FabSwingers.com forum: Breaking Your Own Rules....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok people, on alot of peoples profiles they have clear set rules in regards to age, ethnicity, sexual acitivies etc....

But are there any occassions where u have broken ur own rules or would be willing to do so....

For example, alot of females have no anal sex on their profiles, but if they're dream guy (i.e. brad pitt or some1) said they only wanted to do anal, would you oblige????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope...we decided our rules as a couple when we started on this little past time of ours...we have to have absolute trust in each other in every situation...our rules are for each other and under pin our time spent with others so we would never change them on the spur of the moment or in the heat of the action

that isn't to say that they don't evolve over our time and through our experiences or if new fantasies pop up but only after discussion and agreement from both of us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm willing to bend on my age range, but little else.

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By *helmercpleCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Rules are rules............ Where would we be if we didn't have rules............ FRANCE ...... Never confused!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rules are rules

and we have them for a reason

i wouldn't change my rules at all

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Ok people, on alot of peoples profiles they have clear set rules in regards to age, ethnicity, sexual acitivies etc....

But are there any occassions where u have broken ur own rules or would be willing to do so....

For example, alot of females have no anal sex on their profiles, but if they're dream guy (i.e. brad pitt or some1) said they only wanted to do anal, would you oblige????

Depends on the what you mean by rules?

There are some things like age where we have a rough guideline but it's not set in stone.

Then there are some sexual activites that we might choose to do (depending on our mood etc) Equally there are some that are a definite no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done some work way up north last year bumped into a husband and wife who swing as a cpl only no singles EVER !

Well after three weeks of drinking in the same pub on a Thursday was asked to come back for a nite cap if that's what you call it

Cut a long story short the wife just loves cock but the hubby would only let her play if he could get "some" !!! But she kept on at him to give her a try on her own whilst the chance was there plus I had three weeks to work my charm also they were safe in the fact that as soon as my contract was up I'd be gone !

Just wondering who's rules do people play by could be lot of not unless I get some going on but who knows

Happy swinging you lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope...we decided our rules as a couple when we started on this little past time of ours...we have to have absolute trust in each other in every situation...our rules are for each other and under pin our time spent with others so we would never change them on the spur of the moment or in the heat of the action

that isn't to say that they don't evolve over our time and through our experiences or if new fantasies pop up but only after discussion and agreement from both of us..."

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By *r and mrs bangerboobsCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

We decided on our rules in order to keep things clear. We regularly talk about our rules and what and who we are looking for, we then decide whether things have changed and whether we need to change the rules but, once agreed, our rules are our rules and we will stick to them.

Mrs BB

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I did break one of my rules recently, and im glad that i did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only rule we would bend is the age rule as that really does depend on the person

everything else is either a no no and we will always stick to that and some things are "with the right" people only so we'd only do if we were really happy, i.e. seperate room swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure but certain things I wouldn't bend the rules for but in a club, for example, I wouldn't ask how old someone was so long as they looked nearer my age, yes I would bend my age preference but wouldn't bend it a lot. All the rest, no I wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think swinging and meets evolve Ie when you start you have certain rules but as your swinging experiences grow the rules evolve does that make sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have any rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"rules are rules

and we have them for a reason

i wouldn't change my rules at all"

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Very occasionally I have bent one or 2 of mine, age (by no more than a year or 2) and non local people.

Anything else is a rule thats non negotiable.

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

there are so many types of rules its impossible for anyone to say, some will be set in stone, some will be there as a gage.

for instance "no bareback" we see this alot but then after meeting a couple a few times people "only go bareback with them"

No asians, blacks etc, generally this is just preference and not a rule as such.

never play on first meet ( i bet people that put this have done before and will again)

etc

rules are there for others to know what you dod and do not like i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do break the age rule while in clubs as we never ask ages.

Would prob break the upper age but defiantly not the lower.

The rest are in stone xx

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Many moons ago we had countless rules but over the years many of then just kinda disappeared so now see our rules more of guidelines which may or may not be bent in certain circumstances (obviously if both of us are in agreement)

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Some rules I insist on for my own security and they have developed after some dodgy experiences so I wouldn't break those ones.

But though I do prefer tall, toned, muscular men aged between 25-50 I will be flexible on those if I meet someone at a club and their personality wins me over. HOWEVER I would be very unlikely to play with a 5ft tall 5ft wide 70 year old no matter how much fun he was!

As for my likes, well there are boxes I haven't ticked which I indulge in. But those are activities I choose to do with people I know and trust or that I only do when I fancy it so I don't want anyone expecting something only to be disappointed when I say not today thanks.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I always establish in advance what 'rules' people have, so as to avoid potentially awkward moments - it's then up to them as to whether they choose to stick to them or not...

....And if they do stray towards something outside their set of rules, I will ask if they're sure they want to continue before going along with it....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The only rule we have that is set in stone is neither of us play alone.

The other preferences that we have on our profile can be changed....ie the day we play or the age range of the person we play with.

The sex won't change even if Brad pitt turned up, if we are not into something because it doesn't turn us on then nothing will change that....but...we only have the obvious bounderies set anyway in sex , ie illegal stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules are for breaking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol i bbroke my own rules as a single girl and met oreo

and glad i did xxxxx

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

A lot of people have rules which then gives the flexibility to change them, like weather to accomodate, whether to meet singles, and a few more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never. I have preferences but not rules.

I would also never break someone else's rules either. A couple I played with had a no kissing rule. She tried to kiss me mid action so I turned my face (I love kissing) he thanked me afterwards and she apologised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For example, alot of females have no anal sex on their profiles, but if they're dream guy (i.e. brad pitt or some1) said they only wanted to do anal, would you oblige????

Well, I guess if it was Brad Pitt, and he really, really wanted anal, then yes, I'd break my rule and reach for my strap-on....

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

will bend my rules occasionally for the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rules are ment to be broken

I dont really have any rules, my rules are, if it feels good do it

I do have age limits but i dont class them as rules, and i have met a few guys under my age limit in the past, if i see a good looking guy who i get on with im not going to turn him down cause hes 2 years younger than my profile says

everything on my profile is a guide line and nothings set in stone with me

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By *rDionysusMan
over a year ago

Leeds

For example, alot of females have no anal sex on their profiles, but if they're dream guy (i.e. brad pitt or some1) said they only wanted to do anal, would you oblige????

Well, I guess if it was Brad Pitt, and he really, really wanted anal, then yes, I'd break my rule and reach for my strap-on....

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I did break one of my rules recently, and im glad that i did"

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

My rules refer to what other people can do, not what i can do.

The advantage (oh my god finally there is one) of being single on fab is i dont need agreement or debate with myself if i want to change or break a rule.

I can see why couples have them, and why they stick to them on a meet and debate later if they want to ammend the rules of engaement.

I have been in a position with a couple where one of them wanted to do something that they had not discussed and it was a very awkward moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some rules I insist on for my own security and they have developed after some dodgy experiences so I wouldn't break those ones.

Ditto!!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Bollocks rules are made for breaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"will bend my rules occasionally for the right person

We have rules we set when we started swinging 2 years ago. Some have remained hard rules that will never be broken. Some we have changed slightly and some are gone completely.

Then there are some that do bend but only for certain exceptional people

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By *reybearMan
over a year ago

medway

"Rules are rules............ Where would we be if we didn't have rules............ FRANCE ...... Never confused!

And where would we be if there were too many rules? .... Germany!

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"will bend my rules occasionally for the right person

We have rules we set when we started swinging 2 years ago. Some have remained hard rules that will never be broken. Some we have changed slightly and some are gone completely.

Then there are some that do bend but only for certain exceptional people

I think its more important for couples to have rules so that they both know what the boundaries are.

If the two of you decide when you are alone to discuss change and ammend them thats cool.

What it does do is stops any awkward moments during play when one of a couple might be tempted to break one or two.

As a single guy most of my meets have been mfm and i am happy to fit in with a couples rules / ideas.

I am pretty laid back about what i do or dont do.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

There is one rule I will never bend: I won't meet any arrogant and disrespectful person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have on my profile that i only meet men, though i have had a message from a couple that seem nice and i might be meeting them, when they are in my area.

only men age 30 to 50 on my profile, though sometimes meet younger men if i think they are mature for their age or much older men if they seem nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will meet older black guys, how do they look so young??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have many rules but maybe the age one. That said if i found someone sexy and they turned me on both mentally and physically or were downright dirty i'd change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules ate made to be broken!

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

What winds me up about people's rules is, we get couples messaging us wanting to meet and their profile says won't meet smokers. We say sorry kitty smokes, and they turn round and say 'oh we don't mind that really!!!'

WTF, I do tend to kick off a little bit and ask why put it on ya bloody profile then!

Oops, rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dare you suggest that people break rules on a whim. Why, I've never been so offended and am thinking about consulting either a lawyer or contract killer.

It's all down to peoples preference/choice.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"We do break the age rule while in clubs as we never ask ages.

Would prob break the upper age but defiantly not the lower.

The rest are in stone xx"

Hooray, hooray hip hooray !!

On a different point;

Happy birthday to which one it Is, for Friday by the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner broke one of our rules last night

I'm gutted to be honest. So much trust I had in him, being new to swinging gutted this has been broken. He says I'm over reacting by ending 'our' relationship he doesn't see what he did as a break of rules. How do I or am I supposed to react, I've done the angry at him, now in the emotional bit have I been played for a fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to the steady decline of single females on the site, I had a browse of some of the local couples profiles this morning and got chatting to a pair who seemed rather nice.

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Bendy rules are far better than rigid rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife is only supposed to do anal with me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My rule is no playing with married men or men in a relationship without their partner's knowledge. But there is someone who's an exception!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we have a few rules that we set from the beginning!! And they are still there not broken.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

"My rule is no playing with married men or men in a relationship without their partner's knowledge!!!"

That's one of ours as well. The smoking one is an other....but we've played with some one who smoked, we only found out after.. No problem as we couldn't tell but others have tried smelling of old fags and that was a huge turn off... Most of the other rules are guide lines. However that doesn't meen ignore our prefrences and message us....lol

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By *rs and mr sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

Boldon

"lol i broke my own rules as a single girl and met oreo

and glad i did xxxxx"

MrShields was way above my age range - only met him as he was providing a lift to a party weekend - I think the rest is history! Some rules are definitely made for bending

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

my hubby and i dont have a lot of rules, and i think we need to up-date our profile as some things have changed, but the few rules we have are iron clad and dont get broken..... ever

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Years ago we had a rule No anal with others.

Then on about our 2nd swaping with a couple we compared notes on the previous evening and found we had both broken the rule me taking the womans arse and my partner being taken in the arse by the husband lol.

So dont really have many rules now

But always respect other peoples!!

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