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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase?

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I think they're so accustomed to getting knocked back, it confuses them when someone says "let's meet".

Lady Astor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they dont want socials maybe? they just want a guaranteed fuck meet and a social wont give them that...we are the same as in we like a social before we decide to go further

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Have to agree with you, reading different threads. Slow communication usually works fine though then you actually get to know the persons which make the meet more enjoyable

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By *utchyjackMan
over a year ago

Newquay

Experience when I was half of a couples profile here taught me that there are alot of time wasters here, I'm a single guy now and still get meets with couples and single women, I always turn up when a meet is arranged. You will soon learn how to spot the time wasters and pic collectors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I’ve only got one verified meet I’ve actually met quite a few men off here, they all state that they’re straight on their profile and don’t want anyone knowing they met with a man, so won’t do verifications. Most of them are married as well so we had to be really discreet. I think there are a lot of men here who just want to meet for a quick fuck and wouldn’t want to be seen at a socials.

I really want to find someone to go to socials with as well but I have experienced the same kind of reaction as you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

Wow that is a real eye opener! If I say so myself.

Maybe many many many factors!

Did you actually chat with these potential guys whom wanted to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they dont want socials maybe? they just want a guaranteed fuck meet and a social wont give them that...we are the same as in we like a social before we decide to go further "

Socials are very important and a must always!!

I am all for that and what else may develop and agreed by the parties involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they dont want socials maybe? they just want a guaranteed fuck meet and a social wont give them that...we are the same as in we like a social before we decide to go further "

Your probably right. Maybe we need to find a way of highlighting those of us who enjoy socials, rather than them just being seen as a means to an end?

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Plenty even when approached by a couple…

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yes.. happens all the time, I had 7 socials pencilled in over the last couple of weeks. Only 2 actually happened.

If they can't spare an hour for a coffee, they're not going to get anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve been let down by more men than any other demigrafic, always keen and message up till the last min, but often dont show, its no wander they get a bad name, think it the thought thats the turn on, but the reality is to much, still there are good ones out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I have had quite a few people who wink and seem interested, I usually initiate a conversation, none of them have resulted in meets. They seem to love to have endless chat on here or just stop responding.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I think this can be said for men and women. It's like a hobby and they don't have any intention to meet. This is fine but no point in arranging something if you are going to back out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its so easy when a guy starts messing or backing out ..lets you down.... block block them all as your going along and the genuine ones come forth as there hardly any clutter left ... block is you friedly tool to make swinging easier

i do it with those who are rude abusive bad status's those that alway say they are wankin and on and on ...i cant remember the last time i was let down with a meet ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i said men as we only meet men but when we use to meet couples and women they were as bad too just they dont stand out as not as many as men

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Well I’ve been cancelled on 3 times but it’s always men I seem to see moaning about time wasters.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I found many didn't want to meet for socials when I was meeting.

Either they can't be seen out In public with me or want some quick fun, without putting effort in.

That's their choice, but not for me, I think they hope you'll just drop the social idea and meet straight away for fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the trouble is 60% or more of the site is here for self relief or the chase very few are here for the swinging side of things .... pics and vids attract wankers it that plain and simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also i think (i could be wrong) that swingers are 50/50 as in socials or not most of those we know of are meet up on the day types of meets mainly due to the fact when they did plan things went tits up ... if we plan its no more than a week ahead we learnt that lesson years ago the more time you give the less likely its going to happen ..

and socials went out the window years ago too guess its easier being a couple but we now meet if things are ok then we play if not bye bye

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

If I get talking to someone and arrange to meet, guarantee I would always meet, spooks it otherwise for other genuine single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’ve been cancelled on 3 times but it’s always men I seem to see moaning about time wasters. "

I can’t believe anyone has ever cancelled on you, they must be crazy missing out on meeting you. I’d drop anything and wouldn’t let anything stop me if I ever had the opportunity to meet you.

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

A couple of months eh?? Must be experts

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"Well I’ve been cancelled on 3 times but it’s always men I seem to see moaning about time wasters.

I can’t believe anyone has ever cancelled on you, they must be crazy missing out on meeting you. I’d drop anything and wouldn’t let anything stop me if I ever had the opportunity to meet you. "

These things happen, just move on I guess. Not good for the self esteem though

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"I found many didn't want to meet for socials when I was meeting.

Either they can't be seen out In public with me or want some quick fun, without putting effort in.

That's their choice, but not for me, I think they hope you'll just drop the social idea and meet straight away for fun. "

Yep that’s why I put I’m not a drive through fuck…. Unless I’ve met them Before it’s different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found many didn't want to meet for socials when I was meeting.

Either they can't be seen out In public with me or want some quick fun, without putting effort in.

That's their choice, but not for me, I think they hope you'll just drop the social idea and meet straight away for fun.

Yep that’s why I put I’m not a drive through fuck…. Unless I’ve met them Before it’s different "
now that's what I call a happy meal !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’ve been cancelled on 3 times but it’s always men I seem to see moaning about time wasters.

I can’t believe anyone has ever cancelled on you, they must be crazy missing out on meeting you. I’d drop anything and wouldn’t let anything stop me if I ever had the opportunity to meet you.

These things happen, just move on I guess. Not good for the self esteem though "

I’m sure they have a very good reason because no one would cancel on you unless they absolutely have to I’m sure. It’s definitely their loss anyway and I can’t imagine you have any trouble finding someone else to meet up with whereas the men most probably will struggle.

Your profile is by far my favourite one on here and it makes me so sad that we live so far apart. I often look at your profile and dream about how amazing it would be to meet up with you so I hate hearing that men have given up the opportunity to do what I dream of doing.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

A lot of guys (and male operated couples accounts) here just want dirty chat and picture swapping. Any talk about meeting is simply a ruse by which to get the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Genuine divorced male here who hasn't been given the breaks.

Sadly I've only had the pleasure of one meet with a couple which was really enjoyed by all.

I'm not sure if it's my messages, my pics or videos that aren't appreciated? Happy for information on how to make it better for me on here xx

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

It happens, I guess it's about due dilligence. If someone's well verified they're probably less likely to bail on you. Think you generally get a sense what people are like when messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good social but what I would say is if people are not willing to put the effort in is it really worth your effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just had someone cancel on me which is disappointing. He was meant to be coming to mine tomorrow afternoon but he’s just messaged me to say he’s arranged to meet up with a woman off here so he’s going to see her instead. It could just be an excuse but he seemed really genuine and keen to meet so I do think he intended to come.

He told me that he loves to see men wearing a thong, I didn’t have a thong so I went after work today to buy one especially to wear for him so that shows how confident I was that he was going to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just had someone cancel on me which is disappointing. He was meant to be coming to mine tomorrow afternoon but he’s just messaged me to say he’s arranged to meet up with a woman off here so he’s going to see her instead. It could just be an excuse but he seemed really genuine and keen to meet so I do think he intended to come.

He told me that he loves to see men wearing a thong, I didn’t have a thong so I went after work today to buy one especially to wear for him so that shows how confident I was that he was going to come. "

so you are second best, i would tell him to do one tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just had someone cancel on me which is disappointing. He was meant to be coming to mine tomorrow afternoon but he’s just messaged me to say he’s arranged to meet up with a woman off here so he’s going to see her instead. It could just be an excuse but he seemed really genuine and keen to meet so I do think he intended to come.

He told me that he loves to see men wearing a thong, I didn’t have a thong so I went after work today to buy one especially to wear for him so that shows how confident I was that he was going to come.

so you are second best, i would tell him to do one tbh"

Well his profile says he’s straight and looking to meet women so I think he’d always have chosen to meet a woman over me if he could. He told me that when we meet I’m not allowed to take my knickers off and he won’t touch my cock. He wanted me to suck his cock and he was going to fuck my ass while I was wearing knickers and my cock stays inside them, so he obviously wasn’t interested in cock at all. I think he was going to imagine it was a woman sucking his cock and a female ass he was fucking, I’d have thought my body hair would have made it difficult for him to imagine that though haha.

We get on really well and he looks amazing so I might give him one last chance...

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"I found many didn't want to meet for socials when I was meeting.

Either they can't be seen out In public with me or want some quick fun, without putting effort in.

That's their choice, but not for me, I think they hope you'll just drop the social idea and meet straight away for fun.

Yep that’s why I put I’m not a drive through fuck…. Unless I’ve met them Before it’s different now that's what I call a happy meal !"

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"Well I’ve been cancelled on 3 times but it’s always men I seem to see moaning about time wasters.

I can’t believe anyone has ever cancelled on you, they must be crazy missing out on meeting you. I’d drop anything and wouldn’t let anything stop me if I ever had the opportunity to meet you.

These things happen, just move on I guess. Not good for the self esteem though

I’m sure they have a very good reason because no one would cancel on you unless they absolutely have to I’m sure. It’s definitely their loss anyway and I can’t imagine you have any trouble finding someone else to meet up with whereas the men most probably will struggle.

Your profile is by far my favourite one on here and it makes me so sad that we live so far apart. I often look at your profile and dream about how amazing it would be to meet up with you so I hate hearing that men have given up the opportunity to do what I dream of doing. "

Awww thank you

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I would always turn up for a meet, social first for me

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

Can't get away to meet you today, their wife won't let them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase?

Can't get away to meet you today, their wife won't let them!

"

Try asking for an evening phone call first...it's a pretty good filter!

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

You’re always going to get fantasists, exhibitionists, ghosts, fakes, flakes and people who change their mind but aren’t for whatever reason able to say.

I’ve certainly had the same experience as the OP with women over the years. I just put it down to one or all of the above and move on.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

I would say there is a percentage of guys on here, I don’t know the figure but for arguments sake I will put it at 37.36% that will never meet. They enjoy the chase and the banter and use the site the same way as they do porn.

Of course it’s almost impossible to tell which ones these are until you get to the stage where a meet is close and they ultimately disappear.

One thing is for sure though. If you are reading this then then you are most certainly not one of them types, you are of course genuine. It’s all the others who do this kind of thing and give you a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab boasts as having over 200,000 members. So if we say 250,000 as a round number. It’s likely that 90% of those are listed as single chaps ot those who purport to be single. That leaves circa 25,000 couples and single ladies.

Add in geographical and age preferences and omit those couples and ladies that preclude single chaps the chances of meeting are slim, statically speaking.

And for the doubters statistics prove statistics are correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.. happens all the time, I had 7 socials pencilled in over the last couple of weeks. Only 2 actually happened.

If they can't spare an hour for a coffee, they're not going to get anything else.

"

Wow that’s crazy only 2

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By *BoschMan
over a year ago

lincoln

I am willing to meet for socials and more - rarely get a reply back never mind a meet. Sometimes this place is like shouting into the wind. But understand that men will vastly out number the ladies on here.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I've not had a new meet since before lockdown. The women I've chatted to have either gone quiet as soon as I've mentioned a meet, ghosted me completely, or gone off and met other guys, happily posting veris on their profiles, and not getting back in touch.....

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Although I never get approached I'd have to say I've never not turned up and never been let down by a single female either. Out of the four 'meets' I've had with couples three have ghosted me on the day, then posted photos and comments from a better offer within the following 24 hours.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Although I never get approached I'd have to say I've never not turned up and never been let down by a single female either. Out of the four 'meets' I've had with couples three have ghosted me on the day, then posted photos and comments from a better offer within the following 24 hours. "

That's the bit that hurts the most; knowing you were just a 'Plan b'

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"Although I never get approached I'd have to say I've never not turned up and never been let down by a single female either. Out of the four 'meets' I've had with couples three have ghosted me on the day, then posted photos and comments from a better offer within the following 24 hours. "

I’ve had this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I never get approached I'd have to say I've never not turned up and never been let down by a single female either. Out of the four 'meets' I've had with couples three have ghosted me on the day, then posted photos and comments from a better offer within the following 24 hours.

I’ve had this "
it's like a job market sometimes with ppl juggling offers. Ghosting is shit tho. Own your choices ppl !

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We don't really do socials - we always hope to play on a first meet at even socials take it out of Char just as much as shagging for an hour.

We've found it slightly worse lately for getting let down by single guys (no experience really of couple and women as we don't have much luck there) but it's definitely worse with guys without any verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I never get approached I'd have to say I've never not turned up and never been let down by a single female either. Out of the four 'meets' I've had with couples three have ghosted me on the day, then posted photos and comments from a better offer within the following 24 hours.

I’ve had this it's like a job market sometimes with ppl juggling offers. Ghosting is shit tho. Own your choices ppl ! "

Serendipity strikes. Just read this :

Planshopping. That is, deferring committing to any one plan for an evening until you know what all your options are, and then picking the one that’s most likely to be fun/advance your career/have the most girls at it—in other words, treating people like menu options or products in a catalog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they dont want socials maybe? they just want a guaranteed fuck meet and a social wont give them that...we are the same as in we like a social before we decide to go further "

I feel it's this too with some of the guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase?

A couple of months eh?? Must be experts"

It doesn’t take long to suss out this place and the members!

It’s not rocket science it’s a place where people meet for recreational sex. A couple of days would be sufficient to suss it out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d hazard a guess that the guy blowing the women out got a better offer else where.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"I’d hazard a guess that the guy blowing the women out got a better offer else where.

"

Oh just didn’t fancy a social.

Some guys don’t want to meet for a coffee, as they just want to meet and have fun. After all, that’s why they are on here. Some people like the social side so they would want that first. Different strokes for different folks, no pun intended!

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

I always turn up given the chance! But recent events have screwed me up.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d hazard a guess that the guy blowing the women out got a better offer else where.

Oh just didn’t fancy a social.

Some guys don’t want to meet for a coffee, as they just want to meet and have fun. After all, that’s why they are on here. Some people like the social side so they would want that first. Different strokes for different folks, no pun intended!"

Then they should say to start with that they don’t want a social instead of letting the lady down by not turning up

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By *eegh0stsMan
over a year ago

I’ve found this place over time has got worse. When I was on here years ago it was quite easy to find someone for a coffee or a little chat before anything happened.

Most recently I’ve been stood up by a few women. I’ve had 2 couples profiles turn out to be just the guy, one I clocked and called him out on it. The other I went for a coffee and he told me his mrs wasn’t available anymore, then asked if I still wanted to go back to his with him

I think the majority of my time now isn’t messaging others, it’s just spent in the forum. Unfortunately.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I find the forums are a better place to meet and interact with genuine people. The humour and banter as well as the conversations - chat with way more people here than elsewhere and even have offline conversations with them x

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By *eet The FlintstonesCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We find it so much easier to meet in clubs and parties. Socials are so important to us. We used to hold parties but you just never knew who would turn up. In the end we just gave up.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They think it's instashag, not instasocial. A lot have limited time, due to their other 'lives', so want to avoid anything that could get them caught out. That's a fairly large group and you have to read between the lines to filter the unmatched out.

Others just come online when horny and assume you do, for sex ASAP.

Get to speak with them, to evaluate how they communicate, what they may be covering as it helps more than just text chat

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford

socials do nothing for me n its pointless meeting strangers have awkward convo at random places specially with couples not easy

If I want social n banter I go to my local pubs with freinds for drink

Am here only for one thing only thats pure fun chat a lil get to know n meet if both parts are up for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And a few of them might not have the personality for a social so just want to get it over with as quick as possible so their “other” lives don’t clash

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford


"Although I’ve only got one verified meet I’ve actually met quite a few men off here, they all state that they’re straight on their profile and don’t want anyone knowing they met with a man, so won’t do verifications. Most of them are married as well so we had to be really discreet. I think there are a lot of men here who just want to meet for a quick fuck and wouldn’t want to be seen at a socials.

I really want to find someone to go to socials with as well but I have experienced the same kind of reaction as you have. "
go on fab guys sure u will find lots of gay guys for social who are ouy

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Our friends run regular parties on a weekend evening and you can’t believe how hard it is to get single guys to attend.

Also just reading through the threads “user no longer on the site; nearly always men having a fleeting visit/ wank.

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By *howdave123Man
over a year ago

chester

Ive been on here for 2+ years and have not had one meet

if your not verified no one wants to know

and you cant get verified as no one will meet you

catch 22

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it has nothing to do with being veried or not its down to one thing and one thing only sheer numbers of men ... there are things you can do to stand out or other things like visting a club ....

it really is that simple men out number women by a massive % all the moaning in the world is not going to change that ..

also as said before take all the couples and women who use the site as a social media for swing clubs (and why not) and then all the fakes that men make up for wank fodder and lastly the women on here who just want the thrill of the chasr or want attention and have no wish to meet at all it makes the male number 10x worse.

pencil in the wimen and couples who are leaving more and more frequent then that leaves a mountain to climb for most...

i would not want to be a single male on here but when you join your joining a site the provide you the tools to meet is does not and never has offered it on a plate and from our/my messages most expect it on a plate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and forgot to add guys you stand a better chance if you try and understand what swinging is rather than hey i want a fuck and you will find that mountain alot easier as couples and women will relate more to that idea...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been on here for 2+ years and have not had one meet

if your not verified no one wants to know

and you cant get verified as no one will meet you

catch 22"

You can get verified by going on cam, attending a social or going to a club. Having a green tick isn’t a guarantee for meets either.

There is no catch 22 at all with 3 ways I’ve listed to get verified

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

Upload fake pics and download a massive cock pic off the internet. You'll get a meet but they won't go through with it....

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Ive been on here for 2+ years and have not had one meet

if your not verified no one wants to know

and you cant get verified as no one will meet you

catch 22"

This is not a dig at you, but SO many guys complain about never getting a meet when all they are are a dick pic profile, a few more dick pics and some generic text.

We've explained on other threads that with the number of meets we have, the number of new guys we "need" and the number of messages we get, we literally only need 1% of them. We know it's not easy getting into that 1%, but it's damned easy falling into the bottom 75%.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve found this place over time has got worse. When I was on here years ago it was quite easy to find someone for a coffee or a little chat before anything happened.

Most recently I’ve been stood up by a few women. I’ve had 2 couples profiles turn out to be just the guy, one I clocked and called him out on it. The other I went for a coffee and he told me his mrs wasn’t available anymore, then asked if I still wanted to go back to his with him

I think the majority of my time now isn’t messaging others, it’s just spent in the forum. Unfortunately. "

Totally agree

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

If its happening a lot the common denominator is you.

Change your selection process spot the red flags trust your gut instinct.

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By *he man that canMan
over a year ago

walsall

I would be happy with asocial as it is so hard to get meets and they can see if they click with you

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Been on here nearly 8 years. First two years were hard going but as my network has built up so has the number of meets I have from fab. Over the years I’ve made some great connections but I still work hard at being active on here. You get out what you put in guys. Sounds pretentious this, but yesterday I was getting offers left right and centre and I just don’t have enough free time to persue them all. Be patient fab is a marathon not a sprint.

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By *amseMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I prefer socials first and I always show up if agreed. Have had a few no shows but mainly now after pandemic I find it hard to find women who wants to meet for a social.

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By *imon says biMan
over a year ago

Sunderland

Happy with socials or straight to fun and would never drop people in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I’ve been on here for just over a year now and only meet one very lovely lady, it’s guys like the ones you talk about that let us genuine ones down, there are far more men on here to ladies or couples that want to meet which makes it really hard, I come on here to have a laugh and if it happens it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely make the first move when it comes to arranging meets with single blokes but the last few times i've put myself out there and suggested a social it's been met with radio silence which is a huge kick in the muff for someone with serious confidence issues.

Starting to give up on this now.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We chat and chat to people and sometimes the chat dries up and sometimes it carries on.

It’s a filter.

Good guys will be plate spinning (chatting to a few people) and some can carry that off without indicating there’s a queue. Others can’t…again a filter.

Make FAB work for you…do what’s best for you and if others fit into that, great. If not, it’s no big loss.

That’s the best thing about being in a couple…you have each other for great sex. So it’s no big loss if there’s no people on the horizon

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn’t back out of a meet!

I love the thrill of the chase also!

Unfortunately meets are abit dry at present!

Although I’ve been having some nice chats with female members.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase?

I think they're so accustomed to getting knocked back, it confuses them when someone says "let's meet".

Lady Astor "

I wouldn’t skip out on a meet but yea I’d be confused if someone asked. Don’t think I’d trust them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am still relatively new to the scene and I think patience is needed as the genuine people come through, I think half the time not just with single males but everyone on here likes the thrill of the chase and then disappear but the special people that show up are always worth it

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

But sometimes when you turn up for a meet the woman don’t turn up then you message and they just abuse you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here for 4 months and not even a social.

The furthest i got was we where both interested and once she realized i was the other side if Cumbria and had to travel 45mins she said no and that was that.

I've tried changing my name,have a decent profile and even afew days ago posted a pic showing my face.

Still nothing.

So i haven't a clue what im doing wrong.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

I really think some guys just enjoy the chase rather than actually fucking. And some just want to fuck size 8s and nothing bigger. Sigh.

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I really think some guys just enjoy the chase rather than actually fucking. And some just want to fuck size 8s and nothing bigger. Sigh."

Agreed but only some

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I don't mind being "plan B" if someone gets a better offer, we can always re-schedule.

But ghosting is just rude.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...


"I really think some guys just enjoy the chase rather than actually fucking. And some just want to fuck size 8s and nothing bigger. Sigh.

Agreed but only some "

'Hey, not all of these chocolates are poisoned. Only some. Would you like a chocolate?"

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"'Hey, not all of these chocolates are poisoned. Only some. Would you like a chocolate?" "

If only the guys would bring chocolates!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I can't speak for the vast amount of guys on here but I'm 100% looking to tick a few things of my wish list and would turn up to any agreed meets

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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago

Reading/bracknell

I have seen a different picture.. When I am out and about with a bit of time, I usually update my status in advance with an open invite and locations for a social with no expectations/condition other than a hello and a chat, whether for 10mns or an hour..

The response rate is so far less than 5%.

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

Definetly here for a meet, personally wouldn’t let anybody down.

Mind you seems to be the other way round for me couples and singles have not turned up when arranged a meet

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

I'm looking to meet and make some new friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly there are lots of reasons why someone doesn't turn up and it's not just blokes. Over the years I've been messed about by both girls and couples. I've never done that as life is too short and I'm on here to have fun and give pleasure. Not everyone does the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF I ever manage to arrange a Meet through here, barring Health issues or my kids needing me.. I'd be there! Don't see the point of organising something then not going..

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

If i say i am going to meet then i do. There are to many time waster on this site who spoil it for everyone else.

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Hmmmm there are a number of walter mittys on here which is very frustrating but for me, if you arrange to meet then I always turn up. After meeting, well that's all down to how we get 9n.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Well I’ve been cancelled on 3 times but it’s always men I seem to see moaning about time wasters. "

That’s likely to be because you won’t be short of offers, so can move on to your next option quickly. Happy to give you my password, so you can see what it’s like to be a single guy in here for a time

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

Noones appreciated my talents yet that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well when blokes do that not turning up it rude

i would always turn up for a meet if i got some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me recently. I’d been talking to a chap for two to three weeks. We spoke on the phone and seemed to get on well so we arranged to meet for a social. He cancelled at the last minute but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we arranged a new date a few days later. The night before he messaged to say he couldn’t wait to meet me. All seemed fine. An hour before we were meant to meet he sent a message to say that he had an urgent work meeting and would message later to explain. And then ghosted me. Not a word since.

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By *lim Jim 69Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"This happened to me recently. I’d been talking to a chap for two to three weeks. We spoke on the phone and seemed to get on well so we arranged to meet for a social. He cancelled at the last minute but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we arranged a new date a few days later. The night before he messaged to say he couldn’t wait to meet me. All seemed fine. An hour before we were meant to meet he sent a message to say that he had an urgent work meeting and would message later to explain. And then ghosted me. Not a word since. "

No wonder guys get a bad deal on here when you hear of cases likes yours. I feel for you cos you were probably all dressed up and ready for a cracking evening..what a let down

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"This happened to me recently. I’d been talking to a chap for two to three weeks. We spoke on the phone and seemed to get on well so we arranged to meet for a social. He cancelled at the last minute but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we arranged a new date a few days later. The night before he messaged to say he couldn’t wait to meet me. All seemed fine. An hour before we were meant to meet he sent a message to say that he had an urgent work meeting and would message later to explain. And then ghosted me. Not a word since. "

Utterly despicable behaviour. Stories like yours show me why I get complete silence on here from women. The good guys will never win because of exactly this.

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By *uitedSuitorMan
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds

I think there are a lot of men on here who don't fully know what they want. They get carried away in the moment, arranging meets...then at the last minute the pull out (no pun intended).

In my experience, if you are true to what your wants/expectations are, you will find the right person to meet/more with in time. I guess that is if you're looking for quality over quantity anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are a lot of men on here who don't fully know what they want. They get carried away in the moment, arranging meets...then at the last minute the pull out (no pun intended).

In my experience, if you are true to what your wants/expectations are, you will find the right person to meet/more with in time. I guess that is if you're looking for quality over quantity anyway? "

It wouldn’t have been such a big deal if he’d just said he’d had second thoughts. We all have them sometimes. But to not have the balls to be honest and then just ghost? He’s now deleted his account. I wonder if it was fake anyway. Maybe he was pretending to be something he wasn’t…

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on here for a couple of months now and really enjoying it, we've been up for a couple of socials but then the guys back out and stop messaging. We read on here about guys having no luck but do they really want to meet anyway or are they just here for the thrill and chase? "

That’s why we borrow a husband with partner’s permission

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