FabSwingers.com forum: Same day meet

By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

How do you feel about same day meets?

Do you ever come on fab looking to meet right now? How does that go for you?

I am very busy with two part time jobs and family responsibilities so I like to plan meets in advance and even though I have well planned meets sometimes I get let down

Then is when I am tempted to come on fab and do a same day meet.

How have your same day meets been?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I pretty much only do same day meets as I tend to find them more reliable, I find the longer in advance a meet is planned the more likely they are to cancel or rearrange the plans

Without being crude with on the day meets you catch them while they are horny and they'll arrive as planned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i enjoy both to be honest.

long-drawn-out meets build the tension and rapport, whereas same day meets i get what i want ASAP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only ever done same day meet once and that’s because he was quite persistent and I gave in but I usually prefer to chat and get to know someone a bit to make sure we are compatible

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Thank very much for your reply and I get that you get more reliable meets that great xx

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"i enjoy both to be honest.

long-drawn-out meets build the tension and rapport, whereas same day meets i get what i want ASAP.

Px "

Yes I love building the tension and building rapport but I get what you mean about asap

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I plan in advance. It's a safety thing for me. Getting to know people

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I’ve only ever done same day meet once and that’s because he was quite persistent and I gave in but I usually prefer to chat and get to know someone a bit to make sure we are compatible "

Yes I know what you mean about getting to know people and seeing if you get on and it won’t be an awkward uncomfortable meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do , we have a hotlist and if one weekend night we feel like some fun then its a message or too ...30mins you have someone to have fun with . .off the cuff we call it x

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"How do you feel about same day meets?

Do you ever come on fab looking to meet right now? How does that go for you?

I am very busy with two part time jobs and family responsibilities so I like to plan meets in advance and even though I have well planned meets sometimes I get let down

Then is when I am tempted to come on fab and do a same day meet.

How have your same day meets been?"

No. Our first meetings are always social only, after we've chatted with that person over a reasonable period of time. We'd never play first time out, especially if we'd only come across that person the same day.

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By *ussexualMan
over a year ago

Brighton

It's the same for clubs, you get the anticipation building when you've planned to attend, but sometimes you just feel horny and pop down the local spa (if you're lucky enough to have one close by)

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I plan in advance. It's a safety thing for me. Getting to know people"

Yes I hear you I have been like that too but I guess sometimes it’s just about taking a risk but perhaps a same day coffee meet is less risky than a hotel meet xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I plan in advance. It's a safety thing for me. Getting to know people

Yes I hear you I have been like that too but I guess sometimes it’s just about taking a risk but perhaps a same day coffee meet is less risky than a hotel meet xx"

Yeah. I might do same day coffee meet, but only rarely

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"We do , we have a hotlist and if one weekend night we feel like some fun then its a message or too ...30mins you have someone to have fun with . .off the cuff we call it x"

Thank for your reply and good points I have people on my hotlist too that I have built a rapport with so I would feel more comfortable doing a same day meet with them xx

Thanks

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By *urious1973Man
over a year ago

angus

I would b up for that if I could find someone at short notice x you can never find someone at the right time that are both local and both looking for same thing at that particular time x

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I would b up for that if I could find someone at short notice x you can never find someone at the right time that are both local and both looking for same thing at that particular time x"

It seems to be easier for women to find a same day meet lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same day meets with people I've never spoken to or met before aren't for me and I never come on fab looking to meet right now.

Have been told several times - by those I politely declined that this means I'm looking for monogamy and/or I should go on others sites

(They were clearly bad mindreaders

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If I have met someone before and we are in contact, then all bets are off and I'm happy to meet them whenever works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve only ever done same day meet once and that’s because he was quite persistent and I gave in but I usually prefer to chat and get to know someone a bit to make sure we are compatible

Yes I know what you mean about getting to know people and seeing if you get on and it won’t be an awkward uncomfortable meet xx"

I don’t mind contacting someone I’ve met before for a last minute meet tho

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By *eenie69!Man
over a year ago

all over

Tried to plan for meetings in advance but they always end up failing, also put some meet now's up which have a slightly better success rate, some of the better meets are when people chance their arm and drop me a message, I always check out their profile and verifications and go for it, they probably end up the most successful meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always wary of same day meets so I never do them. I want that connection, I want to know that is it someone that I can be friends with first and foremost. I can’t get that in a day, I need time for someone to fully reveal who they are before moving on further

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"How do you feel about same day meets?

Do you ever come on fab looking to meet right now? How does that go for you?

I am very busy with two part time jobs and family responsibilities so I like to plan meets in advance and even though I have well planned meets sometimes I get let down

Then is when I am tempted to come on fab and do a same day meet.

How have your same day meets been?

Yes I pretty much like doing things the same way as you thanks for your reply xx

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By *oungJayyMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I've not had many meets myself, but I've had a next day meet?

I would like to do a sane day meet but typically I find that people aren't interested or available for it, same as I, I always like to be prepared going out so typically my day ahead is planned :P whether that's a meet or whatever elsex

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Same day meets for us are rare. That means we already have child care sorted and the moons have aligned to allow fun to take place.

It also means we have spent a few hours talking first so we have an idea who we are going to meet, where and when

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Same day meets with people I've never spoken to or met before aren't for me and I never come on fab looking to meet right now.

Have been told several times - by those I politely declined that this means I'm looking for monogamy and/or I should go on others sites

(They were clearly bad mindreaders

)

Thanks for sharing what you’ve been told about going on other sites sometimes when I have rejected someone he’s told me I am on the wrong site too

That’s so manipulative you go girl you’re on the right site you can set your limits as you wish and give consent to who you like

Go girl set those limits

Thanks for your reply xx

If I have met someone before and we are in contact, then all bets are off and I'm happy to meet them whenever works for us

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never had a same day meet and just the one next day.

The morning after first chatting to someone she invited me to her hotel room because she had hangover horn.

Normally I would have said no as it was 50 miles away but I was passing that way for a non fab meet.

We didn't even know what the other looked like until she opened the door.

It was very much all about her and I left 30 mins later when she got a call to breakfast from her friends in the next room. I was fully dressed the entire time so while it was an experience it's not something I'd be in a hurry to repeat.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never have unless it's with someone I've met previously several times and have gotten to know. All my first meets are socials only, with no expectations on either side. I couldn't/wouldn't trust anyone enough to do a same day meet.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

For us this is why clubs are best. Work and family life makes it difficult to plan sort notice. So it's either plan something well in advance or suddenly find yourself unexpectedly expected free and horny. Plus something you plan far in advance can fall through last minute because life happens, but it's so frustrating.

At a club you go and it can be an on the day decision or planned long in advance. A club won't stand you up last minute either. Then you go, meet people and know pretty instantly if it's a yes or a no. Which is better than hoping a first meet you've planned and invested in for sometime works out and into the bedroom. If its a yes you can go and scratch that itch. If its a no you can move on and hopefully find someone else who is a yes. And maybe even more than one in the same visit. And if all fails and you don't find what your looking for you still get to go out and have a nice time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I pretty much only do same day meets as I tend to find them more reliable, I find the longer in advance a meet is planned the more likely they are to cancel or rearrange the plans

Without being crude with on the day meets you catch them while they are horny and they'll arrive as planned"

You free this weekend xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same day meets are the best type, imo. There’s something about planning ahead that puts too much pressure on the situation, and it always falls flat.

Then of course there’s the whole online vs reality situation - which mainly seems to happen if you’ve spent days or weeks speaking online before meeting and have built up an image that doesn’t match the reality.

Yeah same day meets all the way for me.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We very rarely do same day meets. We have to work around Char's post-chemo health issues of pain and fatigue. That means we need to plan for a rest day the day before and the day after a meet, and make sure that she does nothing to aggravate her pain beforehand, so things need to be planned.

That said, Char had a good day yesterday and we tried messaging six or seven of the guys on our "to do list" and not one was available

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By *aughtySilverFoxyMan
over a year ago

Reading

"I would b up for that if I could find someone at short notice x you can never find someone at the right time that are both local and both looking for same thing at that particular time x

It seems to be easier for women to find a same day meet lol xx"

That's for sure...and suggestion of a same day meet would result in message overload??

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Dunstable Beds areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

"I would b up for that if I could find someone at short notice x you can never find someone at the right time that are both local and both looking for same thing at that particular time x

It seems to be easier for women to find a same day meet lol xx"

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Yes 100% true there

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By *aughtySilverFoxyMan
over a year ago

Reading

"We very rarely do same day meets. We have to work around Char's post-chemo health issues of pain and fatigue. That means we need to plan for a rest day the day before and the day after a meet, and make sure that she does nothing to aggravate her pain beforehand, so things need to be planned.

That said, Char had a good day yesterday and we tried messaging six or seven of the guys on our "to do list" and not one was available

Please try me next time lol

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By *rsandBooMan
over a year ago

Reading

Personally we like both but when a same day meet we will ask people only on our friends list as we have already vetted to what suits us and engaged in a conversation already.

This works for us as already a rapport and knows our rules and know its someone we would invite to join us.

Bit harder for single women due to safety purposes.

Boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only done it once and it was fine.

I did how ever think it was going to be a social and she obviously had other idea's...lol

It was fun and exciting though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very little free time so when I do have some I will do a same day meet.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Dunstable Beds areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

Done both.

Enjoyed both.

Which is better same or next day as peps say less time to be let down.

And like me I'm sure its probably happened to all of us in one way or another.

Be safe all T

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By *eardedTattManMan
over a year ago

Elland

I can get down with both. Completely understand the wishes of those who would like to meet socially first. Can never be too careful I guess

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I can get down with both. Completely understand the wishes of those who would like to meet socially first. Can never be too careful I guess"

Have to let us know if you're staying near Peterborough....might take advantage of a same day meet

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By *eardedTattManMan
over a year ago

Elland

"I can get down with both. Completely understand the wishes of those who would like to meet socially first. Can never be too careful I guess

Have to let us know if you're staying near Peterborough....might take advantage of a same day meet

Absofuckinglutely I will. You guys look great

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By *aughtySilverFoxyMan
over a year ago

Reading

"I can get down with both. Completely understand the wishes of those who would like to meet socially first. Can never be too careful I guess

Have to let us know if you're staying near Peterborough....might take advantage of a same day meet

But not last minute according to your profile? Send a friend request and then if I'm in the area....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done both planned and spontaneous meets. It quite rare I’ve planned one to be honest. Most have been spontaneous. Sometimes with only a few hours notice. Even less occasionally.

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

North East

As a guy you've sometimes got to be ready to take the invitation when it's there. I used to find Saturday evenings were great. There is always couples on who have had a few drinks or maybe been let down by someone. Had a few great last minute meets like that.

Usually single meets take a bit of chat and planning. That is also exciting building that sexual tension.

I did have one last minute meet where I was on a train out of town and was invited to someone's house so I jumped off at the next stop and off I went!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both and enjoy same day and planned meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer planned meets. I have had the occasional urge for a same day meet but try to avoid that as unfortunately in today’s world we have to be very safety conscious.

It’s when the horn takes over (like today) that it’s more difficult to be sensible!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's something I'd never do tbh

It's far too quick for me, I like to take my time and go at my pace until comfortable.

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

We've done this a few times to be honest. We really struggle to plan time to ourselves and don't like messing people about so this tactic has worked well for us on the odd occasion that we've found ourselves free and horny! We've been quite lucky so far and had some really nice meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done on a couple of occasions but prefer to plan and have more notice

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

Always do same day meets as we can't say on Tuesday three weeks time at 9pm we will be in the mood

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We wouldn’t do it personally but fully understandable if your a busy bee.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I’d only ever meet for a social first time so a spontaneous cuppa is fine by mev

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We've had a few, we don't always know when we'll be free, so can be handy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only done it a couple of times but they actually ended up being very good meets xx

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