FabSwingers.com forum: Do winks work?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like the wink function, I like the ice breaker and recognition it brings but I am curious how effective is it. How many look at them let alone respond to them?

That’s an open question to all

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Some people use it others don't, I personally don't mind a wink, I see it as an invitation to have a look at their profile. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people use it others don't, I personally don't mind a wink, I see it as an invitation to have a look at their profile. X"

Yeah I think it’s a subtle way to know if anything g is worth pursuing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to use them to let someone know im interested. They then tend to look at your profile and if they wink back I know to follow it up with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not that keen on them. We would much rather read a message from somebody who has obviously read our profile and has a sensible proposal for a meeting. In some ways, the wink from a man just comes across as really lazy.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I find them odd.

I get them, but often when/if I follow them up with a polite hello, the response rate is generally very low.

I wonder sometimes whether it’s more about attention than anything else.

I prefer a message with a clear statement of intent, based on our mutual interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the consensus here in the past has been pretty much 50/50.

I personally don’t mind them as long as the person doing the winking has something worthwhile on their profile that describes who they are.

Nothing seems more pointless to me than a wink from a silhouette profile with “with fill in later”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the consensus here in the past has been pretty much 50/50.

I personally don’t mind them as long as the person doing the winking has something worthwhile on their profile that describes who they are.

Nothing seems more pointless to me than a wink from a silhouette profile with “with fill in later”

Yes that makes complete sense. Winking and then not having any info to offer is just lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like to give and receive them, I like you think they are a great icebreaker

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By *oldenbrownMan
over a year ago

Sussex

My experience is you get a wink. You send a message saying ‘thanks for the wink’ this is a bit about me, and they read and never respond. I would say about 5% of winks I respond to actually get followed-up. It is odd.

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By *icence_2_Thrill_006.9Man
over a year ago

sexytown

"I think the consensus here in the past has been pretty much 50/50.

I personally don’t mind them as long as the person doing the winking has something worthwhile on their profile that describes who they are.

Nothing seems more pointless to me than a wink from a silhouette profile with “with fill in later”

Exactly I get lots of them like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My experience is you get a wink. You send a message saying ‘thanks for the wink’ this is a bit about me, and they read and never respond. I would say about 5% of winks I respond to actually get followed-up. It is odd."

I have had some lately that wink back AND send a friend request but never respond to a message or try and engage.. now that is odd

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

We use wink to show interest if we get a wink back we will message it works most of the time but I know a few people ignore winks entirety

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

You never know - just the smallest of things can being massive opportunities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don’t really feature in my radar.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Pay zero attention to them.

Used to message people who winked if we where interested once upon a time but 85% just don't respond so why bother?

If you're interested, message. Worst anyone can say is no thanks.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I don’t use them myself as any kind of introduction, but have had a couple from people I would be interested in lately. The first one I tried winking back to see how that went, but then nothing. The second I tried to message, and again, nothing, sooooo….

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I love a cheeky wink, some of my meets on here have started with a simple wink!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Of course they do literally a thread the other day.

Had many wink and lot's of chats because of it.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I love a cheeky wink, some of my meets on here have started with a simple wink!

WINK !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t use them myself as any kind of introduction, but have had a couple from people I would be interested in lately. The first one I tried winking back to see how that went, but then nothing. The second I tried to message, and again, nothing, sooooo…. "

You are obviously too far away and you might not like us anyway but if you had winked us, we would definitely respond very positively. But as I stated above, we prefer to receive a message.

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By *WB 5040Man
over a year ago

Walsall

I'm a big fan of winks. I see it as exactly that, an icebreaker and an intention of interest.

If i get one and i'm interested i'll follow it up with a wink back and a message to determine if it was intended or fat fingers.

I DO see why it would not feature with others though.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"They don’t really feature in my radar."

My radar has just gone 'ding'.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Only look at them sometimes but did have a great meet with someone who winked at me first.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I like them and see them as a precursor to an initial message.

Why waste the receivers time with a message if they have no interest whatsoever. A wink helps quickly gauge that.

The first thing many do is check the profile anyway, so it just moves that step slightly earlier.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Speaking in very broad, general terms, based on the other dozen or more threads we've had about this:

Men, who get so few winks even that even *one* is a memorable occasion, think they're a really useful feature and a great low-intensity way of establishing contact.

Women, who get hundreds or thousands of winks, think they're pointless and don't check them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy getting winks, but it seems it’s not for everyone.

I think it’s a good opening gesture

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By *reampie_yourwifeMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I love them, send a wink and those that look at me and share a similar interest do often tend to wink back, thus providing a good opener for conversation…those that don’t share the interests will ignore so no harm done

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Depends what you want the wink to achieve. Does it let people know you like the look of them? Yes. But that’s about it.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

"I tend to use them to let someone know im interested. They then tend to look at your profile and if they wink back I know to follow it up with a message

Exactly, if I wink at someone it’s to show interest, if they wink back then messages can then start alternatively if they message straight away I am not offended

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

You are obviously too far away and you might not like us anyway but if you had winked us, we would definitely respond very positively. But as I stated above, we prefer to receive a message."

Haha, yeah, the distance thing is a bit of a bugger, I need to sort that out

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Most winks I get are from people absolutely miles away and who haven't read my profile, so I ignore them tbh.

I dont mind them if they match what I'm after and have read my bio though.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Not for us, if we could turn the function off we would. Too many times we get winked at, wink or message back and nothing...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I like the wink function, I like the ice breaker and recognition it brings but I am curious how effective is it. How many look at them let alone respond to them?

That’s an open question to all

If I send a wink, I'll maybe receive a view of my profile, but I can't honestly remember anyone messaging me back when I've sent one. Solo women have sent me a wink, to which I've responded, and couples are 50/50 send a wink or straight in with a friend invite

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Me sending them out; not at all.

Me receiving them; yes, as Ill reply to everyone that I get; this is easy for me as I get so few. If I got lots of winks then I'd probably ignore most of them.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

We like them as other have said as a way to gauge interest.

If we receive a wink, we look at the profile and if interested will wink back, with the expectation that they would send a message to start a conversation. And vice versa 8f we wink first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do. We have noticed that people have visited our profile after winking at them. If they like they wink back and if not they just delete the wink.

So we know who is interested and who's not.

Helps having awkward messaging.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Winks do work.

Appreciate some don't like them or even look at them but, they do actually work

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

As others have said winks are a great ice-breaker.

They are also useful when the receiving party has little or no information on their profile or a contradictory profile.

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

work ok for me, a simple way of saying "oh hello!" and if you get one back then message from there.....

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We like winks.

They’ve been the start of some great adventures for us.

We see it as a sign of interest and recognition.

Occasionally our filters are down and single guys get a chance.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Mostly they are a good way to see if there is any interest two ways instead of wasting time writing extensive messages. For me I think it's a great ice breaker to initiate further communication, if the wink is ignored then it's time saving and an easy no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We check our winks it’s the only way we interact with single males if you wink at us we checkout their profile and if they interest us we will wink back and take it from there, we just delete all random messages as we simply don’t have the time to reply to them or want to waste our time if we have no interest. May sound harsh but honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We like winks.

They’ve been the start of some great adventures for us.

We see it as a sign of interest and recognition.

Occasionally our filters are down and single guys get a chance.

But not today lol

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Some people use it others don't, I personally don't mind a wink, I see it as an invitation to have a look at their profile. X"
This is exactly how I see winks working. If I like the profile I will send a message thanking them for the wink and start a conversation.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

"Some people use it others don't, I personally don't mind a wink, I see it as an invitation to have a look at their profile. XThis is exactly how I see winks working. If I like the profile I will send a message thanking them for the wink and start a conversation. "

Exactly this. Most of my personal messages are ignored and in many cases unread so for me it's just a quicker way to be ignored without the hassle of writing a personal message. I do write the occasional personal message if a couple look like they fit what I'm looking for and seem friendly and I'll always respond to a wink if someone has clearly read my profile.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Every time this question is asked I offer my opinion.

In general men send them and want them. And women don’t want them but get them.

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By *orkswatcherMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I love a wink but know many that hate it, I think it's a great ice breaker, get a wink back then message and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the wink function, I like the ice breaker and recognition it brings but I am curious how effective is it. How many look at them let alone respond to them?

That’s an open question to all

Deff an option that is well overlooked. Its there to be used.

But maybe some say are too lazy to type anything of importace.

Other than the obvious! .

I respond and reply to winks.

And i have sent many out.

I think many dont like them much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had some lately that wink back AND send a friend request but never respond to a message or try and engage.. now that is odd"

Same here.. could it be they want to see more of our friends only pics. Once they been accepted?

I had the same last month. Got winked. Then a friends request from the younger girl. Got her face pic all fine.

Then i asked for her number. Was on watsapp too.

I sent a text , asking her lets have a chat when she is free no reply for weeks. Then got a watsapp text saying how am i. And how am i feeling. Bit random. 7am the asking was for pics n vids of my cock and me Cumming!!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Yes it definitely can. I've had lots of fun that started out with a simple wink.

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

We love a good wink, gets us at least profile viewing. Sometimes we even wink back

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By *rsmith21zMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm not sure winks do work tbh...sometimes I send one to see or get a better idea of what the other couple or women thinks, but alot of the time nothing happens lol

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's handy,if a person or persons like something and are shy, might even be new and unsure how to begin with the first message, I think a wink is ok given circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the wink function, I like the ice breaker and recognition it brings but I am curious how effective is it. How many look at them let alone respond to them?

That’s an open question to all

Think you proved they do

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I have been known to send winks. Sometimes get one back sometimes i dont.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I prefer a message with a clear statement of intent, based on our mutual interests."

I love this description of what a message should be. I would like to borrow it, if I may.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look at winks, I have 4325 backed up lol. I also prefer a direct approach, I don't send winks either except this type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink away.

I never look at them so I never know I’ve had them.

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By *weetest thingWoman
over a year ago

East Midlands

I think winks are a great way to show you’re interested less intrusive than a message & if the recipient is interested then they’ll message you back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the consensus here in the past has been pretty much 50/50.

I personally don’t mind them as long as the person doing the winking has something worthwhile on their profile that describes who they are.

Nothing seems more pointless to me than a wink from a silhouette profile with “with fill in later”

Or I received a wink this evening from a hidden profile. I’m like what am I supposed to do with that

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We link a wink, breaks the ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot recall my last wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the consensus here in the past has been pretty much 50/50.

I personally don’t mind them as long as the person doing the winking has something worthwhile on their profile that describes who they are.

Nothing seems more pointless to me than a wink from a silhouette profile with “with fill in later”

Very true

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

I honestly prefer a message but some over use the wink button

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By *ubcup2Couple
over a year ago

London

No, particularly when you even say it in your profile

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By *ill Hill FunseekersCouple
over a year ago

london

No problem for us. Wink away couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A dont really bother with winks, hate them specially from profiles with no pics, i mean how do i know if im interested enough to wink back

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

We enjoy a wink,shows someone is interested and it sometimes leads to more Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They work for the majority of the time for us

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

We only use winks now, 99% of the time a message, no matter how well written, get ignored. Lifes to short

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

For me no, I'm currently sitting on 439 uncooked at winks, I go in & delete every so often

It's hard enough to look at messages without looking at winks too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile says send message or wink go for either if not your ll be lucky if a wink works

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Testing, testing, 1, 2, 3

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Certainly worked for usXx

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We look at them. We'd rather get a wink than a crap message.

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By *hathappensnowCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

We miss them all the time, even to a point that we say that we don’t see any point in them in our profile.

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By *omnvixCouple
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

I can't think we've ever had one. Certainly never sent one.

But if we did happen to get one would definitely look! LOL

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s good for getting my attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people use it others don't, I personally don't mind a wink, I see it as an invitation to have a look at their profile. X"

This

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Go on have a good winkXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It worked for me, in that I winked at someone local, he was my first meet, and we’re still seeing each other, and that was two years ago.

However, I rarely check my winks.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"It worked for me, in that I winked at someone local, he was my first meet, and we’re still seeing each other, and that was two years ago.

However, I rarely check my winks. "

We started with a wink as well.

3.5 years later stronger than ever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It worked for me, in that I winked at someone local, he was my first meet, and we’re still seeing each other, and that was two years ago.

However, I rarely check my winks.

We started with a wink as well.

3.5 years later stronger than ever.

I’m sure there is a song in there somewhere… it started with a wink…

If you guys are ever looking for bi guys look me up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It worked for me, in that I winked at someone local, he was my first meet, and we’re still seeing each other, and that was two years ago.

However, I rarely check my winks.

We started with a wink as well.

3.5 years later stronger than ever.

We can add to that too!

S winked me and here we are 18 months later

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Several of our winkers became lifelong playmates

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Yes it’s nice to receive a wink

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"It worked for me, in that I winked at someone local, he was my first meet, and we’re still seeing each other, and that was two years ago.

However, I rarely check my winks.

We started with a wink as well.

3.5 years later stronger than ever.

We can add to that too!

S winked me and here we are 18 months later

Excellent.

I consider myself the luckiest guy ever as it was Becky that winked me..!!

It can happen.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Sometimes. We've had winks that have lead to meets. However we've returned loads of winks, they don't follow up with a message, then they wink us again in a couple of months

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By *C7995XCouple
over a year ago

London

"I like the wink function, I like the ice breaker and recognition it brings but I am curious how effective is it. How many look at them let alone respond to them?

That’s an open question to all

If your a female. If ur a male mayb not?

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