FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meets or home meets?

By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Which is your preferred meeting places, hotel meet or meets to take place in your own home? What are the pros and cons?

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Hotel, we don't do home meets as we want to keep that side of us away from home life

Mrs Gs

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

We live in an apartment block so neighbours seeing people come and go isn't a problem

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Which is your preferred meeting places, hotel meet or meets to take place in your own home? What are the pros and cons?"
I wont meet at either. Hotel as to much risk.. home as I live with my kids and dont want people to know where I live. I just use clubs

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Club meets or hotel if we've met before.

No way I am bringing anyone to my home. Fab and home life are separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Club meets or hotel if we've met before.

No way I am bringing anyone to my home. Fab and home life are separate. "

you go back to your life, they go back to theirs till the next time.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Hotel meets every time, though we have had couple's to our home, just can't relax the same as when we are in a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do either depending on who it is

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Prefer hotel, mostly due to housemate and the house is a renovation in (slow) progress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always do home meets

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

We have never been to a club because wereally don't know how they work

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I think you can relax more behind a closed hotel room door

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"We have never been to a club because wereally don't know how they work"

Basically a club or pub with optional extras and less clothing

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By *ewey613Man
over a year ago

ottawa

Her/their place first choice. Hôtel second

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

Home is preferred over Hotel.

When active I can and do accommodate with no issues,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always do home meets "

Do you do a social first, Just to get a feel the person/couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel or club

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Either works fine with me

Though leaning more on hotel, don't want people getting lost in my Mansion lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excited to do a hotel meet… love a home meet though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do hotels,home and clubs,and we love all to be honest

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

We feel more comfortable with home meets but think we will give a club a try

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Never at our home. We learnt that lesson almost 20 years ago.

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By *gfbMan
over a year ago

thorne

Hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind either hotels are good with a definate meet it nice to be able to do what you want with out worry of tidying up the room after

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I much prefer home meets, with the occasional hotel thrown in. I just feel more relaxed there.

I always chat/have a social to get to know a potential meet beforehand. I've never had any issues x

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We like home meets and had quite a few at ours , all have gone very well , only hotel meets we have had is on holidays

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Would like to know what put you off home meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When meeting I never meet at my home, new people always hotel after a while then their home

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Never meet in our hone due to family, but even when the house has been free we prefer not to entertain at home for privacy reasons.

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We would have to really connect with somebody for us to invite them round, we do a lot of digging and ask very straight forward questions…as we have found a lot of “single ladies” have a couples account, which a lot of the time is male lead and he’s communicating not her.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Club meets or hotel if we've met before.

No way I am bringing anyone to my home. Fab and home life are separate. "

Ditto

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Happy at home with people i already know and trust.

Main thing they need to know is we won't be sitting around watching telly because I haven't got one. If they want a telly then it's their place or a hotel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels all the way. No tidying up to do, no going to strangers houses, no having guys in my family home so they don't know where I live, no cleaning up afterwards, the anonymity, the extra naughtiness... so many benefits I wouldn't really do fab meets any other way

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Hotel for definite. I can’t have anyone at my house anyway it’s my kids home and safe space. Even if I didn’t have kids I would want it at my home. I don’t think I would feel comfortable at the other persons home either. Neutral ground suits me better and it adds something else

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Thank you everyone for your replies it’s very much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We do have hotel meets - but only when we're staying in one, as we'd rather spend the money going to a club than hiring a room, knowing there's a chance the meet won't turn up.

We prefer to meet at home (when the kids are away) as we've not lost anything when people don't turn up.

We were asked by one guest if we felt safe inviting strangers round, so we pointed out all the reenactment weapons hanging on the walls, and that we're both proficient in their use, so, yes we feel safe enough.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

We've only had home meets but only when the kids are out or on a sleep over.

S finds she relaxes more in her own surroundings. Not against club or hotel meets as and when the scenario presents itself.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We’ve had home and hotel meets.

Home meets are better in a way as we have access to all our toys, where as hotel meets we are limited to what we take with us.

So far we have been lucky that none of the people who have been to our home have turned out to be bunny boilers!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Learned my lesson the hard way with meeting at my home....never ever again x

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

"Learned my lesson the hard way with meeting at my home....never ever again x"

It is something we've discussed the pros and cons over. Fortunately we've not experienced any issues but very aware there could be reprocutions and something we might change when we resume meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have never been to a club because wereally don't know how they work"

clubs work how you want them to work your in total control still

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

There's a lot to be said for meeting at home but for us none of that outwighs the risk of the potential hassles in all sorts of situations. All great until it goes pear shaped. We experienced this first hand - never again, ever, for anyone.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

In 25+ years of playing, all but a handful of my meets were at their homes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never used a hotel for meets unless someone is already in one looking for a meet (rare as i dont see myself as a escort for the buisness man) alway met from home even on my singles account and over 28 years only ever really had one real problem with a stalker that the police sorted ...mind you we did fit cctv to cover the whole house after that ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We even have a holiday let if there’s any one looking for somewhere nice to have some fun

including spa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always do home meets

Do you do a social first, Just to get a feel the person/couple?"

We tend to just play now if we feel sure about them, if we are undecided we may meet for a social first.

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Definitely worth having a social meet and many conversations with anyone you are thinking of inviting into your home just to be on the safe side

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Definitely worth having a social meet and many conversations with anyone you are thinking of inviting into your home just to be on the safe side"

I've always had social meets first (sometimes more than one)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We even have a holiday let if there’s any one looking for somewhere nice to have some fun

including spa

Ohh sounds intriguing and not too far

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Its clubs for us...great facilities and never a let down.

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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

We've had plenty of hotel meets and had an absolute ball with them. Loads of fun and a good time had by all.

We recently had a meet at our home with a well known and trusted single male we'd met a number of times prior and it felt like it actually heightened things for us

Bringing that into our "safe space" with the risk of neighbours seeing something (the 3 of us had a splash in the hot tub!) was definitely a turn on.

Having another man fuck my wife in my house was very enjoyable

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By *ugehandsMan
over a year ago

Fife/ Newcastle

I would always prefer hotel meets unless it was a more regular meet. Where if there is a trust and understanding then I would invite them to my home.

It's a very risky decision inviting relatively unknown strangers know where you live.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Like the amenity if Hotels but when feel we know and trust the play friends home for total relaxed play.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Hotels, never at our home, ever! The 'lifestyle' is a separate part of our lives and like a clear separation. Hotels bring an edgy vibe to the meet which is something we both like.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Hotel. Our home is a family home

J x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Day use hotels all the way

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Mostly my home with the ladies. And first time with couple was also my place.

Which has it's risks. Thinking about it, hotel is also fine too and probably much safer for both parties.

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By *lderguy4uMan
over a year ago

wirral

Hotel meets can't upset the neighbours with noise

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

We use both sometimes hotel sometimes house

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Prefer hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment, I meet at mine. Mainly because I don't drive.

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By *sexyHCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Hotel meets

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

Hotels every time for me.

So much more relaxing and don't feel like invading others private space.

Travel a bit mainly up north so always stay in a nice comtable hotel with walk in shower.

For a clean friendly start/finish to a awesome hour/nights sex.

Some great hotel contacts local aswell.

Fancy some hotel fun just private message saying

**LuvHotels**

I'll pay BigT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for us depends who it is x

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Both as long as we know them

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By *hilliplisa790 OP Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Good feed back from everyone thank you it’s appreciated

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

I love hotel meets. Always feel uncomfortable in someones home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels always, my sex life and home life are kept seperate.

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By *rFussyMan
over a year ago

preston

Always hotels for us, it’s not just the sex, we also love the getting away and taking the time for ourselves.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Never home for us (maybe if kid free and freinds we know well). Although can see the advantage to price, travel (if its your home) and convenience.

Clubs for us 95% of the time for us. Plus it's fun meeting new people and enjoying a nice variety of people and opportunities all in one night under one roof.

We have/will do hotels. Hotels meets good for people you already know and can reply on. But they ain't so great if the other people down show up because you've still paid for the room. We are far more likely to accept an invite to someone else's room than we are to invite them to ours (especially if we don't know them well). Not because we're entitled dicks, just because it's what we feel comfortable with and happy to trade opportunity for being more at ease.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I do enjoy a hotel meet or going to theirs. I do have a FWB where I stay overnight which is great.

I have accommodated at mine years ago but now my kids are older and at home so I don’t have that freedom. Only ever had people I knew well at mine and that I met often.

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By *enny4itCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Hotels always for us - adds to the sense of occasion x

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

Have done both - mostly hotels - as I like to make a night of it /ie day away/weekend away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wasn't house sharing right now, I'd say at home. But for now its either hotels or at the ladies home. Social usually first though

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

Hotels

So much

In one Friday night in London

Fancy some awesome fun?

Say hello in private

BigT

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

Hotel, great to meet in a neutral location and adds to the meet

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Hotel meet x agreed

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I prefer hotel meets. I only have someone to my home if we have been meeting regularly and I trust them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately Hotel meets for me..I can let myself go more away from home

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Agreed

Trust is paramount x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For meeting together, our place. For her meeting alone usually their place, although she's done cars and outside too.

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By *orthWestUKCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Preston

In reality a hotel. In our minds, in the marital bed why I’m at work

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

I prefer hotels so I can fully let my hair down, it also adds extra excitement! Oh and the beds are comfier

Miss pc

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By *llegroCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Clubs work best for us.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Home for me... been let down too many times at hotels

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Clubs for us, have all the facilities you need.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Prefer home meets but appreciate not everyone wants to or can accommodate in their home (myself included especially being the latter).

So for now until I get my own place, if someone I meet cannot or won’t accommodate in their home, it’s a hotel meet or we meet in a club/at a party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah not ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree should be separate

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Depends on the other couple I think xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Depends on the person. Friends at home, others hotel

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By *unBoyOneMan
over a year ago

London

I had a great ANR session in a hotel recently, but otherwise club meetings. I think everyone can relax on neutral premises.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Prefer hotel as it's mutual ground respective each others home and add few more stories to the walls and bed

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Definitely hotel or clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm single look to play with a couple

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Home meet , I could never meet someone at a hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels or clubs. I can’t accommodate because of having to relocate back to my parents about 9 months ago so don’t expect anyone to accommodate me

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Always a hotel or club.

No one from fab has my address that way, just find it unnecessary information they don’t need.

I prefer clubs these days as get to see the girls and socialise with them too x

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Just hotels for us.

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By *ingeringfunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Home preferably - I've been stood up so so many times in hotel meets and its not a cheap thing to do that I prefer to host if I can. Meet in public for a walk and chat and head to mine if all good.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We like to keep it seperate from our home. We don't mind other people's home. But we much prefer the neutrality of a hotel or Airbnb. Your always a bit conscious in someone's home and that can be a distraction.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Clubs for us as first preference. Hotels maybe once we’ve played

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Hotel. Every time.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

"Always a hotel or club.

No one from fab has my address that way, just find it unnecessary information they don’t need.

I prefer clubs these days as get to see the girls and socialise with them too x"

And this. Our home is just for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has got me thinking…

I have it on my profile that I can accommodate, and logistically, I can, but the whole aspect of keeping swinging separate from my wider life (as my colleagues, neighbours and friends don’t know) has me thinking I should move any prospective meets to hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you meet single guys

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