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By *oodcock2018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Why do couples on fab say this when looking for a single male but when you message them they just delete the message without even seeing if you hit the quality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They check you out n decided you weren't for them

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By *axo25Man
over a year ago

lightwater

Personally I’ve always gone for quantity over quality! That’s just a get out for ugly people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I’ve always gone for quantity over quality! That’s just a get out for ugly people "

I like a large quantity of quality, myself

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By *axo25Man
over a year ago

lightwater


"Personally I’ve always gone for quantity over quality! That’s just a get out for ugly people

I like a large quantity of quality, myself "

Ok, don’t get flash!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They check you out n decided you weren't for them"

A fact indeed.

We also look at the content of their message or lack of it and we can often tell if they've bothered to read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a message catches my eye i will go to profile before any reply sadly mostly it ends there ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They check you out n decided you weren't for them"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do couples on fab say this when looking for a single male but when you message them they just delete the message without even seeing if you hit the quality! "

Quality over quantity implies they’re more selective about who they talk to so it’s less likely they’re going to reply to messages they receive. You shouldn’t take it personally....if you get offended or upset when your message gets deleted without a reply then you’re not going to enjoy it here at all as most messages are ignored, it just makes it more exciting when you do get a reply. I’m even happy when I get a ‘thanks but no thanks’ reply as at least it’s a reply....

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I take that approach too. The word quality doesn't refer to how good they are in bed. It refers to how good they are as a person. I won't compromise on that anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take that approach too. The word quality doesn't refer to how good they are in bed. It refers to how good they are as a person. I won't compromise on that anymore"

Do you think you can tell how good someone is as a person just from reading their profile or do you chat with people to find out? Genuine question, I’m not trying to be controversial or anything.

I’ve had a few experiences where I haven’t been especially interested in someone after reading their profile but have given them a chance anyway (I don’t get many people wanting to chat with me so I take any opportunity I can get) and they’ve turned out to be a lot more interesting and personable than their profile suggests they are. I think some people just aren’t that good at selling themselves. I’m pretty sure my profile gives the impression that I’m only interested in talking about kinks and fetishes but there’s more to me than that, I just don’t know to tell people on my profile that I’m a great person to chat with and I’m kind, selfless, empathetic etc without coming across as egotistical

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I take that approach too. The word quality doesn't refer to how good they are in bed. It refers to how good they are as a person. I won't compromise on that anymore

Do you think you can tell how good someone is as a person just from reading their profile or do you chat with people to find out? Genuine question, I’m not trying to be controversial or anything.

I’ve had a few experiences where I haven’t been especially interested in someone after reading their profile but have given them a chance anyway (I don’t get many people wanting to chat with me so I take any opportunity I can get) and they’ve turned out to be a lot more interesting and personable than their profile suggests they are. I think some people just aren’t that good at selling themselves. I’m pretty sure my profile gives the impression that I’m only interested in talking about kinks and fetishes but there’s more to me than that, I just don’t know to tell people on my profile that I’m a great person to chat with and I’m kind, selfless, empathetic etc without coming across as egotistical "

The answer to those questions is on my profile and 6 play meets in 5 years here will also confirm I'm not saying it for effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take that approach too. The word quality doesn't refer to how good they are in bed. It refers to how good they are as a person. I won't compromise on that anymore

Do you think you can tell how good someone is as a person just from reading their profile or do you chat with people to find out? Genuine question, I’m not trying to be controversial or anything.

I’ve had a few experiences where I haven’t been especially interested in someone after reading their profile but have given them a chance anyway (I don’t get many people wanting to chat with me so I take any opportunity I can get) and they’ve turned out to be a lot more interesting and personable than their profile suggests they are. I think some people just aren’t that good at selling themselves. I’m pretty sure my profile gives the impression that I’m only interested in talking about kinks and fetishes but there’s more to me than that, I just don’t know to tell people on my profile that I’m a great person to chat with and I’m kind, selfless, empathetic etc without coming across as egotistical

The answer to those questions is on my profile and 6 play meets in 5 years here will also confirm I'm not saying it for effect. "

Sorry, I’ve just re read my message and realised I didn’t word the question very well and the intention was lost, I see that you say you always chat before meeting anyone and that does answer the question that I inadvertently asked but what I really meant was, if you aren’t especially interested in someone after reading their profile would you ever still reply just to see if their profile isn’t a true reflection of what they’re like or would you do you only reply to people who’s profile you really like? I’m trying to avoid using the word ‘judge’ as I don’t want you to think I’m accusing you of being judgmental (that’s probably why I worded it so badly originally) but if I was going to use that word I’d have asked ‘do you judge people purely on their profile’....

I wasn’t accusing you of saying anything for effect, I am asking you about it because I can tell you’re genuine and can give me a genuine answer.

I get the impression you’re being a bit defensive so I hope you don’t think I’m attacking you in any way because I’m not, I’m just asking out of interest as I’m bored haha.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I take that approach too. The word quality doesn't refer to how good they are in bed. It refers to how good they are as a person. I won't compromise on that anymore

Do you think you can tell how good someone is as a person just from reading their profile or do you chat with people to find out? Genuine question, I’m not trying to be controversial or anything.

I’ve had a few experiences where I haven’t been especially interested in someone after reading their profile but have given them a chance anyway (I don’t get many people wanting to chat with me so I take any opportunity I can get) and they’ve turned out to be a lot more interesting and personable than their profile suggests they are. I think some people just aren’t that good at selling themselves. I’m pretty sure my profile gives the impression that I’m only interested in talking about kinks and fetishes but there’s more to me than that, I just don’t know to tell people on my profile that I’m a great person to chat with and I’m kind, selfless, empathetic etc without coming across as egotistical

The answer to those questions is on my profile and 6 play meets in 5 years here will also confirm I'm not saying it for effect.

Sorry, I’ve just re read my message and realised I didn’t word the question very well and the intention was lost, I see that you say you always chat before meeting anyone and that does answer the question that I inadvertently asked but what I really meant was, if you aren’t especially interested in someone after reading their profile would you ever still reply just to see if their profile isn’t a true reflection of what they’re like or would you do you only reply to people who’s profile you really like? I’m trying to avoid using the word ‘judge’ as I don’t want you to think I’m accusing you of being judgmental (that’s probably why I worded it so badly originally) but if I was going to use that word I’d have asked ‘do you judge people purely on their profile’....

I wasn’t accusing you of saying anything for effect, I am asking you about it because I can tell you’re genuine and can give me a genuine answer.

I get the impression you’re being a bit defensive so I hope you don’t think I’m attacking you in any way because I’m not, I’m just asking out of interest as I’m bored haha. "

I'm not being defensive at all so apologies if it came across that way. The word I've used most since joining fab is "consistency" so any decision to chat with people or not is based on how consistent their bio is with their pics and subsequently their messages and forum contributions.

We all make judgements at some stage and there are profiles that are obviously not what I am looking for so I won't engage with them at all even in the forums.

There are others that have great profiles that I may decide to respond to if they get in touch but if they haven't read mine or decided that it is all for show and that I will agree to meet them after a couple of messages that's where the conversation stops. The slightest hint that I'm just going to be a number and I'm gone.

Quality to me includes an ability to read my profile and if they decide to get in touch that decision has been made based on mutual interests.

I don't send first contact messages and haven't done for almost 2 years so all conversations are initiated by others.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"They check you out n decided you weren't for them"

Purely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take that approach too. The word quality doesn't refer to how good they are in bed. It refers to how good they are as a person. I won't compromise on that anymore

Do you think you can tell how good someone is as a person just from reading their profile or do you chat with people to find out? Genuine question, I’m not trying to be controversial or anything.

I’ve had a few experiences where I haven’t been especially interested in someone after reading their profile but have given them a chance anyway (I don’t get many people wanting to chat with me so I take any opportunity I can get) and they’ve turned out to be a lot more interesting and personable than their profile suggests they are. I think some people just aren’t that good at selling themselves. I’m pretty sure my profile gives the impression that I’m only interested in talking about kinks and fetishes but there’s more to me than that, I just don’t know to tell people on my profile that I’m a great person to chat with and I’m kind, selfless, empathetic etc without coming across as egotistical

The answer to those questions is on my profile and 6 play meets in 5 years here will also confirm I'm not saying it for effect.

Sorry, I’ve just re read my message and realised I didn’t word the question very well and the intention was lost, I see that you say you always chat before meeting anyone and that does answer the question that I inadvertently asked but what I really meant was, if you aren’t especially interested in someone after reading their profile would you ever still reply just to see if their profile isn’t a true reflection of what they’re like or would you do you only reply to people who’s profile you really like? I’m trying to avoid using the word ‘judge’ as I don’t want you to think I’m accusing you of being judgmental (that’s probably why I worded it so badly originally) but if I was going to use that word I’d have asked ‘do you judge people purely on their profile’....

I wasn’t accusing you of saying anything for effect, I am asking you about it because I can tell you’re genuine and can give me a genuine answer.

I get the impression you’re being a bit defensive so I hope you don’t think I’m attacking you in any way because I’m not, I’m just asking out of interest as I’m bored haha.

I'm not being defensive at all so apologies if it came across that way. The word I've used most since joining fab is "consistency" so any decision to chat with people or not is based on how consistent their bio is with their pics and subsequently their messages and forum contributions.

We all make judgements at some stage and there are profiles that are obviously not what I am looking for so I won't engage with them at all even in the forums.

There are others that have great profiles that I may decide to respond to if they get in touch but if they haven't read mine or decided that it is all for show and that I will agree to meet them after a couple of messages that's where the conversation stops. The slightest hint that I'm just going to be a number and I'm gone.

Quality to me includes an ability to read my profile and if they decide to get in touch that decision has been made based on mutual interests.

I don't send first contact messages and haven't done for almost 2 years so all conversations are initiated by others."

Thank you for replying, it sounds like you give everyone a fair chance and you have standards which are very fair, all you seem to be asking for is that people take the time to read your profile and take note of what it says rather than ignoring it and just trying to push their own agenda onto you, it’s basic respect that everyone deserves to be shown but you know as well as I do that here, as in the real world, there are people who don’t feel they need to show anyone any respect and go through life doing exactly what they want to regardless of the consequences.

Looking through your profile I can understand why you don’t need to send any first contact messages, your profile shows that you look amazing and that you have an imaginative and creative personality and you’re a fair, genuine and trustworthy person.

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