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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

should a single guy have to lower his standards in order to meet people? Is this part and parcel of being a single guy or should they remain true to their standards?

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

With that sort of attitude I suggest you give up.

You won’t make any friends here.

OKC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly wouldn't meet anyone who considered that they were lowering their standards to have me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what you are getting at here my friend, but I'm not sure that your way of thinking will go down very well with the general membership of the site ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone has standards i think, but if yr prepared to lower them then i guess yr not here for the love of sex etc etc, but here just to get yrself an easy lay?????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea lower them,. even mingers need loving hahahaha

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

If you don't feel people are not up to your standard...then you wouldn't feel comfortable...then it would be no fun for the other party also...unless you are just looking for easy sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea lower them,. even mingers need loving hahahaha"

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea lower them,. even mingers need loving hahahaha"

Very good lol

I'm just happy that others are glad to lower their standards to meet me!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

this isnt my stance, it is just a question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on .... single men have standards wow that's where I was going wrong

oh come on it's a joke, I didn't mean to offend you all :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To thine own self be true is the old saying

But please remember this each and everyone of us has good and bad points

It depends on what you base your standards

Good luck with your search you my need it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pmsl...

I hope the other foot is ok... you might need it now you shot yourself in the other pmsl..

Ouch....

Funny though....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

lol I am so nicking that!!!!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"yea lower them,. even mingers need loving hahahaha"

i am so nicking that..... i am getting use the controls around here again!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

this is bad, my other foot is still recovering from my last post...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"this is bad, my other foot is still recovering from my last post..."

wheelchair required for beast101! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ladder required to climb out of the hole i just dug...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot will depend on what you use to define the term standards.

If outside the swinging community you like women from a particular age group, body size, race, hair colour etc that you normally try to meet with, possibly with a view to nsa casual sex or for a more long term relationship then I would suggest you are probably going to have to review (much nicer way of putting it) your standards when looking for fun in here.

I doubt you will find anyone who would argue against the fact that within the swinging community there are people who simply enjoy sex and are happy to enjoy it with pretty much most folk they meet. Doesn’t make them bad people they are simply doing what they like.

There are also people who through personal choice like to play with folks their own age, or similar sized, or don’t smoke or whatever but they have decided they will only play with folk who fit their particular bill. Doesn’t make them bad people they are just doing what they like.

There is also a perception that there are single guys and women out there that would fuck a spider if they knew which leg to lift. Doesn’t make them bad people either they are just doing what they like.

You simply have to decide which of the above fits the bill for you but if you are a single guy and you want lots of fun I would suggest that an expansion of your search pattern is the simplest course of action.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

lets spin it around a bit ,if we put you amongst the what, say 2000+ guys on this site ....would you expect women or couples ...or other men if thats your thing to lower there standards to meet you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"should a single guy have to lower his standards in order to meet people? Is this part and parcel of being a single guy or should they remain true to their standards?"

Perhaps the question is will people drop their standards to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

your missing my point, a couple/single girl never have to lower their standars because there is a lot o choice for them, couples willing to meet them etc.

For single guys (not that i am complianing) there is less of a response as most couples and single fems get irritated by them.

All i was wondering is if single guys should feel obliged to take any chance that comes their way...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

You should'nt feel obliged to do anything that you're not happy with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well going by your profile we've already established that you don't want to meet BBW's or women over 45.

Why not be a bit more specific as to what type of woman you do want to meet?

Are you saying you've been contacted by women who don't fit your ideal but feel obliged to meet them?

Or are you not getting meets, so feel you have to cast your net further than you'd like?

Trace & Ric

XXXX

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"your missing my point, a couple/single girl never have to lower their standars because there is a lot o choice for them, couples willing to meet them etc.

For single guys (not that i am complianing) there is less of a response as most couples and single fems get irritated by them.

All i was wondering is if single guys should feel obliged to take any chance that comes their way..."

i think your use of the word ..."standards" is an unfortunate one ...i never see ...standards ...i see people and if i have a rapport with them and they with me then hopefully we move forward ...

if you mean you judge women by purely their looks rather than personality ...well the decision to have sex with someone you find unattractive is up to you ....but physically you either find someone attractive or you do not. surely it does not come in varying degrees ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love how thi thread has made me look like a desperate looser! lol

I agree, standards was probably a poor choice of word. I am actually not worried about meeting not enough people, it was just a general point that most men probably have to go out on a limb more in terms of meets than couples or single fems (and understandably.

Whilst i cannot say that looks are not important, personality is key. I am lucky enough to have met with polite, witty and laid back couples thusfar which has been great.

It actually enjoy chatting online/by phone but this is seen as timewasting by many, which i feel is a bit of a pity.

I dont really know where i am going with this tbh, lol. Sorry for the essay!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"I love how thi thread has made me look like a desperate looser! lol

I agree, standards was probably a poor choice of word. I am actually not worried about meeting not enough people, it was just a general point that most men probably have to go out on a limb more in terms of meets than couples or single fems (and understandably.

Whilst i cannot say that looks are not important, personality is key. I am lucky enough to have met with polite, witty and laid back couples thusfar which has been great.

It actually enjoy chatting online/by phone but this is seen as timewasting by many, which i feel is a bit of a pity.

I dont really know where i am going with this tbh, lol. Sorry for the essay!"

lol ...its not your day is it .,...what do you mean go out on a limb ....in what way do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the problem is, the more i explain, the more it sounds like one of those 'it is so tough being a single guy' pieces of bullshit!

going out on a limb as in u r expected not to ask too many q's or take too long to decide to meet someone without being deemed a 'timewaster'.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"the problem is, the more i explain, the more it sounds like one of those 'it is so tough being a single guy' pieces of bullshit!

going out on a limb as in u r expected not to ask too many q's or take too long to decide to meet someone without being deemed a 'timewaster'."

Ahhh got you now ...what will be will be mate .....there is no need to take your time in finding out what sort of people they are .

One thing i will say is if your meeting a couple ...then get to know them as a couple do not concentrate just on the woman ...

You appear to have a mature understanding for a 22 yr old but as you yourself have identified, you have not put it across very well ....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still think its funny....

Sorry....

I can feel the squirming and the wishing he'd shut up from here lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

this thread is off the unintentional comedy scale...

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"I still think its funny....

Sorry....

I can feel the squirming and the wishing he'd shut up from here lol..."

he he he yeah but he is taking it well ....he has at least realised ....good job the posse were not about in strength lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lifes short dont look at things too deep just get on with it

If a couple or single female really want to get you into their bed and there are things you like about them and things you dont

Then just do it you may be very suprised

As you get older you realise that beauty is only skin deep personality goes a long way to a good time.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Everyone has standards they just differ from one person to another. Noone no matter who it is should lower there standards.

Also id hate to be the person you lowered your standards for.

Have some respect for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"should a single guy have to lower his standards in order to meet people? Is this part and parcel of being a single guy or should they remain true to their standards?"

Absolutely not! Singe guys have as much right to have fun with those they WANT to meet because they like them, as anyone else does. Remain true to your standards otherwise there is no point in meeting anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea lower them,. even mingers need loving hahahaha

Very good lol

I'm just happy that others are glad to lower their standards to meet me!!!"

You mean people actually MEET you, hehehehehehe

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By *eviousLiasonsCouple
over a year ago

Travelling


"yea lower them,. even mingers need loving hahahaha

i am so nicking that..... i am getting use the controls around here again!!!!"

Welcome back to the madhouse Fabio!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I wouldn't dream of meeting anyone who had lowered their standards in order to get laid.

Everyone has preferences, us included, so us not being on someones preference list doesn't offend us, but that certainly would.

lmao at kitty, I nearly choked on my cornflakes then !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

omg rugby how could u edit ur post lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I didn't babe......I deleted it by accident so had to write the bugger again !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL i thuoght u was hiding the edit button lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No lol I not got one either.

Anyway, I just leave mine with mistakes on too, who cares , no one takes any notice of them anyway ;-P

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

See !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read this thread with interest as I see similarities between this question and my “Perfect 10” thread.

I asked “what makes a perfect 10?” and “What is the lowest score you would shag?”

Most agreed that the score (if they did it) was a combination between looks and personality.

The lowest shagable score was a “7”

It’s pretty much asking what peoples standards are, how they are measured and how low would they go.

Now, the reason I post that thread is that I sent my picture to a man who DID interest me, he’s face picture looked like someone I could find attractive and I liked his banter in the email correspondence. I received a mail back, saying I was a “6.5”

“6.5”…………ONLY a “6.5”………..and he still wanted to shag me, WHY?? I thought would you want to shag someone that you did not find any more attractive then a “6.5”….Baring in mind that these are individual and very subjective scores based on a persons own individual STANDARDS!

Personally I don’t read mails and ACTUALLY score them, but I do need to have a rapour with a person, I need to see what they look like because I like a particular look, and if I don’t feel like there is a connection after a few emails/phone calls then I will not take it any further, if that is having a certain standard then I am guilty as charged, but I don’t see the point of doing something that i dont feel good about. I wont enjoy it and neither would the meet.

My final observation so far is that the OP is being vilified for asking a similar question to mine, albeit in a (already acknowledge) poorly worded way, and yet on my thread no one slated me for mentioning scores/standards ect……is it because I’m a girl I wonder???

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think everyone should have preferences or "standards " if you want to call them that instead.

We are like you, not really sure how we get to them and don't score anyone ( which is why I didn't add to your thread) but in this game, if someone doesn't interest us after an odd chat/mail etc then we don't take it further.

But I (mrs) still wouldnt want anyone to want to meet us because they can't get laid for that night from a 20 something model looking type girl.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"doing something that i dont feel good about. I wont enjoy it and neither would the meet.

My final observation so far is that the OP is being vilified for asking a similar question to mine, albeit in a (already acknowledge) poorly worded way, and yet on my thread no one slated me for mentioning scores/standards ect……is it because I’m a girl I wonder???

"

Well i dont think he was particularly vilified but it was pointed out his choice of words were not perhaps well chosen...i had not seen this reply before i had written on your other post and i have commented on yours in a similar way to this thread.

I am glad that these days anyone can post a thread like this without getting the usual ...wanker ...or loser comments designed to humiliate that used to go on before.Remember when the TV asked a question and was "vilified" so much so he not only left the forum but left the site

Parts of this thread have either tried to point out what could be offensive to some posters because of how it was phrased,not because of the question it asked .Other parts have tried to put there views re the question.

I think the forum is a nicer place now and i hope the op carries on contributing often.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the response guys, it was interesting. I am glad some people were standing up for me!

Personally, my favourite response was the first one: 'you wont make any friends here' that made me chuckle as I already have.

Long may the debate continue...

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"Thanks for the response guys, it was interesting. I am glad some people were standing up for me!

Personally, my favourite response was the first one: 'you wont make any friends here' that made me chuckle as I already have.

Long may the debate continue..."

i thought you handled it well for what its worth to ya ...

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