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Drinks first or straight to the fun.

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By *andS1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Poole

Do you guys/girls and couples prefer meeting for a drink first before the fun begins or diving straight in?

We normally have a few drinks first however with our last meet with a guy at his request, I met him in the entrance of our hotel, went straight to the room where S was waiting and dived stright in. Definalty highten the naughtiness and think this might be the way forward.

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Drinks first for us x

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

Drinks 1st us

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Drinks first.

Who's in any rush?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinks first. Relax and see if there a connection.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Always a drink in public to see how we get on, then more at a later date if we both want to.

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

Drinks first every time

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Drinks for us first. Get to make sure the chemistry (mental and physical) is there for both parties

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Always drinks first, but not too many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Existng pal/s - straight in, unless there is important gossip to be caught up on New playpal/s - coffee on neutral ground, either with or without the option to move on to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you guys/girls and couples prefer meeting for a drink first before the fun begins or diving straight in?

We normally have a few drinks first however with our last meet with a guy at his request, I met him in the entrance of our hotel, went straight to the room where S was waiting and dived stright in. Definalty highten the naughtiness and think this might be the way forward. "

Few drinks, have a laugh and a chat to build some rapport.

Makes the sex so much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago

Cap d’Agde, France

Not just drinks but an open chat about limits, likes, dislikes can really set everybody at ease and makes the play more relaxed and sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the situation. While we wouldn't say no to a drink or two first, sometimes straight to the fun due to spur of the moment is best. For example like a club scenario where couples are mid play with each other.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

Non club meets drinks first, have met for drinks and played with couples same day.

Hotel meets single guys tend to be chat here then WhatsApp the drink can be separate from the meet or in bar without promise to play if we click heyho.

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By *xmarkxx321Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne

Definitely a drink first for me you've got to see if there's a spark first

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Drinks first, we need to see if there is a connection.

Kx

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I love a good social, over a cuppa tea/wine first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me an old romantic. But I get more turned on with having a couple of drinks and flirting with each other first. Gets me really turned on for the fun afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once meet a man for over 8 years before we had a drink. I don't like wasting time with drinks, for me it's about having sex not social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done both and both were great fun but usually drinks first but only a couple I want good sober sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinks first, flirt, build the anticipation.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Drinks first, we need to see if there is a connection.

Kx"

Gives you the opportunity to do a runner.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Social only meeting first(maybe more than one), then see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both .... and if drinks it will be no alcohol

sometimes it easy to get the picture from just chatting on here and more exciting to just get on with it ..... as for socials yep if thats whats wanted not many make it pass a social tho as they start spilling stuff i dont want to know and kill everything with bordom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer drinks first, its good to have a chat and see how the other person is , what they want from a meet, if there are any particular likes and no goes. I know this can be done on message before hand but its better in person especially if its a couple. For all you know you may have only been having the one halfs input. So anyway yes drinks first and if all goes well, during and after too

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Straight to the fun

I find small talk awkward, we both know why we are there, limits have already been discussed before the meet is confirmed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drinks first, we need to see if there is a connection.

Kx

Gives you the opportunity to do a runner. "

Defo.....

Hang on we normally do this at home so a chance for them or I show them the door

Doesn't happen often.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we prefer drinks first

we are not really into NSA fun,

we see people as more than just fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinks and a laugh with some flirting , let things take a natural course ,and if nothing happens at least you all get pissed together ..

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Oh, a drink first, absolutely.

Chatting, flirting, laughing is an exciting part of a meet……….although……..I have enjoyed some memorable meets which have started with an unlocked bedroom door and someone (me or her/them) blindfolded and waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drinks and a laugh with some flirting , let things take a natural course ,and if nothing happens at least you all get pissed together .."

That’s when things happen you didn’t intend to haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drinks and a laugh with some flirting , let things take a natural course ,and if nothing happens at least you all get pissed together ..

That’s when things happen you didn’t intend to haha "

Not when your seasoned drinkers ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drinks and a laugh with some flirting , let things take a natural course ,and if nothing happens at least you all get pissed together ..

That’s when things happen you didn’t intend to haha

Not when your seasoned drinkers ...lol "

I ‘think’ I am that’s the problem

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Drinks first, we need to see if there is a connection.

Kx

Gives you the opportunity to do a runner.

Defo.....

Hang on we normally do this at home so a chance for them or I show them the door

Doesn't happen often. "

I'm sure you know them well enough to allow them through the door into your home.

But keep their coat handy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple at the weekend for just “drinks” . Ended up staying for a few more and woke up in the morning in their bed lol . The morning was fun to say the least

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Always offer a polite social ( try before you guys) but some couples have been happy to dig straight in

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Why waste time we all know why we are meeting, if we wanted a drink we would go to a pub

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Drinks and a laugh with some flirting , let things take a natural course ,and if nothing happens at least you all get pissed together .."

HIC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually prefer to socialise, have a chat, drinks, food, whatever. I like the social aspect as well as the sexual, plus you feel more comfortable when you get to the sex part.

But I have had meets that have been straight to action or him slipping it straight in barely after a hello. They can be fun in the right situation. Xx

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By *jkuk72Man
over a year ago

London & Herts

Drinks first and after

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By *heron212Man
over a year ago

London

Drinks first, 69 times out of 10.

The rest, take them case by case.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We talk to the guy(s) here over the week, go straight to their hotel all being well during the weekly conversations, some pleasantries in the room then down to play time. No drinks, no social.

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By *xmarkxx321Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne


"I usually prefer to socialise, have a chat, drinks, food, whatever. I like the social aspect as well as the sexual, plus you feel more comfortable when you get to the sex part.

But I have had meets that have been straight to action or him slipping it straight in barely after a hello. They can be fun in the right situation. Xx"

I agree with that there are occasions when you just go for it but very occasionally for me tho prefer a social 1st drinks and fun first to feel comfortable with the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No drinks it’s not a date

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Always drinks and a chat first building a connection is way better than no talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know everyone is different but I am not on here to make friends or to find a connection with anyone. I just wanted to have some fun nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its a "friend" we've played with before happy to dive straight in but if its the first time always drinks first, see how we get on, talk see if there is a connection.. not in any rush to jump straight into bed. I find it more of a turn on personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few drinks then 4play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think drinks is always polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m interested in seeing how the balance of this lies by the end of the thread….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinks first always, the amount of people we met on my old couples profile that looked alot different from the pic they sent through was crazy.

Arranging to play before you have actually met could be a disaster, obviously if you have met before then why not have drinks while you play

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Drinks first always, the amount of people we met on my old couples profile that looked alot different from the pic they sent through was crazy.

Arranging to play before you have actually met could be a disaster, obviously if you have met before then why not have drinks while you play "

Can I blindfold you instead then?

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By *tickyPollCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

Always drinks first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

normally drinks first, but once , told a guy we had never met before to let his self in , strip naked in the hallway , then come into the living room , where we were naked and fucking , and join straight in. got to admit it was very very horny

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"normally drinks first, but once , told a guy we had never met before to let his self in , strip naked in the hallway , then come into the living room , where we were naked and fucking , and join straight in. got to admit it was very very horny "

Very mischievous and sounds a lot of fun.

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By *tefe-MartyCouple
over a year ago

Cambs

Drink first

Like to know who we are about to get naked with

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Always drinks first

Moisture helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of chatting on here then a social and if everyone clicks it's play time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinks first but not d*unk.

If we click then proceed.

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Dont mind a drink and a chat before hand but cant stand a social in a pub, all that fab story swopping. Were here to have sex with strangers not make life friends

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We tend to always social first, means there is no pressure if we’re not feeling the person/s

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham

Who want socials straight to the bedroom

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham


"Dont mind a drink and a chat before hand but cant stand a social in a pub, all that fab story swopping. Were here to have sex with strangers not make life friends"
well said more fucking less talking

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish


"Dont mind a drink and a chat before hand but cant stand a social in a pub, all that fab story swopping. Were here to have sex with strangers not make life friendswell said more fucking less talking "

See for us, we love the friendship, love the social aspect and it seems to be we get more of what we want if we have discussed what we like etc… each to their own ofcourse

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By *ndysmithMan
over a year ago

north cyprus


"Do you guys/girls and couples prefer meeting for a drink first before the fun begins or diving straight in?

We normally have a few drinks first however with our last meet with a guy at his request, I met him in the entrance of our hotel, went straight to the room where S was waiting and dived stright in. Definalty highten the naughtiness and think this might be the way forward. "

meet him, bring him to room and let him get straight into her.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

We like to cut to the chase if everyone is happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Each has its place. We enjoy both. It depends what's planned, or going on later

C

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Drinks and see where it ends up....normally in bed tbh though

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Drinks and see where it ends up....normally in bed tbh though "

Don't spill any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too many case's of people not being totally genuine and we value our safety.

We don't have anything to hide so more than happy to meet for a pre drink

New people we like to get to know them a little and also like to have the ability to call it off should we be getting red flags.

Saying that people who we have met we could jump straight to it

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