FabSwingers.com forum: Toy etiquette

By *herry-kisses OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Just wondering if others feel the same as me or if I’m being unreasonable…

Several guys I’ve spoken with are very keen to have toys used on them, I’m more than happy to facilitate this but I think it’s fair to say that they need to bring their own toys.

I have quite a collection of toys myself but I wouldn’t be happy to use them on anyone else… mostly from a hygiene standpoint.

I would love to hear other peoples views on this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Personally I will only use my toys on myself or my husband. If a casual meet enjoys toys they're welcome to bring them.

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

Sharing toys is a bit weird. As a guy I wouldn’t expect a girl to share mine as there used for anal. Id share a girls toy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on toys. If a condom can be used over them - no problem. Otherwise I wouldn't share one with a random stranger.

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

"Depends on toys. If a condom can be used over them - no problem. Otherwise I wouldn't share one with a random stranger."

Spot on and off they are asking for something specific they should provide

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By *heSilverNightMan
over a year ago

Luton

If I'm the one asking about toys, then I'll be the one to provide (all sides agreeing of course).

I think standard procedure is if you want, then bring, but make sure they're clean and safe

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By *ools1964Man
over a year ago

Swadlincote

Absolutely don't blame you one bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't see anything wrong with that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always use use antibacterial and in some cases sterility on all my toys ever time ,even if they are just take out of the toy cabinet, so I know they are clean when I use my toys on others. That even include any ropes cuffs/collar or paddles.

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

I’ve never tried a flesh light/male masturbator but I probably wouldn’t want to use a second hand one you’d brought along

A vibrator used externally can be fun. Or as above, pop it in a condom if they want it inside.

… I guess using a second hand toy isn’t that different to sleeping with someone who isn’t a virgin, but it definitely feels grubbier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think toys can be a welcome addition to a sexual encounter. And after use hot water and soap will make them clean. After all, if you use them yourself, surely you dont just pack them away without washing them

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

"Just wondering if others feel the same as me or if I’m being unreasonable…

Several guys I’ve spoken with are very keen to have toys used on them, I’m more than happy to facilitate this but I think it’s fair to say that they need to bring their own toys.

I have quite a collection of toys myself but I wouldn’t be happy to use them on anyone else… mostly from a hygiene standpoint.

I would love to hear other peoples views on this. "

Perfectly reasonable

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Another lady wanted to try one of my dildos when we met. I put a condom on it when using it on her, she thought it was weird but I’d do the same again. Although I would prefer if people brought their own toys if they’re being inserted. I’d share clamps, rope etc.

Lou x

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Wash them, antibacterial wipes..good to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never in my life had a man ask me to use a toy on him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if others feel the same as me or if I’m being unreasonable…

Several guys I’ve spoken with are very keen to have toys used on them, I’m more than happy to facilitate this but I think it’s fair to say that they need to bring their own toys.

I have quite a collection of toys myself but I wouldn’t be happy to use them on anyone else… mostly from a hygiene standpoint.

I would love to hear other peoples views on this. "

I've never asked or expected it....it just happened suddenly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange one because im not keen to stick my toy into them but happy to stick my cock , tounge and fingers into them which really is probably less hygienic. I clean my toys with antibacterial cleaning fluids but myself after with just soap and gels

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By *ara198Woman
over a year ago

maynooth

Wash them. And off you go.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Strange one because im not keen to stick my toy into them but happy to stick my cock , tounge and fingers into them which really is probably less hygienic. I clean my toys with antibacterial cleaning fluids but myself after with just soap and gels "

I agree x

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

"I have never in my life had a man ask me to use a toy on him! "

Too much toxic masculinity? DP/DVP with a vibrator makes for fun all round. Nothing wrong with rubbing a vibrator where it feels nice. Doesn’t have to be a dick shaped one, if that feels too threatening (need a laughing emoji)

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Everyone says I’m strange but i won’t use other people’s toys so wouldn’t let them use mine lol.

More than reasonable! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone says I’m strange but i won’t use other people’s toys so wouldn’t let them use mine lol.

More than reasonable! X"

I don’t think it’s that strange. You don’t know how well they’ve been cleaned, where they’ve been etc.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I have glass and steel I'd share, because I can clean them effectively.

Anything else I wouldn't share, even with a condom. I'd expect if someone had a specific request they would bring the toy with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own and if your toys it’s your right to use or not use on anyone else. But for me if I’m happy to have other peoples bits inside me sharing toys as long as they are cleaned is not an issue with me

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By *herry-kisses OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Thanks everyone.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Sounds fair. I don't have toys but wouldn't want mine up someone else's shitter.

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