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Does this make sense or am I too odd?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ll try to keep this as brief as possible but don’t know how that will go….

So, I have always been sexually attracted to women and only women. I just can’t see the sexual “pull” from guys, even though I’m totally able to say if I think a guy looks like women would find him attractive and I have no problem being in close proximity to other men whilst naked in a threesome or group fun situation and/our the inevitable potential “bumping” or “crossings” during those encounters.

Right, this is where the thing I wonder if it makes me “an odd one out”, and/or too difficult to understand or accept by some, comes in. For some odd reason, I’ve developed this inexplicable and unexpected enjoyment of giving BJs. Nothing else has changed and I still only have romantic and sexual attraction for women.

I identify as straight, I’m not curious about anything to do with men and could only ever have sensual intimacy with a woman. I feel that I can’t select “bi-curious” as that could lead someone to think I might be looking to explore “bi” things, which I’m not.

I guess the best way I could do justice to my truth, when trying to “label” my sexuality somehow, it would be by describing myself as: straight, with an unexplained kink

So, does that make sense? Does anyone else have a similar circumstance? How would you feel about me explaining the above, specially if the idea of being around bi/curious guys is something you are not keen on?

Or am I simply an odd one, perhaps too odd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are who we are and we like what we like, don’t question it, just embrace it and enjoy it. There aren’t any rules when it comes to sexuality, everyone’s different and have different desires.

I’m sure there are loads of men who feel exactly the same as you are but are keeping their feelings suppressed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that, bud

I agree, we are all different and “labels” can be so restrictive in this area…..

I don’t question who I am or any such thing, at all. I’m totally comfortable with all of me

The only reason behind my question was a recent chat with a couple who found my kink at odds with being “straight” and suggesting that if I were “….honest with myself…” I might find what I really am looking for easier, after letting me know they wouldn’t meet with me because they don’t play with bi/bi-curious guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for that, bud

I agree, we are all different and “labels” can be so restrictive in this area…..

I don’t question who I am or any such thing, at all. I’m totally comfortable with all of me

The only reason behind my question was a recent chat with a couple who found my kink at odds with being “straight” and suggesting that if I were “….honest with myself…” I might find what I really am looking for easier, after letting me know they wouldn’t meet with me because they don’t play with bi/bi-curious guys "

Well being honest with yourself is always the best way so it’s good advice but were they implying that you’re holding something back? It sounds like they’re trying to say that if you like sucking dick then you want to be with men in every other way and it’s wrong of them to say that because one doesn’t necessarily lead to the other. There are gay men who don’t have penetrative sex with other men and don’t want to. I like being fucked by men but I don’t like fucking men. It’s not their place to tell you what you do or don’t desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I played with a guy regular, who only enjoyed sucking cock - but his main attraction and love was women....

Can't see a problem with it at all. You like what you like!

How you navigate around fab is up to you. Personally I don't think it needs a label, just a simple explanation to give to others you want to play with....

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Providing you are honest with any potential playmates so they have the option to decline then I don't see the problem.

Personally we wouldn't play with any man that hyd sex with men that described himself as straight though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why label its all just sex

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By *urnhambiguyMan
over a year ago

Swindon

This is exactly the same as me. I only find women attractive and love sex with women. Given the choice I'd always choose a woman to be with. I don't find men attractive, would never want a relationship with a man, and don't kiss men. However, I'm happy to wank and suck with another man. I ended up using the bisexual label on here and clarify that in my profile by saying orally bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll try to keep this as brief as possible but don’t know how that will go….

So, I have always been sexually attracted to women and only women. I just can’t see the sexual “pull” from guys, even though I’m totally able to say if I think a guy looks like women would find him attractive and I have no problem being in close proximity to other men whilst naked in a threesome or group fun situation and/our the inevitable potential “bumping” or “crossings” during those encounters.

Right, this is where the thing I wonder if it makes me “an odd one out”, and/or too difficult to understand or accept by some, comes in. For some odd reason, I’ve developed this inexplicable and unexpected enjoyment of giving BJs. Nothing else has changed and I still only have romantic and sexual attraction for women.

I identify as straight, I’m not curious about anything to do with men and could only ever have sensual intimacy with a woman. I feel that I can’t select “bi-curious” as that could lead someone to think I might be looking to explore “bi” things, which I’m not.

I guess the best way I could do justice to my truth, when trying to “label” my sexuality somehow, it would be by describing myself as: straight, with an unexplained kink

So, does that make sense? Does anyone else have a similar circumstance? How would you feel about me explaining the above, specially if the idea of being around bi/curious guys is something you are not keen on?

Or am I simply an odd one, perhaps too odd? "

So many guys like myself in the same 'position'. Just enjoy it, honestly. Ul get alot of joy out of sucking cock. You will also come across the 'gate keepers' of labels on this site and forums who tell you that you are definitely not straight blah blah. Some women will not meet guys with bi or curious on their profile, so put it as straight and change whenever you please. My emotions are definitely straight but my god sucking a cock is unbeatable.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you had a meet with a straight couple and started giving him a blowjob he might not be happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you had a meet with a straight couple and started giving him a blowjob he might not be happy. "

And therein is the issue!!! Why would I do that? Perhaps I’m really, really odd but, if I’m meeting a couple, I always listen to what their boundaries are and I would never even think about doing something like that.

That comment clearly exposes the prejudices that float around. Just because I have a kink about sucking cock, it doesn’t mean I am disposed of any kind of self control or lack all manners and respect of other people’s boundaries, likes and dislikes.

Totally mind blown

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

This is the trouble with labels, they rarely fit reality but lots of folks seem to be obsessed with them. Attitudes change, your own sexualities may change or drift. All I can say is enjoy the ride and ignore labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a meet with a straight couple and started giving him a blowjob he might not be happy. "

This isn't parody is it ? Wtf

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill

A lot of women say that men are like children. They never grow up. It's better to put a penis in your mouth , than a Lego block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you're odd at all. You like what you like.

I'm not sure why others would have a problem with it. I don't understand why it would prevent a couple from playing with you. It wouldn't stop us. But hey, equally they like what they like.

Keep being you and having a fun, sexy time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People think sexuality is about sexual acts when it's actually about mental and emotional attraction. Giving another guy a bj doesn't make you gay. Having feelings for another guy makes you gay. Or bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the trouble with labels, they rarely fit reality but lots of folks seem to be obsessed with them. Attitudes change, your own sexualities may change or drift. All I can say is enjoy the ride and ignore labels."

This.

The problem with labels is that whether there are too few or too many, people don’t always know where they sit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much of it has been said before. You do you chap.

You can enjoy an act, and disassociate the physical act from the person.

Nothing strange in that!

You are doing something enjoyable for both parties! Thats a win in my book!

If others have a problem with it well they can GFTS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi this is Peter……. I’m 200% in agreement with you. I go through phases of wanting to suck cock and my only explanation is that I love watching Fiona give head so much that I get the urge to do it myself. There’s nothing like a good looking cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m glad that you know what you like and don’t like OP it’s a great place to be.

My only suggestion to add to this is choose the category you feel most comfortable with but then use your bio as way of an explanation of your kink.

You have explained that you are open and upfront about it which is fantastic and please continue to do so

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

My husband is the same, only physically attracted to women but enjoys giving blow jobs, his/our joint bio does say bi curious though as we feel it better explains his boundaries & we explains that he's only interested in oral play in our bio, otherwise people expect more

We aren't really into the whole label thing but to us, curious just means open to try certain things/whereas straight we would presume means the guys closed off to guy/guy contact, although most of the time when we have the conversation that's not the case they just don't want to use the Bi word/label incase it puts people off of them, as some profiles say won't meet Bi/or straight only

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

I’m kind of in the same boat… happy sucking cock when meeting couples mural wanking .. bu have no interest in meeting men 1-1

As someone mentioned we are all made up differently with different kinks … I’ve a lot of gay friends too I’m attracted to them as friends and no interest in them sexually, however If there was a women involved that would be ok …

God knows

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood


"I’m kind of in the same boat… happy sucking cock when meeting couples mural wanking .. bu have no interest in meeting men 1-1

As someone mentioned we are all made up differently with different kinks … I’ve a lot of gay friends too I’m attracted to them as friends and no interest in them sexually, however If there was a women involved that would be ok …

God knows "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that’s what you enjoy doing continue to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a meet with a straight couple and started giving him a blowjob he might not be happy.

And therein is the issue!!! Why would I do that? Perhaps I’m really, really odd but, if I’m meeting a couple, I always listen to what their boundaries are and I would never even think about doing something like that.

That comment clearly exposes the prejudices that float around. Just because I have a kink about sucking cock, it doesn’t mean I am disposed of any kind of self control or lack all manners and respect of other people’s boundaries, likes and dislikes.

Totally mind blown "

We are totally happy with everyone doing whatever they want to do.Mr PD does not fancy men but does however enjoy giving head and I certainly love watching, its super horny. If you enjoy it do it, life is too short, just be you and be happy. X

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I hear quite a few guys saying this kind of thing, sounds like they are often saying they don’t need sexual attraction to the other person to have sex, they will suck a cock or have those cock sucked regardless of the gender or any attraction to the person

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP, could it be that you just enjoy the physical sensation of having a warm, smooth, rounded penis in your mouth?

I don't suck cock personally, but I know that I, like most others, get a lot of pleasure from giving oral sex and one of my most enjoyable occasions was a woman with a beautifuly pronounced clit which I "gave head too"

It felt like a huge nipple in my mouth. All that is an oral physical pleasure. Perhaps you simply enjoy the feel of a cock in your mouth? Do you make them cum in your mouth?

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