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What makes a girl vanilla

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interested to hear guys opinions on what their version of a girl being ‘vanilla’ is…

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend


"Interested to hear guys opinions on what their version of a girl being ‘vanilla’ is…"

Vanilla to me as a kinkster is someone that has no interest in kinks/fetishes or the BDSM lifestyle.

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

When they say, ‘I’m doing this for your benefit’. Boner killer

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By *gfbMan
over a year ago

thorne

When you fking her and she's not there

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Thinks being on Fab, and going to swinging clubs is kinky??

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

She says something like... “I’m a right kinky bitch me you know, I’ll let you do it from behind and everything. And if I’m really horny we can even leave the lights on”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erotic is the feather ....kinky is the whole chicken.....

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Thinks being on Fab, and going to swinging clubs is kinky??"
then spends her evenings watching the affair fest telly, such as EastEnders, strictly, big brother etc, typically wanting to emulate them...

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Erotic is the feather ....kinky is the whole chicken....."
and depraved is in the butcher's shop.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Nothing wrong with vanilla, it's a popular flavour.

In sexual terms. Hetero couple, maximum 3 positions, only in bedroom.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Don't really use the term. Anything that doesn't include a shit ton of kink though. So oral followed by sexy probably.

No spanking, no hair pulling, no sticking her toes in my mouth etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She says something like... “I’m a right kinky bitch me you know, I’ll let you do it from behind and everything. And if I’m really horny we can even leave the lights on”"

In that case i'm so vanilla (get them lights off though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ask her how a monogamous couple can keep their sex life interesting for 50+ years.

She replies with "you know, you need to spice things up"

You ask what that means.

She replies "try different positions and like wear some stockings"

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

By it's definition Vanilla is a term meaning bland. So I would say Anyone who is into straightforward missionary sex. Someone who is shocked and appalled by the swinging lifestyle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By it's definition Vanilla is a term meaning bland. So I would say Anyone who is into straightforward missionary sex. Someone who is shocked and appalled by the swinging lifestyle x"

Good comment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you fking her and she's not there"

You met my wife then

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By *gfbMan
over a year ago

thorne


"When you fking her and she's not there

You met my wife then "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex never gave head once we were married . Only liked missionary position as the rest were to rude and didn't like sexy underware because tarts dress like that so im going to say she was very vanilla . Now the one after her didn't know the meaning of vanilla and everything I wanted to try was tried a few times

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

A lot of people say it like vanilla is a bad thing, aside from peanut buttercup it's the best flavour!

But on a serious note I (Mr) consider myself pretty vanilla to me it just means I'm not really into kinky shit, it doesn't mean I'm against it just that I don't get anything out of it beyond the pleasure it gives my partner which is the biggest part for me.

Although I do think sometimes it compensates for poor sex too.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Such a subjective term.

Plus ….. vanilla is the best….. a little fruity sauce perhaps every so often

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla = plain

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Vanilla = plain "

What is plain (and I don’t think you can describe poor sex or waning sex in a relationship with troubles or not wanting to have sex… that’s something else)?

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanilla = plain

What is plain (and I don’t think you can describe poor sex or waning sex in a relationship with troubles or not wanting to have sex… that’s something else)?

V x "

I answered the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where a full swap vanilla couple. So basically it's just kissing cuddling, sucking and fucking we're into. Nothing painful or weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being tied up, no blindfolds, not introducing foods, no kinky toys etc. Nothing wrong with it and can still be very loving and sensual but needs spicing up!

Just my opinion of course...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not being tied up, no blindfolds, not introducing foods, no kinky toys etc. Nothing wrong with it and can still be very loving and sensual but needs spicing up!

Just my opinion of course... "

I must have a smidge of vanilla then because food and sex for me do not mix ! Ever !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla sex is to me sex in the usual positions - Missionary & Doggy with no spanking, hair pulling or restraints etc.

Nothing wrong with Vanilla sex on occasions but prefer some kink added

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Not being tied up, no blindfolds, not introducing foods, no kinky toys etc. Nothing wrong with it and can still be very loving and sensual but needs spicing up!

Just my opinion of course...

I must have a smidge of vanilla then because food and sex for me do not mix ! Ever ! "

Me too….. almost totally vanilla by this definition

V x

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By *bsolutley FabMan
over a year ago

Fareham


"She says something like... “I’m a right kinky bitch me you know, I’ll let you do it from behind and everything. And if I’m really horny we can even leave the lights on”"
. Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pillow princess, sex always in bed.

I honestly cant remember the last time i had sex in the bedroom its something i tend to avoid.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"Nothing wrong with vanilla, it's a popular flavour.

In sexual terms. Hetero couple, maximum 3 positions, only in bedroom. "

That sounds so restful and appealing these days

Vanilla ice cream goes perfectly with so many puddings, so maybe vanilla sex is like that too - it's fantastic as long as it comes with a side accompaniment.

Worst ice cream flavour? Those ones with a bit of everything all thrown in together with all focus on novelty and no attention to taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not being tied up, no blindfolds, not introducing foods, no kinky toys etc. Nothing wrong with it and can still be very loving and sensual but needs spicing up!

Just my opinion of course... "

I'm totally vanilla half the time

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I have asked guys this who have said their previous relationships were vanilla. They’ve said they wouldn’t do things like watch porn together, she wouldn’t go on top, no kind of rough play or restraining, didn’t do dirty talk.

I thought we were pretty vanilla before we came here but we’ve always done that sort of stuff so I guess not.

Kx

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Pillow princess, sex always in bed.

I honestly cant remember the last time i had sex in the bedroom its something i tend to avoid. "

I don’t consider myself vanilla but my preference is a comfy bed and a door that locks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for some fab guys, a vanilla girl is one who doesn't get giddy about being used as an object for his desire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they say, ‘I’m doing this for your benefit’. Boner killer "

Epic answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pillow princess, sex always in bed.

I honestly cant remember the last time i had sex in the bedroom its something i tend to avoid.

I don’t consider myself vanilla but my preference is a comfy bed and a door that locks!

"

That don’t make you vanilla at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a shame people see vanilla as something bad, lacking or unexciting or even boring.

I happily describe myself as vanilla and there's nothing boring or lacking about it.

Good sex comes from chemistry and not gimmicks.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I haven’t given it much thoughts but I use the word to describe non swinging friends or non swinging “events” , usually as a response to “what you’re up to this weekend ?” ie : I’m having vanilla friends over to dinner or I’m attending a vanilla party.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I think it's a shame people see vanilla as something bad, lacking or unexciting or even boring.

I happily describe myself as vanilla and there's nothing boring or lacking about it.

Good sex comes from chemistry and not gimmicks. "

Love that.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Pillow princess, sex always in bed.

I honestly cant remember the last time i had sex in the bedroom its something i tend to avoid. "

Ha ha I'm definitely a pillow princess then

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"I think it's a shame people see vanilla as something bad, lacking or unexciting or even boring.

I happily describe myself as vanilla and there's nothing boring or lacking about it.

Good sex comes from chemistry and not gimmicks. "

I was going to add this, compatability is key!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I think for some fab guys, a vanilla girl is one who doesn't get giddy about being used as an object for his desire "

Well said

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By *ynetaurusMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

When the only type of guy she wants is a " Socks on lights off" sort of guy.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Currently buying a lot of Madagascan vanilla ice cream which is good stuff.

As I have already sampled most of Africa

I would love to find a vanilla Madagascan and see if she is a good stuff!

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