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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't allow such 'rudeness' bother you at all, mate. Just bare with a thick skin. Personally, it doesn't bother me one tiny bit, lol. For example, i've recently discovered i've being quite bemusedly, if i may say, blocked from a particular couple profile whom i've never contacted, clicked on their profile (probably taken offence via my own profile, recognised my face elsewhere etc). Individuals/couples have their particular reason/s for such lacking their of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its just the fact that you can take you time and think of what to say in a message and as quick as you send it they delete it with out reading it. Manners cost nothing. Well that's how I feel anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A thick skin is definately required on any site like this. Yes a thanks but no thanks is polite but a delete still get the message across - its still no! Plus in my experience there have bin guys that use the thanks but no thanks approach as an excuse to start a convo " will u change your mind?" etc or the ones who get really abusive because you've dared to reject them, then there the ones that ask why in a really needy way al these types give the rest of single guys a bad name. It's why I just delete n block now if I'm not interested saves the hassle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can understand delete and block after a no thanks that's not what I'm annoyed at but at the end of the day nothing on this site will change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fact most couples n single fems look at the profile before even reading the message u send, if the profile doesn't suit they delete n don't care wot you've written, harsh n frustrating I no but very true n unfortunate reality. Like I said be thick skinned n move on as being negative bout it doesn't tend to impress either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also alot of them if pic attached they wanna see faces not cocks trust me ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over....

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "

No, one doesn't.... But when it's 100's every day then it would.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"In fact most couples n single fems look at the profile before even reading the message u send, if the profile doesn't suit they delete n don't care wot you've written"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "

depends how many no thansk your sending

i went in the chat room other day and put my cam on and go over 100 messages, do you really think im going to sit and send out 100 no thanks messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over...."

A deleted message shows as deleted with no indication as to whether it has been read or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over....

A deleted message shows as deleted with no indication as to whether it has been read or not... "

They usually show as yellow on your sent mail section if they havent bin read wether deleted or not. But I only use the mobile version of the site so can't comment as to if this is the same or similiar on the main site

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "

we seem to be getting one of these type messages every week now,

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By *uggers nemesisCouple
over a year ago

london


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "

Would a polite no thanks make you feel better? Why not just accept no answer as a polite no thanks,its the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But were all adults and shud not let it bother us some read n dnt delete n dnt reply but must agree I check profile too first as I don't want bi couple with both bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ask them, not us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't meet at the moment, I'd like to think that I've made this clear on my profile. Yet I still get many messages from guys looking for a quick shag.

If they can't take the time to check my profile and see if we are likely to suit each other (at the moment the answer is a big fat NO as I state at the top of the profile) then why should I bother with giving them a reply?

After all it's only polite to read my profile and check my wants/needs. It only takes a moment to read the text. Manners cost nothing after all!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over...."

Yes but we have done the thanks but no thanks and then get bombarded with please.. but why.. im not that young or im not really bi or looking for TV/TS etc.. and then eventually alot get abusive. Now from a first message you cant always tell which ones will do rhis and which dont so easier not to do it.. and yes we have blocked them but then a few have taken it into the chatroom and started on us in there.

If the site was full of real genuine swingers we might be able to message everyone thanks but no.. but its not and most on here dont take it well so delete and block is best for us.

And almost all we have message have taken that reply a reason to open a convo..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a read or deleted mail may mean they arent interested at the moment.try them again in a while if u still want to.Ive never bombarded anyone, but have remailed and successfully got a meet.

if u get blocked for sending a decent mail at a profile that hasnt responded or blocked previously...then does it really matter uve tried again???

I wait a month or so(unless they have meet status's up),(continually lookatme)before remailing, some people just change their minds.

of course why would I pester when they have said no?-that IS pointless..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True no one reads yr entire profile I ad guy message other day I said we can't meet as av kids he said ain't yr kids in bed I have kids too but away on buis

So I said read profile states I dnt accom and ye ah u av kids but there at home with yr wife I got blocked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, politeness goes a long way and so does a thick skin, but many profiles request polite messages so shouldn't that politeness be returned?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over...."

My profile is VERY specific in the type of men I'm hoping to meet. So far today I've had men from Hull, Norfolk, Bournemouth and Cardiff looking to meet. I've also had a man writing he fancied shagging a black babe and do I dress in stockings et al to play. This week I've also been contacted by a man in the Jury's Inn Croydon - wanting to know if I fancied a quickie...if these men had bothered to even give my profile a cursoury glance they would have saved their time sending me messages and the "heartache" of having their messages deleted.

If some people are so desperate for any kind of contact from this site they reply to every message - good luck to them, but please, spare me the "rude not to reply" bollocks as it's "rude" bothering me when you're not what I'm looking for.

MY rant over!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I can't meet at the moment, I'd like to think that I've made this clear on my profile. Yet I still get many messages from guys looking for a quick shag.

If they can't take the time to check my profile and see if we are likely to suit each other (at the moment the answer is a big fat NO as I state at the top of the profile) then why should I bother with giving them a reply?

After all it's only polite to read my profile and check my wants/needs. It only takes a moment to read the text. Manners cost nothing after all!"

Apparently not! Didn't you read the site rules that you HAVE to reply to every message, regardless of your preferences as you're on a sex site so drop and spread em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over....

My profile is VERY specific in the type of men I'm hoping to meet. So far today I've had men from Hull, Norfolk, Bournemouth and Cardiff looking to meet. I've also had a man writing he fancied shagging a black babe and do I dress in stockings et al to play. This week I've also been contacted by a man in the Jury's Inn Croydon - wanting to know if I fancied a quickie...if these men had bothered to even give my profile a cursoury glance they would have saved their time sending me messages and the "heartache" of having their messages deleted.

If some people are so desperate for any kind of contact from this site they reply to every message - good luck to them, but please, spare me the "rude not to reply" bollocks as it's "rude" bothering me when you're not what I'm looking for.

MY rant over! "

BBM?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no not again.......

I suggested a sticky for this sort of thing in the site suggestions forum, can you all go and comment favourably on that and perhaps it'll happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and look hes got his cock out

smfh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and look hes got his cock out

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Yes how very original we've all never seen a cock before on this site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree that just being deleted without having your message read is very unpleasant. We are all here because sex and social interaction is important to us.... A rejection so rudely, is just not at all nice. A simple no thanks is all that it would take.... After all its not a meat market? Is it? ....my rant over....

My profile is VERY specific in the type of men I'm hoping to meet. So far today I've had men from Hull, Norfolk, Bournemouth and Cardiff looking to meet. I've also had a man writing he fancied shagging a black babe and do I dress in stockings et al to play. This week I've also been contacted by a man in the Jury's Inn Croydon - wanting to know if I fancied a quickie...if these men had bothered to even give my profile a cursoury glance they would have saved their time sending me messages and the "heartache" of having their messages deleted.

If some people are so desperate for any kind of contact from this site they reply to every message - good luck to them, but please, spare me the "rude not to reply" bollocks as it's "rude" bothering me when you're not what I'm looking for.

MY rant over! "

well put _iss_tress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree there are far too many people on here who are rude, inconsiderate and not swingers at all. It's just sad that those who are genuine, nice people are treated in he same way... I don't know what the answer is, rude people who pester other bombard them with messages, etc etc just make it difficult for others.....ty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "
it do when you get 100s a week . Why i say thanks and cant mail all back on profile. Lots here get alot of mail Each day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant believe we need\have to answer these moaning question time and time again every bloody week lol

Its nearly always single guys moaning that their messages are not replied to while saying they always reply back themselves out of politeness and expect every single fem to do the same....

wake up time guys...... you may only get 3 or 4 messages a week from straight guys asking you for a cock suck while the fems get bombarded with hundreds every day so while you have pleanty of time to say yes or what ever in return the women simply cannot respond all the time to your messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loving your new pics Game4it2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "

Cmon licker be totally honest..could you really say you would type back a no thanks message 100 or 200 times a day every day of every week....? you simply wouldnt have the time unless you spent hours doing it.

Being on here is meant to be enjoyable and fun and not a session in administration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe as well as a delete/block button there could be a 'no thanks' button?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put on my profile that if the person contacting me was not my type etc not to be offended if i didnt answer

If they havent taken the time to read my profile and get uppity about my lack of response then tough i say but thats just me put me neither up nor down if someone doesntcrey to me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are some people so rude? I understand that some people will get a lot of mail but let's face it a simple no thanks doesn't take long to type does it. "

no it doesnt but ....... sometimes the message isnt on the same page - therefore we dont see it and when lots pile up u can't keep up and reply to them all ............. I try and reply to all of them but if I spend some time off here then I am scuppered - there are currently a lot of messages in my inbox which havent been read - most on pages I havent got to yet ....

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