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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother with sex if I don't feel lust. So long as you're not getting confused between love and lust, is there a problem?

Sex without lust - I might as well stay at home for a wank...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes its really possible not to have any feelings...other than the fun at the time..not on the wrong site as some want it....but then they are the ones commonly upset easily when they dont understand, its primarily aimed at a no-strings based sexual encounters bunch of folk.

eyes off my wife please...unless ur pumping her

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend

You look like a really nice bloke lol! I agree with the other comment that if there is lust then the sex is much better!!! Great attraction and you want them bad!! If you find that your becoming attached then you need a partner for long term not just a play mate

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

It's very easy to have sex with no feelings for the other person. I can enjoy the sex act and not fancy the guy at all.

It's people who put all the emphasis on feelings. Sex is there to be enjoyed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

again I agree its definately possible to not have feelings, you're always going to like/be attracted to some meets more than others for a number of different reasons.

Really depends what you're looking for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you I'm starting to understand, I get the lust feeling it is hard to explain you get into animal mode but it must be mutual, if one party is just mechanical it's crap and u feel that. I have had empty sex with women an couples on ths site and else where but when you click its special and fulfilling I am so note rested in the ladies side I am so unsure of your side especially the single girls

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx"

Depends what you mean by feelings?

I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good

Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx

Depends what you mean by feelings?

I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good

Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them"

You've put it so much better than I did

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx

Depends what you mean by feelings?

I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good

Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them"

Well put! Sex without feelings of attraction can be done but it's rubbish and it's hard to even be turned on by it. When we define attractiveness, personality is the thing that attracts me more than the physical things but that isn't the same thing as the emotional attachment of a real couple.

Swinging buddies are for the weekend, your wife is for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx"

It's a piece of piss for me, I don't have any feelings full stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very easy to have sex with no feelings for the other person. I can enjoy the sex act and not fancy the guy at all.

It's people who put all the emphasis on feelings. Sex is there to be enjoyed. "

Couldnt just shag anyone there has to be at least some sort of attraction be it physical or mental we arent looking fpr relationships but couldnt just have sex with someone who doesnt at least make us twitch

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx

Depends what you mean by feelings?

I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good

Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them"

This!

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

We enjoy sex - sometimes in the heat of the moment we do things with people we've never spoken to before, it can be exciting, spontaneous and serves a purpose. These experiences are fun, but shallow if you get what i mean?

Usually though we swing with people we have a connection with ie we've had a laugh with, get on with and those experiences are usually a lot "fuller".

All have their place. To us swinging and therefore sex with others, is a hobby we both enjoy. It could just as easily be bowling! - neither of us ever get jealous as its has no bearing on how we feel about each other.

We've both found something we both enjoy doing as a couple.

While we love the company of others and class some people we've met as friends there has never been any emotional compromise. It is what it is - damn good fun!! So enjoy it!!

D&K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes sex with someone else is just sex.sex with partner is making love, two totally different things,but its very rare that we will play with someone twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well nowt wrong with kissing and getting passionate etc, but dont really mean you have feelings for them, like people said its probs lust, and if its not then there is something missing from your life u probs need to find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're recently experienced a guy who developed emotional feelings towards Mrs R! We initially had two meets with a couple, it was clear to me that he wanted more but without me being present (I am the Mr ) Days and weeks of continual text messages which culminated in us inviting them to visit (different excuses every time) and then him asking the mrs to meet him and possibly his mrs on her own! He also got very pissy if we had meets with others!

It felt like a good kick in the teeth as we had paid half their travel expenses (a whole 10 quid LOL) provided food and drink for a whole weekend (takeaways) So for a weekend of fun their outlay was £10! He expected me to pay for mrs to visit them and cover any expenses too as they are broke!

Our last contact with them was a text slanging match because i told them to Fook off as we only play as a couple, incidently their profile said the same! So i assume csome people find it hard to seperate having fun from relationships!

In essense after more no shows and a couple of bad experiences it has almost put us off meeting, Mrs has even suggested using escorts for fun! At least you know they'll turn up and not want emotional involvement!

Our 2 bobs worth rant over, I'm stepping off the soap box now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just come out of a long term relationship. Too much to just plaster on here so initially i'm enjoying the single part of no strings sex.

However I do enjoy seeing people regularly if they want to. Have at least one fwb still(others have found relationships). I can do all the kissing/cuddling/friendship side of things aside from just sex but i'm very clear in my mind that I don't want to jump from one relationship right into another. I always spell that out so as not to lead anyone on that way and people tend to appreciate the honesty.

So yeah, it is possible to split the emotional side as long as you're clear in your own mind what you want and don't want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sexy mates

I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party.

I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only.

Comments welcome

Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site.

Xxxx"

Some can have no feelings at all but in general I think you have to have the 'like' feeling. If you are talking emotional attachment then yes its not that hard but we are a couple and so not looking to have any deep emotional attachments to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings?

Sometimes, if I'm in a romantic frame of mind, I might feel them up abut before I shove it up but normally I'm not bothered about going in dry

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

gotta be attracted to the person of course but not really an emotional kinda person at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need nothing but a hard cock.. At clubs I don't even need to fancy them.. unless I am going to kiss them which is rare.

I am quite capable of having no feelings and even regular meets I don't really have anything to do with except when I want a fuck.

Cali

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sex with / without feelings.

Humans have feelings, it's just that the emotions we experience, and how we interpret them, can all be different, person to person.

Some are phased by somethings happening, whilst others would hardly notice a thing.

There are some people who often get involved romantically at the drop of a hat, and this can bring pain as well as pleasure for them.

Learning how to understand yourself, including your emotions, is an aspect of wisdom/intelligence, in my book. Learning how to manage your emotional state - and I don't mean being cold and calcuating, nor ignoring your feelings - is a great tool for us as adults. Children will cry, get elated, hurt etc, with little control, but adults usually temper things, as well as seek out appropriate partners to develop mutually sympathetic emotional connections with.

If one person kind of feels over-lovey, and the other doesn't, then it can be something that pushes one of them away.

So, it's probably more natural for you, the poster, to seek out partners where you can feel connected, but to sustain emotions there that are intimate, passionate but not the first springs of romantic/love connections. This could partly help you, as well as your partners get more out of the sex that you're having.

If these emotions have any message within them, such as wanting a more meaningful partnership, then listen, as if we ignore our own needs often, they likely won't just vanish away. Good luck!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I quite often enjoy passionate, sensual, tender, tactile sex……. but it is just sex.

I may like a person’s character.

I may fancy the arse off of them.

But it is just sex…… a series of physical sensations…….. and what fucking brilliant sensations they are.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex with / without feelings.

Humans have feelings, it's just that the emotions we experience, and how we interpret them, can all be different, person to person.

Some are phased by somethings happening, whilst others would hardly notice a thing.

There are some people who often get involved romantically at the drop of a hat, and this can bring pain as well as pleasure for them.

Learning how to understand yourself, including your emotions, is an aspect of wisdom/intelligence, in my book. Learning how to manage your emotional state - and I don't mean being cold and calcuating, nor ignoring your feelings - is a great tool for us as adults. Children will cry, get elated, hurt etc, with little control, but adults usually temper things, as well as seek out appropriate partners to develop mutually sympathetic emotional connections with.

If one person kind of feels over-lovey, and the other doesn't, then it can be something that pushes one of them away.

So, it's probably more natural for you, the poster, to seek out partners where you can feel connected, but to sustain emotions there that are intimate, passionate but not the first springs of romantic/love connections. This could partly help you, as well as your partners get more out of the sex that you're having.

If these emotions have any message within them, such as wanting a more meaningful partnership, then listen, as if we ignore our own needs often, they likely won't just vanish away. Good luck!"

Eloquently put but there are also some of us who don't have feelings in any shape or form, so couldn't give a flying fuck about any of that clap trap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me you need to have some sort of connection or chemistry with someone before i jump into bed with someone, if i wanted to do that then thats what the pub and nightclub pulling is for lol

i think its all down to your personnel feelings and opinions, in a nutshell x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were only chatting about this last night. D has to have a connection with a guy before she is comfortable to play with them. I'm probably opposite as I don't really need/want to develop to a friendship. It's just a bit of fun for me to watch D have fun. Same if it were a single lady.

With a couple I think it is a lot easier if all parties get on and can chat and have a laugh.

Wonder what that says about us lol???????

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