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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

So why cheat on wife get her involved

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

You’re honest and that’s commendable. I hope you get all the clunge

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

One in six weeks is a better record than most on here. Maybe your wife’s on Fab too and wouldn’t have a problem meeting a married guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well let's have your wife's number we can give her some fun too

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Not judging. Everyone here for their own reasons.

Just be up front. Let people make their own mind up x

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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

seems quite a few are from my experience...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved "

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You’re honest and that’s commendable. I hope you get all the clunge "

This is quality!!

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as long as your honest about it and give others the choice because of it then i dont see the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"

Swinging couples have the utmost trust in each other to fuck strangers and invite them to 'join' their relationship - however briefly.

Why would you assume they wouldn't judge you?

Why not use an affairs site?

I find this really odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio of men to women/couples in here is massive, so to have a meet as quickly as you have is good going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as long as your honest about it and give others the choice because of it then i dont see the problem"

Thank you yes that’s how I want to come across.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Even non married men can’t get meets but it’s good your honest it makes it easier for me to avoid

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By *ubcup2Couple
over a year ago

London

I like the honesty.

We don't judge but make it clear that we don't want to be dragged into any domestic issues if the guy seems unsure about it.

It doesn't bother us when it comes to meets, and in some way it's preferable as they will less likely become attached in any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been upfront about it. I lose more than I win but I haven't got an issue with that and I respect people's views. Unfortunately, I've received abuse and threats from some on here when I've not even messaged them. Maybe they've been scorned in a past life

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing! "

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave."

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP - it is always good to read fellow men who are brave enough to broach this often repeated topic

We who are married and playing solo (male or female) do so for a wide range of reasons and not all just sex related and therefor finding a "soul mate" or "FWB partner" on FAB's is a challenge - so when you find one you click with, treat her right and don't mess up

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not easy on here the men outweigh the ladies by a very very long way

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

My heart goes out to the OP. Ultimately married or single the best way to get some fun is to go to a club.

The other option is to try to find your bi side. From experience, during past dry periods, being bi has been a blessing, sometimes we all just need some intimate contact. If you can move beyond gender it opens many more doors.

If not, I still wish the OP all the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My heart goes out to the OP. Ultimately married or single the best way to get some fun is to go to a club.

The other option is to try to find your bi side. From experience, during past dry periods, being bi has been a blessing, sometimes we all just need some intimate contact. If you can move beyond gender it opens many more doors.

If not, I still wish the OP all the best."

Thank you,

Yes I agree, I’ve had a mmf before and been with a man. Partly why I’m on here is to look for a nice bi couple.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"My heart goes out to the OP. Ultimately married or single the best way to get some fun is to go to a club.

The other option is to try to find your bi side. From experience, during past dry periods, being bi has been a blessing, sometimes we all just need some intimate contact. If you can move beyond gender it opens many more doors.

If not, I still wish the OP all the best.

Thank you,

Yes I agree, I’ve had a mmf before and been with a man. Partly why I’m on here is to look for a nice bi couple. "

So why does your profile say that you are straight?. Best change it and you may have more luck.

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By *urAlterEgosCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about. "

Honestly not judging, but both of us speaking from personal experience… if you are really in a sexless marriage, then seriously ask yourself if you can continue that for the remainder of your life. Speak to your wife about how you feel. If nothing changes then act to make yourself happier. Pretty sure your wife wouldn’t appreciate your current approach and when you eventually get found out the consequences will be even harsher. Take control, there is always a way out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about.

Honestly not judging, but both of us speaking from personal experience… if you are really in a sexless marriage, then seriously ask yourself if you can continue that for the remainder of your life. Speak to your wife about how you feel. If nothing changes then act to make yourself happier. Pretty sure your wife wouldn’t appreciate your current approach and when you eventually get found out the consequences will be even harsher. Take control, there is always a way out."

Yes I agree totally I’m not saying I’m going to be in this situation Indefinitely.

Just now isn’t possible. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I have played with married men on here

It rarely works as they have restrictions

Now I don’t

But I do always appreciate when your honest

No judgment it’s just not for me ,mainly because it’s always tricky to meet up and that’s frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My heart goes out to the OP. Ultimately married or single the best way to get some fun is to go to a club.

The other option is to try to find your bi side. From experience, during past dry periods, being bi has been a blessing, sometimes we all just need some intimate contact. If you can move beyond gender it opens many more doors.

If not, I still wish the OP all the best.

Thank you,

Yes I agree, I’ve had a mmf before and been with a man. Partly why I’m on here is to look for a nice bi couple.

So why does your profile say that you are straight?. Best change it and you may have more luck."

Yes good point!!!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing! "

Why has she gone off sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing! "

Have you thoroughly explored why this is the case? Sex drives often wax and wane, but they don't usually die all together without there being a good reason.

It would be such a shame to destroy a marriage (by being caught cheating on here) when there is a simple solution to reigniting her desires.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"It’s not easy on here the men outweigh the ladies by a very very long way "

Outweigh?

Freudian slip there?

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"

Does she not want sex.

And have you spoken to her about it.

And do yiu enjoy cheating

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave."
Pmsl, Maybe she has the money lol

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS
over a year ago

Notts

people do like the world to be black and white lol there could be medical reasons the wife doesnt play or some other perfectly understandable circumstance....

same for the wife playing and husband not...

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave."

He does not want to leave as he has his cake and eats it.

Just wander what he would think if he come home after cheating to find her fuvkibg some one .

Would he be mad or just leave it at that

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about. "

No judgement at all buddy. Certainly not here to police how others conduct their relationships. Frankly, it's none of my business. I suspect, lots here are in the same boat - men and women.

What I would say is it might be worth talking to her. She may feel the same - in terms of the sex, the marriage and re the protection of the children etc..., The result could be to give you the green light to get your jollies elsewhere and then when things are in a better position - financially and re the children, you can both go your separate ways.

Life is short and it's for living.

Good luck.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about.

No judgement at all buddy. Certainly not here to police how others conduct their relationships. Frankly, it's none of my business. I suspect, lots here are in the same boat - men and women.

What I would say is it might be worth talking to her. She may feel the same - in terms of the sex, the marriage and re the protection of the children etc..., The result could be to give you the green light to get your jollies elsewhere and then when things are in a better position - financially and re the children, you can both go your separate ways.

Life is short and it's for living.

Good luck. "

Good honesty answer that

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I guess most of us just see liars as none genuine so don’t give them the time of day.

Clubs would be your best bet.

But keep being open about it, us judgemental single people appreciate it haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My heart goes out to the OP. Ultimately married or single the best way to get some fun is to go to a club.

The other option is to try to find your bi side. From experience, during past dry periods, being bi has been a blessing, sometimes we all just need some intimate contact. If you can move beyond gender it opens many more doors.

If not, I still wish the OP all the best.

Thank you,

Yes I agree, I’ve had a mmf before and been with a man. Partly why I’m on here is to look for a nice bi couple. "

Do the Advanced Search. There's a box to tick where both are bi.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

You do you, but read the profiles. I can’t be doing with the drama that seems to come with married, and I get annoyed when married men message me anyhow.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Let thee who hasn't sin cast the 1st stone....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You do you, but read the profiles. I can’t be doing with the drama that seems to come with married, and I get annoyed when married men message me anyhow. "

No drama here!

I’m chilled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let thee who hasn't sin cast the 1st stone...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

He does not want to leave as he has his cake and eats it.

Just wander what he would think if he come home after cheating to find her fuvkibg some one .

Would he be mad or just leave it at that"

I think most on here are having their cake and eating it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here... why am i cheating? Coz i wont get enough at home plus she wont experiment with me. For her its a big no no for swinging... but i live once i wanna try different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about. "

Please don’t feel like you have to respond to people like this. I’m married and play without permission. People don’t get it unless they’ve walked in your shoes.

There’s definitely a double standard here because I’m very honest about being married and still get messages from couples who state they don’t play with attached men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another married guy here and know she doesn't know im on here.

For me its about the "swinging" experience, group fun, playing with couples etc . Id love for my other half to get involved but it just isn't her thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do you, but read the profiles. I can’t be doing with the drama that seems to come with married, and I get annoyed when married men message me anyhow. "

I find there’s more drama with single guys. They sometimes get jealous and emotionally attached. With a married man we both know where we stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about.

No judgement at all buddy. Certainly not here to police how others conduct their relationships. Frankly, it's none of my business. I suspect, lots here are in the same boat - men and women.

What I would say is it might be worth talking to her. She may feel the same - in terms of the sex, the marriage and re the protection of the children etc..., The result could be to give you the green light to get your jollies elsewhere and then when things are in a better position - financially and re the children, you can both go your separate ways.

Life is short and it's for living.

Good luck. "

Great answer but maybe he’s already tried that? I’ve spoken to hubby about it, even suggested we have another woman join us because our problem is quality over quantity. He doesn’t want to see other people together or alone even though he knows our sex life is lacking.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all. "

I'm in a similar position, and also had the pleasure of having had one playmate - married and 'cheating' herself - who absolutely loved that I was married and 'cheating' too. It was a huge turn-on for her...

....but such women are very few and far between...


"I like the honesty.

We don't judge but make it clear that we don't want to be dragged into any domestic issues if the guy seems unsure about it.

It doesn't bother us when it comes to meets, and in some way it's preferable as they will less likely become attached in any way "


"I find there’s more drama with single guys. They sometimes get jealous and emotionally attached. With a married man we both know where we stand. "

I've played with couples and a single female specifically because of this - the fact that I'm married with an unaware wife meant they knew they could rely on my total discretion...

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Well done for being honest towards other members, fair enough if they now take the opportunity to criticise but at least you've given them that chance. As to whether it's fair on your wife only you can judge. It's a risky route and could end very badly for you. Why not just be honest and tell her you still love her but want to seek physical intimacy elsewhere and she what her reaction is. She may not mind and be actually relieved because it takes the pressure from her. It worked for us (althotnot in reality yet).

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I’m In the same boat op but I got more abuse when I was honest your lucky on that score I just get messages with abuse when I send them there is a few nice folk on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always appreciate the honesty of the relationship status. Much more chance to meet someone if you're upfront with it than coming out with it later in my opinion. It's hard but there are people out there who will be happy to meet you. Just keep looking.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

At least you are honest I suppose. It'd be a hard pass from me though.

In a previous life I was the wife, at home with the young kids, in the supposedly sexless marriage (it wasn't but that was the line he used to excuse his cheating). I could never contribute towards destroying another family like that.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The only good thing about this post is your honesty at being married.

Sadly it seems you can't be as honest with your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another married guy here and know she doesn't know im on here.

For me its about the "swinging" experience, group fun, playing with couples etc . Id love for my other half to get involved but it just isn't her thing."

Well put - very succinct and to the point -

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By *topthepressMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Better to tell your wife you never know she may be thinking the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only good thing about this post is your honesty at being married.

Sadly it seems you can't be as honest with your wife."

Harsh and to an extent understand your view point - but there are lots and lots of married and attached women on here playing without their partners knowledge - i for one have been seeing a lovely married lady off and on for the last 4 years, she is in exact same boat as me - not looking for love, just looking to fill a hole in the passionate (ok Sex) side of our lives

Everybody has their own reasons for being here , whether that my filling a gap in their lives, enjoying the "swinging" lifestyle or purely out of sexual frustration -

But by being open about it here/in their profiles at least gives the reader an informed choice to make

J.....steps off his soap box lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"The only good thing about this post is your honesty at being married.

Sadly it seems you can't be as honest with your wife.

Harsh and to an extent understand your view point - but there are lots and lots of married and attached women on here playing without their partners knowledge - i for one have been seeing a lovely married lady off and on for the last 4 years, she is in exact same boat as me - not looking for love, just looking to fill a hole in the passionate (ok Sex) side of our lives

Everybody has their own reasons for being here , whether that my filling a gap in their lives, enjoying the "swinging" lifestyle or purely out of sexual frustration -

But by being open about it here/in their profiles at least gives the reader an informed choice to make

J.....steps off his soap box lol "

I'd say the same thing if a woman had posted the same.

Everyone does have their reasons but I can't and never will condone cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only good thing about this post is your honesty at being married.

Sadly it seems you can't be as honest with your wife."

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"The only good thing about this post is your honesty at being married.

Sadly it seems you can't be as honest with your wife.

Harsh and to an extent understand your view point - but there are lots and lots of married and attached women on here playing without their partners knowledge - i for one have been seeing a lovely married lady off and on for the last 4 years, she is in exact same boat as me - not looking for love, just looking to fill a hole in the passionate (ok Sex) side of our lives

Everybody has their own reasons for being here , whether that my filling a gap in their lives, enjoying the "swinging" lifestyle or purely out of sexual frustration -

But by being open about it here/in their profiles at least gives the reader an informed choice to make

J.....steps off his soap box lol

I'd say the same thing if a woman had posted the same.

Everyone does have their reasons but I can't and never will condone cheating."

I’m with you sparkle

Don’t care who it is, or for what reason xx

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"The only good thing about this post is your honesty at being married.

Sadly it seems you can't be as honest with your wife.

Harsh and to an extent understand your view point - but there are lots and lots of married and attached women on here playing without their partners knowledge - i for one have been seeing a lovely married lady off and on for the last 4 years, she is in exact same boat as me - not looking for love, just looking to fill a hole in the passionate (ok Sex) side of our lives

Everybody has their own reasons for being here , whether that my filling a gap in their lives, enjoying the "swinging" lifestyle or purely out of sexual frustration -

But by being open about it here/in their profiles at least gives the reader an informed choice to make

J.....steps off his soap box lol

I'd say the same thing if a woman had posted the same.

Everyone does have their reasons but I can't and never will condone cheating.

I’m with you sparkle

Don’t care who it is, or for what reason xx"

Infuriates me when people make excuses for it....

Feel so sorry for those sitting at home while their partners are out fucking who knows behind their backs. They deserve better x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about. "

there is always a way to do the right thing, when i was in my 20s i married too young, ended up cheating, couldnt cope with the deception so took it on the chin, lost house, and kids, do see them sometimes, and it cost a fortune and had to start over, would never cheat again, but i feel better for the way i handled it, and i get to sleep well.

there is always a way, its cowardly to think otherwise

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By *eano78Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I'm not sure they always do deserve better. A woman who uses a man to have children and then decides she doesn't want to have a relationship with him and traps him giving him no choice but to stay if he wants to be a good dad, is not necessarily worthy of sympathy. Especially if he has tried to make it work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love married men. That’s the main reason I’m on here.

No strings, no commitments, no worries that they’re going to tell people about our meets, and there’s an added thrill of secrecy.

So, married men - feel free to message me

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By *iny123Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

I'm in the same boat as OP, my wife is unable to participate in the physical side of our relationship but that doesn't diminish our love. I look for, and have found playmates on here but there are alot of very judgmental people on here. I think married women playing away are judged very differently and then it's always the man's fault. Double standards as usual.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm in the same boat as OP, my wife is unable to participate in the physical side of our relationship but that doesn't diminish our love. I look for, and have found playmates on here but there are alot of very judgmental people on here. I think married women playing away are judged very differently and then it's always the man's fault. Double standards as usual."

My answer would be exactly the same to a wmoan. Cheating is cheating no matter what sex you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the same boat as OP, my wife is unable to participate in the physical side of our relationship but that doesn't diminish our love. I look for, and have found playmates on here but there are alot of very judgmental people on here. I think married women playing away are judged very differently and then it's always the man's fault. Double standards as usual."

if you have your wife ok to play away, then no problem, if you dont then its cheating nothing more nothing less.

many people live sexless life, why do you think so many men have hobbies lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a reason to be on here. Most are single or in swinging couples, (legimate if you like), and some seek something very much missing in their relationship. Everybody will have an opinion, some nice and some not so but by putting this on the forum you will receive those comments! All you can do is be honest on your profile OP and then its down to those who read it and to whether they pursue you. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sympathise with the OP as I used to be in the same position — tried for many years to make a bad marriage work knowing if I left I’d be completely fucked over on finances.

So I used to cheat as well as it made a bad situation more bearable and allowed for some moments of fun and human connection in an otherwise fairly miserable existence but ultimately didn’t solve things and decided just to take a hit.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

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By *iren4uWoman
over a year ago

jersey channel islands


"I'm in the same boat as OP, my wife is unable to participate in the physical side of our relationship but that doesn't diminish our love. I look for, and have found playmates on here but there are alot of very judgmental people on here. I think married women playing away are judged very differently and then it's always the man's fault. Double standards as usual.

My answer would be exactly the same to a wmoan. Cheating is cheating no matter what sex you are."

That us a definite black/white answer..if perhaps you have walked in someone else's shoes your answer might be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"
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Don't judge!!!! Funniest thing. Most people really don't like cheaters causing carnage in a family isn't most people's idea of fun! Unhappy with your marriage do the decent thing leave and do your wife a favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been the partner with no sex drive, sat at home on my own heavily pregnant whilst my OH was out having as much fun as he could get with young women, I found out and it nearly ruined me, I pretty much lost everything and had to go through a pregnancy, birth and 5 years as a single mum completely alone. Fast forward 5 years, I regained a little confidence and tried again, and after a few years I realised history wad repeating itself but right under my nose this time, I was made to feel like it was my fault so I let it continue until eventually my confidence in being a woman and mother was so low I took steps to end my own life. Luckily I escaped and here I am to tell the tale but I couldn't knowingly contribute to ruining another family / womans life. So i'm glad you're open enough about it so people like myself can avoid you.

Out of pure curiosity, if the shoe was on the other foot and you were stuck at home in a sexless marriage with no confidence or sex drive and you discovered your wife was on a swinging site trying to get as much cock as she could because you just wern't doing it for her anymore how would you feel / react? Im purely curious.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"

Hardly a surprise is it! Doesn't go down with the ladies that

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Torridge area of Devon

So

If you were in a Club OP and you were invited to play with a couple (assuming you want to) would you say by the way i am married? No you wouldn't. You would accept the invite and crack on.

Or is it now down to wedding rings or the lack of.

If you dont want to be judged, why advertise it. If you are asked outright it is up to you.

What is the difference

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By *inky couple 247Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham area

I have been married for 25 years and I always said I would never cheat as I think it is just wrong

Now I find myself on her with my husbands best mate

Oppps mid life crisis

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"

Look at it like this.

Why would someone get involved with a cheat when there is so much choice of single guys? ?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"

Would you be happy if your first secret meet was your wife?

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

Look at it like this.

Why would someone get involved with a cheat when there is so much choice of single guys? ?"

Rephrase ...

Much choice of guys who claim to be single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh boy... Peach is gonna tear you apart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's to say she not doing the same just putting it out there ?? lol

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

Look at it like this.

Why would someone get involved with a cheat when there is so much choice of single guys? ?

Rephrase ...

Much choice of guys who claim to be single

"

Fair point.

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By *unkerbobMan
over a year ago

belfast

Should call this saintswingers with all the angels that are on ere!!!!

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Should call this saintswingers with all the angels that are on ere!!!!"

Not at all.

Cheating is certainly not swinging.

Surely we all know that?

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Hi OP sorry to hear your situation.

Not sure if you 2 are not in love or things are just stale

Me and MR watched sex,love and goop on Netflix and our sexual activity has doubled

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well m8 that's a bonus finding someone who loves to suck married cock. There's a lot women on here who don't give a flying fuck if you are married. Button your coat to her and don't let her go lol

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing!

Can't leave?. Has she locked the door and handcuffed you to the table?. There is a big difference between can't leave and don't want to leave.

Not in a financial position to do so, no where to go, young children to think about.

Honestly not judging, but both of us speaking from personal experience… if you are really in a sexless marriage, then seriously ask yourself if you can continue that for the remainder of your life. Speak to your wife about how you feel. If nothing changes then act to make yourself happier. Pretty sure your wife wouldn’t appreciate your current approach and when you eventually get found out the consequences will be even harsher. Take control, there is always a way out."

Being there every day for your young children is far more important than sex. There can be many reasons for sexless marriages, such as physical and mental health issues, and they can still be happy, functional marriages, but on different terms. Dishonesty is never good, but sometimes there are bigger things at stake. Sure there are people that just cheat because they can, but there are many who stay because they don't want to destroy the lives of their family, but just need a little something for themselves sometimes. We should never judge anyone without understanding their unique situation. I'm totally against full on affairs where emotions become entangled, but i think we need to be more understanding sometimes that maybe it's more mature to learn how to manage your own needs without destroying your family's life. Sex and intimacy are important but not always critical in a marriage that is still functioning in other ways. To leave just because you're not getting any sex seems incredibly selfish - being there for your children every day is far more important.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We can understand being in an unfortunate situation like a sexless marriage is difficult but if your sex life is worth more than your relationship or family life then why not leave her as when she finds out (they always do!) it could potentially ruin someone's life. Best to just be need honest with her.

Our opinion love rats (male or female we may add) is

If cheating people can't be "honest" with their own partner or have any respect for them, then they are hardly going to be honest or have any respect for random people they hope to meet know here.

I know people won't like our view but it's our opinion.

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By *ambofkMan
over a year ago

Hamilton

I’m single I’m not attached and to date I have only had 2 meets x I would say that for someone in your position your doing very well x and at least your up front about your marital status it’s more than can be said for some on this site good luck for the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’d be happy for your wife to cheat on you behind your back then you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. If you’d be angry, upset etc if your wife did to you what you’re doing to her then you’re being a selfish prick.

I guess you should also consider how your wife would feel if she finds out about it. If it will break her heart and make her question her own self worth and leave her with trust issues for the rest of her life then maybe you should consider whether you’re happy to risk making her feel like that and if you don’t care that you could do that to her then you’re being a selfish prick. If she wouldn’t care about it then you don’t have anything to feel guilty about.

There are other unknown factors that influence whether what you’re doing is ok, like do you use protection when you’re with other women so that you don’t risk passing anything onto your wife, do you have children who’s lives you could also ruin if you and your wife split up over it and who you could be spending time with rather than cheating on your wife.

If all the factors lean a certain way that makes what you’re doing ok in every way then you don’t have anything to feel guilty about but if just one of the factors leans towards what you’re doing being potentially hurtful to your wife (and children if you have any) then you’re being a selfish prick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m married and cheating, don’t judge!

Finding it really hard on here to even talk to a female, been fortunate to meet one who worships married cock but that’s all.

I just want to be given a chance!

"

By the way I'm porking your wife lol

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"If you’d be happy for your wife to cheat on you behind your back then you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. If you’d be angry, upset etc if your wife did to you what you’re doing to her then you’re being a selfish prick.

I guess you should also consider how your wife would feel if she finds out about it. If it will break her heart and make her question her own self worth and leave her with trust issues for the rest of her life then maybe you should consider whether you’re happy to risk making her feel like that and if you don’t care that you could do that to her then you’re being a selfish prick. If she wouldn’t care about it then you don’t have anything to feel guilty about.

There are other unknown factors that influence whether what you’re doing is ok, like do you use protection when you’re with other women so that you don’t risk passing anything onto your wife, do you have children who’s lives you could also ruin if you and your wife split up over it and who you could be spending time with rather than cheating on your wife.

If all the factors lean a certain way that makes what you’re doing ok in every way then you don’t have anything to feel guilty about but if just one of the factors leans towards what you’re doing being potentially hurtful to your wife (and children if you have any) then you’re being a selfish prick. "

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the people who are married and cheating on here are only doing it because their relationship has run its course. Most couples including myself stay in relationships unhappy and sexless or maybe because they have got kids etc x when you're marriage is like that it's time to get your clothes in a crisp bag and bolt x life's too short and all that x

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Most of the people who are married and cheating on here are only doing it because their relationship has run its course. Most couples including myself stay in relationships unhappy and sexless or maybe because they have got kids etc x when you're marriage is like that it's time to get your clothes in a crisp bag and bolt x life's too short and all that x "

If you are that unhappy, wouldn't it be best to move on? If it's for the sake of kids then surely it'll be worse for them if they were to find out rather than somebody just coming clean about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the people who are married and cheating on here are only doing it because their relationship has run its course. Most couples including myself stay in relationships unhappy and sexless or maybe because they have got kids etc x when you're marriage is like that it's time to get your clothes in a crisp bag and bolt x life's too short and all that x

If you are that unhappy, wouldn't it be best to move on? If it's for the sake of kids then surely it'll be worse for them if they were to find out rather than somebody just coming clean about it?"

Yes that's what I was meaning x

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Crewe Cw1 + all midlands areas areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"So why cheat on wife get her involved

We don’t have a sex life anymore and I can’t leave. She frowns on this kind of thing! "

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ditto

There are loads on here and most do not reveal.

I do

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Crewe Cw1 + all midlands areas areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"I like the honesty.

We don't judge but make it clear that we don't want to be dragged into any domestic issues if the guy seems unsure about it.

It doesn't bother us when it comes to meets, and in some way it's preferable as they will less likely become attached in any way "

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Well said

Would love to meet

T xx

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Crewe Cw1 + all midlands areas areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Hi OP - it is always good to read fellow men who are brave enough to broach this often repeated topic

We who are married and playing solo (male or female) do so for a wide range of reasons and not all just sex related and therefor finding a "soul mate" or "FWB partner" on FAB's is a challenge - so when you find one you click with, treat her right and don't mess up

Good luck "

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Fab reply

Spot on

T

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Crewe Cw1 + all midlands areas areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"My heart goes out to the OP. Ultimately married or single the best way to get some fun is to go to a club.

The other option is to try to find your bi side. From experience, during past dry periods, being bi has been a blessing, sometimes we all just need some intimate contact. If you can move beyond gender it opens many more doors.

If not, I still wish the OP all the best."

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Nice reply

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Crewe Cw1 + all midlands areas areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"I'm in the same boat as OP, my wife is unable to participate in the physical side of our relationship but that doesn't diminish our love. I look for, and have found playmates on here but there are alot of very judgmental people on here. I think married women playing away are judged very differently and then it's always the man's fault. Double standards as usual."

Snap exactly the same as me.

So well said

T

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

A slightly but relevant different pov is _ased on the people who've been affected but this, the kids themselves.

I've been working alongside the adult kids whose parents have played away and left scared and really fucked up by the lies, disregard and general lack of commitment their parents had in making a relationship work.

Yes i know there's other factors to consider. The kids seem to struggle with relationships, its not that they want to play tbe field, but they often complain that they've had found special people to love, but their own experiences of watching their parents screw around, working late and go awol at weekends when they could have had a relationship with the kids they've got, often leaves them with low self esteem and self-worth. Is that a good example to set them with to grow up with.

These same kids have all pretty much said the same thing, just get the inevitable divorce and let me grow up from the toxicity of a relationship _ased on lies upon lies. They generally, though not exclusively say that the perpetrators are chicken shit parents, cowards that aren't respected by those affected by the people that are supposed to be raising them.

The victims are good people whom have become lost souls when it comes to relationships who mistakenly exchange porn and peers advice (many in the same boat) as a substitute for parental advice and get things badly wrong for themselves in the process.

In being honest as a parent in this swinging community, there is at least with that the truthfulness that justification of the need that consenting couples can explain our own promiscuity. We can say openly to our offspring why we do it and with the partners consent; if it isn't there then its a life built on lies, what life for a kid ehh.

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