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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are so many people keen to chat for a couple of days gain your trust exchange pics and friends request then ignore you totally.

Has happened to me on more than one occasion now and getting rather fed up with it!!!!!

Have heard single men are timewasters not so sure now?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Some of us take a while to get to know someone before deciding whether to meet or not. You have had two weeks at this. I have been chatting to some people for two months and not met them.

I have also given up on some people who can't get a date together after I have agreed to meet (they usually turn out to be the 'love the chase but don't want the meets' type). Some, diaries are difficult to co-ordinate. Others say something stupid that makes me re-evaluate why I managed to let them through in the first place.

You can only control what you do, who you choose to contact and how you correspond with them. You cannot know what is going on in their lives and what their motivations are.

Have a bit of patience and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that. But it would be nice to know if they still would,like to chat or are just doing it to boost their friends list and egos?

Genuinely want to meet people but dont want to be messed around like this?

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By *r nobodyMan
over a year ago

salford

I know the feeling

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"I know the feeling"

+1

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

Que sera sera

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of us take a while to get to know someone before deciding whether to meet or not. You have had two weeks at this. I have been chatting to some people for two months and not met them.

I have also given up on some people who can't get a date together after I have agreed to meet (they usually turn out to be the 'love the chase but don't want the meets' type). Some, diaries are difficult to co-ordinate. Others say something stupid that makes me re-evaluate why I managed to let them through in the first place.

You can only control what you do, who you choose to contact and how you correspond with them. You cannot know what is going on in their lives and what their motivations are.

Have a bit of patience and good luck."

If someone won't take the time for me to feel comfortable, I'm not going to meet them. Sometimes it doesn't take long, sometimes it does. Sometimes I feel like meeting, sometimes I go a while without wanting to.

If someone tries to push me to meet faster than I am happy to, or tries to persuade me to meet them at a time I've said I can't, or won't do, then they just blew their chance.

I'm not just here for chat, but I am also not going to jump into bed with anyone who asks, no matter how good their photos are.

And if someone isn't happy to meet me somewhere public before we consider playing, then I won't meet them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it would be nice to know if they still would,like to chat or are just doing it to boost their friends list"

Nobody female here needs to even try to boost their friends list! Certainly if they're chatting to you, it's not for that reason.

I am very selective who I add to my friends list. I get a lot of requests from horny guys who want to see more of my pics though - many of whom don't even bother to message me first - so I wouldn't need to chat to anyone to boost my friends list, if that was what I wanted.

I can't know for sure, but my guess is the people you're chatting to are picking up on your impatience and it's driving them away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of us take a while to get to know someone before deciding whether to meet or not. You have had two weeks at this. I have been chatting to some people for two months and not met them.

I have also given up on some people who can't get a date together after I have agreed to meet (they usually turn out to be the 'love the chase but don't want the meets' type). Some, diaries are difficult to co-ordinate. Others say something stupid that makes me re-evaluate why I managed to let them through in the first place.

You can only control what you do, who you choose to contact and how you correspond with them. You cannot know what is going on in their lives and what their motivations are.

Have a bit of patience and good luck."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always taken time to get to know those people we meet but there have been several that over time you can tell are never going to meet. We don't hate set timescale spencer have met for drinks after a short time others it's been ages. But those who shy away from meeting I tend to forget and move on. I'm sure some are married and find it tough to get out of house. Some I think like the fantasy but reality too much for them. Have had at least 2 admit after months of chatting that they won't be comfortable meeting me as a couple only if I decide to meet alone which is a major rule that everyone knows from day one

I usually get a vibe for those dragging their feet and just don't waste my time.

Having said that we have had single guys call us time wasters cause we wouldn't meet ASAP after a few days chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of us take a while to get to know someone before deciding whether to meet or not. You have had two weeks at this. I have been chatting to some people for two months and not met them.

I have also given up on some people who can't get a date together after I have agreed to meet (they usually turn out to be the 'love the chase but don't want the meets' type). Some, diaries are difficult to co-ordinate. Others say something stupid that makes me re-evaluate why I managed to let them through in the first place.

You can only control what you do, who you choose to contact and how you correspond with them. You cannot know what is going on in their lives and what their motivations are.

Have a bit of patience and good luck.

If someone won't take the time for me to feel comfortable, I'm not going to meet them. Sometimes it doesn't take long, sometimes it does. Sometimes I feel like meeting, sometimes I go a while without wanting to.

If someone tries to push me to meet faster than I am happy to, or tries to persuade me to meet them at a time I've said I can't, or won't do, then they just blew their chance.

I'm not just here for chat, but I am also not going to jump into bed with anyone who asks, no matter how good their photos are.

And if someone isn't happy to meet me somewhere public before we consider playing, then I won't meet them at all."

Hell yeah!!

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By *andyguy59Man
over a year ago

Gatwick

"Why are so many people keen to chat for a couple of days gain your trust exchange pics and friends request then ignore you totally.

Has happened to me on more than one occasion now and getting rather fed up with it!!!!!

Have heard single men are timewasters not so sure now?"

Don't be in such a hurry. chat and get to know people. That is how you will get to meet them. Most people won't meet you unless they feel there is some form of connection and attraction so you have to get to at least that stage first. It can take months before someone decides they want to meet or not. If they decide no then that is their decision and you will have to learn to accept that.

I do agree though that if someone loses interest in you that they would just tell you and not just start ignoring you. At least that way you know where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And sometimes they can be genuine n want to meet but sometimes life gets in the way, they hav to arrange childcare, work is hectic etc ie bin chattin to someone I want to meet but I'm in the process of moving house so just don't hae the time free to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the more you chat to people the more likely they are to bottle out if I am horny then I want to meet and I love spontaneous meets few emails swap numbers chat on phone easy peasy lemon squeezy

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"And sometimes they can be genuine n want to meet but sometimes life gets in the way, they hav to arrange childcare, work is hectic etc ie bin chattin to someone I want to meet but I'm in the process of moving house so just don't hae the time free to do so "

yes life gets in the way i agree but did you just ignore the person you wanted to meet or send them a message explaning nows not the best time???

which is the point i think the op was trying to making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And sometimes they can be genuine n want to meet but sometimes life gets in the way, they hav to arrange childcare, work is hectic etc ie bin chattin to someone I want to meet but I'm in the process of moving house so just don't hae the time free to do so

yes life gets in the way i agree but did you just ignore the person you wanted to meet or send them a message explaning nows not the best time???

which is the point i think the op was trying to making "

Agreed, I was stood up today....no big deal but could have let me know is all, people change their mind for all kinds of reasons but at least have the balls to say so thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are so many people keen to chat for a couple of days gain your trust exchange pics and friends request then ignore you totally.

Has happened to me on more than one occasion now and getting rather fed up with it!!!!!

Have heard single men are timewasters not so sure now?

"

The colloquial term for the is that they are a member of 'N.A.T.O'.

No.Action.Talk.Only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys who are successful (with us anyway) have to show some patience. We want to know them before a play so get put off by them pushing and also by them saying things that just plain turn us off in chat. That's why sometimes couples can chat for a bit and then go a bit cool as it could quite literally be something you said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horses for courses

Personally I love a bit of banter and the getting to know a person so I'd HATE to have a no-talk all action kinda meet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Horses for courses

Personally I love a bit of banter and the getting to know a person so I'd HATE to have a no-talk all action kinda meet!!"

Not sure if this comes across as sarchastic at all, certainly isn't meant to be!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think there's just a lot of silly wee girls on here................. posing as 40 and 50 year old women!!!

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