FabSwingers.com forum: Kinky disappointments

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone had a naughty chat with someone pre meet and just been let down at their ability to do the things they say they can or are in to and it's been pretty vanilla?

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By *ellbrook92Man
over a year ago

East of England

"Anyone had a naughty chat with someone pre meet and just been let down at their ability to do the things they say they can or are in to and it's been pretty vanilla? "

Haha yes once not on here some real dirty talking women made out she was a proper sub and loved being dominated and wanted to be treated like a little whore etc and then was so vanilla bless her was to shy to even let me go down on her but she wanted to keep seeing me which I thought was weird as we had no spark in the bedroom but loads in person

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By *BBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in suffolk

"Anyone had a naughty chat with someone pre meet and just been let down at their ability to do the things they say they can or are in to and it's been pretty vanilla? "

Think you need to build up some trust with someone before hit the ropes an restraints,not sure if a girl would jump straight in at the deep end so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone had a naughty chat with someone pre meet and just been let down at their ability to do the things they say they can or are in to and it's been pretty vanilla?

Think you need to build up some trust with someone before hit the ropes an restraints,not sure if a girl would jump straight in at the deep end so to speak "

Yes. Especially true for subs. In general, submissives should go step by step and not jump into anything serious directly. It need not be with the same person. If someone totally new to kink says some serious stuff they want to do in their first meet, we can just assume that it's not going to happen.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

No, would never do dirty chat with someone anyway. Would rather meet for a coffee and have a proper chat before anything. Both got to click. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone had a naughty chat with someone pre meet and just been let down at their ability to do the things they say they can or are in to and it's been pretty vanilla? "

This happen to me all the time!

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By *ellbrook92Man
over a year ago

East of England

"Anyone had a naughty chat with someone pre meet and just been let down at their ability to do the things they say they can or are in to and it's been pretty vanilla?

This happen to me all the time! "

I think it’s worst for a women when you get a let down as for a guy it’s like oh ok whatever but for a women it’s all about that build up and the tease to then be a let down is a no go

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd imagine this is more likely to happen when rushing into playing rather than having proper discussions and seeing if your desires align

That said, i'm sure there's a fair share of people out there who will project themselves as something they're not if thet feel it will lead to getting some

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I’ve felt let down even where vanilla sex is concerned after all the promises tbh! The action often doesn’t meet expectation

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I’ve felt let down even where vanilla sex is concerned after all the promises tbh! The action often doesn’t meet expectation "

Yep. So many talk the talk but it’s usually all a load of old blarney.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve felt let down even where vanilla sex is concerned after all the promises tbh! The action often doesn’t meet expectation "

Maybe it's your expectations that could be adjusted

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I've had a few but I'm probably not perfect myself it's just part of the scene

It's best to get to know someone if you really want to push things then you can learn what gets them going

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"I’ve felt let down even where vanilla sex is concerned after all the promises tbh! The action often doesn’t meet expectation

Maybe it's your expectations that could be adjusted "

Oh they’re really not that high

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