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By *uitedSuitor OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds

So, myself and my wife have been discussing visiting a club. We signed up to Pandora's last year, but then we all went into lockdown.

Since then, my wife has kinda switched off to the idea of visiting a club. She loves the idea of drinks, hotel meets, meets at home - but she says clubs sound too 'seedy' to her. I don't want to push her too much to join me if she doesn't want to.

Now, my dilemma is: I really want to visit one, but I don't want to feel awkward as a guy on his own. Any tips? Or is there anyone who attends regularly who would take me under their wing?

Thanks!

*I have full permission (although we don't work on permission) to go if I wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had exactly the same dilemma with my wife up until recently.

We are still new to the whole thing and dipped our toes in the water with a few mfm last year, then lockdown hit..

As things have eased we’ve met a few couples and my wife has also met alone whilst I was at work.

I’ve just bought up the club conversation every now and again with her and gone down the path of “we are open to everything else and have tried a few things now, I have no burning desire to go to a club and play, but it is something that I would like to go just see out of curiosity. Another thing ticked so to speak” and she seems to have come round to the idea and has even started to get curious herself.

Or maybe she’s just thinking she has been allowed to play with quite a few cocks, so maybe she let me satisfy my curiosity. Lol:

Either way we are off to our first club visit tomorrow

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley

It will depend on the club itself but I would say that few of the popular clubs could be considered seedy or sleazy. Sure, there are some but then that's their vibe. Most of the clubs are actually pretty decent, respectable even classy places. That shouldn't be something your wife has in her mind about them without at least visiting one to see for herself. There's nothing to stop you going to a club and just having a chilled time, chatting to others and seeing what goes on without any obligation to join in. Pretty safe environment to try this sort of thing - definitely worth a go!

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By *uitedSuitor OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds

Thanks for both your comments!

It seems I'm not the only one. I've joined a local club as a single male (wife is fully aware). I will attend on my own, but I don't think I feel comfortable actually doing anything. I feel like it would be nice to be able to go back and reassure her about them, then hopefully she will come with me and have fun!

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley


"Thanks for both your comments!

It seems I'm not the only one. I've joined a local club as a single male (wife is fully aware). I will attend on my own, but I don't think I feel comfortable actually doing anything. I feel like it would be nice to be able to go back and reassure her about them, then hopefully she will come with me and have fun! "

Sounds like a great plan. Don't be surprised if you end up getting slightly more involved in your first visit than you planned. I can see there being some interest in your "equipment" that might be hard to resist. Lol

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By *uitedSuitor OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds


"Thanks for both your comments!

It seems I'm not the only one. I've joined a local club as a single male (wife is fully aware). I will attend on my own, but I don't think I feel comfortable actually doing anything. I feel like it would be nice to be able to go back and reassure her about them, then hopefully she will come with me and have fun!

Sounds like a great plan. Don't be surprised if you end up getting slightly more involved in your first visit than you planned. I can see there being some interest in your "equipment" that might be hard to resist. Lol"

Is that so? I really don't know what to expect from my first time haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, myself and my wife have been discussing visiting a club. We signed up to Pandora's last year, but then we all went into lockdown.

Since then, my wife has kinda switched off to the idea of visiting a club. She loves the idea of drinks, hotel meets, meets at home - but she says clubs sound too 'seedy' to her. I don't want to push her too much to join me if she doesn't want to.

Now, my dilemma is: I really want to visit one, but I don't want to feel awkward as a guy on his own. Any tips? Or is there anyone who attends regularly who would take me under their wing?

Thanks!

*I have full permission (although we don't work on permission) to go if I wish. "

How is she likely to really feel about it if you decide to go on your own?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could you perhaps persuade your wife to join you at Pandora's for a purely social evening ? You can stay fully clothed in the bar all night. Play is upstairs, out of sight of the bar.

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By *uitedSuitor OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds


"So, myself and my wife have been discussing visiting a club. We signed up to Pandora's last year, but then we all went into lockdown.

Since then, my wife has kinda switched off to the idea of visiting a club. She loves the idea of drinks, hotel meets, meets at home - but she says clubs sound too 'seedy' to her. I don't want to push her too much to join me if she doesn't want to.

Now, my dilemma is: I really want to visit one, but I don't want to feel awkward as a guy on his own. Any tips? Or is there anyone who attends regularly who would take me under their wing?

Thanks!

*I have full permission (although we don't work on permission) to go if I wish.

How is she likely to really feel about it if you decide to go on your own?"

That's one of my biggest fears. I don't want her to disapprove, but I also truly want to experience it.

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By *uitedSuitor OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds


"Could you perhaps persuade your wife to join you at Pandora's for a purely social evening ? You can stay fully clothed in the bar all night. Play is upstairs, out of sight of the bar. "

That's a good idea. We have paid our membership with Pandora's, so I guess that would be the perfect place to start!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, myself and my wife have been discussing visiting a club. We signed up to Pandora's last year, but then we all went into lockdown.

Since then, my wife has kinda switched off to the idea of visiting a club. She loves the idea of drinks, hotel meets, meets at home - but she says clubs sound too 'seedy' to her. I don't want to push her too much to join me if she doesn't want to.

Now, my dilemma is: I really want to visit one, but I don't want to feel awkward as a guy on his own. Any tips? Or is there anyone who attends regularly who would take me under their wing?

Thanks!

*I have full permission (although we don't work on permission) to go if I wish.

How is she likely to really feel about it if you decide to go on your own?

That's one of my biggest fears. I don't want her to disapprove, but I also truly want to experience it. "

Which one is more important to you?

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By *uitedSuitor OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax / Leeds


"So, myself and my wife have been discussing visiting a club. We signed up to Pandora's last year, but then we all went into lockdown.

Since then, my wife has kinda switched off to the idea of visiting a club. She loves the idea of drinks, hotel meets, meets at home - but she says clubs sound too 'seedy' to her. I don't want to push her too much to join me if she doesn't want to.

Now, my dilemma is: I really want to visit one, but I don't want to feel awkward as a guy on his own. Any tips? Or is there anyone who attends regularly who would take me under their wing?

Thanks!

*I have full permission (although we don't work on permission) to go if I wish.

How is she likely to really feel about it if you decide to go on your own?

That's one of my biggest fears. I don't want her to disapprove, but I also truly want to experience it.

Which one is more important to you?"

Without a doubt, my wife

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