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How does a shy male approach a cpl!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Just wanted to canvas opinion.

As a shy single male I often attend parties and come the end of the night havent played, not because I don't want to, but because I'm shy as to how to approach cpls or females

What would you prefer as a cpl/female a single male to come straight out with it and say, I would like to play with you(that's not my style) or maybe just to say hi, (which I do, but then don't know how to say, fancy coming for a play)

I'm really interested as to what people think as its something I struggle with.

I hope to use your wise words when I'm next in ab Fabs or other clubs around

Mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you just walk up and say hi and introduce yourself.

My pet hate is blokes that walk round and round after you in clubs.

Mind you i'm just as bad it's my husband that makes the first move on couples

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I always have to make the first move in clubs. I know why that is - men get told so often that they should wait for women to approach them. But it would be lovely if sometimes the men approached me. Then I'd know for sure it was me they wanted to play with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you just walk up and say hi and introduce yourself.

My pet hate is blokes that walk round and round after you in clubs.

Mind you i'm just as bad it's my husband that makes the first move on couples "

I get to say hi and introduce myself, it's then the next step to take it further, after a bit of chat, do women prefer an out and out, do you fancy coming into a room? Or just to lean in for a kiss? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you just walk up and say hi and introduce yourself.

My pet hate is blokes that walk round and round after you in clubs.

Mind you i'm just as bad it's my husband that makes the first move on couples

I get to say hi and introduce myself, it's then the next step to take it further, after a bit of chat, do women prefer an out and out, do you fancy coming into a room? Or just to lean in for a kiss? X"

Just ask them what they like - dont like etc.

Then ask them if they fancy playing.

They can either say yes or no.

Same as on here xx

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

ooooh probably best not dive in for a smooch first

our experience has always been a little chat in the bar first and if mrs 2to agrees then we arrange to meet up later in the hot tub where things always progress pretty rapidly under the bubbles

sometimes we will meet someone on the spur of the moment in the tub and end up playing,all about the spur of the moment spose!

best advice is be friendly but not too overly friendly and if you all get on things do progress naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ooooh probably best not dive in for a smooch first

our experience has always been a little chat in the bar first and if mrs 2to agrees then we arrange to meet up later in the hot tub where things always progress pretty rapidly under the bubbles

sometimes we will meet someone on the spur of the moment in the tub and end up playing,all about the spur of the moment spose!

best advice is be friendly but not too overly friendly and if you all get on things do progress naturally "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sneak up on them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I've been to 2 different clubs & had fun each time. However I had planned to meet them there.

I would have liked to have maybe joined in with some others but always understood it to wait until invited.

So I tend to have a slow wander (not following, I think following is not right) a little look around. I then often sit or stand near to a couple & wait to see if im approached. That's what I understood as the right etiquette.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you just walk up and say hi and introduce yourself.

My pet hate is blokes that walk round and round after you in clubs.

Mind you i'm just as bad it's my husband that makes the first move on couples

I get to say hi and introduce myself, it's then the next step to take it further, after a bit of chat, do women prefer an out and out, do you fancy coming into a room? Or just to lean in for a kiss? X"

If you came up to us and were 'beating around the bush' that would put us off progressively. The longer you do it, the more we would be likely to say no... and the longer it went on the less polite it would be.

Can't speak for anyone else, but we respond better to single guys who are confident - not pushy, and certainly NOT full of themselves - just confident.

You'll get 'Nos', but they will be quickly forgotten when you get a 'Yes'...

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have to say that the men who hover near me without ever making any effort to say hello will never get to play.

The only exception is when they are extremely hot.

From observation this seems to be true for couples too - the guys who socialise and chat are the ones who get the invites.

Say hello. Say you look lovely today. Say I'm really nervous and a bit shy and I never know what is best to say at clubs to get the ball rolling...

DO NOT move in for a kiss or touch uninvited, follow people round like a lovelorn puppy attempting to look nonchalant (with a semi), talk football to the Mr while staring at the Mrs tits, congratulate a guy on how fuckable his Mrs is, think that cos a couple have been playing and he's got up to find clothes you can ask him if you can have a go, ignore the Mr completely while you stare at her tits and try to accidentally cop a feel as you suggest a private room for the two of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"DO NOT move in for a kiss or touch uninvited, follow people round like a lovelorn puppy attempting to look nonchalant (with a semi), talk football to the Mr while staring at the Mrs tits, congratulate a guy on how fuckable his Mrs is, think that cos a couple have been playing and he's got up to find clothes you can ask him if you can have a go, ignore the Mr completely while you stare at her tits and try to accidentally cop a feel as you suggest a private room for the two of you."

Couldn't have put it better...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all some good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all some good advice

Xxx

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