FabSwingers.com forum: Too much detail!

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

OMG! I have just read a verification and I couldn’t help but cringed at the details it included (and the appalling typing lol).

What sort of thing in a verification puts you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ones typed by themselves using another profile???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

inimate details.....ewww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmm i dunno, some of mine are a bit graphic lol ... think i'd prefer it if they said ... makes a nice cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like you polo ...I can't take to the ones that are too graphic and intimate, and ppl that verify each other every other day bugs me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Too much detail

I prefer a mysterious verification that makes me want to find out more about the person

having said that I hide mine so you can't get more mysterious than that

To be fair though we all go for different things and someone that has rocked the socks off of one person might not give me the slightest tingle and vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

less is sometimes more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, too much detail and graphic, almost blow-by-blow account of the meet is unnecessary, imho, and more often sounds like someone on an ego trip!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

going OTT in their praise of who they have met...lets face it 9/10 times they are only going to see this person the once and on 1 meet they are the best thing ever ....and how do the other couples they have met feel, when they read that "she was the best shag gave the best BJ ever"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only ever show social verifications think the sex ones private just for me to look at lol and smile quietly to myself he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IM quite fussy about who i meet and it always puts me off when i see loads and loads of verifications in a short space of time . i want the person im going to meet to be a little fussy themselves ? ooh and if they have met a real minger that puts me off too !!! sorry but it does....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to say tho ive only seen one minger on a guys verification ....most of the ladies on FAB are FAB !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IM quite fussy about who i meet and it always puts me off when i see loads and loads of verifications in a short space of time . i want the person im going to meet to be a little fussy themselves ? ooh and if they have met a real minger that puts me off too !!! sorry but it does...."

funny enough whilst i admit we aint going to win on body or beauty contests we always look at verifications to see the type of couples the couple we are lookign at meet up with, and sometimes you do wonder..!! why??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know ...honestly i had to message this guy and tell him to take her verification off his profile !!!! Then he said well actually i never met her she just said she would verify me !!! What to beleive ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never get any..

If we were to get any we'd just want the basics though... Nothing to graphic.. Not much need as no one takes any notice anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't it be better to mention verifications at some point with the other person you meet? You could just say you'll be leaving them a verification and if they would like to leave you one then could you write it in a non graphic way. Communication is a great thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We never get any..

If we were to get any we'd just want the basics though... Nothing to graphic.. Not much need as no one takes any notice anyway..

we'd be happy to meet up and put a verfication on your profile....lol

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Wouldn't it be better to mention verifications at some point with the other person you meet? You could just say you'll be leaving them a verification and if they would like to leave you one then could you write it in a non graphic way. Communication is a great thing! "

I'm not really bothered if they write one or not - and I'd prefer to see what they have chosen to write rather than what I've asked them to write... after all I can choose not to show it.

I just wonder why some people choose to display some of the stuff... can they not see even though it is someone else's words it reflects on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really bothered if they write one or not - and I'd prefer to see what they have chosen to write rather than what I've asked them to write... after all I can choose not to show it.

I just wonder why some people choose to display some of the stuff... can they not see even though it is someone else's words it reflects on them

But reflecting on them is surely a good thing, as we get a better idea on who takes our fancy and who doesn't, if we all had the same we may not know until it's a little too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also on a slighty different subject wouldnt it be possible for the authour to be able to remove a verifaction he/she has writtern after he has sent it...as only the member who recived it can currenty remove it once it has been posted ..unless i'm mistaken

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Like you polo ...I can't take to the ones that are too graphic and intimate, and ppl that verify each other every other day bugs me too.

Oh the diary version of verifications lol... I guess it helps some people keep track of who they humped when, what they tried this time round and so on

I sometimes wonder if people do a verification everytime they meet the same person in an attempt to send out a message of "hands off they are my regular". I can understand updating a verification from time to time once someone has proved to be reliable or has now been to a party or club and behaved so have been in a new situation... but to post one everytime you have a shag???? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really bothered if they write one or not - and I'd prefer to see what they have chosen to write rather than what I've asked them to write... after all I can choose not to show it.

I just wonder why some people choose to display some of the stuff... can they not see even though it is someone else's words it reflects on them

I know exactly what you mean!

From my own personal observations many people on here do tend to have the need to brag about their sexual encounters. This happenes within the chatrooms, forums AND on peoples profiles. I'm sure alot of people don't really care about what their verifications actually contain as long as they have a long list of them!

I agree with you though, i hate all those tacky, graphic descriptions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you though, i hate all those tacky, graphic descriptions! "

Yeah, all we need to know is if the burd swallows or not, best to be sure eh.

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

"Like you polo ...I can't take to the ones that are too graphic and intimate, and ppl that verify each other every other day bugs me too.

Oh the diary version of verifications lol... I guess it helps some people keep track of who they humped when, what they tried this time round and so on

It's that by way of convincing

themselves that someone (anyone!) still wants to shag them and, as such, their otherwise empty life has meaning

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Like you polo ...I can't take to the ones that are too graphic and intimate, and ppl that verify each other every other day bugs me too.

Oh the diary version of verifications lol... I guess it helps some people keep track of who they humped when, what they tried this time round and so on

It's that by way of convincing

themselves that someone (anyone!) still wants to shag them and, as such, their otherwise empty life has meaning

I notice that more from the odd person in the chatroom... they have to constantly announce they have a shag arranged, that the shag has arrived, they are mid-session having a fag, how sore they are after (ewwww buy lube if you have dry minge lol)and then after the event talk about who they'd met and how many meets they've had.... and yes they do tend to look like they should be on Jeremy Kyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do not show any f ours. it isenough that we are genuine, no body needs to know whowe have shaged, where and how.

i also have no interest in looking at other people verifications - with the exception of ammusement at times lol.

i agree about the people who give the world a running comentary of their meets. ffs if the meet is so good, why are you sat typing to us?

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

I'd be trying desperately hard not to make the Jeremy Kyle comparison but your timely point is well made

The 'I'm having lots of sex and I'm determined you're going to know about it' posters come across as sad, lonely individuals. When two or more get together (but only in cyberspace) they seem to form a mutual support group giving false creedence to each others sexual fantasies and delusions of adequacy. Still, if it keeps them off the streets and away from real people so much the better, eh?

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I agree that you really don't need a blow by blow account

for it to be interesting. Some are so funny and obviously fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Blow by blow? hahahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be trying desperately hard not to make the Jeremy Kyle comparison but your timely point is well made

Sadly, the constant repetition of similar themed 'i had this meet' topics do make places like the forums become very samey and quite boring sometimes! We all know the sites about people meeting for sex and so what if someones had a good romp then so what. So have millions of other people too and it's no big deal...

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'd be trying desperately hard not to make the Jeremy Kyle comparison but your timely point is well made

Just shows what a big deal it is for them lol

I have no problem with people openly talking about having sex or great meets.... but you can spot the difference between those who just talk feely and those who NEED everyone else to know.

The need to brag about being fucked says an great deal about people.... the previous comment somewhere about it being a need to convince the world someone actually was willing to poke them isn't always that far from the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing that gets me is when someone posts a thread about a certain encounter but then theres a stream of people who seem to be going out there way to better them or make out they have had it worse, better, before etc. I just don't believe alot of what i read anymore!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"The thing that gets me is when someone posts a thread about a certain encounter but then theres a stream of people who seem to be going out there way to better them or make out they have had it worse, better, before etc. I just don't believe alot of what i read anymore!"

This one time at band camp............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This one time at band camp............

Does this involve a flute lol

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

Isn't that simply the competitive nature of poverty (of all sorts - not just financial)?

I'm with you, I don't believe a lot of what I read anymore either but I'm not sure that's terribly important. Where is gets worrying is when it becomes clear that the poster believes it themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmm i dunno, some of mine are a bit graphic lol ... think i'd prefer it if they said ... makes a nice cuppa

xx"

They certainly are graphic. I hope your bums recovered lol I don't see tea making as an interest, maybe its something to take up with admin. What are the verifications you do like?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

This one time at band camp............

Does this involve a flute lol"

If I said the whole orchestra that would be giving too much away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They certainly are graphic. I hope your bums recovered lol I don't see tea making as an interest, maybe its something to take up with admin. What are the verifications you do like?"

*goes to remove all verifications and add makes a nice cuppa but doesn't have sex to profile

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

If I said the whole orchestra that would be giving too much away

There was a young lady called Gloria

Who was shagged by Sir Gerald Du Maurier,

Twenty-six other men,

Sir Gerald again,

And the band of the Waldorf-Astoria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our view might raise some hackles but thats life.

We think that hiding varifications is a bad thing.

We're not interested at all in what has been written nor by whom.

However, no doubt like many members,there are certain people we'd rather not play with,for various reasons and therefore would rather not play with the people who had played with them.

As was said earlier,this may raise hackles but we feel that not showing varifications takes away some of that personal choice.

XXXX

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I went thru a debate in my head on whether to show my verifications or not.. and I did resist for a long time on the feeling that it was no ones business who I meet... but then I gave in on that if it didn't have anything rude in it then I don't see the harm in it...

I don't show the graphic ones, I don't a full blown account of a meet, and aren't you then spoiling it for others from letting everyone else know....

i think it smacks of being really indiscreet..... and tend to give those people a wide berth...

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