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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe people have changed since covid but I'm baffled at how quiet fab has become. Is it just me? Weekends used to be very busy on here and now it's literally dribs and drabs, cut through the stay at home wank brigade who don't have any intentions to meet in the first place and fab seems like a barren landscape compared to what is was. Sad times!

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Maybe due to the current situation people aren't as confident as they once were.

And since then their time has been taken up doing other things.

I'm sure it will get back to normal soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always been hit and miss, usually there's a crowd that believe they're teh popular kids, forums get dull etc as people start seeing the same group cackle, I've seen it over the years,

Sometimes you get a rush of new exciting blood and picks up again.

Guess we'll have to wait for the new cool kids to come along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it’s because people are out at clubs or meeting people they have been talking to so just not on here as much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even the forums are shit now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only been on a few months so don't know what it was like pre covid but peoples priorities have probably changed, people come and go, I guess those that have met people that they get on with have come off to continue seeing those regularly instead of wading through the sea of men on here or instead of getting bombarded with messages. Death is probably a factor I presume and the young ones probably have more of a social life

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's definitely changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even the forums are shit now"

In what way? I think they are pretty much the same.

The difference is people are back at work…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I wasnt here just before Covid but have been an oldtimer here before.

I suspect part of it is that people are cramming more into weekends than pre covid. That may drop off.

I also suspect covid has knocked some libidos back. Maybe.

And the forums have always had an element of "the regulars". But I do sense we've lost some ppl who can start really good new threads, to compliment the usual.

( I recall one which was all filters off and all pics public for an hour (or a day or something)... Seriously nerve wracking that one! Now it's more behind closed doors ...)

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

hasn't been quiet for us

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

More men so woman are more fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peoples lives have changed a lot changes in priority i know my life is far far less than it was things change and so do people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows "
from talking to people i sense fab isn't quite the swingers secret it was and is now being seen as a sex site ...which probably brings the tinder lot over !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows from talking to people i sense fab isn't quite the swingers secret it was and is now being seen as a sex site ...which probably brings the tinder lot over !"

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows from talking to people i sense fab isn't quite the swingers secret it was and is now being seen as a sex site ...which probably brings the tinder lot over !

Probably "
ps wuu2? Faf?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Maybe people have changed since covid but I'm baffled at how quiet fab has become. Is it just me? Weekends used to be very busy on here and now it's literally dribs and drabs, cut through the stay at home wank brigade who don't have any intentions to meet in the first place and fab seems like a barren landscape compared to what is was. Sad times! "

Agree with the first bit there are a few profile on here who seem to think that nobody should ever meet again but the other bit is probably down to available time. We had lots of things postponed in 2020 which are now all being rearranged for the last few months of this year and first quarter of next. Add to that catching up with friends on here and in vanilla land means we have very little free time and we are not going to waste it, if there us one thing 2020 taught us it is that time together is precious.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

It definitely has changed especially the forums. I really struggle sometimes to find an adult thread to contribute to these days. Threads are often what I would expect from 5th form adolescence. Rate my cock , sniff my panties , etc etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It definitely has changed especially the forums. I really struggle sometimes to find an adult thread to contribute to these days. Threads are often what I would expect from 5th form adolescence. Rate my cock , sniff my panties , etc etc . "
and that's the politics forum !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows from talking to people i sense fab isn't quite the swingers secret it was and is now being seen as a sex site ...which probably brings the tinder lot over !"

I think this is quite probably true. As much as it’s got swinging in the title, I think there were lots of singles in the past who did just want casual sex. There are now some quite well polished apps for singles and couples who like to meet others, but would probably call themselves open rather than swingers.

It is a little harder to meet someone too. Tends to happen when you least expect it rather than when you’re looking. Speaking as a single man, anyway. Years ago, if I wanted to meet on a specific day, I could generally find someone. Not so much now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It definitely has changed especially the forums. I really struggle sometimes to find an adult thread to contribute to these days. Threads are often what I would expect from 5th form adolescence. Rate my cock , sniff my panties , etc etc . and that's the politics forum !!"

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By *plmrCouple
over a year ago

little rock

From our opinion, there are more picture wankers than real people. That’s society in its self, who do you trust anymore. The world is full of lies and fake people. Look at the idiot that claims to be President. He can’t even tie his own shoes . Rant gone . Happy Fab n.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely think it's changed.

I've been on 5 yrs. It's harder to meet quality people.

I delete a lot of dross instantly and the last two meets didn't look owt like pics. Actually walked past the woman in toilets.

Wasting time.

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Personally for me my priorities have changed. Covid made me really really ill for over 9wks, I needed oxygen and almost didn't pull through (and no comorbidities here to blame for it either) and I'm still struggling now with tiredness and fatigue easily etc, plus I have a little boy, and I've now started a degree in my dream field (history nerd here lol) and I go to the gym often trying to get back fit(well, pre this current awful cold we're all dying from atm I was, but this past week and a bit I've just stayed curled up!) and Covid shook me up and made me realise that I need to get my butt in gear for the dreams I've still got to achieve.

So as much as I'm still looking for the right person to have a regular fwb situation with I'm not trying to shag someone new constantly like I was when I first originally joined! I'm looking for quality not quantity now

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows from talking to people i sense fab isn't quite the swingers secret it was and is now being seen as a sex site ...which probably brings the tinder lot over !

Probably ps wuu2? Faf?

"

Omg that is the worst!! Faf? More like Ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have to say covid times where more fun people well men for me wanted to cam but since I have had a few meets and just take things as there come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They let me in lol..

Still new to the whole site but I should imagine as said before, people are back working, priorities have changed and people aren't meeting as frequently as pre-covid owing to the virus still being around and potent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like life, fab is what you make of it

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

During COVID I had a lot of people who seemed very keen to meet as soon as things were halfway back to normal again. Now they are halfway back to normal, they've all vaporised into thin air. It's quite annoying.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I remember when I joined a few years ago before covid people were saying they missed the good old days of fab and people are still saying in now

Is it not a case of missing who you were then and a type of regret for what you're missing rather than just fab changing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its just the times covid is still here ive delt with lots of covid related stuff via work but outside of work none of family or friends have had it until last friday one friend now has it and up til today its now 8 people i know have it must be a spike in the taunton area ... so its still around and its still affecting every day life ... i think thats still the main problem

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We've been here two and a bit years - the only change we've seen is that we get a lot fewer messages every day now. Figured it's either (a) our profile has got so negative that we scare the guys off, or (b) we've finally managed to block all the single guys.

The forums seem to have gone downhill lately - all "want to talk about your wife" and "rate my cock" stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone mentioned above, I think it's mostly down to people preferring to do real meets or attend parties instead of spending time on the website. During lockdown, it made sense to socialise here. Not anymore.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

To the people complaining there are no good threads posted anymore... stop moaning and start up some good ones!

This site is ours to make fun, contribute and make it fun. The constant moaning on the forums really doesn't help.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows "

Couldn't have put it better x if we get another message just saying hi.... Effort has gone and forums are meh x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Whenever you pass comment on the current stae of fab, there's always someone who's quick to hand wave it away whilst ignoring valid complaints and concerns.

We all get a different experiance due to local area, what we are looking for etc etc etc.

Fab is a free site, easy to join and is now dominated by single male as such the landscape has changed.

Without a radical overhaul to membership or the user _ase (won't happen) it won't get better, it will get worse.

The sensible move is to just use fab as an aide to swinging rather than the only way to swing.

We just use it for arranging or attending socials now as 80% of messages we get are just leading us up the garden path. There are no better options out there and there is no real incentive to change the site format so just make the best of what you have.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows from talking to people i sense fab isn't quite the swingers secret it was and is now being seen as a sex site ...which probably brings the tinder lot over !"

This 2000%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been here two and a bit years - the only change we've seen is that we get a lot fewer messages every day now. Figured it's either (a) our profile has got so negative that we scare the guys off, or (b) we've finally managed to block all the single guys.

The forums seem to have gone downhill lately - all "want to talk about your wife" and "rate my cock" stuff."

I think we are the same, our profile has got more and more shouty just trying to keep the idiots away and weve blocked all the guys who send friend requests out of the blue. Posted a meet and havent had many genuine responses, so maybe we have scared the genuine guys away

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

I was aimed this way by a friend saying fab is your best bet

Was on here few months before covid, during and still here

We had no scheduled meets at all and we barely get messages these days!

Honestly we have kinda given up. Think we're just here out of habit

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"I was aimed this way by a friend saying fab is your best bet

Was on here few months before covid, during and still here

We had no scheduled meets at all and we barely get messages these days!

Honestly we have kinda given up. Think we're just here out of habit "

There are real people on here. They're just getting harder to find lately.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"During COVID I had a lot of people who seemed very keen to meet as soon as things were halfway back to normal again. Now they are halfway back to normal, they've all vaporised into thin air. It's quite annoying. "

This is very true.

I’ve actually met more people since Covid started than I met in the previous four years and we’ve been locked down for a good part of the last 18 months unable to meet. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows "

I can relate to this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been here two and a bit years - the only change we've seen is that we get a lot fewer messages every day now. Figured it's either (a) our profile has got so negative that we scare the guys off, or (b) we've finally managed to block all the single guys.

The forums seem to have gone downhill lately - all "want to talk about your wife" and "rate my cock" stuff.

I think we are the same, our profile has got more and more shouty just trying to keep the idiots away and weve blocked all the guys who send friend requests out of the blue. Posted a meet and havent had many genuine responses, so maybe we have scared the genuine guys away"

I don't think that your profile would frighten any decent horny guys away. Yous have got a brilliant profile and your pics and your videos are absolutely right out of the top drawer x

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Last few weeks has been very quiet on here let’s hope it picks up

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Even the forums are shit now

In what way? I think they are pretty much the same.

The difference is people are back at work…"

Every topic under the sun has been done to death. Sometimes you see the same subject emerge as a new thread barely a few weeks later whereas it may have taken a couple of months before.

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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

I know that i've changed, i was ill during lockdown, not covid related but still quite ill over several months. I was forced to go private for the healthcare i needed and during that time my whole mindset changed as to what i want from life. Now i use fab to keep in touch with the wonderful people i've met over the years but it's no longer as important to me as it once was x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Priorities have definitely changed post covid.

My spare time is dedicated to catching up on lost time with my friends. I have little inclination to meet strangers.

The forums are cliquey as fuck - I largely bypass the popularity threads or those that include the popular kids names started by others in the gang.

Messages are lazier than ever and barely deserve a reply. Maybe men are aware that they are outnumbered or maybe they can’t be arsed either. Who knows "

I totally agree with all these comments,was a time l made a real effort in communicating for most to end up in dead ends ,fake promises, timewasting .the forums just dont do it for me now , lm on another forum _ased site and that going the same way .No good me chucking my dummy out ,just waiting it out til my subscription runs out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whenever you pass comment on the current stae of fab, there's always someone who's quick to hand wave it away whilst ignoring valid complaints and concerns.

We all get a different experiance due to local area, what we are looking for etc etc etc.

Fab is a free site, easy to join and is now dominated by single male as such the landscape has changed.

Without a radical overhaul to membership or the user _ase (won't happen) it won't get better, it will get worse.

The sensible move is to just use fab as an aide to swinging rather than the only way to swing.

We just use it for arranging or attending socials now as 80% of messages we get are just leading us up the garden path. There are no better options out there and there is no real incentive to change the site format so just make the best of what you have.

"

we feel the same way, also think that also alot of bored people during covid joined up for kicks with no real intention of meeting, and not just single men, however there does seem to be alot more guys on here now.

maybe they will get bored and leave, but who knows, it is a free site after all, in our opinion the whole site could do with a re think as to members, but it will never happen

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think fab is great, not sure about some of the people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another problem is people join fab and expect insant results, thats not what the site is we've been here from the very begining and other sites before fab ....what makes fab work is the tools it provides so it takes abit of work if your a guy then alot of work ..joining fab will never put it on a plate for you .. it just provides the tools ..

and as alot of us fab people who've been here right from the begining will also say theres always up n downs quiet times but covid was a massive once in a lifetime thing (hopefully) give it a chance to find is feet again ...

as for all the moans about too many wasters they've always been here just in bigger numbers 99% of them are so easy to spot n block ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"another problem is people join fab and expect insant results, thats not what the site is we've been here from the very begining and other sites before fab ....what makes fab work is the tools it provides so it takes abit of work if your a guy then alot of work ..joining fab will never put it on a plate for you .. it just provides the tools ..

and as alot of us fab people who've been here right from the begining will also say theres always up n downs quiet times but covid was a massive once in a lifetime thing (hopefully) give it a chance to find is feet again ...

as for all the moans about too many wasters they've always been here just in bigger numbers 99% of them are so easy to spot n block ... "

That's a good point actually, we expect instant everything these days, I don't see many people putting the effort in like before though I think it must be a post covid thing but it's definitely changed on here since then

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"It definitely has changed especially the forums. I really struggle sometimes to find an adult thread to contribute to these days. Threads are often what I would expect from 5th form adolescence. Rate my cock , sniff my panties , etc etc . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is great. No complaints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has definitely changed and not for the better, it's getting more and more vanilla, and there are way too many look at me "I am so wonderful" but I am never going to meet anyone. So give the site the reputation of being a waste of time. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No complaints here.

Things are still steady for us, the way we like it.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Not changed for me ! Still no meets lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been here two and a bit years - the only change we've seen is that we get a lot fewer messages every day now. Figured it's either (a) our profile has got so negative that we scare the guys off, or (b) we've finally managed to block all the single guys.

The forums seem to have gone downhill lately - all "want to talk about your wife" and "rate my cock" stuff.

I think we are the same, our profile has got more and more shouty just trying to keep the idiots away and weve blocked all the guys who send friend requests out of the blue. Posted a meet and havent had many genuine responses, so maybe we have scared the genuine guys away"

Negativity attracts negativity. Would you want to meet a happy person or a ranty person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"another problem is people join fab and expect insant results, thats not what the site is we've been here from the very begining and other sites before fab ....what makes fab work is the tools it provides so it takes abit of work if your a guy then alot of work ..joining fab will never put it on a plate for you .. it just provides the tools ..

and as alot of us fab people who've been here right from the begining will also say theres always up n downs quiet times but covid was a massive once in a lifetime thing (hopefully) give it a chance to find is feet again ...

as for all the moans about too many wasters they've always been here just in bigger numbers 99% of them are so easy to spot n block ... "

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