FabSwingers.com forum: We only meet in clubs.

By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?

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By *ackyloveMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes I find meeting In clubs the best in all ways.

Safest most fun and it's most enjoyable.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

Do you have any recommendations for a club midweek? I’d love to have some recommendations. Bless you in advance x

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Do you have any recommendations for a club midweek? I’d love to have some recommendations. Bless you in advance x"

Where is London?

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

Anywhere really. I’m working in central at the end of this week, but pretty much able to get anywhere. I live in France most of the time

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Yes, in a club the people are actually standing in front of you so you can see and hear them. It is nice to read someone's profile also though. There's many reasons to meet at a club.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We use fab to connect with people met in clubs and to follow the party scene

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We have success from both the club scene and by chatting to people on here. You can usually tell within the first few messages if people are genuine. We've been lucky up to now and never been let down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

We've had far more good experiences going to clubs than on here. As time had gone on and just before the pandemic we found it was far nicer and easier to just go to a club and the online side had all become a bit impolite and unpersonal sadly.

Then the pandemic arrived, the clubs all had to close and been responsible people where not meeting

I don't think our inbox had ever been so busy with offers to meet and play than in lockdown

Now things have started to reopen our inbox has gone back to having mostly just dust in it

It's a tricky nut to crack swinging in the south west and good clubs are very few and far between not to mention we've lost a few

Meny friends we know either left fab or didn't last and to be honest we feel both feel swing rusty and a bit like we're starting all over again.

Wish the online environment was as good as the club one that is for sure.

Just hoping that things improve

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We use Fab for making connections and being social but we'll only arrange to meet in clubs. If they show up and we get on then we'll probably spend all night hanging out. If they don't show or if we don't click then we still have a club to enjoy

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Do you have any recommendations for a club midweek? I’d love to have some recommendations. Bless you in advance x

Where is London?"

It's a city in the south east of England, approximately 200 miles from Manchester.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think clubs are a great place to meet hardened swingers for socials and for a chill out evening but for play we would need intimate settings like hotels . Also you can't filter people in clubs, like drug users or barebackers ,married cheaters , families and colleagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

This. I agree with you and do the same.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I will always favour using Fab to meet genuine solo women and couples. Clubs are too clicky, anti single males, and there are rarely any single females in them, in my experience.

What makes me successful on the site? I'm genuine, discreet, and reliable

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Meet in clubs parties or private meets at ours or there’s , have been let down twice in 4 years , usually only meet people with verifications and always have a phone talk seems to have worked

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Exactly how we plan to go forward

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By *avid ElliottCouple
over a year ago

West Worthing

Same here

I am going to try the smaller ones now and arrange from here to meet at a club.

Want to try Silverleigh and Temptaions and the one in Newport.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

For me clubs cut through the BS. You are right in front of one another, if there is no connection you can both meet someone else with no hassles.

They provide a clean, practical place to do the naughties and if not satisfied after first one you can have more!

I also love a good social in a club, no play just making great connections over a chilled drink in a place I don't need to censor myself

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I have a pussy

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I have a pussy

Oh, and boobs.

And I like sucking a cock.

And anal.

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By *imandLiz14Couple
over a year ago

Needham

We've recently decided to do club meets only at Chameleons Darlaston,

Love that club so finger's crossed

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

We to have moved only to club meets working well for us had some great meeting over the last 3 mouth.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Do you have any recommendations for a club midweek? I’d love to have some recommendations. Bless you in advance x

Where is London?

It's a city in the south east of England, approximately 200 miles from Manchester."

But you really would not like to go there......

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

As a shy and nervous person I (lily) struggled with clubs, I’m not good at making the first move and John isn’t any more confident in this area. for us private meets have worked better, we have gone to two clubs and enjoyed them but with people people we met on here.

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I act myself and I'm really layed back seems to work for me.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"As a shy and nervous person I (lily) struggled with clubs, I’m not good at making the first move and John isn’t any more confident in this area. for us private meets have worked better, we have gone to two clubs and enjoyed them but with people, we met here.

Lily "

Yes, the is a real problem for some but it definitely gets easier with time just have chats with everyone even the people you would not want fuck it is a skill and can always be improved.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No clubs here for me to do that! Definitely lacking in my area.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"No clubs here for me to do that! Definitely lacking in my area."

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Just clubs for me as well, they are my social life as well as great fun.

I go with no expectations apart from chatting to people and enjoying the venue, it's definitely how I feel safe.

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By *ove2Couple
over a year ago

colchester

We only like meeting at clubs or parties. However was happy to make friends beforehand but not sure now as some want to exchange numbers. It's not our thing.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

It’s a good question.

We have had a lot of success off fab, with both couples and single women.

Part of it is probably a “what effort you put in, is what you get out of it”, as we did spend a lot of time, especially the earlier days to build our profile, based on desires and experiences.

Verifications do help a lot and we’ve had quite a few single females contact us on the basis that we’ve got quite a few verifications off single females, which may give them a sense of security in that they are not going to get issues from either of us (as some single females when they meet couples can have risks from either the male or female).

We also think they complement each other (clubs and fab).

As already mentioned the pros of a club. It’s also a great way to meet a good number of people, get verified about the type of people you are, which in turn gives your fab profile credibility.

And this then also enables you to have more success of fab.

So for us, success is down to a number of things, not just a single recipe for success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me clubs cut through the BS. You are right in front of one another, if there is no connection you can both meet someone else with no hassles.

They provide a clean, practical place to do the naughties and if not satisfied after first one you can have more!

I also love a good social in a club, no play just making great connections over a chilled drink in a place I don't need to censor myself

spot on

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Hosting socials I suppose.

Our nearest club is 55 miles away (at least), we don't drive and on the few club visits we have done, not really felt at ease as didnt know anyone. Not averse to trying again but it's just not a convenient trip for us. Small meets and parties are more our thing. Fun as they can be, clubs don't work for everyone and sadly some on fab think if you won't meet at a club, you're not real (not you op..just some.we have spoken to in the past). Each to their own I guess.

We tend to not treat fab as the be all and end all to getting meets but rather a way to facilitate a connection to like minded people and keep in touch.

Find we have to filter a lot out for a multitude of reaaons on here.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We're successful by just chatting to people on here in a way that isn't sexual or pushy. Some people, especially women, really respond to that and feel comfortable with us because they can see we're not just talking with them because we have a fantasy we want to fulfill.

I know a lot of couples find it difficult meeting women, but we've found it really easy. A threesome happened for us and we didn't go looking for it. We just made friends with a particular lady and it all flowed naturally from that friendship.

Hannah isn't really comfortable with the idea of club nights so we don't go. It makes meeting couples much harder, which is where we struggle.

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

we always found meeting and playing at clubs much easier .we had some disaterous meets from contacts and chatrooms

people who go to clubs are the out there people, not wannabees hiding behind a keyboard. Plus its a sexy setting if your at the right clubs and sometimes sex just happens often with people whose pictures would not attract you but their personality does

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Lily "

This is very much how we are, we've been lucky when we have been to clubs we've gone on quiet weekdays and sundays, people have spoken to us and we've had a lot of fun but if nobody approaches us we're fucked (or not for that matter

) Fab is much easier to break the ice if you're shy I don't think we'd have ever got into swinging without it.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

Clubs only for me then if they are a time waster and dont show i can still have a good night but I'm lucky in the fact there is quite a few clubs to choose from in the nw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we mostly meet in clubs too but also like house parties but dont see many ppl doing house parties now

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We have some stunning lady friends from clubs who we might meet privately.

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By *sexyHCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Wr are the same and prefer clubs

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Wonder if people went to clubs how much whinging it would stop on forums.

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By *ravitysUnionCouple
over a year ago

EXETER

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?

Then the pandemic arrived, the clubs all had to close and been responsible people where not meeting

I don't think our inbox had ever been so busy with offers to meet and play than in lockdown

Now things have started to reopen our inbox has gone back to having mostly just dust in it

It's a tricky nut to crack swinging in the south west and good clubs are very few and far between not to mention we've lost a few

Meny friends we know either left fab or didn't last and to be honest we feel both feel swing rusty and a bit like we're starting all over again.

Wish the online environment was as good as the club one that is for sure.

Just hoping that things improve

Here here! Well put guys xx

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"
this is how I am.

I may once I've got to know people meet outside a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Nothing yet but I've just broken my club bubble and been on my own (OK, dead night but I still went through the door alone)

But I'll meet from here and (eventually) in a club (just wish the prices were a bit lower for single guys as couldn't afford many visits)

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

We only meet in the clubs these days.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?"

They're definitely not the be all and end all. They're a place to meet like minded people, have a drink, a laugh, a dance for those who like too, and have a big choice of playrooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?"

To find out whos going to events, what type of events are available - staying in the loop of people who go to clubs.....

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Wonder if people went to clubs how much whinging it would stop on forums."

If clubs turned out to be as good as their marketing hype, possibly

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?"

Wonder what percentage of people on fab ever meet?

And of the percentage of those that do meet, meet in clubs?

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?

Then the pandemic arrived, the clubs all had to close and been responsible people where not meeting

I don't think our inbox had ever been so busy with offers to meet and play than in lockdown

Now things have started to reopen our inbox has gone back to having mostly just dust in it

It's a tricky nut to crack swinging in the south west and good clubs are very few and far between not to mention we've lost a few

Meny friends we know either left fab or didn't last and to be honest we feel both feel swing rusty and a bit like we're starting all over again.

Wish the online environment was as good as the club one that is for sure.

Just hoping that things improve

We are the same as you guys, we have met so many gorgeous people in clubs who swing without the need to only meet people from here. It's a bit sad really hearing people asking others. Are you on fab, and when they say no they stop speaking to them. Clubs are for fun and meet others regardless of whether you are on a swinging site or not. Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

When we were younger, way before Fab and the internet, my wife (girlfriend at the time) dabbled with threesomes, which was a disaster!

Fast forward some years, we started posting pics on another site and met a couple who we had a relationship with (still friends) then we joined Fab.

We arranged a few meets with mixed results, with only one being a short success. Lots of time wasted searching and being messed about.

Then we went to a club for a social and we haven't look back since!

Clubs tick all the boxes for us. Genuine people, everyday folks who like to indulge, have fun and meet likeminded people.

So, clubs were definitely a way forward for us and highly recommended

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

We have never met as of yet anyone from arrangement on Fab. For the same reasons we go to clubs. The people we've been with have all been people we've met swingers clubs/events or people we've seduced on a night out somewhere vanilla. The system works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?

To find out whos going to events, what type of events are available - staying in the loop of people who go to clubs.....

Exactly what this wise lady said.

Plus point of the party and social scene info too that both have the same plesent, genuine, no flack or bollocks environment or approach

Reading a few of the negative comments please don't think that we or others are being anti fab to us it's just very hard work and more than often unfruitful compared to the face to face side of the scene, Today even more so than years gone by.

We've repetitively tried our luck on Fab but generally you don't find it anywhere near as good.

You also are working with people at face value, you quickly get an impression of someones personality that is hard to do online plus you can't lie about your identity or be something you are not.

We would like to get more people we've never met interested in meeting up for a pre play drink but we rarely get much interest?

On the other hand we can book to go to a club and meet several new people all genuine plus bump into a few friends too.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?

To find out whos going to events, what type of events are available - staying in the loop of people who go to clubs.....

Exactly what this wise lady said.

Plus point of the party and social scene info too that both have the same plesent, genuine, no flack or bollocks environment or approach

We've repetitively tried our luck on Fab but generally you don't find it anywhere near as good.

You also are working with people at face value, you quickly get an impression of someones personality that is hard to do online plus you can't lie about your identity or be something you are not.

We would like to get more people we've never met interested in meeting up for a pre play drink but we rarely get much interest?

On the other hand we can book to go to a club and meet several new people all genuine plus bump into a few friends too.

Can I add a lot of people like the social side too not just after wam bam and gone

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?

To find out whos going to events, what type of events are available - staying in the loop of people who go to clubs.....

Exactly what this wise lady said.

Plus point of the party and social scene info too that both have the same plesent, genuine, no flack or bollocks environment or approach

We've repetitively tried our luck on Fab but generally you don't find it anywhere near as good.

You also are working with people at face value, you quickly get an impression of someones personality that is hard to do online plus you can't lie about your identity or be something you are not.

We would like to get more people we've never met interested in meeting up for a pre play drink but we rarely get much interest?

On the other hand we can book to go to a club and meet several new people all genuine plus bump into a few friends too.

Can I add a lot of people like the social side too not just after wam bam and gone

Totally agree, while we meet new people, we social at the bar, get a feel if there is some form of attraction.

Can’t do that on a web site.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Another success we’ve had on this site, though I’m not sure we can entirely credit fab for this and it was more just good fortune, but through fab, we have met some great people who have become very good friends which we mix both filth and vanilla. We also hit the clubs together.

We also met on this site and fell into a relationship 8 years ago.

I guess Fab has been good to us.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"If clubs are the be all and end all of swinging why are all these people on Fab?

To find out whos going to events, what type of events are available - staying in the loop of people who go to clubs.....

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yup this for me too

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think clubs are easier if you're a couple definitely, but as a single woman I'm too shy to go to a club on my own, and the guys I've spoken to about going have been all talk, so I'm still desperate to go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think clubs are easier if you're a couple definitely, but as a single woman I'm too shy to go to a club on my own, and the guys I've spoken to about going have been all talk, so I'm still desperate to go! "

watch your Inbox fill with pleas to take you now! lol

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

"Just clubs for me as well, they are my social life as well as great fun.

I go with no expectations apart from chatting to people and enjoying the venue, it's definitely how I feel safe."

Glitterbabe is the Queen of clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clubs dont work for all ...we only go here n there if we fancy something different ... never enought decent guys for us and quite often clubs are stale with the same old click that rule the roost ....

the majority of swinger swing from home / or house parties ... just think if even 10% (proberly a lot less) of all swinger were to go to a club they would all be full and turning people away so defo a minority in the swinging world...

i do think its the best way for guys to find there feet and meet tho even tho id hate to be a guy that gos to a club as it must be daunting

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

There’s quite a few couples/females that go to clubs who would happily meet you prior to attending the clubs so you don’t go in alone.

Check the club meets section and you’ll see events for both Xtasia and Chams to see who’s likely to attend and reach out to them.

Could be a fab success story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be careful sweetie.

You need to find the right kind of person if you want to go to a club accompanied.

We have seen ladies used as a way to get in and piss off the minute they are in the place to get their willy wet or probably equally as bad be possessive and stop the single lady talking or interacting with anyone else?

Take the plunge and go on your own two feet if can, by all means go with a couple or someone to hold your hand but you need to be in control of your night

Openly say you are new or on your own and usually people will welcome and keep a look out for you

Hopefully you will have a good night that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been to a club yet, so expensive for single guys, probably too keep the riff raff out lol

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I have been to clubs with ladies as a couple, mainly with the same one a few times; also been as a single guy.

As a couple it was great, as a single guy it was awful; never again !

Each to their own I suppose, and probably the attention and enjoyment we got when a went with a young lady half my age was probably the attention she got !

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

What makes me successful? Being able to string a sentence together. Actually turning up. Not having a million pics of my willy.

I’ve had enough of clubs to be fair, so would probably pass on a club only meet

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?

What makes me successful? Being able to string a sentence together. Actually turning up. Not having a million pics of my willy.

I’ve had enough of clubs to be fair, so would probably pass on a club only meet"

Fair enough, I personally think clubs are designed for fun.

You meet (mostly) like minded people and help you explore sexuality and fantasy.

Hey just me.

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over a year ago

Fair enough, I personally think clubs are designed for fun.

You meet (mostly) like minded people and help you explore sexuality and fantasy.

Hey just me."

I Guess for some single men they find it difficult to deal with the fact that once in a club they have to deal with having to compete in a environment where there are single females, couples and other men too, plus their more likely to have a play priority whereas the other groups have more of a social and play comes if things are right and only as a bonus.

How do we know this well we both used to be singletons on here and go to clubs. We met in clubs and parties before we had a relationship.

Mr Furvert still had the same attitude of going to a club for a social, laugh, dance and if lucky meet nice new people back then and fully understood that lots of people are not seeking single men. He took the attitude not to be offended and and would say "well we are all in the same club its ok just to be social" and would keep to the social areas unless called for. This worked well for him and his reputation.

Nothing worse than prowling around in the play areas or making a nuisance of yourself.

We can see why so many guys fall down on the club scene and there is more of an anti single male stigma today than there ever was a few years ago sadly.

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over a year ago

Fair enough, I personally think clubs are designed for fun.

You meet (mostly) like minded people and help you explore sexuality and fantasy.

Hey just me.

How do we know this well we both used to be singletons on here and go to clubs. We met in clubs and parties before we had a relationship.

Nothing worse than prowling around in the play areas or making a nuisance of yourself.

We can see why so many guys fall down on the club scene and there is more of an anti single male stigma today than there ever was a few years ago sadly. "

I actually used to live near a club, so it was an easy choice of a night out if my friends hadn’t called by 10pm. I’d just pop along there. I’d say out of all the visits I’d met someone every time. There’s only two or three occasions where no one took my fancy.

The thing that put me off was the clique mentality there and how it was a lot of the same faces. If I’d played with them one week, they thought they’d some form of claim over you if they saw you again and get shirty when you were off into the back with other people.

Also, the amount of people who’d got steaming d*unk on occasions was very off putting.

I'm making a sweeping generalisation there, but it was enough to make me prefer the intimacy of singles, couples houses, and private house parties far more.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Fair enough, I personally think clubs are designed for fun.

You meet (mostly) like minded people and help you explore sexuality and fantasy.

Hey just me.

How do we know this well we both used to be singletons on here and go to clubs. We met in clubs and parties before we had a relationship.

Nothing worse than prowling around in the play areas or making a nuisance of yourself.

We can see why so many guys fall down on the club scene and there is more of an anti single male stigma today than there ever was a few years ago sadly. "

Likewise I (Mr) started going to clubs a single. For a single guy clubs are a double edge sword. I get the whole competition thing can be daunting and guys may seek to just avoid the competition. But isn't there competition on here likewise? Personally I seen clubs as an opportunity to sell my self (for want of better words) in a way I can't online. So for me (despite being a little socially awkward and a bit on the spectrum) clubs offer and advantage over online. In a club I can meet people socially and my smile, nature and personality (which people seen to like) can be expressed perfectly and instantly. And likewise I can gauge fairly well and quickly if I take to the other people or not. Not only does work better for me, it also reduces time wasting and disappointment for all. Plus there's plenty more people explore all in one place.

I was and am very much like Mr Furvert when it's come to how I see a club night and how I am in the club. The only thing that has changed for me is now I get to go to clubs with the woman who is my best everything and who I want to share my adventures with.

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By *uy4swingingMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Clubs are best - but only if they are good and have a good atmosphere and record. Profiles can be helpful but also deceitful. Arranged meetings can be fab and so cannot be ruled out.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Blimey - I can't even spell sucksessfull.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"Clubs are best - but only if they are good and have a good atmosphere and record. Profiles can be helpful but also deceitful. Arranged meetings can be fab and so cannot be ruled out. "

I also think good selection of club/party/event helps. And some club formats and atmospheres may suit different types of men. For example some men may excel in a small intimate club like Purple Mamba and some men may excel in a large nightclub type club like Xtasia for example.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Clubs and organised socials in particular have been the key to almost all of my success. Many men complain about lack of opportunities, but clearly a lot don't take the simple advice as to how to meet without pressure in a purely social environment where there's a great opportunity to show a bit of class, friendliness and what a decent human being they are. I'm by no means an adonis, but I've made some great male, female and couples friends, many of whom I've got to play with as a result. The anonymity of Fab for single guys is a hindrance to that, so have the courage to go alone and just be the way you would in any other area of life. Also if you go to a club don't think that because you paid to get in that you have any entitlement to anything or anyone. Stay classy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be careful sweetie.

You need to find the right kind of person if you want to go to a club accompanied.

Take the plunge and go on your own two feet if can, by all means go with a couple or someone to hold your hand but you need to be in control of your night

Openly say you are new or on your own and usually people will welcome and keep a look out for you

Hopefully you will have a good night that way. "

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By *azylivingMan
over a year ago

random location

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"

Good communication, banter, reliability

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By *heeseandWineCouple
over a year ago

Reading and Southampton

"It works for us, stops fakes, it’s where most single ladies hang out and there is no room for incongruous.

What makes you successful on the site?"
Clubs work for us too as long as they are clean and with spa facilities

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By *edditchCouple8077Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

We prefer clubs because can’t accommodate and not to many couples can so simple choice for us

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