FabSwingers.com forum: Do girls in couple actually want to ?

By *aving_great_fun OP Man
over a year ago

London

Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

That's a personal choice question. Some will and some won't.

Slot of the couples I have met in a club environment are male driven.

But there are a lot of profiles that are female driven on the site.

There will be couples who also jump together as a couple.

So as I say. Personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

It’s a joint decision with us

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Our experience has been that there are as many reluctant men as there are reluctant women.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

This female most deffinatly wants to meet. However it's on my (our) terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

I have a couples profile on here. I wasn’t 100% in to it. But now I manage it 99% of the time and end up having more interaction.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I control who I meet, even if Mr hints. He can meet who he likes. I like to know as I find it a turn on. He is more reluctant than me at telling me details. Ms

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Mr started it and suggested it so it was male led. That said, I am now enjoying it all and making my own suggestions. He Manages most of the messaging but I am into it. I just prefer to get involved when it gets more real.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Why would you suppose that single women want to meet, but attached women don't?

Or do you believe that once women marry (or partner up) they lose all control over their desires?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about the single ladies here, are they driven by a man in the shadows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 30 years ago Tom suggested a 3sum and after a little persuasion and a lot of fantasy scenarios we did it. I loved it and it got better every time we met someone. Now we both love and want it, which is why I'm on here now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was the husband who started it by telling me his fantasies. But as things progressed it was was a joint decision to start playing. Now I am the one who as taken the lead. But it is still mutual consent were and what we do.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It's totally a joint decision with us, though we have met couple's where the male did seem a bit pushy on a social, we don't meet them again for sex then, a total turn off. X

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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Definitely a mutual decision here.

Sometimes one or the other of us will be wanting to organise a meet more, but this can sometimes be due to what we're looking to arrange.

That said, anything suggested by one is pretty much always supported by the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sir and I met on here as individuals. Being with others is driven by us both.

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

Both of us

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Always a joint decision, why wouldn't it be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual decision here, although after a talk about fantasies it was my idea to join fab.

Mrs

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By *ixi n DogCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Totally down to both of us. We feel if things were being done just to keep one of us happy we'd be doing it for the wrong reasons.

Dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This female most deffinatly wants to meet. However it's on my (our) terms. "

Same as.

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By *tcouple26Couple
over a year ago

Port Talbot

"Totally down to both of us. We feel if things were being done just to keep one of us happy we'd be doing it for the wrong reasons.

Dog"

Agree completely here.

No judgement to anyone else but our situation is in full control of both of us at all times

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

I definitely actually want to meet! Everything is a joint decision for us, if one of us doesn’t feel it, then we don’t do it! I send all the messages, post on the forums, take the photographs etc, but both always involved

Miss pc

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By *ilf and old fartCouple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

I met Milf at a sex party and we have now been together for 9 years. She definitely decides who's going to fuck her, it's her body. So she always has the final say in who we meet.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

Yes I actually want to meet, I set the profile up.

Dick and I agree together on who or whom we meet or don't meet.

He has never tried to make me do anything and I certainly would not 'take one for the team!'

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

can't speak for other couples,

but I'd say we are 50/50,

no pressure from either of us upon the other one

both up for it or not at all

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's about how both feel comfortable to me have chatted with few whereas the female has permission to play alone as well as together which I think is great that everyone feels comfortable with...

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

My wife decides who she fucks x

Has to be that way or coercive behaviour could ensue...agreed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really interact with couples on here but based on observations, I reckon there are a fair few where the woman doesn't actually know she is part of a couples profile

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By *eservesherCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I most definitely want to meet, preferably young hot guys with big thick cocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

Driven by me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much all of this is driven by me ( girl half)

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

I personally would never want Anita to do something that she didn't want to. It would sadden me to be responsible for that.

We discussed at length what we wanted out of swinging and the majority revolves around Anita's fantasies.

Cal

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By *addynLouV2Couple
over a year ago

Mad House

We both make decisions together if any need to be made but it's me that mainly manages our profile... Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We jointly run the couples account..Mr tends to do most of the day to day browsing (more idal time on my hands) but any messages, photo updates or contact is done together..in fact this is where Mrs tends to take the lead

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By *astandtheCurious2Couple
over a year ago

letchworth

It was me (mrs) that has set up this account, but it will of course be joint decisions on anything we do

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

MrsJ approached the subject not MrK

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Join decision here. I would like to think people wouldn’t be on here if they weren’t interested

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By *oreplayfunpairCouple
over a year ago

Weston Super Mare

You can tell from the moment you speak to someone if they are into it or not. Wouldn't want to play with anyone if they were just going through the motions. Has to be attraction, desire and need.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I don't really interact with couples on here but based on observations, I reckon there are a fair few where the woman doesn't actually know she is part of a couples profile

Easily done … I was part of a profile (not on here) that I had no knowledge about and I barely knew the chap ( met him twice at parties as we have friends in common )

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By *atty and RattyCouple
over a year ago

coningsby

Its both of us here as well.

Plus neither one of us will take one for the team.

Joint decision all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both here because we both love to play with each other and others. Very much a joint exercise.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Definitely not driven by him to do anything, we both have our own profiles too, this is just extra fun with like-minded individuals as drama free as possible xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely joint decisions although sometimes he will instigate it and on other occasions I will...

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

Why would you assume men are the main drivers?

I didn't lose my body autonomy, sex drive or mental capacity when I got married.

There are couples where one or the other is clearly not keen. Thankfully, in my experience this is relatively rare.

I my (our) case, although my husband set up our couple profile, we started swinging initially for me to explore my bisexuality. If anything that makes me the driving force.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

It was my partners idea to begin with, I wasn't so sure about it but now, I might be addicted

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

It was Caroline's idea, as we'd just split up with our long term girlfriend, and swinging was the easy way to have sex with other women without the hassle of a relationship.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We met here and both wanted to carry on the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about the single ladies here, are they driven by a man in the shadows?"

No I'm here for myself to meet girls alone but if couples are interested then I will get my husband involved to begin with as my safety is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its something we both like and love meeting when we can xx

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our experience has been that there are as many reluctant men as there are reluctant women.

this and we avoid no one should feel pushed to do anything

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We both have spoken openly about it, we both see,send messages, browse profiles etc…so no secrets.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

K is perfectly happy with meeting. She'd just like to meet women is all

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely me on this!

There’s nothing more horny and sexual than teasing your other half!

Being a dirty hotwife helps

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

Driven by us both, but if one of doesn't want to then we don't.

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I do the chasing and chatting but mainly my wife chooses who. (unless tied and blindfold) her idea of massive excitement !

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By *INTONIC300Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow/Manchester/Edinburgh

I Mrs T run the account and arrange the meets.Hubby is happy to pop on and see what naughtyness I am getting up to x

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

We've met couples where the guy was clearly pushing the woman, sometimes into bisexual play too. A real turn off for us

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By *aving_great_fun OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Pretty much all of this is driven by me ( girl half)"

Well, next time you're in town, give me a shout...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very much driven by me, I control the account and choose who we meet, I'm a very lucky lady

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Is it the case that girls here actually want to meet or is it driven by the male half of the couple ?"

What a strange question? Why do you think that females should be any less keen than men, or that they're being dragged into swinging? Don't you think that women have sexual fantasies that they'd like to fulfill too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely

lol xx

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By *indy777Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Damn, I’ve been rumbled!

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

All in on my own free will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for us although the fantasy started with him, but it didn’t take me long to want to explore my bi side.

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By *aughty.little.secretCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

It's both for us we love swinging and couldn't imagine a vanilla life now lol

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It's very much a joint thing.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s very much driven by both of us.

C has met a couple of females by herself too - definitely not driven by me at all - I’m not discouraging it though

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By *llegroCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Whilst I love him being in control, everything we do is discussed first and is a mutual decision.

I'd never do anything I wasn't 100% in agreement with!

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