FabSwingers.com forum: Being nice

By *orns OP Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

Why is it that the nicer you are and the more respectful you are, most of these ladies either blow you out, ghost you or chat for weeks then disappear? I am old school in my ways, treat women with courtesy and respect..but it seems all that is wasted as most only respond to disrespect and rudeness. I can guarantee that if I send anyone one here a nice message it will be blanked but send a bitchy fucked up one and it will be answered with a rant!

Senseless all this

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

So dont send bitchy fucked up ones

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By *orns OP Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"So dont send bitchy fucked up ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep being you, don’t change yourself to suit the tastes of a bunch of strangers you’re unlikely to meet. The right person will come along at some point.

There needs to be an element of acceptance that being ghosted, ignored, etc happens. It’s also a case that no amount of writing about how it shouldn’t happen, will change it. You can only change how you react to it.

I find indifference works for me brilliantly if I’m on the receiving end of such behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how you feel and I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure you're being nice and respectful?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I don't reply if I am not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is really getting tedious now.

Bro you are one of a hundred thousand (maybe more) and as such you are a disposable commodity. I realise the last comment will cause the Fab righteous to disagree but stay with me.

For every couple or lady seeking a single chap for Yuletide festive fun there are hundreds of said single chaps within the locale willing to oblige. The competition is immense and those on the dance floor can pick and choose. Sometimes, more often than not you will not be chosen to step forth and spread the Fab lurve.

Take up philately is sounds as horny as hell and it will keep you occupied over the festive period!

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"I don't reply if I am not interested.

If I do it opens up filters for future messages. For example if I wanted to hide my profile or change my age/preference filters Every Tom Dick and Harry I've said a polite no thanks too can still message despite the filters being changed. "
Very good point never thought of that, going to have to start not replying, thanks for pointing this out.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

It’s still better to be nice than be a c**t though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that the nicer you are and the more respectful you are, most of these ladies either blow you out, ghost you or chat for weeks then disappear? I am old school in my ways, treat women with courtesy and respect..but it seems all that is wasted as most only respond to disrespect and rudeness. I can guarantee that if I send anyone one here a nice message it will be blanked but send a bitchy fucked up one and it will be answered with a rant!

Senseless all this "

I am exactly the same. Even get to the point where we agree to meet up and then nothing. Completely ghosted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s still better to be nice than be a c**t though

Your c**t is actually a cunt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s still better to be nice than be a c**t though

Well said. Being nice and courteous costs nothing. If everyone was like that the world would be a much happier place.

Just ignore the rude and nasty ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respectful means different things to different people. I certainly don't respond to anything disrespectful or 'bad boy' attitude, there's nothing wrong with being nice.

That being said, as long as the message is genuine.. if someone's definition of nice is telling me I'm the most beautiful thing on the planet, roses come out my arsehole and I'm their only desire on fab.. TSome guys might see that as nice, but it's not genuine.

Keep doing you and I'm sure you will find the right people eventually

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"It’s still better to be nice than be a c**t though

Your c**t is actually a cunt?"

Thanks I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is really getting tedious now.

Bro you are one of a hundred thousand (maybe more) and as such you are a disposable commodity. I realise the last comment will cause the Fab righteous to disagree but stay with me.

Take up philately is sounds as horny as hell and it will keep you occupied over the festive period!"

In a PM one of the fab followers said my post (above) was totally uncalled for and that if a couldn’t say anything nice I shouldn’t say it at all.

Ironically I thought was.........being nice.

So to pacify the PM to the OP can I just say

Awwwwwww

Virtual Hugs

And in the spirit of the forthcoming winter solstice May I add this quote from Caesar as he lay mortally wounded on the steps of the forum

“Nil illigitimi despardo carburundum”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s still better to be nice than be a c**t though

Your c**t is actually a cunt?

Thanks I think

It could have been clot?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Someone sending a message being nice and respectful towards them is the absolute bare minimum anyone would or should expect when they are receiving a message on here. The bare minimum is not going to be any guarantee of favourable response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s just life, don’t let it bother you

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By *iceGuyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just be nice and patient all the time! Sometimes you want to give all your best, write a long and nice message with a fully description and you might get nothing in return and Sometimes you just click on with a person instantly just with a simple joke or "hey"

I honestly think that all depends how every person feels at that moment as they might have a good or a bad day !

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By *orns OP Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"Are you sure you're being nice and respectful?"

I definitely am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only answer polite and friendly messages. Anything like fancy a meet fancy a fuck or just hi get deleted

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By *orns OP Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"This is really getting tedious now.

Bro you are one of a hundred thousand (maybe more) and as such you are a disposable commodity. I realise the last comment will cause the Fab righteous to disagree but stay with me.

Take up philately is sounds as horny as hell and it will keep you occupied over the festive period!"

I hear you..however its not a festive thing. Most profiles here ask for politeness and courtesy. But the truth is way too often the opposite. As said I am old school and refuse to take part in gutter talk, albeit it seems that is the order of the day. Please excuse me selfishness where you are thinking this is tedious as I very rarely speak or post in here.

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By *orns OP Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"It’s still better to be nice than be a c**t though

Very true

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Same in life ..

Why do bad boys always have stunning girlfriends?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

This may come as a shock but its likely they are just not that into you and its got sfa to do with how you approach them!

Just because you think you want to meet them and you'd be a match doesn't mean the feeling is mutual

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