FabSwingers.com forum: Daughters dating older guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm curios to the parents on here how you feel about your daughters dating older guys?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

If my daughters are happy then it's none of my business x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my business but if the age difference is a lot I'd advise her to steer clear. That also works both ways.if a son is with a much older woman. Whats exciting when you're young can become a burden later on. But ultimately it's their choice.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Would depend on a few different things including her age.

Regardless of how 2 people feel about one another there are practical things to think about when entering a relationship with a large age gap, and whether they're prepared to take those potential challenges on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my daughter's friends is at least 15years older,

They go out sometimes,

Her choice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would feel concerned about a very big age différence for many reasons but there are things I'd be concerned about with a younger or similar aged man too.

We always said that we'd never interfere though (with one exception) so I'd keep my reservations to myself and have done.

The same applies to our son.

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By *ndysmithMan
over a year ago

north cyprus

People trying to say it is equal issue if son with older woman; I disagree; must less of a worry. Anyway,on the subject of daughter it is unpleasant to find out your daughter has been sleeping with a much older man. My daghter was a teen when this happened and the guy was in his 40s. You can easily say the gap doesnt matter, but I was not happy to see someone so old with her and I knew he was bragging about it with other jealous guys.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

If she is happy and shes treated right its her choice as shes an adult.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It's her choice.

My God daughter is dating a guy older than her dad, just took some getting used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have to worry about this for a while but as long as I don't feel there is a threat to her safety, or mental health then I'll let her do whatever she wants, when she wants, and with who she wants. xx

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Wouldn't allow it. If you're a man who finds stimulating conversation with a girl that much younger then you're too stupid to associate with my family. If you can't make stimulating conversation then you've no business being together. Either way, it's not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one else has said it i guess they are too busy being pc.

It all depends on how old theis "older" chappy is.

If your daughters 21 and he's 70, then in mybosk its a problem

if it was our children that hooked up with an older man/woman, though they may not accpet it as love is blind as they say - i'd remidn them that when they are 35 and the man/woman is 70 almost everyone will ask them if thats there grandfather and do they want to be carers at 35. Sure people can easily remain independnet aged 90 and over but i am talking about the avergae person

chat with them but they will do what they want and vblame you when -if it goes wrong for not saying anyhting or coming between them

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By *otcplmidsCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

I would be more upset if I discovered my daughters on here than I would be upset about them dating a slightly older man.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would definitely be apprehensive, especially if my daughter was still very young (in terms of age, maturity and/or life experience). Mainly because of life experience knowing the power dynamic in this world and both seeing the draw of older men to young women and how many men abuse this position (not always consciously per se). And I wouldn't want my daughter to be someones midlife trophy or something to rub his ex-wife's nose in who's stuck raising his kids most of the time as he enjoys his new found freedom with my daughter. Nore would I want a guy who cuts my daughters youth short as she trys to match her lifestyle with his more mature lifestyle and freinds. That's not to say I wouldn't be apprehensive of younger guys too (maybe for slightly different reasons). So really I'm apprehensive of all guys but power dynamic and the stories I've seen to many times adds extra layer to a vastly older guy. At the end of the day I'd want her to be with the right guy and that older guy may be the right guy (age is just a number) but I would always start from a position of skepticism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be more upset if I discovered my daughters on here than I would be upset about them dating a slightly older man. "

Why?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be more upset if I discovered my daughters on here than I would be upset about them dating a slightly older man.

Why?? Xx"

Exactly what was about to say - if its good enough for you why not your family

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"I would be more upset if I discovered my daughters on here than I would be upset about them dating a slightly older man.

Why?? Xx"

In general I'd ask the same question. I'd want her live a rich, free and fulfilling life. And if she found the same pleasure, opportunity and freedom in the scene as we do I'd have no problem with that. Her happiness, self awareness and freedom to be herself is important to me. The only caveat I'd put on that is if my daughter wasn't in the right mental or emotional place to be on here then I would be happy.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"I would be more upset if I discovered my daughters on here than I would be upset about them dating a slightly older man.

Why?? Xx

Wouldn't *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be more upset if I discovered my daughters on here than I would be upset about them dating a slightly older man.

Why?? Xx

Same here, I'd love for my daughter to join Fab when she's old another and have the same level as fun as the rest of us. As long as she's happy doing it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its fine, my exwife is a lot older than me. So I had an older step daughter, as long as shes happy, thats all that counts.

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By *urvy pawgWoman
over a year ago

north

I just want mine to be happy and treated right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather was with someone making her happy than an idiot.

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By *urvy pawgWoman
over a year ago

north

Exactly

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

My daughter is 22, her partner is 35. She's happy and he treats her well. That's what's important.

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By *urvy pawgWoman
over a year ago

north

"My daughter is 22, her partner is 35. She's happy and he treats her well. That's what's important. "

Exactly that’s what matters

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

My sister married a guy 25 years older than her. She’s now 50 and he’s died. They were very happy, but she’s not looking forward to starting again as a relatively young widow.

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By *iny tits and himCouple
over a year ago

mids

I wouldn’t mind depends on the gap though I think

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By *ow PathersCouple
over a year ago

Hatfield

A lot of hypocrisy here

Are we talking just sex or a relationship?

I actually know a mother and daughter who

Both have profiles on here and go to clubs

Together,If my son or daughter were on here

Then that’s fine by me

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By *urvy pawgWoman
over a year ago

north

"A lot of hypocrisy here

Are we talking just sex or a relationship?

I actually know a mother and daughter who

Both have profiles on here and go to clubs

Together,If my son or daughter were on here

Then that’s fine by me "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of hypocrisy here

Are we talking just sex or a relationship?

I actually know a mother and daughter who

Both have profiles on here and go to clubs

Together,If my son or daughter were on here

Then that’s fine by me

Totally agree "

Good post.

TBH, the bottom line - even if people were unhappy to see their children even parents, grandparents here there is not much they could do about that and that is a simple fact of life.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

I wouldn’t mind at all. In fact I think an older guy may actually be a good thing. I’m sure he would have respect and know the correct way to treat her.

I don’t understand anyone saying that they won’t allow it. Urm, it’s not up to you. Would you let others tell you how to live? If my parents told me who I could and couldn’t have sex with I’d fuck em right off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t mind at all. In fact I think an older guy may actually be a good thing. I’m sure he would have respect and know the correct way to treat her.

by older i guess you mean your daughter is 222 and guy is 50ish not 70 etc?

or someones daughter is lets say 17 and guy is 50

so you see there can be problems with age but like all of us when we were younger lsitening to parents is hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of hypocrisy here

Are we talking just sex or a relationship?

I actually know a mother and daughter who

Both have profiles on here and go to clubs

Together,If my son or daughter were on here

Then that’s fine by me "

Going to clubs with your kids is another level of dynamic. If everyone is comfortable I guess. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s so much irresponsibility on this thread

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

"A lot of hypocrisy here

Are we talking just sex or a relationship?

I actually know a mother and daughter who

Both have profiles on here and go to clubs

Together,If my son or daughter were on here

Then that’s fine by me

Going to clubs with your kids is another level of dynamic. If everyone is comfortable I guess. Xx"

I don’t suppose that would be for everyone and I can understand that. But as you say if everyone is comfortable with that then who can judge. I suppose you would always know there is someone at the club that will look out for you more than anyone else ever could.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I don’t understand anyone saying that they won’t allow it. Urm, it’s not up to you. Would you let others tell you how to live? "

If you're determined to bang your head against the wall then you expect to be put in a padded room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs here I had 2 year relationship at 18 years old with guy who was 71 xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs here I had 2 year relationship at 18 years old with guy who was 71 xx"
omg that is a bit far lol. Lucky old man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Basically why I ask is I have a girl 21 who I used to work with and we had a couple of drinks together with old colleges and there was something there nothing happened but she has been testing me wanting to see how we would get on dating but her father is only 38 I'm closer in age to him. And I dont want it to cause friction for her at home.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Basically why I ask is I have a girl 21 who I used to work with and we had a couple of drinks together with old colleges and there was something there nothing happened but she has been testing me wanting to see how we would get on dating but her father is only 38 I'm closer in age to him. And I dont want it to cause friction for her at home. "

It's only 10 years, I often dated guys your age at her age.

The fact that your considering her parents says alot about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of hypocrisy here

Are we talking just sex or a relationship?

I actually know a mother and daughter who

Both have profiles on here and go to clubs

Together,If my son or daughter were on here

Then that’s fine by me

Going to clubs with your kids is another level of dynamic. If everyone is comfortable I guess. Xx

Where sex is concerned, it's nothing short of weird and people will judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 years is nothing. I've always gone for older guys, it's never caused a problem. My parents had quite a large age gap too, age is just a number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be concerned if my Dad was seeing a younger woman or man.

Gold digger springs to mind.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

He became a dad at 17?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Yep "

Don't think he's going to be giving you any lectures on conventional relationships then

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Wouldn't allow it. If you're a man who finds stimulating conversation with a girl that much younger then you're too stupid to associate with my family. If you can't make stimulating conversation then you've no business being together. Either way, it's not happening. "

What if your daughter was 18 or older?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha I suppose. But sure you never know lol

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

"None of my business but if the age difference is a lot I'd advise her to steer clear. That also works both ways.if a son is with a much older woman. Whats exciting when you're young can become a burden later on. But ultimately it's their choice. "

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If our daughter was happy then that would be all that matters. Hopefully an older guy would be mature and respectful of her, and live her. As a father whose daughter was in a very abusive relationship from the age of 16 I would prefer that over the thug who was basically only two years old that her but ruled her entire life and nothing we could do or say could make her see what was happening.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

What if your daughter was 18 or older?"

I think 25 is the cut off point. Nobody has their life sorted out at 18, there's nothing to talk about when your life's are in totally different stages.

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