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Still a virgin at 29 - not having luck on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I am not having any luck on here. I dont know whether it is because I am shy and inexperience or whether people think I am a fake.

I know i dont have pics on here but I can come on cam which i stated on my profile but still no luck.

Any advice would be welcome! thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start on a rubber doll, get some practise in!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Single men have a hard enough time on here. Admitting you're a virgin and therefore inexperienced makes you less appealing to women and couples. Sorry to put it so bluntly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most important thing to do is to get some pics on here, I [ trix ] would never meet anyone unless I had seen a face pic, it's not blind date and there is no excuse as most phones have camera's now days, You don't have to post a face pic in public if you don't want to, but it is important to have some for when people ask for them. as most do !!. Then as someone above has already said, get a rubber doll and practise..good luck honey xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the messages - I prefer to cam rather than show pics as i notice there are some fake profile on here with fake pics taken from the internet. Which makes me nervous. hence why i prefer cam so you can see each other live.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Trouble is not everyone likes using chat or may not be online when you are, etc... Why not do both can and have private photos?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Cam" not "can". Stupid predictive text.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the messages - I prefer to cam rather than show pics as i notice there are some fake profile on here with fake pics taken from the internet. Which makes me nervous. hence why i prefer cam so you can see each other live."

That's no reason not to have photos on your profile, if you are genuine I suggest you get some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics, no experience, cam only......you've more chance of a meet with the Pope!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A virgin who lists dogging as an interest. The mind boggles

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By *oy meets girlMan
over a year ago

gateshead

If your that desperate shag a prozzy it's what they're there for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I may want to try dogging experience, hence why i put it down

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

what is the point of asking dor help if you don't act on it

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"A virgin who lists dogging as an interest. The mind boggles "

Perhaps he doesn't join in!

To the OP, I will never cam, as I don't have one, therefore saying a cam is as good as pics doesn't always work out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on you guys.....be nice

Do you really want to lose something so precious to one of us?

Wouldn't you rather lose it to some one special?

As it has been said before it takes single guys a lot longer....

Get in the chat rooms and on the forums and get noticed xxx

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have posted in the same thread in "Introductions".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on you guys.....be nice

Do you really want to lose something so precious to one of us?

Wouldn't you rather lose it to some one special?

As it has been said before it takes single guys a lot longer....

Get in the chat rooms and on the forums and get noticed xxx

Good luck x"

I agree give the guy a chance you

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Come on you guys.....be nice

Do you really want to lose something so precious to one of us?

Wouldn't you rather lose it to some one special?

As it has been said before it takes single guys a lot longer....

Get in the chat rooms and on the forums and get noticed xxx

Good luck x

I agree give the guy a chance you "

Maybe it's because he already started another thread on this subject and has been offered help but CBA to take it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on you guys.....be nice

Do you really want to lose something so precious to one of us?

Wouldn't you rather lose it to some one special?

As it has been said before it takes single guys a lot longer....

Get in the chat rooms and on the forums and get noticed xxx

Good luck x

I agree give the guy a chance you "

ya guys. . This is where we should be helping him. Everyone has to start out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I am not having any luck on here. I dont know whether it is because I am shy and inexperience or whether people think I am a fake.

I know i dont have pics on here but I can come on cam which i stated on my profile but still no luck.

Any advice would be welcome! thanks"

You're single and male which means you're in the overwelming majority - make yourself stand out - the virginity think may put some females off, who knows?

Just be patient my friend; I haven't had any meets this time round either, but I don't give up hope someone will come my way, as they will yours..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I am not having any luck on here. I dont know whether it is because I am shy and inexperience or whether people think I am a fake.

I know i dont have pics on here but I can come on cam which i stated on my profile but still no luck.

Any advice would be welcome! thanks

You're single and male which means you're in the overwelming majority - make yourself stand out - the virginity think may put some females off, who knows?

Just be patient my friend; I haven't had any meets this time round either, but I don't give up hope someone will come my way, as they will yours.."

great advice. . . And what an ass. . Had to be said. Sorry. . . Continue!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Just be patient my friend; I haven't had any meets this time round either, but I don't give up hope someone will come my way, as they will yours.."

If you're available end of October I'd be happy to change that for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be patient my friend; I haven't had any meets this time round either, but I don't give up hope someone will come my way, as they will yours..

If you're available end of October I'd be happy to change that for you. "

There you go your out the starting gates..... watch it though you may end up very corrupted if the rest of us get our hands on you after x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you really are a virgin (I have doubts) this aint the place to lose it a negative experience could set you back another 29 years.

Consider if this is the right place to get started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being frank, I am here for fun with people who know what they are doing. Not to play teacher to someone with no experience, and who will possibly be needy and clingy.

How can anyone with no experience of sex know how they'll feel about it, or whether they'll be able to deal with the reality of NSA, casual arrangements?

I, personally, don't think this is the right place for a guy to look to lose his virginity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I, personally, don't think this is the right place for a guy to look to lose his virginity."

Also to OP, don't be pressurised to putting face pics on here if *you* don't want to. To those saying, 'no face pic, no meet'....it's *your* loss.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Being frank, I am here for fun with people who know what they are doing. Not to play teacher to someone with no experience, and who will possibly be needy and clingy.

How can anyone with no experience of sex know how they'll feel about it, or whether they'll be able to deal with the reality of NSA, casual arrangements?

I, personally, don't think this is the right place for a guy to look to lose his virginity."
I agree with everything you put apart from the last paragraph, its as good a place as any and im sure some people have a kink about taking someones cherry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being frank, I am here for fun with people who know what they are doing. Not to play teacher to someone with no experience, and who will possibly be needy and clingy.

How can anyone with no experience of sex know how they'll feel about it, or whether they'll be able to deal with the reality of NSA, casual arrangements?

I, personally, don't think this is the right place for a guy to look to lose his virginity.I agree with everything you put apart from the last paragraph, its as good a place as any and im sure some people have a kink about taking someones cherry. "

True, which is why I put "personally". I was pretty sure other people would disagree. That's one of the things that makes this place interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for those who replied and especially those with postive reply . I know I wont get many offers but I prefer to be honest and dont pretend to be someone I am not. anyway I am going offline as need sleep. Anybody interested or replying to me welcomed. I will reply to all messages received asap! Thank you once again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What have you been in jail for since you were 16????

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"What have you been in jail for since you were 16????"

My gran always said "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything". I should take her advice myself sometimes.

My sister is still a virgin at the age of 30. I personally know someone that was very active on the social swinging scene for many years as a virgin. He was popular at parties and dogging places, yet a virgin until 2010 I believe, I'm sure he'll correct me if he sees this.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"What have you been in jail for since you were 16????"

Hahaha that made me chuckle

Have to admit I find it rather strange that a virgin would sign up for a swinging site - although there are plenty of couples who don't class us single guys as swingers and think we're only here cause it's easier than using eHarmony (but that's another argument for another thread).

When I was a young virgin I had some preconceived ideas about 'making love' being this romantic thing you did with your partner... although admittedly I was so horny I'd have shagged anything that was warm and had a pulse. You definitely need to be "sexually mature" to play this game, and I'd say that type of maturity only comes with experience of having sex and not just with old age.

Another aspect which springs to mind is that every other 'mature' virgin I've heard of or read about has always been very religious. And, generally speaking, religion and swinging don't mix well... although there are exceptions and I'm sure somebody religious will reply to this comment telling me that they're swingers yet still attend church each Sunday. However, when a vicar talks about "love thy neighbour" I don't think he means it in a get-naked-and-fuck-on-the-stairs kind of way.

Is your virginity linked to some deep-rooted religious beliefs you uphold, and if so, are you going to be able to reconcile any feelings of guilt you may have after being promiscuous and shagging a stranger (or maybe that should read 'being shagged by a stranger')...? Hope that's not too personal a question.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Re-reading my last post I think I could've been clearer on something. Rather than saying you need to be 'sexually mature' to be a swinger I should've said you need to be 'emotionally mature about sex and sexuality'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I would say putting some pics has got to help. So many single males that have contacted us have no pics. We just say a polite no thanks. Like others say you need to stand out from the crown. People will want so see size, shape, colour, body hair etc to get an idea if you are their type. Once you are chatting and getting on with them, then you add face pics or web cam...

The trouble is certain things at certain ages ring alarm bells... As people say usually there is a reason somebody is still a virgin and people on here don't want to meet people with hang ups or baggage... I've not read your profile, but read those of people who have got good reviews and look at their style... Hope this helps Risky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dare say your on the wrong site m8, if at 29 and uve still failed to have sex and you seem keen enough that screams 'theres somthing wrong with u' which may not be the case but gives that impression, women in here want to be pleased not to nurture a 29 yr old virgin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being frank, I am here for fun with people who know what they are doing. Not to play teacher to someone with no experience, and who will possibly be needy and clingy.

How can anyone with no experience of sex know how they'll feel about it, or whether they'll be able to deal with the reality of NSA, casual arrangements?

I, personally, don't think this is the right place for a guy to look to lose his virginity."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I knew i would get some negative reply but didnt expect this much! I already knew that majority girls wouldnt go for shy inexperience male but there are few that would as not everyone is the same or have same preference/ liking. As for comments that I am in the wrong place. I dont think I am in the wrong place as not everyone who joins this site is a hardcore swingers and plus I tend to be myself and not pretend to big myself up to look good.

Anyway I hope I will find some decent people on here who I can have fun with.

Thanks to all who replied positively and sent messages, appreciate it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While you could end up meeting someone here this site isn't really ideal for meeting your first person.

Your best bet as a virgin would be to try some of the dating sites so you can meet someone with the same interests and get to know someone on a social/friendship level and let the intimacy have some meaning when it comes to it. It will feel more fulfilling that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I knew i would get some negative reply but didnt expect this much! I already knew that majority girls wouldnt go for shy inexperience male but there are few that would as not everyone is the same or have same preference/ liking. As for comments that I am in the wrong place. I dont think I am in the wrong place as not everyone who joins this site is a hardcore swingers and plus I tend to be myself and not pretend to big myself up to look good.

Anyway I hope I will find some decent people on here who I can have fun with.

Thanks to all who replied positively and sent messages, appreciate it!"

The replies you have got that suggested this might not be the place for you are not negative.

Its simply peoples points of view if you put a question out people are going to reply to it and sometimes you will hear things you might not like or agree with.

Thats Fab for ya.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess I just want no hassle no string attached fun hence why I dont go for the dating site. Yeah I guess people are entitled to their opinion whether I agree with them or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the messages - I prefer to cam rather than show pics as i notice there are some fake profile on here with fake pics taken from the internet. Which makes me nervous. hence why i prefer cam so you can see each other live."

You do mention camming quite often.... together with everything else you have said about yourself, the picture we are getting of you is not one we would want to have anything to do with - sorry mate, but has to be said.

If your 'predicament' is genuine then we do feel for you, but you will have a hell of a struggle trying to get meets through any site.

and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not willing to put in the effort to get to know someone because it's too much hassle then you'll be looking for meets purely on a physical side which is kind of hard if you have no pics up.

Women get loads of messages each day from guys with pics so they are more than busy. They don't have the time to sift through those without pics in an effort to get talking and ask for them.

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