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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you go from exchanging messages on fab to sex? Or meeting in a club to sex?

Do you need to exchange lots of messages first?

Do you need a social first?

Can you just turn up somewhere and go from zero to balls deep in 30 seconds?

Do you need a connection?

Do you need to fancy them?

I can't get my head around all this at all, im fab at small talk back and forth messages but when talk of meeting up for sex is mentioned I go all shy and massively overthink it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've arranged our first meeting, so hardly great advice here, but we chatted online, swapped phone numbers to chat there, exchanged photos.

Decided we all 4 want to go for it (and set ground rules) and arranged some time away together.

Not sure if we could just come across a profile and say 'yes that one' as we're looking for patient kind people as we're so new

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Maybe sex is not what you are ready for yet, just carry on as you are meeting for socials and chatting, it will all fall into place, we can still feel this way after the meets we have already had, good things come to those who wait, just don't get too worried and enjoy the rest of the lifestyle swinging brings with it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Av had different kinds of meets, ones after just a couple of messages ones after chatting for a bit, but i need to have some kind of attraction i cant sleep with anyone im not physically attracted to

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Initially.it's how well each of us connect via messages,at times can be cut short and further discussion another way or happily continue messaging,but if things are going very well,wait until both available for either social if we both just want to skip straight forward to naughtiness.unable to put any time frame as it just happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fine with seeing their pics and getting turned on and popping over.

Also finding I'm leaning more towards having a bit of piss taking and a bit of a spark. So I guess things change and it depends on who you're talking to too.

Personally I would say to listen to your intuition. Play it safe, social in a public place with no play arranged after. If they don't accept that thrn move on. You maybe need to build up to it x

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

In a club you generally have a chat and see what the vibes are like. You find out how they play. Then someone says "Do you want to go and play?".

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I’ve recently had a meet and the messaging was flowing and straight to the point of what we were both looking for. We then had a conversation to see if we could actually hold a conversation and it was amazing, very sexual but also got to know each other a bit. We arranged a date to meet at mine and we both accepted that we may just have a chat and go our separate ways if the physical chemistry wasn’t there. It was and it naturally flowed into an amazing night which we have already agreed will happen again.

Just go with what feels right, be open in your approach and don’t be afraid of things just not developing, almost treat it as meeting a friend for a drink and anything else is a bonus.

I hope this helps xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs we always go with a open mind. If we don't play it's no big lose as we have had some great socials. But you will know when you connect and want to take things further. There's never any pressure and we just go with the flow then climb out if either don't fancy where we are at.

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By *pottydog46Man
over a year ago

rainham

It varies for everyone. Personally I prefer messaging for a bit, then arranging a meet. I also prefer a drink or meal first before any action, as a connection is better even if only a small one.

Some people though are happy to just say hello, meet and fuck.

Just go with your own flow and take it at your own pace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a club you generally have a chat and see what the vibes are like. You find out how they play. Then someone says "Do you want to go and play?".

That's pretty much how it's worked for us everytime

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