FabSwingers.com forum: finding a couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

how hard is it on here to find a localish couple who will meet a bi guy ,,,ok also i am married but we all on here for same thing,, maybe i should have put straight like most on here do...i do play straight as well as bi

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"how hard is it on here to find a localish couple who will meet a bi guy ,,,ok also i am married but we all on here for same thing,, maybe i should have put straight like most on here do...i do play straight as well as bi"

Yes, MOST of us are on here for the same thing - swinging. Not getting our end away behind our husband's/wives backs. This is a swinging site, not a sex site. There's a whole world of difference between the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

you dont know me or know my situation so dont judge everything on your own experiences...what is swinging...sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happy to meet married guys and I know we aren't the only ones who will. The fact you are honest about your situation will put some off but I prefer honesty. Yes it will be tougher but hang in there I'm sure you will find a genuine couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you dont know me or know my situation so dont judge everything on your own experiences...what is swinging...sex "

I dont class swinging as just sex and i certainly DO NOT tie it in with cheating and deceitfulness, swinging is a community for 'consenting' adults to meet have fun and if anything happens then it happens im sure your wife consents toyou cheating does she????

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been in here for 3 weeks, so still early days. The fact that your playing behind your wifes back may put some couples off... As that's cheating and not swinging. As merc had already said some couples will meet you and some won't!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves. "

see and that is where we see the divide....

i don't see it as just sex, I see it as friendships I have made and if sex then happens then that is a bonus....

if it was "just sex" you would shag anyone and I am assuming that you don't.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves. "

Thats where i disagree swinging is not just sex it is about much more than just a shag and this is why we are toying with the idea of taking a break as too many people have this misconception, we have swinging friends but we dont always swing. SWINGING IS NOT JUST SEX

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm not looking for friends on here. I have friends already. I have couples in my friends list but we don't talk? Sex to me is not a bonus it's what I meet people for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

see and that is where we see the divide....

i don't see it as just sex, I see it as friendships I have made and if sex then happens then that is a bonus....

if it was "just sex" you would shag anyone and I am assuming that you don't.....

44 published veris in 5 MONTHS no wonder you have misconceptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves. "

So the man cheatimg on his wife takes the moral high ground on honesty... Seriously?

It's not just sex. When we swing, we share the most important thing in our lives, namely each other. The reason we don;t play with married men is because potentially it could bring unnecessary hassle in to our lives. But even if you weren't married that attitude and that lack of respect would be enough to put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

see and that is where we see the divide....

i don't see it as just sex, I see it as friendships I have made and if sex then happens then that is a bonus....

if it was "just sex" you would shag anyone and I am assuming that you don't.....

44 published veris in 5 MONTHS no wonder you have misconceptions"

What?

Take another look

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

You better go and read the posts properly before you say another stupid thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

So the man cheatimg on his wife takes the moral high ground on honesty... Seriously?

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I enjoy sex so what's the problem? I'm doing the same thing you are just more often lol. I'm not married and can do as I want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

as i said peoples situations are different and as i havnt published my private life you dont know about me...peoples oponions are different and views are different and if honesty instead of lying on this site gets abuse i see why guys put single and straight due to peoples smallmindness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing more small minded than cheating on your wife/husband

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I'm not looking for friends on here. I have friends already. I have couples in my friends list but we don't talk? Sex to me is not a bonus it's what I meet people for. "

some people will see it as "just sex" and some people will see it as a "big community of like minded people".....

and this brilliant thing about this "community"... you can be as big or as small a part of it as you like, and that in the end is up to you....

I have seen this "community" do some brilliant things and see some amazing acts of human kindness come from it....

I have seen marriages, births, deaths and divorces and people have rallied round others when times have been hard...

like i said... you have emmerse yourself in it... or just dip in a toe... but the one thing I hope you don't do is disparage people because they may look at it as more than "just sex"........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as i said peoples situations are different and as i havnt published my private life you dont know about me...peoples oponions are different and views are different and if honesty instead of lying on this site gets abuse i see why guys put single and straight due to peoples smallmindness"

How are we being small minded?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

judges others....again i am not putting my private life on post...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And your not judging by calling people small minded????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just stating as you seemed to be judging that you must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure how in your profile you 'boast' about being honest well if you can be honest to a bunch of strangers on a swinging site why can you not be honest with your wife??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just stating as you seemed to be judging that you must be"

Yep been cheated and lied on and its fucking painful i can tell you its taken me years to get over so i talk from experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

all i asked was peoples opinions not to get be cross examined on my private life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry. You are making out that everyone should respect your honesty about being a married guy? ...yet you don't be honest with your spouse?

I have 'some' respect for your 'honesty' on that one, other swingers can make an informed decision on meeting you ....BUT, you can't expect everyone to think "oh, he's married and not telling his spouse about wanting to meet other people for sex... that's ok then" .....it isn't going to happen!

Some people prefer to meet attached 'singles' (not us) ...but please respect the fact that there are a fair few of us that have a dim view on cheats in general ...some of us love open and honest relationships .....meaning ours and the people (couples) we choose to meet.

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By *avernakeMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

There are a lot of couples on here where the male half is homophobic. They seem to believe, wrongly, that any bi guy is going to fancy them and touch them up.

Many couples won't even consider bi guys even though most of us respect peoples boundaries and play straight most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So because some of us couple will not meet married men who are cheating on their wife out of choice, makes us small minded??

As I have already said, some couples will meet you some won't! We personally wouldn't for a number of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you for that much better response..that is all i asked..yes people will look and think that but then same applies that they dont know my situation and i am not going to post or put on here..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I'm not looking for friends on here. I have friends already. I have couples in my friends list but we don't talk? Sex to me is not a bonus it's what I meet people for. "

I love the not so discerning profiles that love to preach their view on swinging!

This is not a sex site, there are plenty of other sex sites around so if that is what you want then fine, but leave the swinging community out of it, it is not the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot of couples on here where the male half is homophobic. They seem to believe, wrongly, that any bi guy is going to fancy them and touch them up.

Many couples won't even consider bi guys even though most of us respect peoples boundaries and play straight most of the time."

What does this have to do with OP??

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

[Removed by poster at 26/09/12 21:02:27]

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

So the man cheatimg on his wife takes the moral high ground on honesty... Seriously?

dear crystal....

I luff you..... dump that 2 wheels blokey and marry me!!!

actually scrub that... add me and share!!!

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By *ovelybumCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"all i asked was peoples opinions not to get be cross examined on my private life"
All you need to do is just add few more cock pictures on your profile

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By *avernakeMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

The OP was asking if he would get more interest from couples if he put 'straight' on his profile instead of 'bi'.

But this thread appears to have been hijacked by people moralising about married men.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"The OP was asking if he would get more interest from couples if he put 'straight' on his profile instead of 'bi'.

But this thread appears to have been hijacked by people moralising about married men."

But he was the one that mentioned being married in the first place, so it really wasn't a hijack! People just gave their opinion on why they wouldn't meet...same thing is it not??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moralising?? So you think lying is right then?? Me and my partner are 100% honest and open and thats why we enjoy the scene because there are many many people like us that believe swinging is not just sex, it really gets my back up when people say a swinging site is a sex site , ITS NOT its a community of genuine like minded people and most genuine swingers prefer the social side of it to the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile full of cock pics is not a good start ...... this and other sites are a perfect portal to find what you wouldnt normally find in "real life".

A profile is the perfect window to find it.

You wouldnt buy a car on the strength of a photo of just a wheel would you?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

point taken....thanks....lol i do have the full car....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

So the man cheatimg on his wife takes the moral high ground on honesty... Seriously?

dear crystal....

I luff you..... dump that 2 wheels blokey and marry me!!!

actually scrub that... add me and share!!!

Ha Cheers Fabio - I'm in for a bollocking when she realises I've been posting on the couples profile though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ITS NOT its a community of genuine like minded people and most genuine swingers prefer the social side of it to the sex"

Prefer? Are you sure about that? I agree most genuine swingers appreciate and value the importance of friendship but let's not get carried away, I think it's safe to say the sex is also pretty high up on everyone's agenda!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP was asking if he would get more interest from couples if he put 'straight' on his profile instead of 'bi'.

But this thread appears to have been hijacked by people moralising about married men."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Moralising?? So you think lying is right then?? Me and my partner are 100% honest and open and thats why we enjoy the scene because there are many many people like us that believe swinging is not just sex, it really gets my back up when people say a swinging site is a sex site , ITS NOT its a community of genuine like minded people and most genuine swingers prefer the social side of it to the sex"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

see and that is where we see the divide....

i don't see it as just sex, I see it as friendships I have made and if sex then happens then that is a bonus....

if it was "just sex" you would shag anyone and I am assuming that you don't.....

Again Fabio's on the money as far as we are concerned. For us - as a couple - swinging is like an extension of our circle of friends. There are those who who we are friends with in every respect other than that we don't have mutual recreational sex with them. But there are others with whom we enjoy what, for most people, is still the 'last taboo' (effectively) and that friendship extends to enjoying mutually engaging sex.

BUT.... we are first and foremost ... FRIENDS.

If we were solely in this just for sex and nothing else, this would not be the kind of site for us - there are out and out sex-only sites, but that isn't swinging as far as we are concerned.

and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not doing as much "lurking" there hehe

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

can people get back to the question i asked this is spiralling......lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ITS NOT its a community of genuine like minded people and most genuine swingers prefer the social side of it to the sex

seriously?? Is this not the pen friend site??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot of couples on here where the male half is homophobic. They seem to believe, wrongly, that any bi guy is going to fancy them and touch them up.

Many couples won't even consider bi guys even though most of us respect peoples boundaries and play straight most of the time."

1. I am not homophobic

2. I do not believe a bi guy is going to 'touch me up'

3. Perky does not want to play with a bi guy or see me play with one.

4. Perky is also not homophobic. Her son is gay.

We don't meet bi-guys, or couples with a bi-guy as it is just not our thing, our 'preference'.

Don't assume that just because a couple like us does not wish to meet with bi-guys that we are almost certain to be homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ......... we are a cpl looking for bi guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

So the man cheatimg on his wife takes the moral high ground on honesty... Seriously?

dear crystal....

I luff you..... dump that 2 wheels blokey and marry me!!!

actually scrub that... add me and share!!!

2wheels passed on the marriage proposal and I must say, I am flattered

The reason I love swinging is because I get to enjoy seeing 2wheels have fun and enjoy him watching me have fun. It's certainly not just for sex-of I wanted just sex I would go to some god awful chavvy bar and take a random home.

OP-I feel sorry for you that you can't share this amazing lifestyle with your other half and I hope that if it all comes out, nobody but yourself gets hurt in the fallout.

If you're bi-say you're bi. You'll have more fun meets if you're open and honest from the start. If everyone who was bi put themselves down as straight there would never be any bi fun going on at all!

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"all i asked was peoples opinions not to get be cross examined on my private life"

Since you seem to have taken umbridge at my reply originally and accused me of judging you. Read my post again. I did not judge you.

I simply pointed out that we are NOT all here for the same thing - some of us are here to swing (albeit a dwindling minority now) As I and many others have said - this is not a sex site, it's a swinging site. If you can't see what the difference is then you'll be lucky to get anywhere on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all i asked was peoples opinions not to get be cross examined on my private life

Since you seem to have taken umbridge at my reply originally and accused me of judging you. Read my post again. I did not judge you.

if swingers are a minority on here, then its looking like its a sex site!!!

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

FFS you couples don't half go on about crap. What that guy does or doesn't do is up to him. If you don't like it that he's married, that's fine don't meet him but it's not down you to you to judge him. This is a forum not a court.

Also swinging is definitely about sex. That's what this site is for to meet others for sex. If you want to be just friends go to the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a swinger to the core. If I just wanted sex then I would go to a club n pick someone up. Or go to another site and get paid for it! And no, I won't meet married people as I have been cheated on and it almost cost me my life. And I'm not overly fussed about bi guys. I just like to be around like minded adults. If sex happens it's a bonus, but a lot of good friends on here have never been nekki with me! xx

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Ok well someone explain to me what swinging is then. Since your all swingers but don't want sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok well someone explain to me what swinging is then. Since your all swingers but don't want sex. "

Can of worms!!

Apparently only couples can be swingers.....

I find it interesting that someone commented on your veri's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves. "

Bingo

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Apparently couples are the only ones who can do anything. The ones who "commented" on my verifications only have 6 in 9 months so proberly a bit jealous. If they are looking for friendship I wonder why all their pics are sex ones?

I love my verifications and hope to get at least 100 before Christmas lol.

IM A SWINGER LOL. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

R u bi or just a guy who will suck to get to the lady? Married guys tend not to be able to play when we want them and can accommodate them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point but unfortunately you are damned of you do, damned if you don't with the 'holier than thou' brigade who are stuck in their own little moralistic bubble, on a swinging site! FFS! And don't give me all that, it's not just about the sex clap trap, of course it is, otherwise they'd be just meeting people in run of the mill ways. Total crap, we are better than you shite, it's pathetic!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for everyones response....most of it not even related to what i asked but thanks anyway...at least there are some people who read and post a view even if i dont agree with it...but thats what having a forum is about views,,, ideas and opinions....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently couples are the only ones who can do anything. The ones who "commented" on my verifications only have 6 in 9 months so proberly a bit jealous. If they are looking for friendship I wonder why all their pics are sex ones?

I love my verifications and hope to get at least 100 before Christmas lol.

IM A SWINGER LOL. X "

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my verifications and hope to get at least 100 before Christmas lol.

IM A SWINGER LOL. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They arent only our public ones and we have far more friends on the scene than our varis show we dont always shag thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging takes many different forms for each and everyone of us a couple will see it differently to a single woman a single woman will see it differently from a man e.t.c. But one thing i do agree strongly with is that this is not a sex site it is a swinging site there is a big difference between them.

To the op honesty is the best policy but how can you claim to be honest when your telling us your openly lying to your wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

happy talk...

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Why has no one explained the difference between a SWINGER and someone who meets others for SEX? Come on all you true swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why has no one explained the difference between a SWINGER and someone who meets others for SEX? Come on all you true swingers. "

I beleive it has been covered a few times in this post,,, a swinger is someone who enjoys a social side (parties, dinners, social meets, drinks etc etc.) as well as the sexual element.

Someone who meets others for sex is just that, someone who meets others for sex, not saying that someone who meets others for sex can't also be a swinger, but its less usual to find a swinger who will just meet someone and fuck them, no social interaction at all (and that includes online interactions / getting to know them)

As far as i have been made aware that is.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

onto the OP,

You will struggle to meet couples, as most couples value the sanctity of marriage and honesty with your partner, there are also some who don't give a crap about it (we are not one of those couples).

you then also narrow your field by being bisexual, lieing about it wont change the odds much either and also just makes you doubly untrustworthy, so the couples that want to meet bi men wont find you, and those that you approach will not like it because you lied about being bi.

So all in all, your like a granny smith apple in a world where most people like oranges.. eventually someone will want you, but it will take a while for you to find eachother.

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I enjoy a social side. I have a few drinks etc then sex lol. It's the same thing in the end. Some of you just like to dress it up a bit. If I'm meeting on a 1 to 1 basis I like to know them first but I treat everyone the same I don't moralise on what they are doing. I base that solely on whether I fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is a lifestyle you have outside of your everyday life whereas meeting for sex only is just that casual sex.

Nobodys saying sex isnt part of swinging, but what is been explained here is that swinging isnt all about the sex albeit part of it but by no means all of it, like i said before swinging takes many different forms for everyone.

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Well how come most of the couples who Want to socialise and make friends only meet once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well how come most of the couples who Want to socialise and make friends only meet once? "

We dont, we also tend to invite the friends we make to other friends parties (with their consent of course) so we have a network of good friend who we can meet up wit regularly for social and sexual fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe you should put some non cock pics up? if you spend 10 seconds reading the forum instead of whining, you might find most people regard profiles like yours as bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why has no one explained the difference between a SWINGER and someone who meets others for SEX? Come on all you true swingers. "

the only difference is that some have to attach socialising to the sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow there's a lot of preaching going on in this thread.

All of us have different perspectives on swinging and what works for us. Noone is wrong.

I like meeting new people, chatting, laughing with them, they may be on my friends list and I may see them in different venues from time to time. But I don't treat them as true friends.

My swinging and my real life are kept separate, I never cross the two. People I've played with are not my real friends, they will never come to dinne, meet my family, exchange christmas cards etc.

I don't like the inference that people who attend socials and spend time chatting and only playing with a certain select few whom they've exchanged their life history with are somehow better, a more upmarket class of swinger, than those who freely meet new people for sexual fun and move on to their next new experience. We are all ultimately having sex with strangers, how we choose to do this is down to individual preference.

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over a year ago

"Well how come most of the couples who Want to socialise and make friends only meet once? "

For us this isnt the case we dont verify people again and again if weve already met its pointless the people on our veris we have met a number of times we just dont verify each other every time, of the veris we have we can say we have met them more than that once you can see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've known _icesweetgirl and her partner for quite some time, likewise they know mine. We've met socially as well as sex many times and we speak regularly, so can a 'genuine swinger' please explain what is so different to what we do compared to some of the people posting on here, apart from the delusions of grandeur and superiority?

It's not like we just run around the streets in our underwear 24 hours a day with our tongues hanging out, we do go out and socialise too, but I would class socialising as just that, socialising. Jesus, I often wonder if I'm on the Derby and Joan message board at times.

Does the fact that dressing it up like this is some way of hiding the guilt in their consciences or something?

I particularly liked the fact that someone had to specifically use the word 'published' when mocking K about her amount of verifications, that screams to me of someone with a list of verifications as long as their arm but only publishes a select few to keep up the pretence, like many others that I've met openly admit to doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

So the man cheatimg on his wife takes the moral high ground on honesty... Seriously?

Well said & agree entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, our veris are from the people we have met and that is that we hide nothing and yes we have only had meet a few times but thats because swinging is an extension of our lives and not the be all and end all we enjoy it and the moment one of us or both of us lose that sense of fun we will stop swinging but we will still stay friends with those we have met!

Do not accuse us of fabricating our profile we are very very genuine and honest and that is the krux of swinging

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

see and that is where we see the divide....

i don't see it as just sex, I see it as friendships I have made and if sex then happens then that is a bonus....

if it was "just sex" you would shag anyone and I am assuming that you don't.....

As usual, Fabio get's right to the point. Long term friendship outside as well as inside the bedroom is what my gf and I seek, as do most couples on here and I'd like to think a lot of the swingles too.

Frankly we couldn't begin a friendship with somebody built upon the ground foundation of deception. Neither of us would be willing to be a party to it and neither of us believe any good will come from it, short of some cheating person getting laid.

What you do in your life is your business and I have no interest or right to criticise you, but the real question you're asking the people in this thread is whether or not they'll meet you. And not be bothered by you cheating. From Rachel and I, the answer is no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well how come most of the couples who Want to socialise and make friends only meet once?

Ur social network as a swinger is all about having people in your life whom you can relax have fun and share some amazing sex with...the social aspect is the best part for me...like to be friends and have a laugh with the people I sleep with... each to their own though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I do it because it's fun and I like to keep it fun for other people too, who are also usually fun.

I can't see where taking the moral high ground with anybody whodoesn't fit into your own rosy little bubble world, despite having no idea of any of their circumstances is particularly fun or helpful to anyone, as this thread is proving.

Perhaps it would be better if the forum was split into two parts, one for the Fun and one for the Sanctimonious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rosy little bubble world?? Ahh you mean the one where people are faithful to their partners gee i love this rosy little bubble world

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By *oger ThatMan
over a year ago

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I think stating that you only have sex with people you like or friends is a pointless coment. I can't imagine anyone having sex with someone they didn't like (unless really desperate).

So please dont think your the good guys because your friends first and sex second... this surely is a given!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok well someone explain to me what swinging is then. Since your all swingers but don't want sex. "

Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behaviour, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activates with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with like-minded people at a swingers club It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.

The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the upsurge in sexual activity during the sexual revolution of the 1960s, made possible by the invention of the contraceptive pill and the emergence of treatments for many of the STD’s that were known at that time.

The older term wife swapping once considered to be equivalent to "swinging", is now criticized as being andocentric where it is presumed that the partners are a married heterosexual couple and that it is the male who is in control of the sexual activities and also that it does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which both singles or couples may take part.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

There is an abundance of single, bi guys more flexible with regards meeting on site, why choose an attached one with the added complications?

I find it amusing when people (usually men) join sites like these and trot out the "we're all here for the same thing" line.

Reality check: no we're not!

We're all here for our own hedonistic pleasure...and mine is individual to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is an abundance of single, bi guys more flexible with regards meeting on site, why choose an attached one with the added complications?

I find it amusing when people (usually men) join sites like these and trot out the "we're all here for the same thing" line.

Reality check: no we're not!

We're all here for our own hedonistic pleasure...and mine is individual to me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is sex. Some of you couples just like to make it sound more acceptable. You want to meet others for sex. Try being honest yourselves.

see and that is where we see the divide....

i don't see it as just sex, I see it as friendships I have made and if sex then happens then that is a bonus....

if it was "just sex" you would shag anyone and I am assuming that you don't.....

so well said H.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've known _icesweetgirl and her partner for quite some time, likewise they know mine. We've met socially as well as sex many times and we speak regularly, so can a 'genuine swinger' please explain what is so different to what we do compared to some of the people posting on here, apart from the delusions of grandeur and superiority?

Does the fact that dressing it up like this is some way of hiding the guilt in their consciences or something?

Well said.

Swinging is meeting people for sex.

Meeting people for sex is meeting people for sex.

Some like bdsm, some like bi men, some like soft swap, some like gang bangs, some like 1 on 1 etc etc.

Unfortunately a lot of people think that if you're into something that they aren't, then you are wrong. And they love to tell you that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

proberbly get slagged off for saying this but so what we have noticed over the years that a lot of so called single women on here have photos of them playing wareing a wedding ring so its not just guys is it

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

So basically it's about meeting others for sex.

You might eat and drink first but SEX is the ultimate goal.

I socialise at parties chat to people eat and drink. Then fuck them. I'm honest about what I do and what I want. I do gangbang events and I still chat to people in between cocks lol. I meet the same ones again and again.

I don't really care if some up yourself man or woman on here doesnt like it. I have fun and enjoy it.

Swinging to me is about sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rosy little bubble world?? Ahh you mean the one where people are faithful to their partners gee i love this rosy little bubble world

What about the couples on here where they say how much they trust each other and are genuine and swing as a couple.... Yet the bloke goes behind his partner's back messaging people for secret meets??

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I agree with scarlet star. I get messages from couples who only play together and it's just the male wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not saying that dont happen but not us

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes not you but everyone says that

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Im not saying that dont happen but not us"

and how can you be sp certain about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not saying that dont happen but not us

and how can you be sp certain about that"

Because we are 100% faithful to each other or there is not fun in it for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rosy little bubble world?? Ahh you mean the one where people are faithful to their partners gee i love this rosy little bubble world

What about the couples on here where they say how much they trust each other and are genuine and swing as a couple.... Yet the bloke goes behind his partner's back messaging people for secret meets??

Exactly, I know of at least 2 couples who live in this wonderful faithful swinging lifestyle that they speak of, that I know for a fact that one in each couple are having affairs with another person on here ( I know because they've told me!).

Complacency has a nasty habit of kicking you in the balls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well how come most of the couples who Want to socialise and make friends only meet once? "

How do you arrive at this conclusion? Is it from the fact that there may be only one veri shown from a couple? We have met some of our friends far more than once, but we may choose to only show the most recent veri from them - simply because it gets boring reading veris from the same couple all the time.

Then again, some couples we do and have only met once, for all sorts of reasons. I am sure you have met vanilla friends who, for all sorts of reasons, you have chosen (or they have) not to meet with again....? It's just the same - the only difference is that we have sex with our swinging friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also thing that seeing a small circle of friends repeatedly must surely add extra danger to any relationship as it doesn't take long for these things to blossom between two people who become attached, if you know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also thing that seeing a small circle of friends repeatedly must surely add extra danger to any relationship as it doesn't take long for these things to blossom between two people who become attached, if you know what I mean."

That depends if couples are faithful i trust my partner implicetly and i also trust our friends too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depends if couples are faithful i trust my partner implicetly and i also trust our friends too"

As I'm sure everybody else does, or at least did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've ...snip

... I particularly liked the fact that someone had to specifically use the word 'published' when mocking K about her amount of verifications, that screams to me of someone with a list of verifications as long as their arm but only publishes a select few to keep up the pretence, like many others that I've met openly admit to doing."

so many people on here do that, we have 30+ veris but only have a few published.. enough to prove we are genuine.

also

too many people here judge other peoples private lives too, no one knows why the op cheats on his wife, only him, there could be many reasons for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you as you say it is my private life and my reasons are not for public viewing....but still not the topic i asked....all this and only a few who respond to the question asked and not my morallity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've ...snip

so many people on here do that, we have 30+ veris but only have a few published.. enough to prove we are genuine.

also

too many people here judge other peoples private lives too, no one knows why the op cheats on his wife, only him, there could be many reasons for it."

Agreed, I even do it myself and like to mix em around a bit when I get bored, it's each individual's choice which they show but I just get the impression from some that they like to keep up some pretence of looking almost virginal and judging others, whilst personally they've probably got semen coming out of their ears

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeettttttttttttttttttttttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting the same people time and time again and keeping within a small social network sounds incredibly boring to me.

Of course we are all different and I accept that but surely after a while there are no surprises, same body, same technique, I can't see the attraction in it.

We would never be the type of swingers who make friends with another couple, go on holiday together, help each other with DIYY and then all fuck each other. I like different people, different locations, different sex. That's why we're here, to experience new and wonderful things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and while your all judging me apart from the few who have been supportive..........i smoke as well......oooooh stick that up your jacksy bigots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depends if couples are faithful i trust my partner implicetly and i also trust our friends too

As I'm sure everybody else does, or at least did "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and while your all judging me apart from the few who have been supportive..........i smoke as well......oooooh stick that up your jacksy bigots"

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Iconic have got it right. What's the point of always meeting the same people? Swinging is about excitement and fun. Variety is what's needed. Group sex and orgies lol. X

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Ian369 you do what you want to do. Your the only one who knows your reasons for being on here and you don't have to explain them to anyone. I write nothing on my profile cos my private life is nothing to do with the masses on here. My friends know me anyway. I don't come on here to talk to my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have to say I agree entirely with _icesweetgirl, scarlet and marquisdehappy!

So many "up their own arse" people on this site.Dress it up how you like to make yourselves feel better but it still boils down to being a sex site.

Ive made some great friends on here over the years (was on a different profile before making this new one before anyone tells me Im a newbie) but I wouldn't have made those friends if it wasn't for me fucking them first!

I have been around a while and know of so many liars on here who are well known in the swinging scene for being "honest, respectable swingers". This ranges from straight guys being bi really, people being at least 10 years older than their profile states, married people professing to be single and "safe sex" only people going bareback at every available opportunity!The thing that really riles me is the amount of two faced people Ive met on here and at clubs and parties. Some people think they have to suck up to certain people to get invites etc when they really can't stand said person. It does makes me laugh when I see them all air kissing and saying how lovely they look when what they really want to do is tell them how horrible they are lol. Give me an honest person everytime as at least then I have the choice of deciding whether to still fuck them or not.

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By *oonytoonMan
over a year ago

derby

"just stating as you seemed to be judging that you must be

Yep been cheated and lied on and its fucking painful i can tell you its taken me years to get over so i talk from experience"

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By *avernakeMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"Iconic have got it right. What's the point of always meeting the same people? Swinging is about excitement and fun. Variety is what's needed. Group sex and orgies lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have to say I agree entirely with _icesweetgirl, scarlet and marquisdehappy!

So many "up their own arse" people on this site.Dress it up how you like to make yourselves feel better but it still boils down to being a sex site.

Post of the decade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ian369 you do what you want to do. Your the only one who knows your reasons for being on here and you don't have to explain them to anyone. I write nothing on my profile cos my private life is nothing to do with the masses on here. My friends know me anyway. I don't come on here to talk to my friends. "

That made me smile. That's exactly why my profile is the way it is!!

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