FabSwingers.com forum: thanks but no thanks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what is the best way of politely saying to people thanks for the interest but no thanks without upsetting people as sometime they are just not our thing ??

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

No offence, but you're not were looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what is the best way of politely saying to people thanks for the interest but no thanks without upsetting people as sometime they are just not our thing ??"

Speaking from vast experience, I'd consider "thank but no thanks" polite.

I had a nice one today that thanked me for my message and pics but I just wasn't for them....I had to thank them for rejecting me so politely...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try and be polite, sadly it's not taken that way most of the time, and I either get a mouthful back or more messages wanting to know why ...........

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

i think you said it really thanks for your intest but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard one really has even the politest of rejections are sometimes fought back with abuse so if you take the chance of rejecting them politely still be prepared for receiving mail back from the odd few that don't like the rejection

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"be prepared for receiving mail back from the odd few that don't like the rejection"

Send, then block

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Dear ____

I am way out of your league. Next time, aim lower.

By the way, the above is a joke, and I find 'thanks but no thanks' works fine for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear ____

I am way out of your league. Next time, aim lower.

By the way, the above is a joke, and I find 'thanks but no thanks' works fine for me.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally don't get a reply, just a deleted message. Getting a reply of thanks but no thanks at least means they've looked at my page

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By *riskygazMan
over a year ago

birmingham

thanks but your not my type

shouldnt get to upset about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear ____

I am way out of your league. Next time, aim lower.

By the way, the above is a joke, and I find 'thanks but no thanks' works fine for me.."

I'd consider that to be polite compared to some I've had...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always just put

thanks for the message but im going to say no thanks

most will be ok with that but i also get guys replying with abuse or even worse those who feel the need to ask why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always just put

thanks for the message but im going to say no thanks

most will be ok with that but i also get guys replying with abuse or even worse those who feel the need to ask why

yep that happens to me a lot

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

please dont take offence but you arent my type,must say iv never had a backlash from this

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Dear ____

I am way out of your league. Next time, aim lower.

By the way, the above is a joke, and I find 'thanks but no thanks' works fine for me.."

That's good

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"please dont take offence but you arent my type,must say iv never had a backlash from this"

Because I was devastated

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Just don't reply, if you don't feel like it. "No thanks" replies are great if you want to do them, but they're not an obligation and it isn't rude just to delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we contact people to invite to one of our parties more often than not we don't get anything back at all just message deleted, this is a bit annoying. Would rather get a message saying thanks but you are not our type. Not got a problem with that at all. I mean we know we are not everyones type so we expect knock backs and just move on. Someone somewhere will like us :-/ I think lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read & block is the best way in my opinion, tells the sender everything they need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I normally don't get a reply, just a deleted message. Getting a reply of thanks but no thanks at least means they've looked at my page

Yes, I get that a lot too, but it doesn't put me off, most women/couples must get HUNDREDS of messages a day and don't have time to reply to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always just put

thanks for the message but im going to say no thanks

most will be ok with that but i also get guys replying with abuse or even worse those who feel the need to ask why

yep that happens to me a lot

Us three! Not the abuse but we tend to say:

"Thanks for your message but we're not looking to add anyone else to our play list, but good luck!"

Answer - Will you change your mind soon? Can I message again in a couple of months?

Or "Thanks for your message but you're not what we're looking for (eg facial hair)"

Answer - Oh right, I'll shave it off right now OR

But why aren't I/we what you are looking for? Can I/we change xyz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, but we don't think we'd be compatible, blah, blah, blah.

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

Thanks but no thanks,

Take Care, Curls

I get very little come back, and only send this to people who do or almost meet my preferences and have been polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks but no thanks,

Take Care, Curls

I get very little come back, and only send this to people who do or almost meet my preferences and have been polite."

i will try that one, hope you dont mind me calling myself curls

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"what is the best way of politely saying to people thanks for the interest but no thanks without upsetting people as sometime they are just not our thing ??"

We tend to just keep it short & simple, will normally write something like...

Thank you for your message but we don't think you are what we are looking for. Best Wishes

Very very rarely do we ever get any abusive messages back!

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By *helmercpleCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Just delete then block them, we have found that even with polite rejections most guys tend to think that is an invitation to open a conversation. The others are just plain abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say 'sorry you're not really my type' and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We normally reply with a polite "Thanks but your not what we are looking for" but every now & then someone comes along that A) hasn't read the profile or

B) Chancing their luck

as they are definitely not compatible and have been known to just come out with "Think we better keep on looking!"

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By *otYoungYorkGuyMan
over a year ago

york-north

Its a tough one.

Sometimes it is nice to get a reply 'thanks but no thanks' i would usually send one back saying thanks for your reply and all the best etc not to try and start a conversation but just to acknowledge thanks.

i see it a bit like if you go to a nightclub and the doorman wont let you in. you can stand there and argue all night but it wont get you anywhere he still wont let you in. I just dont understand people who try and persist?

I would say that you have to admire some peoples brass but as a single guy i dont get loads and loads of people doing it and imagine it can soon become quite tiresome.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have a variety depending on the tone of the original message:

thanks for your interest but you're not my type, take care

thanks for your interest but no thanks, take care

thanks but no thanks

no thanks

I rarely block unless someone is rude in reply or persists in sending the same message every week/month. I do however find that by being reasonably polite and courteous I don't get the flooded inbox that many ladies get and can deal with my mail and reply to most messages. I put this down to people who are used to not getting any reply respect a straightforward polite one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a reply ito say, thanks but no thanks is a novelty on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for your message and the interest expressed, but I have no wish to waste your valuable time so I will say thanks, but no thanks straight away

All the best

Tom

thats what I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a message back saying thanks but no thanks, I always thank them for their reply and sign off with 'hope you find what you're looking for and happy swinging'

This is usually quite well received and I actually got a call from a couple, who had said no, inviting me for a coffee.

Never burn bridges is my motto as one day you might be what they're looking for.

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