profiles so you don't waste your time with them. You can't change other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone shouting "it's a preference". Sure but it's one which you might reasonably suspect is based on prejudice a lot of the time. And bisexual women don't encounter the same issues. But at least people are making it really clear when they have it on their profiles so you don't waste your time with them. You can't change other people. "

Oi! Stop suggesting sensible stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone shouting "it's a preference". Sure but it's one which you might reasonably suspect is based on prejudice a lot of the time. And bisexual women don't encounter the same issues. But at least people are making it really clear when they have it on their profiles so you don't waste your time with them. You can't change other people.

Oi! Stop suggesting sensible stuff. "

Soz, soze

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable "

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just as a point of correction to an earlier post about bi men being in a higher risk HIV group this isn't the case. The proportion of straight and non straight men accessing HIV services is almost identical at about 46pc.

I suspect its far more likely to be the case that some straight men just don't feel comfortable being in intimate contact with another man who they know might be sexually interested in them.

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside

We'll join in on this to state our case.

We don't play with bi men and it's simply a case of prejudice however, the prejudice isn't our own and is slightly enforced.

One of us is a blood donor and one of the questions on the form asks about whether or not you've had sexual contact with another man who has engaged in sexual contact with another man. It automatically rules you out (unless they've had the same male sexual partner for 3 months but that is far too personal to be asking of someone who you might only meet once)!

Don't fully agree with it. Both us have had partners who are bisexual in the past and if it wasn't for the blood donor element it wouldn't be an issue.

We trust people to be honest that they are straight when we approach them or they approach us.

If we stop donating blood then it opens up another door but it isn't a reason to stop donating.

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

"

So you don't think people should be challenged when their "choice" is based on prejudice? That's the exact reason why racism, sexism, homophobia etc. will always exist, because people are happy to say "it's just someone's choice or preference, just move on".

I've never encountered a couple saying no to me because I'm bi, mainly because I know anyone who puts that on their profile is ignorant and therefore I wouldn't get on with them anyway. My point is that it's a shame that it is 2021 we are still happy to just accept these "preferences".

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Because they're homophobes. Simple as that

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"We'll join in on this to state our case.

We don't play with bi men and it's simply a case of prejudice however, the prejudice isn't our own and is slightly enforced.

One of us is a blood donor and one of the questions on the form asks about whether or not you've had sexual contact with another man who has engaged in sexual contact with another man. It automatically rules you out (unless they've had the same male sexual partner for 3 months but that is far too personal to be asking of someone who you might only meet once)!

Don't fully agree with it. Both us have had partners who are bisexual in the past and if it wasn't for the blood donor element it wouldn't be an issue.

We trust people to be honest that they are straight when we approach them or they approach us.

If we stop donating blood then it opens up another door but it isn't a reason to stop donating."

Thanks for your honest answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

So you don't think people should be challenged when their "choice" is based on prejudice? That's the exact reason why racism, sexism, homophobia etc. will always exist, because people are happy to say "it's just someone's choice or preference, just move on".

I've never encountered a couple saying no to me because I'm bi, mainly because I know anyone who puts that on their profile is ignorant and therefore I wouldn't get on with them anyway. My point is that it's a shame that it is 2021 we are still happy to just accept these "preferences". "

Challenging never seems to work as well as awareness and education for any phobia or ism. Drip drip drip...

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By *aptainhornpipeMan
over a year ago

manchester


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Maybe bi men just make them uncomfortable, your only bothered cos it excludes you.

How entitled are you to disregard how someone else feels about one of the most Intimate of encounters in life just so you can get a shag.

Personally I find it ridiculous that people don’t want to have sex with bald slightly overweight middle aged men I mean it just defies logic.

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?

Maybe bi men just make them uncomfortable, your only bothered cos it excludes you.

How entitled are you to disregard how someone else feels about one of the most Intimate of encounters in life just so you can get a shag.

Personally I find it ridiculous that people don’t want to have sex with bald slightly overweight middle aged men I mean it just defies logic. "

Ha ha well said that man totally agree who cares why ,, just look for people with similar interests move on

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By *hades Of GreyMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"

Are there degrees of biness

"

There are many degrees of bisexuality, from simple curiosity to full blown (excuse the pun) sex.

I class myself as bisexual, but I do not fancy men in the way I would fancy a woman. It is purely a sex thing. On a bisexual scale of one to ten I'd say I was a seven.

In my opinion, a man who wants to have a sexual liaison with his female partner and another man has to be somewhere on the scale, even if it's only a one.

I've had quite a few mmf meets where the man claimed to be straight, but I ultimately enjoyed being sucked by him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

So you don't think people should be challenged when their "choice" is based on prejudice? That's the exact reason why racism, sexism, homophobia etc. will always exist, because people are happy to say "it's just someone's choice or preference, just move on".

I've never encountered a couple saying no to me because I'm bi, mainly because I know anyone who puts that on their profile is ignorant and therefore I wouldn't get on with them anyway. My point is that it's a shame that it is 2021 we are still happy to just accept these "preferences". "

Ok so let's say I'm a massively racist homophobe. I won't fuck bisexual men of X race.

What are you going to do about it? Force me to fuck them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh OP ...

There's threads from the past, where couples have asked for Bi men to be honest on their profiles and show they are just that.

Have a forum search - see if any suit you! Depends how far you'll travel and if your desires match.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

So you don't think people should be challenged when their "choice" is based on prejudice? That's the exact reason why racism, sexism, homophobia etc. will always exist, because people are happy to say "it's just someone's choice or preference, just move on".

I've never encountered a couple saying no to me because I'm bi, mainly because I know anyone who puts that on their profile is ignorant and therefore I wouldn't get on with them anyway. My point is that it's a shame that it is 2021 we are still happy to just accept these "preferences".

Challenging never seems to work as well as awareness and education for any phobia or ism. Drip drip drip..."

I encounter people who don't like bald men. Do they hate us. No, they just don't find us sexy.

Should they be challenged over who they find attractive ? No.

If they castigate for sexuality or other factors then yes. But if they simply won't fuck me, or a bi guy, they can exercise that right.

And express it on their profiles.

Its freedom of choice and speech.

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Tbh OP ...

There's threads from the past, where couples have asked for Bi men to be honest on their profiles and show they are just that.

Have a forum search - see if any suit you! Depends how far you'll travel and if your desires match. "

I didn't start this thread because I'm after a shag from a couple. I was curious about why couples specifically state no bi men on their profile when a bi guy is fully capable of straight sexual encounters

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Tbh OP ...

There's threads from the past, where couples have asked for Bi men to be honest on their profiles and show they are just that.

Have a forum search - see if any suit you! Depends how far you'll travel and if your desires match.

I didn't start this thread because I'm after a shag from a couple. I was curious about why couples specifically state no bi men on their profile when a bi guy is fully capable of straight sexual encounters "

They're low IQ buddy, it's not their fault. They struggle with simple concepts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's been said, asked time and time again - in fact many moons ago I asked a member myself on a thread - unfortunately I rattled the wrong one and the rest is history.......

Have a ickle search anyway, maybe those bi cpls could shed some light onto it in PRIVATE!

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By *avy8931Man
over a year ago

ballymena

On here most guys say they are straight but they are on fabguys as bi or even gay with the same pictures. That must mean there are a lot of indentical twins about or liars. I have profile on both sites and am bi on both. Easier to be honest as you need a good memory to be a liar

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Well it's been said, asked time and time again - in fact many moons ago I asked a member myself on a thread - unfortunately I rattled the wrong one and the rest is history.......

Have a ickle search anyway, maybe those bi cpls could shed some light onto it in PRIVATE!"

Ah ok so you're annoyed there's another thread on this subject, apologies for the inconvenience it has caused you.

There is also the option to just ignore the thread and get on with your life, or perhaps you could go and find some other threads that you aren't interested in and give them your pearls of wisdom too.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

I find your post more than a little arrogant. Saying it is a preference is an answer, not that anyone should feel a need to answer you and explain their preferences.

Having said that, we do play with bi men providing they agree to play totally straight (both our preference). However this has been spoiled on several occasions precisely by guys who can't "contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple". Play stops there immediately as it's a massive turn off for both of us. Perhaps you should have a word with these bi guys and warn them they're spoiling the chances for the rest.

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?

I find your post more than a little arrogant. Saying it is a preference is an answer, not that anyone should feel a need to answer you and explain their preferences.

Having said that, we do play with bi men providing they agree to play totally straight (both our preference). However this has been spoiled on several occasions precisely by guys who can't "contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple". Play stops there immediately as it's a massive turn off for both of us. Perhaps you should have a word with these bi guys and warn them they're spoiling the chances for the rest."

I'll have a word with them for you lol.

Thanks for being honest about the bad experiences, can see why that would potentially put someone off. My original question came purely from me not being able to see how it would not be grounded in prejudice, but bad experiences and people like the couple who donate blood (which is an NHS prejudice not theirs) have shown me there are other angles to this on the odd occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it's been said, asked time and time again - in fact many moons ago I asked a member myself on a thread - unfortunately I rattled the wrong one and the rest is history.......

Have a ickle search anyway, maybe those bi cpls could shed some light onto it in PRIVATE!

Ah ok so you're annoyed there's another thread on this subject, apologies for the inconvenience it has caused you.

There is also the option to just ignore the thread and get on with your life, or perhaps you could go and find some other threads that you aren't interested in and give them your pearls of wisdom too. "

Wow your a snappy one hahah

I see the whole aspect of it has got you going, that you can't even fathom who's on your side or not.... Some people don't want to discuss things so personal on a public forum - that the suggestion was made by myself to ask in private... You must of asked those who refuse to meet you because of being Bi, why don't you ask those who will meet you why the others won't....it was a fair insight...thanks for your input ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

It’s their preference why be curious?

Explain the preference to me then...

The preference is they don't want a cock that has been in another guys mouth or arse. Why? Because they assume that means the guy has more chance of having STDs. Ergo it's not a preference, it's a prejudice, because God knows there will be enough straight guys on this site who have enough Chlamydia to take down a city. But that's ok. Because it came from a straight guy lol"

Do you have statistics to prove your city wide assumptions on chlamydia?

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Well it's been said, asked time and time again - in fact many moons ago I asked a member myself on a thread - unfortunately I rattled the wrong one and the rest is history.......

Have a ickle search anyway, maybe those bi cpls could shed some light onto it in PRIVATE!

Ah ok so you're annoyed there's another thread on this subject, apologies for the inconvenience it has caused you.

There is also the option to just ignore the thread and get on with your life, or perhaps you could go and find some other threads that you aren't interested in and give them your pearls of wisdom too.

Wow your a snappy one hahah

I see the whole aspect of it has got you going, that you can't even fathom who's on your side or not.... Some people don't want to discuss things so personal on a public forum - that the suggestion was made by myself to ask in private... You must of asked those who refuse to meet you because of being Bi, why don't you ask those who will meet you why the others won't....it was a fair insight...thanks for your input ..."

Nobody has ever refused to meet me because I'm bi, that's not why I started the thread at all. I asked the question because I've seen it stated on couples profiles and I wondered why it was justified. I have to ask the question in a public forum or else there is no way to ever get any answers is there.

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

I think the point is that couples shouldn't feel the need to turn down men because they are bi, I don't get why it bothers them, hence my curiosity on the issue.

It’s their preference why be curious?

Explain the preference to me then...

The preference is they don't want a cock that has been in another guys mouth or arse. Why? Because they assume that means the guy has more chance of having STDs. Ergo it's not a preference, it's a prejudice, because God knows there will be enough straight guys on this site who have enough Chlamydia to take down a city. But that's ok. Because it came from a straight guy lol

Do you have statistics to prove your city wide assumptions on chlamydia?"

According to most people on this thread I don't need to provide any real evidence to back up any statements I make, it's what I believe and should just take that and move on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it's been said, asked time and time again - in fact many moons ago I asked a member myself on a thread - unfortunately I rattled the wrong one and the rest is history.......

Have a ickle search anyway, maybe those bi cpls could shed some light onto it in PRIVATE!

Ah ok so you're annoyed there's another thread on this subject, apologies for the inconvenience it has caused you.

There is also the option to just ignore the thread and get on with your life, or perhaps you could go and find some other threads that you aren't interested in and give them your pearls of wisdom too.

Wow your a snappy one hahah

I see the whole aspect of it has got you going, that you can't even fathom who's on your side or not.... Some people don't want to discuss things so personal on a public forum - that the suggestion was made by myself to ask in private... You must of asked those who refuse to meet you because of being Bi, why don't you ask those who will meet you why the others won't....it was a fair insight...thanks for your input ...

Nobody has ever refused to meet me because I'm bi, that's not why I started the thread at all. I asked the question because I've seen it stated on couples profiles and I wondered why it was justified. I have to ask the question in a public forum or else there is no way to ever get any answers is there. "

Probably the 2 reasons in your OP.

People won't openly admit to being homophobic.

Not wanting to meet someone they're not attracted to isn't homophobic though. Couples often meet people they are both happy with.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"We used to get pushed on this all the time as a couple. Some of the threads around the subject used to get quite spicy back in the day.

The simple answer is she had her reasons for her preference and it was nobodies business but hers.

Concentrating on the people that will meet you is a far more rewarding.

"

This, wasting time and energy on those who differ in their choices is just negative..

And the perpetual moaning about it can come across as whining or an overblown sense of entitlement..

Yours, an occasionally bi bloke albeit not for a while..

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It's a perfectly valid question OP, and I think your two options are probably spot on. Number 2 for us

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am not sure that not finding sex acts between men exciting is homophobic?

I personally cringe at the sight of men kissing. Its a deep thing I can't rationally explain. I have gay friends, who i cherish, who have kissed me on the cheek.

They have made passes at me when d*unk. I was not interested but not offended.

I have said at times that I wish I was bi, as that may help with couples(yes, I am a man who fears crossing swords). It also adds variety. But ot isn't me.

Am I abhorred men are bi ? No

Do I think they will try and sneak a cheeky suck or anal delve in? No...not if they have any sense.

Do I want a bi guy in the room if I was in a group setting? (Never happens btw) Not bothered.

But I would probably have performance issues brought on by something very deep.

So, if a man in a couple has similar mindset, who is anybody to tell him he is wrong? That who he is comfortable with is not inclusive enough ?

I defend their right to not have to have sex near people they don't want to.

If, however, they are homophobic in other areas of life, I defend my right to challenge them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't meet any bisexual people for sex. This is purely down to our experiences.

Would we meet bisexual people in a social context? Of course we would, it would be silly to exclude a whole group of people purely based on their sexuality

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

It seems like couples will have had bad experiences with bi or straight guys but are then much more willing to exclude bi guys in general. I guess cutting out straight guys too does rather limit your options haha.

For me, if I'm meeting a woman and she says upfront she doesn't like certain things, I wouldn't do those things during our encounter, purely through being a considerate person. Same would apply if a couple wanted a threesome but it was purely about two guys giving the woman a great time and there was to be no playing with the other guy, I wouldn't touch him at all. In an ideal world people would be choosing prospective partners based on whether they are decent, considerate people who they are attracted to, rather than focussing purely on the bisexual thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it's been said, asked time and time again - in fact many moons ago I asked a member myself on a thread - unfortunately I rattled the wrong one and the rest is history.......

Have a ickle search anyway, maybe those bi cpls could shed some light onto it in PRIVATE!

Ah ok so you're annoyed there's another thread on this subject, apologies for the inconvenience it has caused you.

There is also the option to just ignore the thread and get on with your life, or perhaps you could go and find some other threads that you aren't interested in and give them your pearls of wisdom too.

Wow your a snappy one hahah

I see the whole aspect of it has got you going, that you can't even fathom who's on your side or not.... Some people don't want to discuss things so personal on a public forum - that the suggestion was made by myself to ask in private... You must of asked those who refuse to meet you because of being Bi, why don't you ask those who will meet you why the others won't....it was a fair insight...thanks for your input ...

Nobody has ever refused to meet me because I'm bi, that's not why I started the thread at all. I asked the question because I've seen it stated on couples profiles and I wondered why it was justified. I have to ask the question in a public forum or else there is no way to ever get any answers is there. "

No guarantee on a thread either...I'm mentally geared to cover all bases. Sorry I couldn't be of any help

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Consent violation and ignoring boundaries is a daily occurrence via messaging let alone in person so I can understand couples erring on the side of caution.

While there are clearly biases going on with some people and their attitude towards bi men its not always as simple and clear cut as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m straight, I don’t meet females.

In the early days, I was talked into meeting a couple on the premise that they understood I was straight and the female would just watch.

It wasn’t the case. She tried to touch me from the second we met. It was relentless.

I now wouldn’t ever meet a couple again or even do anything with a female in the room.

I’m sure lots have had similar experiences.

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By *male246Man
over a year ago

rh13

Surely the fact you have bi on your profile is I sign you are honest about who you are?

Isn’t this a “ swinging site” after all I thought the point was to try new things?

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I’m straight, I don’t meet females.

In the early days, I was talked into meeting a couple on the premise that they understood I was straight and the female would just watch.

It wasn’t the case. She tried to touch me from the second we met. It was relentless.

I now wouldn’t ever meet a couple again or even do anything with a female in the room.

I’m sure lots have had similar experiences. "

It's a shame that so many people have had experiences on here with others who don't respect the boundaries that were set before the meet up, just selfish of them really.

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By *ondonLeoMan
over a year ago

London

I met a bi couple on fab, who had great verifications, and seemed lovely. We made it very clear it was a straight meet only and I had no intention of playing with the guy. They asked if I could 69 her and of course I agreed. When my sight was slightly obscured, the couple thought I couldn’t see that it was him sucking me off instead.

Completely broke the trust and I left. There were clear boundaries that were broken non-consensually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a bi couple on fab, who had great verifications, and seemed lovely. We made it very clear it was a straight meet only and I had no intention of playing with the guy. They asked if I could 69 her and of course I agreed. When my sight was slightly obscured, the couple thought I couldn’t see that it was him sucking me off instead.

Completely broke the trust and I left. There were clear boundaries that were broken non-consensually. "

That is awful!

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By *erkswanker OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I met a bi couple on fab, who had great verifications, and seemed lovely. We made it very clear it was a straight meet only and I had no intention of playing with the guy. They asked if I could 69 her and of course I agreed. When my sight was slightly obscured, the couple thought I couldn’t see that it was him sucking me off instead.

Completely broke the trust and I left. There were clear boundaries that were broken non-consensually. "

That's so awful, can't understand how people are so happy to do things like that and ignore what was agreed in the first place. Did it put you off meeting couples?

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"So I've often wondered what the rationale is for couples who say that they want MMF threesomes but don't want bi men to join them. In my mind it has to be one of two things:

1. They assume bi men won't be able to contain themselves and will insist on trying to suck or fuck the straight male half of the couple even if they are fully aware that it's a "straight" threesome

2. They assume that bi men are way more promiscuous and more likely to have STDs because they play with me and women (in theory)

Saying "it's a preference" is not an answer, because there is no logical reason for it to be a preference. You want a hot guy for a threesome, the fact he sometimes fancies men is irrelevant. Any insights from couples?"

Since when did preferences have to be logical? Is love logical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Consent violation and ignoring boundaries is a daily occurrence via messaging let alone in person so I can understand couples erring on the side of caution.

While there are clearly biases going on with some people and their attitude towards bi men its not always as simple and clear cut as that."

Some really awful stories of consent violation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To sum up OP there seems to be a few reasons why, some fair and some based on prejudice.

In my experience the majority of men fall somewhere on the bisexual spectrum, gay guys and straight guys are the 2 minorities, possibly in equal measure.

I think it's great to challenge people's preferences especially if you feel it's not coming from a genuine place.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"Wow so us couples are not allowed to choose who we play with and you have all the rights mmmmmm really"

To be fair, that's not what he has said is it?

He hasn't asked anyone to change their mind, just explain their mindset if they are happy to do so. If you're not happy to explain, then don't.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe sometimes there can be a fine line between preference and prejudice. I would defend to the hilt anyone's right not to meet someone based on previous bad experiences.

As a BI male myself I wouldn't want to play with a straight couple. Vice - versa why would a straight couple want to play with me ? That's simply preference not prejudice as it for me would limit the play and ultimately the potential fun.

If you have a chip on your shoulder it will burden you in life. I'm only interested in people who share my mindset. Some are only interested in no strings fun with literally anyone game, each to their own.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

So you don't think people should be challenged when their "choice" is based on prejudice? That's the exact reason why racism, sexism, homophobia etc. will always exist, because people are happy to say "it's just someone's choice or preference, just move on".

I've never encountered a couple saying no to me because I'm bi, mainly because I know anyone who puts that on their profile is ignorant and therefore I wouldn't get on with them anyway. My point is that it's a shame that it is 2021 we are still happy to just accept these "preferences".

Ok so let's say I'm a massively racist homophobe. I won't fuck bisexual men of X race.

What are you going to do about it? Force me to fuck them?"

I've not seen that scenario in porn yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Way I see it as a bi man, they're not looking for me and I'm making no apologies for who I am so nobody is missing out. I'd only ever want to meet people where whatever happened was mutually enjoyable

Well said.

No matter the reason for a preference, its a choice and why would you want sex with someone who chooses not to want sex with you ?

Whether the reason is aesthetic, a phobia, an "ism", or any other factor makes no difference.

They don't want you, so unless you want to lie or force them....?

As for bi men, some women love them and some I have spoken to find their sexuality less masculine.

Agree or disagree its their perception. Their choice.

Find the ones that like bi men.

Simples

So you don't think people should be challenged when their "choice" is based on prejudice? That's the exact reason why racism, sexism, homophobia etc. will always exist, because people are happy to say "it's just someone's choice or preference, just move on".

I've never encountered a couple saying no to me because I'm bi, mainly because I know anyone who puts that on their profile is ignorant and therefore I wouldn't get on with them anyway. My point is that it's a shame that it is 2021 we are still happy to just accept these "preferences".

Ok so let's say I'm a massively racist homophobe. I won't fuck bisexual men of X race.

What are you going to do about it? Force me to fuck them?

I've not seen that scenario in porn yet. "

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"What's your rationale behind not meeting smokers? Is it logical? Do you think they're going to force you to smoke? Do you think all smokers are smelly? "

We avoid smokers wherever possible. It's a 99% guarentee of me ending up with thrush if they finger me. Then costs me £15 to sort it out. Bactria on their hands is what I put it down too. So logical to us. Happened too many times for us to ignore.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable. "

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Well put and pretty true tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no bi men simply makes men lie to you. You still get bi men, just ones who are careful what they say to you.

Say you love bi men and they’re more likely to admit they’re bi even if there their profile says straight m, then you can just turn them down if it bothers you so much.

The amount of ‘no bi men’ profiles I see with veris from secretly bi men is laughable.

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Well put and pretty true tbf

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Another one to add to OP's list. Bi men lie about their sexuality to get a shag. Likely they would lie about anything to get a shag. Marital status. STI status. Etc etc

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"What's your rationale behind not meeting smokers? Is it logical? Do you think they're going to force you to smoke? Do you think all smokers are smelly? "

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Brilliant

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"

Are there degrees of biness

There are many degrees of bisexuality, from simple curiosity to full blown (excuse the pun) sex.

I class myself as bisexual, but I do not fancy men in the way I would fancy a woman. It is purely a sex thing. On a bisexual scale of one to ten I'd say I was a seven.

In my opinion, a man who wants to have a sexual liaison with his female partner and another man has to be somewhere on the scale, even if it's only a one.

I've had quite a few mmf meets where the man claimed to be straight, but I ultimately enjoyed being sucked by him."

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Great Post/reasons/thought

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

Question?

Are there not enough BLOCK OPTIONS on fab to allow those who do not wish to meet any person of any sexuality if they so wish.

"So why state it"

Apart from the hidden ones maybe lol?

Or am I wrong.

T

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