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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We had few socials and play meets where we noticed the other couple just guzzling vodka and wine , glass after glass.

Many times we could taste it ourselves during kissing .

Needless to say ,we wrapped up the game and came home.

Why people drink so much during meet ?

You need one or two drinks to calm your nerves.

How other couples tackle such situations ?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Are you not drinkers yourselves?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So long as the other couple didn't appear intoxicated it wouldn't bother me

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Agreed Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you not drinkers yourselves?"

We don't drink during play meets and if we drink then it's only one pint.

No more than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So long as the other couple didn't appear intoxicated it wouldn't bother me "

You mean after 10 glasses of vodka,they would be still in their senses?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

As long as they’re in control

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as they’re in control "

Speech becomes slurred and then the guy starts spanking his wife's ass .

Scared Priya once and we was out of the door in seconds.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't think arse spanking is a sign of intoxication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to meet a cpl that had several gins but wow was it fun. Think it dropped their inhibitions even more

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

For us we would have 1 or 2 drinks but never really anymore when playing as it can spoil the evening

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I

don't drink

Dont like to smell it on others

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford

I agree with u op some cant have fun with out getting d*unk

And if u outside in public n people are heavily drinking u better run

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford


"I don't think arse spanking is a sign of intoxication "

Arsss spanking in public?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're wary of people that drink too much; we want people to be soberly consenting, especially since we like to get kinky. Same with drugs; each to their own but we get our oxytocin from fucking

I also can't stand the solvent-glue taste on someone's skin and lips when they've been drinking too much.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Some years ago I had a meet with a couple who d*unk constantly for over 2 hours whilst I remained sober (driving). They could hardly stand when it came time to have sex.

The meet was a nightmare. As I drove away afterwards I wondered if I could legally claim the wife had consented in the light of what she had d*unk. If you have to be d*unk to swing then perhaps it not for you?

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Brewers droop lol

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions. "

That must raise legal consent issues. The fact the partner made the female d*unk does not act as an excuse for those who have sex with her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some years ago I had a meet with a couple who d*unk constantly for over 2 hours whilst I remained sober (driving). They could hardly stand when it came time to have sex.

The meet was a nightmare. As I drove away afterwards I wondered if I could legally claim the wife had consented in the light of what she had d*unk. If you have to be d*unk to swing then perhaps it not for you? "

Precisely this ..

We just don't know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think arse spanking is a sign of intoxication "

Not at all but you know when the guy gets excited and wants to show off a bit. Being d*unk gives you that leverage of losing inhibitions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first meet we had a cup of tea

Second meet was just a social so we enjoyed a few drinks.

If we were having a social and then having sex I would only have one or two and would hope whoever we were with wouldn't drink much either. I want the other parties to be able to consent and I wouldn't feel good about myself if someone needed to drink copious amounts of alcohol to have sex with me.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't think arse spanking is a sign of intoxication

Arsss spanking in public?"

I didn't think of that. I assumed it was in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont see the problem really,its not the amount people drink its a case of how in control they are ,

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By *icence_2_Thrill_006.9Man
over a year ago

Hounslow

I’ve had that turned up at a couples place only to find them both d*unk then they start to snort some of white stuff I left it was too intense for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s very rare I drink, more less so on a social and if then it would only be one glass….

People are free to choose what they want to do and we are free to choose that it’s not acceptable. It’s all about free choice OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be relaxed and loosened up a little with a couple of glasses of wine or beer or whatever.

I think its personal preference. Everyone has their own threshold / tolerance for booze. Some people can knock back the drinks and still be in control. I don't have any issue with someone tasting of booze.

That's the world of Fab for you, we are all different and we all have our own does and don'ts!!

Maybe you should call it out as a preference before a meet, that you would rather all parties are sober?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

A few drinks is fine. Some handle it better than others, depending on many things. Slurring words and we're not playing, they're too d@unk to give consent.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

To be fair we like a drink. A couple or single we can have a good drink with and get along with is a great indication for us. We love a good laugh and to let our hair down with others as well as the sex. Maybe we're not the best swingers but we have fun with like minded people. And if a meet is a bit boozey and works well we know we'll be able to all work well together when a little more sober too.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Had meets ruined like this before.

The last one she got so d*unk she could hardly walk, threw up and went to bed.. Her partner then tried to convince me that she wanted the two of us to use her while she was out of it.... needless to say I got the hell out of there. (Yes I did let her know the next day what did and didn't happen, and she was actually pissed off with me for not doing it.... lol!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions. "

The amount of pissed up women in clubs is shocking. And the men who will fuck them anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had meets ruined like this before.

The last one she got so d*unk she could hardly walk, threw up and went to bed.. Her partner then tried to convince me that she wanted the two of us to use her while she was out of it.... needless to say I got the hell out of there. (Yes I did let her know the next day what did and didn't happen, and she was actually pissed off with me for not doing it.... lol!)"

Ewww nowt like the stink of puke to make a man horny.

Glad you left.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

I almost never drink during a meet. I dont need dutch courage nor a confidence boost, but understand that other people.may be nervous, shy, introvert and deel a wee drink or two helps. if they got pissed and we had not played previously a few times, i lokely wouldn't bother with sexual play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions.

The amount of pissed up women in clubs is shocking. And the men who will fuck them anyway!

"

We have noticed in socials too and they both become so uncomfortable in front of us that we just don't know what to do .

You know that face when one feels nauseated and may puke on the table anytime .

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By *esmond and Molly JonesCouple
over a year ago

Watford


"To be fair we like a drink. A couple or single we can have a good drink with and get along with is a great indication for us. We love a good laugh and to let our hair down with others as well as the sex. Maybe we're not the best swingers but we have fun with like minded people. And if a meet is a bit boozey and works well we know we'll be able to all work well together when a little more sober too."

I couldn't have put it better myself. There seems to be a bit of piousness going on here. "well I don't drink" seems to be going for the moral high ground.

People saying how sensible and healthy they are over others who need a bit of "Dutch courage".

Each to their own. Don't want to drink or meet people who have had a drink? Fine. Your privilege.

Coming down on others who find a drink helps them lose their inhibitions is a bit preachy in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions.

The amount of pissed up women in clubs is shocking. And the men who will fuck them anyway!

We have noticed in socials too and they both become so uncomfortable in front of us that we just don't know what to do .

You know that face when one feels nauseated and may puke on the table anytime ."

Yep.

You could just make an excuse and leave. Say your phone is on silent and you got a text to get back home.

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By *ck BasswardsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Dont see the problem really,its not the amount people drink its a case of how in control they are ,

"

By not seeing the problem you are somewhat missing the point here, you are right its not how much they drink, its how in control they are, yes, but taking into account that everyone can drink different amounts and it effects people to varying levels, i believe what someone said previously was they had drank so much she couldnt help but debate if they were legally able to be considered as having consented…. As a single male, i have had this thought, you could not drink on a meet, you could have a few sociables, or you could choose to get ratted, as, i could choose to do any of the above also…. But if i feel that they are d*unk as fuck, that would make me feel uncomfortable and potentially choose not to play, more so if only recently met as opposed to if already have a pre existing friendship.

Communication is the key here, if the person(s) you are meeting and their priority is the play, they should maybe broach this in advance, if the priority is the drinks, be aware that this may cause, if the individual is inclined (which they admittedly might not be) to choose not to play…. If the person(s) do broach the drinking issue, and the individual still chooses to not play, that is not on them, as they communicated and did everything they could.

But the point is the “individual” in question may or may not have an issue with playing with someone that is intoxicated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions.

The amount of pissed up women in clubs is shocking. And the men who will fuck them anyway!

We have noticed in socials too and they both become so uncomfortable in front of us that we just don't know what to do .

You know that face when one feels nauseated and may puke on the table anytime .

Yep.

You could just make an excuse and leave. Say your phone is on silent and you got a text to get back home. "

Haha we did fled away from the scene and later on messaged them about their drinking issues. They gave lame excuses like calming nerves, getting carried etc etc.

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By *avidagainMan
over a year ago

st.leonards on sea


" I

don't drink

Dont like to smell it on others "

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Can you get a proper hard on when d*unk ? Asking for a friend lol

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By *ck BasswardsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Can you get a proper hard on when d*unk ? Asking for a friend lol"

Whey aye, failing that….

Could induce an emergency “thumb it in like wet spaghetti process”…. ;-p hahahahahahaha “sorry to anyone offended” that im not sorry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teetotal for the past 1.5 years, wife for past few months, and both enjoy feeling in control at all times.. whilst I accept this may not sound like much fun we know and decisions will be made as rationally as possible..

Would not be happy to play with anyone who is clearly massively under the influence as there is the potential for boundaries to get blurred.. just our preference though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t drink alcohol when meeting with anyone. It does make me more horny and up for alsorts but I like to feel in control of myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have got a real chip on their shoulder over this one, huh?

No piousness going on here - if everyone agrees to meet up and have a few drinks etc, awesome. Even a lot of drinks - or whatever else you want to smoke/snort/whatever. Even some sort of cnc scene like described earlier in the thread - informed consent all round? Awesome, play on.

We don't get d*unk on meets but we certainly don't see a problem with other people AGREEING to do so together. Communication is the key here - and assumption is the gin-soaked mother-in-law of all fuck-ups.

The problem comes when people get lagered up and you don't find out until they're d*unk in front of you, and you have to deal with it. It's shitty and awkward and it imposes your d*unken self on the people you're meeting. If you do this, have a word with yourself because that's legitimately a type of drinking problem.

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By *icklixitMan
over a year ago

sunderland


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions.

That must raise legal consent issues. The fact the partner made the female d*unk does

not act as an excuse for those who have sex with her. "

Hence the reason I would never go to clubs, just not worth the risk legally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink during a meet unless it's somone I know quite well and even then it would only a drink or two... I wouldent like it if someone was or had been drinking to be fair

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd definitely need a couple before meets and club etc just to give us a little boost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people have got a real chip on their shoulder over this one, huh?

No piousness going on here - if everyone agrees to meet up and have a few drinks etc, awesome. Even a lot of drinks - or whatever else you want to smoke/snort/whatever. Even some sort of cnc scene like described earlier in the thread - informed consent all round? Awesome, play on.

We don't get d*unk on meets but we certainly don't see a problem with other people AGREEING to do so together. Communication is the key here - and assumption is the gin-soaked mother-in-law of all fuck-ups.

The problem comes when people get lagered up and you don't find out until they're d*unk in front of you, and you have to deal with it. It's shitty and awkward and it imposes your d*unken self on the people you're meeting. If you do this, have a word with yourself because that's legitimately a type of drinking problem."

It's not being pious but I personally think that getting d*unk on meets is not a good impression on others .

People who snort or have piss drinking orgy ,it's all upto them.

As a normal civilised person ,why would one get d*unk on swing meets ?

The concept of drinking and getting laid I believe is not correct .

Also ,one has to think that when other person is trying to be sober then just control it .

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think with some it’s nerves and with some they can do this with alcohol. OP, yourselves excluded, I’ve met a couple of younger Asian couples just like this , firing down the vodka and smoking to unwind, particularly the female and definitely not the male pushing her , and I think it’s because it’s kind of so hard for them to accept they swing. It’s really sad but I can understand why some people feel like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think with some it’s nerves and with some they can do this with alcohol. OP, yourselves excluded, I’ve met a couple of younger Asian couples just like this , firing down the vodka and smoking to unwind, particularly the female and definitely not the male pushing her , and I think it’s because it’s kind of so hard for them to accept they swing. It’s really sad but I can understand why some people feel like that "

Hi

Hope you are well .

Yes, I couldn't believe why men forces their ladies ,even Asians to drink ?

Totally unethical

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I think with some it’s nerves and with some they can do this with alcohol. OP, yourselves excluded, I’ve met a couple of younger Asian couples just like this , firing down the vodka and smoking to unwind, particularly the female and definitely not the male pushing her , and I think it’s because it’s kind of so hard for them to accept they swing. It’s really sad but I can understand why some people feel like that "

The problem is, for example, ..... Tomorrow they will be sober but he will still remember inviting a room full of strangers to fuck her arse and she will be feeling it!

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By *ck BasswardsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Some people have got a real chip on their shoulder over this one, huh?

No piousness going on here - if everyone agrees to meet up and have a few drinks etc, awesome. Even a lot of drinks - or whatever else you want to smoke/snort/whatever. Even some sort of cnc scene like described earlier in the thread - informed consent all round? Awesome, play on.

We don't get d*unk on meets but we certainly don't see a problem with other people AGREEING to do so together. Communication is the key here - and assumption is the gin-soaked mother-in-law of all fuck-ups.

The problem comes when people get lagered up and you don't find out until they're d*unk in front of you, and you have to deal with it. It's shitty and awkward and it imposes your d*unken self on the people you're meeting. If you do this, have a word with yourself because that's legitimately a type of drinking problem.

It's not being pious but I personally think that getting d*unk on meets is not a good impression on others .

People who snort or have piss drinking orgy ,it's all upto them.

As a normal civilised person ,why would one get d*unk on swing meets ?

The concept of drinking and getting laid I believe is not correct .

Also ,one has to think that when other person is trying to be sober then just control it ."

Was sort of on your team until this message…. *big thumbs down* the implication someone who wants to get d*unk on a meet means they are not civilised, is at best judgemental, at worst uppity and patronising OP….

You believe drinking and getting laid to not be correct, your opinion, and your choice as you are entitled to…. Same as they can CHOOSE too….

Your are entitled to an opinion, you are not entitled to dictate how others should choose….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think arse spanking is a sign of intoxication "

Unless you're aim is way off lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people have got a real chip on their shoulder over this one, huh?

No piousness going on here - if everyone agrees to meet up and have a few drinks etc, awesome. Even a lot of drinks - or whatever else you want to smoke/snort/whatever. Even some sort of cnc scene like described earlier in the thread -

Was sort of on your team until this message…. *big thumbs down* the implication someone who wants to get d*unk on a meet means they are not civilised, is at best judgemental, at worst uppity and patronising OP….

You believe drinking and getting laid to not be correct, your opinion, and your choice as you are entitled to…. Same as they can CHOOSE too….

Your are entitled to an opinion, you are not entitled to dictate how others should choose…."

Apologies, my choice of words may be wrong but my point was ,how to avoid embarrassment publicly.

Not being judgemental but what can you do when someone drops their guard so easily when their profile says something else ?

As far as as swinging is concerned, we are still strangers .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have got a real chip on their shoulder over this one, huh?

No piousness going on here - if everyone agrees to meet up and have a few drinks etc, awesome. Even a lot of drinks - or whatever else you want to smoke/snort/whatever. Even some sort of cnc scene like described earlier in the thread - informed consent all round? Awesome, play on.

We don't get d*unk on meets but we certainly don't see a problem with other people AGREEING to do so together. Communication is the key here - and assumption is the gin-soaked mother-in-law of all fuck-ups.

The problem comes when people get lagered up and you don't find out until they're d*unk in front of you, and you have to deal with it. It's shitty and awkward and it imposes your d*unken self on the people you're meeting. If you do this, have a word with yourself because that's legitimately a type of drinking problem.

It's not being pious but I personally think that getting d*unk on meets is not a good impression on others .

People who snort or have piss drinking orgy ,it's all upto them.

As a normal civilised person ,why would one get d*unk on swing meets ?

The concept of drinking and getting laid I believe is not correct .

Also ,one has to think that when other person is trying to be sober then just control it ."

I agree. Getting d*unk is not the same as having some drinks.

If both parties have agreed to be d*unk and/ or snorted up then that's cool and a different situation.

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

Some people need drink to calm them down and ease there nerves. Just because you only need/want a pint doesn't mean everyone everyone is the same. As long as they can still perform and are not d*unk, rude etc what does it matter. If you don't like people drinking at your your party/meets then don't hold them, go to a club where other people are not drinking your booze.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people need drink to calm them down and ease there nerves. Just because you only need/want a pint doesn't mean everyone everyone is the same. As long as they can still perform and are not d*unk, rude etc what does it matter. If you don't like people drinking at your your party/meets then don't hold them, go to a club where other people are not drinking your booze. "

Agreed, I have just put up a question to know how people deal in such situations and have they experienced it before ?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Mr never drinks and Mrs will maybe have a glass or two of wine.

Its not really something we need for swinging as we have both done it stone cold sobber.

But bunny does like the odd glass more for the taste than any effect.

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By *2gnasherWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

Well said we live in a land of free speech &if you're not happy in any situation just bow out people,no need to be so judgy. I am new to this &have only had a few meets but if I wasn't happy with a situation I'd leave quick smart.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We din't drink during play meets. We won't play with with d*unk people. We wantvto know everyone is consenting. We have abandoned a meet where the lady was paralectic, "just having a bit if dutch courage". not for us.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"We had few socials and play meets where we noticed the other couple just guzzling vodka and wine , glass after glass.

Many times we could taste it ourselves during kissing .

Needless to say ,we wrapped up the game and came home.

Why people drink so much during meet ?

You need one or two drinks to calm your nerves.

How other couples tackle such situations ?"

It's a problem and one that is getting worse. I'd not play with someone obviously d*unk.. there would be consent issues too if lots of drink consumed x

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill


"As I drove away afterwards I wondered if I could legally claim the wife had consented in the light of what she had d*unk. If you have to be d*unk to swing then perhaps it not for you? "

This sums it up perfectly!

We don’t like it if they have to get off their face to get into the zone. It raises questions, like do they really want to be doing it and, more seriously, are they fully consenting? Legally, consent cannot be given while dr@nk, so risks lots of potentially nasty situations.

Absolutely nothing wrong with a drink or two before, during or after, but sobriety should be maintained at all times… for us at least.

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill


"Coming down on others who find a drink helps them lose their inhibitions is a bit preachy in my opinion."

The OP was expressly referring to being totally dr@nk, not a bit of Dutch courage. Having sex with someone who is totally out of it and not in a position to give consent isn’t cool… and could see you facing assault charges.

Consent given while sober won’t apply later while dr@nk.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"As I drove away afterwards I wondered if I could legally claim the wife had consented in the light of what she had d*unk. If you have to be d*unk to swing then perhaps it not for you?

This sums it up perfectly!

We don’t like it if they have to get off their face to get into the zone. It raises questions, like do they really want to be doing it and, more seriously, are they fully consenting? Legally, consent cannot be given while dr@nk, so risks lots of potentially nasty situations.

Absolutely nothing wrong with a drink or two before, during or after, but sobriety should be maintained at all times… for us at least."

There are many cases of "date r*pe" where men have claimed an inebriated woman has consented only to find that the next day she regrets her actions and makes a formal complaint of non-consensual sex.

I have not heard it about a couple but some of the stories about clubs makes me wonder if it has happened there.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"We’ve noticed this in clubs, male plying partner with drink to loose inhibitions.

That must raise legal consent issues. The fact the partner made the female d*unk does

not act as an excuse for those who have sex with her.

Hence the reason I would never go to clubs, just not worth the risk legally "
there are plenty of people that dont drink at clubs

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

We don’t drink at clubs or meetings and wouldn’t want to play with anyone that was d*unk. We don’t need to be d*unk to have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably nerves or dare I say it some inhibitions that the alcohol deminishes

I like a drink but I'm not scared to say this if I have even a little too much the old man downstairs dosnt always want to know ....lol so I tend not to get too d*unk otherwise you've wasted your meet

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

I have no problem with a couple of drinks but when it gets to a point when speech is slurred and people are not fully in control of their actions then it’s a no go. There is that little thing about consent and being able to give it

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I don't drink on meets if play is involved, if it is a social I do but rarely more than a couple and if I am driving not even that !

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By *959femxCouple
over a year ago

Weston super mare


"To be fair we like a drink. A couple or single we can have a good drink with and get along with is a great indication for us. We love a good laugh and to let our hair down with others as well as the sex. Maybe we're not the best swingers but we have fun with like minded people. And if a meet is a bit boozey and works well we know we'll be able to all work well together when a little more sober too."

Have to agree with you we enjoy a few drinks during a meet , it relaxes us and we tend not to meet people that don’t drink . I often wonder if people that say they don’t drink genuinely don’t or are just worried about getting home to the wife sober or worried about putting on a performance rather than just having fun . If you are genuinely teetotal why would you meet people that aren’t ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refuse to play with couple who drink before play. I like a drink afterwards, but not beforehand. My female partners usually refuse to play with d*unk people too because of the taste, small, and the universal excuse of "oops, sorry, I was a little tipsy"

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By *959femxCouple
over a year ago

Weston super mare


"To be fair we like a drink. A couple or single we can have a good drink with and get along with is a great indication for us. We love a good laugh and to let our hair down with others as well as the sex. Maybe we're not the best swingers but we have fun with like minded people. And if a meet is a bit boozey and works well we know we'll be able to all work well together when a little more sober too."

Have to agree with you we enjoy a few drinks during a meet , it relaxes us and we tend not to meet people that don’t drink . I often wonder if people that say they don’t drink genuinely don’t or are just worried about getting home to the wife sober or worried about putting on a performance rather than just having fun . If you are genuinely teetotal why would you meet people that aren’t ?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" If you are genuinely teetotal why would you meet people that aren’t ? "

The partner I used to swing with is teetotal but he never had a problem with me or the couples we met drinking.

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow

Bodger doesn't drink at all and Badger will have the odd pink gin. If people want to drink and play we're not bothered but if someone gets sloppy d*unk then it's just not fun. We prefer everyone to be compos mentis, and as someone else said further up, if you need that much to drink before you play is swinging really for you?

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill


"If you are genuinely teetotal why would you meet people that aren’t ? "

We’re vegan but still swing with those who aren’t! Same with drink… I (C) would consider myself Teatotal, though have a single drink on very rare occasions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if you were invited to a party. People usually drink at a party don't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think probably most of us have done it once or twice

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"What if you were invited to a party. People usually drink at a party don't they? "

Maybe but not all, I drive for example so I won’t have any.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Been to a few meets where he's been d*unk - total disasters all of them

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By *ndysmithMan
over a year ago

north cyprus

had a couple once where the wife early on admitted she loved to be v d*unk and fucked. It was weird but horny when i did fuck her.. And the hubbie was excited seeing me with her in that state. takes all kinds

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’d never play with anyone who was d*unk…if we seen them knocking back drink after drink, it would remain a social.

We would never want anyone messaging us the next day asking us what happened

K

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Our first ever play meet was with a couple where the female drank four or five to our one. By the time we got to the bedroom the female was completely wasted. I found it a total turn off and like you we wrapped it up and left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would never play with others who drink its a dangerous game and when we play theres total consent no blurred lines from booze .... we see people in clubs make total fools of themselves then end up regreting stuff ..

if you love sex then you dont need booze yet so many do because they say it helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What if you were invited to a party. People usually drink at a party don't they? "

Depends on the type of party and one of us is always sober to drive back .

But won't get d*unk for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have great sex then go for a drink

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I wonder if the other couple thought yous were boring

R

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What if you were invited to a party. People usually drink at a party don't they? "

Its not the odd drink. It's getting blind dr*nk that affects most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had few socials and play meets where we noticed the other couple just guzzling vodka and wine , glass after glass.

Many times we could taste it ourselves during kissing .

Needless to say ,we wrapped up the game and came home.

Why people drink so much during meet ?

You need one or two drinks to calm your nerves.

How other couples tackle such situations ?"

It's called Dutch Courage sadly the lifestyle is full of it

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Not sure drinking makes you courageous, just less able to make rational decisions.

Also no one is saying don't drink, but if you can't swing without it do you really want to swing.

Lots of people like a glass of wine with a meal, but they can still eat without drinking.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"I wonder if the other couple thought yous were boring

R"

Because you don’t drink? What an attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you get a proper hard on when d*unk ? Asking for a friend lol"

I don't think alcohol is an aphrodisiac lol but think it makes you bolder in some situations.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Sometimes we avoid it altogether

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By *amLaraCroftWoman
over a year ago

London

This is very sage advice. In many swinging clubs they stop serving people if they are over drinking and not able to consent and ask them to leave and no drugs allowed either

For me I would vet thoroughly before meeting and going to parties and see what the drinking and drug culture is like for the party and if we’ll know regulars are going or new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont see the problem really,its not the amount people drink its a case of how in control they are ,

By not seeing the problem you are somewhat missing the point here, you are right its not how much they drink, its how in control they are, yes, but taking into account that everyone can drink different amounts and it effects people to varying levels, i believe what someone said previously was they had drank so much she couldnt help but debate if they were legally able to be considered as having consented…. As a single male, i have had this thought, you could not drink on a meet, you could have a few sociables, or you could choose to get ratted, as, i could choose to do any of the above also…. But if i feel that they are d*unk as fuck, that would make me feel uncomfortable and potentially choose not to play, more so if only recently met as opposed to if already have a pre existing friendship.

Communication is the key here, if the person(s) you are meeting and their priority is the play, they should maybe broach this in advance, if the priority is the drinks, be aware that this may cause, if the individual is inclined (which they admittedly might not be) to choose not to play…. If the person(s) do broach the drinking issue, and the individual still chooses to not play, that is not on them, as they communicated and did everything they could.

But the point is the “individual” in question may or may not have an issue with playing with someone that is intoxicated "

Think your missing the point ,OP said the amount people drinking ,never mentioned been d*unk ,1 pint can be another persons 5 ...thats the point so to judge people on the amount they drink is wrong ,by all means judge them if they arent in control ,

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