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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anybody else get this when they first joined????

We are over the initial excitement and thrill of joining up and receiving messages.

We are now stuck with the "task" of finding a couple we actually both like and could see meeting, or a single M/F, but how many profiles can you actually look at before becoming almost sensitised to seeing the same things over and over again?!?

Has anybody else hit this wall when they joined up and if so............how do we get over it??

M&J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this can be a common problem for couples which is why many end up meeting on their own. Hard enough 2 folk meeting who tick all the boxes. 4 must be a headache.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think this can be a common problem for couples which is why many end up meeting on their own. Hard enough 2 folk meeting who tick all the boxes. 4 must be a headache."

Yes very true, we hadn't really considered singles before and definitely not single guys but found ourselves looking at them within a few weeks and was so hard to find a couple we "matched" with! And its hard turning people down, as we don't want to be rude and but if one of us doesn't "fancy" one of the other couple then its a no sadly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you're becoming desensitised you probably need to stop looking for a while. Set your mail filters really tight, only search within very specific parameters and limit the time you spend looking. It's much simpler to choose a chocolate from a small box

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton


"Anybody else get this when they first joined????

We are over the initial excitement and thrill of joining up and receiving messages.

We are now stuck with the "task" of finding a couple we actually both like and could see meeting, or a single M/F, but how many profiles can you actually look at before becoming almost sensitised to seeing the same things over and over again?!?

Has anybody else hit this wall when they joined up and if so............how do we get over it??

M&J x "

We were on here for a few months till we figured out what it was we actually wanted . Our first experience was a social at a club. It was great chatting to people in a no pressure environment and the advice they gave us was made us feel more comfortable about taking the next step.

Hope this helps

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Yeah, we definitely know the feeling! It's super tough to find people who are similar to yourselves, within a sensible range, within your desired age bracket, are looking for the same sort of thing, and fancy you equally.

I guess it'd be easier if we were purely about the sex, since one in a dozen single guys who message might ultimately lead to a meet, but that's not really for us.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I think this can be a common problem for couples which is why many end up meeting on their own. Hard enough 2 folk meeting who tick all the boxes. 4 must be a headache."

Absolutely this for me and my other half, factor in I'm straight and my partner can be orally bi and our chances get less too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, we definitely know the feeling! It's super tough to find people who are similar to yourselves, within a sensible range, within your desired age bracket, are looking for the same sort of thing, and fancy you equally.

I guess it'd be easier if we were purely about the sex, since one in a dozen single guys who message might ultimately lead to a meet, but that's not really for us. "

That's the thing, we are purely about the sex, which makes things a little harder we find. We have little to no interest in clubs, and the social side, other than a few drinks with the person, persons we are meeting with before hand. Which I guess makes the window smaller again. But being simply about the sex, it makes it harder to find a couple or person we both like as there is no personality other than online chat to fall back on.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If you go to a club that will be a range of people right there in front of you and it would be much easier to start conversations and see if there is a couple that you are finding that vibe with.

And if so you are already all their, no childcare to think about or lining up of diaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this can be a common problem for couples which is why many end up meeting on their own. Hard enough 2 folk meeting who tick all the boxes. 4 must be a headache.

Yes very true, we hadn't really considered singles before and definitely not single guys but found ourselves looking at them within a few weeks and was so hard to find a couple we "matched" with! And its hard turning people down, as we don't want to be rude and but if one of us doesn't "fancy" one of the other couple then its a no sadly. "

Nah, fuck taking one for the team. You're here to fulfil your fantasies...other people's are secondary to that.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Yeah, we definitely know the feeling! It's super tough to find people who are similar to yourselves, within a sensible range, within your desired age bracket, are looking for the same sort of thing, and fancy you equally.

I guess it'd be easier if we were purely about the sex, since one in a dozen single guys who message might ultimately lead to a meet, but that's not really for us.

That's the thing, we are purely about the sex, which makes things a little harder we find. We have little to no interest in clubs, and the social side, other than a few drinks with the person, persons we are meeting with before hand. Which I guess makes the window smaller again. But being simply about the sex, it makes it harder to find a couple or person we both like as there is no personality other than online chat to fall back on."

Ah yeah, that's fair. Was thinking from a single guy perspective, but yeah I can imagine that's tough going!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think this can be a common problem for couples which is why many end up meeting on their own. Hard enough 2 folk meeting who tick all the boxes. 4 must be a headache.

Yes very true, we hadn't really considered singles before and definitely not single guys but found ourselves looking at them within a few weeks and was so hard to find a couple we "matched" with! And its hard turning people down, as we don't want to be rude and but if one of us doesn't "fancy" one of the other couple then its a no sadly.

Nah, fuck taking one for the team. You're here to fulfil your fantasies...other people's are secondary to that."

Exactly, we wouldn't want anybody else to do that with us either! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all go through this at some point don't worry. It can be frustrating at times hitting a brick wall constantly. There are some gems on here that will be right for you, just takes a little longer to find them that's all.

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